Did he get cold feet and bail on me?

My Aries lover has fell completely off the face of the earth and I don't know where he has disappeared to. Or even know the reason WHY behind his sudden disappearance. I'm just as baffled as a confused puppy chasing its tail 0_0 I'm crying my eyes out night and day waiting for him to call me. -End of Soap Opera-

Lol! I'm being a bit over dramatic so excuse me that's just my leo moon (8Th house) expressing himself. *Clears throat* But -__- seriously though, is it normal for an Aries man to suddenly go M.I.A when everything is going so good? Like, no contacting SO for weeks or months? Or did my Aries get cold feet and bail out? Or is he just not that into me?

Hold on! The full story is on its way 🙂 WARNING: IT MAY BE A LONG STORY! LOL

Ok, so I began 2 intimate relationships a month ago with 2 different signs: Aries and Scorpio (Yeah, I know!) Well, when I finally figured out which guy I wanted, he went M.I.A on my a**! & no, he didn't go M.I.A because of the other guy. F.Y.I, I actually stopped hanging with the Scorpio when he (the Aries cusp Pisces) came around. Anyway, the Aries & I spent 2 weeks getting to know each other & had a very intense weekend together. He really came off like he wanted to be in a relationship with me. We took pictures together & wherever we went people thought we were a couple. He actually wanted us to be "exclusive". As a matter-of-fact, we did make it "exclusive" then out of nowhere, he went cold & distant 0_0 Now I haven't heard from this man in a week & 2 days! & I can't call him because it goes straight to VM; his phone has been off ever since he graduated Airborne school (April 26th).The following Sunday, he called & informed why he left. He said he had to leave because his mother said his 2 year old was sick. But I couldn't talk long because I was in the middle of finishing my essay, so I told him, "I'll call you back once I finished" & he asured me that he'd be up waiting for my phone call. 30 minutes later, I called back and it went straight to VM! Smdh! & the last I heard from him was on May 1st. He sent a message saying "know that I'm always thinking of you, I love you, I'm still here with little man (his son) until he's better to my understanding. I will call you tommorrow" -___-yeah... ok... BUDDD but no phone call ever came 😢 So here I am...singing, "allllll byyyy myseeeeeelf"

The few people I've told this to keep saying, "he has another woman", "he's hiding something", "he isn't concerned about you", and the all famous line, "he's just not that into you" Well, the last 2 lines make sense. Yet, I doubt he has another woman. Although I haven't been with him long enough, I can say when I have grabbed his phone unexpectedly to check the time a few times, he never erased anything or tried to snatch it from me. Plus, I didn't find any messages or pictures from another woman. I even used his IPAD and went to sign out his email to use mines, and I never saw anything out of the norm. However, I wasn't looking for that kind of mess anyway because he hadn't given me reason to. Yet, I still listened to them: Girrrl, he played you for a sucker. And like a fool, you fell for it. End of story😢 And if you're wondering, yes! The Scorpio is still around and his holding on strong. And yes, he knew about the other guy but now that he's out of the picture, he's taking full advantage of the situation. He was just lurking in the background lol

Me: Libra Sun, Leo Moon, Virgo Venus, Aries
Mars, Sagittarius ASC

Guy 1: Aries cusp Pisces Sun, Leo Moon, Venus
Aries, Sagittarius Mars, Unknown ASC

Guy 2: Scorpio Sun, Scorpio Moon, Sagittarius
Venus, Capricorn Mars, Unknown ASC

I guess what I want to know is does an Aries take long to come back around? Like do you think he will contact me by the end of this month? And should I just hold out a little longer? Or should I move on? & do you think he got cold feet and bailed out of the relationship?

@JenLove: Lol! I deleted his number. Ain't nobody got time for that! Yeah, I think he does have something to hide too. I might can go days or weeks without texting or calling someone back, but my phone is never off. It might be on silent but not off. And now that I think about it, he switched numbers before he left. He claimed he didn't want his ex trying to contact him. But his old number still works. I accidentally called it because I forgot his new number. Hmm, I wonder... Aww, hell... forget it! But I read your post and he's a jerk. He could've been honest with you instead of avoiding you. That's too many years of friendship gone down the drain.


@SewDope: Neither one knew about the other. We don't run with the same crowd. Both are from out of town. The only reason the Scorpio knew about the other guy is because he asked and I told him. When dating, I always have more than one guy. However, once I'm in a relationship, I cut them all off. And who me? Oh no! Lol, I rarely text or call anyone. Don't know why I own a cell phone in the first place but the ARIES is the one who called me while I was doing my essay, so that's why I told him that I'd call him back in 30 minutes because I only needed 30 mins to finish.

