when youre interseted in someone

how long can you go without talking