Seriously, I wish people were just honest and direct. What is so hard about saying, "Look, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I'm just not that into you", "This isn't going to work because I don't love or like you in that kind of way.", or a flat out "I tried but I just can't make myself feel the way you feel about me"? It really isn't that hard. I'll take the truth (no matter how much it hurts) over being ignored any day. I should've listened to my mind. I asked him if he thought we were moving too fast? Because I didn't want to rush but he ws perfectly fine with the speed we were going.

@Feby16aqua: no, the aries never knew about my scorpio friend. & no, that was the only number he gave me. well, there is his old number. i accidently called it once, no one picked up. then i sent a message to both numbers because i had forgot which one was the new number. i only received a message from his old number. He said I had the wrong person and his name is james.

Question: when someone change his/her number isn't the old number supposed to INSTANTLY stop working? Or do some companies automatically give someone your new number? Because I think that's him because his phone old number never stopped working.

@Feby16aqua: True. I totally agree. Yet, I don't see how because I didn't hang or hardly spoke to the other guy. Plus, we were officially "supposed" to be boyfriend and girlfriend right before he left. We talked about it. He wanted me to visit him where he would be stationed. I don't think was as honest as I thought he was though. This is just confusing but its very clear that he isn't concerned about me at all.

*do some companies automatically give someone your old number?


I didn't mean to say, "new" my bad

Yes. There's a pool of numbers they pull from when they create your account. If he ditched the old one and made a new one, the old one goes into a pool and it's given to a new account.

I don't really understand why you're are making all these assumptions....how many times have you tried to call him since you last spoke? Just once? After your essay was done? And if he's your boyfriend aren't you more concerned that something happened to him? In my experience with Aries they are on point with communication-if you are too. Also if he did find out about the scorpio he would probably confront you about it. I also don't understand why your friends would be telling you that he must not be that into you if you're his gf.... do you have his email or can you contact him on Facebook?

LMAO! I didn't leave out anything. I probably didn't explain the situation as well as I should so sorry about causing any kind of confusion. Hell, the situation makes no sense to me either that's why I asked. I will explain this again. Ok. The assumptions came AFTER not being able to contact him and he not TRYING to contact me. FACT: He had his phone off for those 16 days, so calling or texting was pointless because he was unreachable. And yes, I was worried about him. However, out of those 16 days, he called me ONCE on DAY 2 to let me know he was well and ALIVE. Also, explaining to me why he had left so suddenly. Mind you: this is the same day I just so happen to be doing my essay. When I tried to call him back, it went straight to VM. I tried calling the next day(DAY 3), VM! I called the day after(DAY 4), VM! I called the day after that (DAY 5), VM! Then suddenly out of nowhere, on the 5th day (the last day I tried to call), he sends that ONE text. However, he turned his phone right back off. How I know? Because I replied back and the message status said, "pending". In other words, if he turns his phone on then it'd say, "recipient received" which lets me know if his phone has or has not received my message. Now 9 more days have gone by, I haven't attempted to call or text him anymore. And he never called or text me. I just pretty much gave up at this point. But on day 10, I attempted to call and text him one last time, yes, you guessed it! It went straight to VM and message status said, "pending"! So on day 11, I'm fed up and I go ahead and delete his number. Conclusion: Out of those 16 days, he only contacted me TWICE! I had TRIED but I had got TIRED.

*9 days have gone by

Lmao! If he had an account on one of those social networks then I would've been tried that! Unfortunately, he "doesn't have one, doesn't want one, or wants to waste any time making one" (his words). He has an email account but I only saw it once so I don't remember. Also, my friends thought because that's what it usually means unless his just one of those people who means no harm but just sucks at communication. I just found it odd that someone's main line is always off :\

And guess who FINALLY decides to contact me? Mr. M.I.A himself! He texted me yesterday saying, "I'ma call you in a few". My thoughts: "he gotta lot of nerve" I'm pissed; yet, I don't say anything. I just ignore him and don't reply back. Then many hours later, he sends another text saying,"you didn't forget about me did you?" -______- uhhh, shouldn't i be asking him that question? So, i text him with a "um, ok" so he calls. I answered. After talking to him for a good hour, he tells me how he has been SO busy with moving and making sure all his paper work was complete and together. Then he tells me how is SO sorry and knows I'm probably mad at him for his lack of communication. He ask, "so how do u feel about me now? I mean, have your feelings changed since?" ... *raised eyebrow* ... Well, I can only take his word for it and he was honest with in the beginning but this time I'm keep my distance. I'm standing waaaaaaaay on the other other side.

*My friends made that assumption that he's just not that into you because i hadn't told them we were bf and gf yet. I held back after he went M.I.A. They thought we were still dating. I only told those like family. Others just assumed but we didn't make it official until later.

Yeah, you're right. I'm that same way except not annoyed, lol. And that's why I said I'm going to keep my distance.

Very strange behavior on his part...sounds like an aqua man to me 🙂 Good luck!

smh. I wouldn't exactly say it's another girl, but i'm almost 100% if you are as dramatic as you were when you first started writing, that's grounds for making an Aries keep their distance. They don't like extra. Keep it simple and straight to the point, because that's how they work. I would say he lost interest. In my opinion some Aries I've known have lost interest in a person, or if they are unsure if they want you "like that" at that anymore they dip. They don't like the in between thing. Like me i'm a libra, if i'm in between on how much i like a person, i have a tendency to drop in and out. That's bad but its the truth.

Aries will most likely stay gone unless they run into you and you somehow intrigue them again. Id run if i were you. If he's lost interest you will hurt yourself trying to get it back. Just let it happen. You have someone into you. Fuc him.
(sorry, i'm a little pissed at my aries. smh)

Posted by xxnightbynight

Posted by scarlettrose88
*My friends made that assumption that he's just not that into you because i hadn't told them we were bf and gf yet. I held back after he went M.I.A. They thought we were still dating. I only told those like family. Others just assumed but we didn't make it official until later.

Isn't that a mutual decision? Bf/Gf status?

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Are you asking that I am claiming we are bf/gf when we are not? If so, then that is not the case. Yes, we agreed to be bf/gf. We discussed this. I asked him directly if this is what he wanted and said yes. What I was trying to say is that I am a private and cautious person and I have some nosey a** friends. Lol, if it doesn't work out then I don't want to hear their mouth. Plus, I don't announce to the world that I'm in a relationship. It's nobody business. Lol, and he knows this, yet, he wants everybody (including strangers) to know. He's mentioned that he noticed that some of them are jealous but I think it's because he doesn't know them well.

Posted by pinklibra
smh. I wouldn't exactly say it's another girl, but i'm almost 100% if you are as dramatic as you were when you first started writing, that's grounds for making an Aries keep their distance. They don't like extra. Keep it simple and straight to the point, because that's how they work. I would say he lost interest. In my opinion some Aries I've known have lost interest in a person, or if they are unsure if they want you "like that" at that anymore they dip. They don't like the in between thing. Like me i'm a libra, if i'm in between on how much i like a person, i have a tendency to drop in and out. That's bad but its the truth.

Lol, I was playing but I guess people really do take that first part seriously; even though I made it pretty clear that I was. I'm a libra too so I'd run from such behavior also. Yeah, I'm pretty sure I should run but I left out one important detail: He's in the military. However, I thought everyone would get what that when I said, "he graduated from airborne school." My bad for assuming. Either way, I'm still keeping my distance. He calls or text me now more than he did those LAST 2 weeks. I just thought when he graduated airborne school that we'd have more time to communicate and spend time together but lesson learned. Plus, my g-ma tried to tell me that usually military guys do that but I just wouldn't listen. Smh.

*What that meant when I said

Posted by Lune
Very strange behavior on his part...sounds like an aqua man to me 🙂 Good luck!

Yeah, I still find it weird so that's why I'm keeping my guards up. Not so sure about him anymore. However, his birth chart is almost similar to mines. His ascendant is still a mystery to me though. Lol, I wouldn't be surprised if he was an Aries with Aqua Rising. & thanks 🙂

sound like he's with his baby's mother?

Posted by bkbella86
sound like he's with his baby's mother?

Oh, how I really wish I could answer that but I have no idea. I wouldn't say he isn't, however, I can't say he is. He says that He and the mother of his child broke up 8 months ago. He has full custody of his son but since he's in the military, his mom takes care of his son while he's working. And I can't catch him in a lie because he's not from my hometown. He was only here for airborne school then they stationed him in NC which is about 5 hours away from where I live. All I can do is keep my distance and see what happens.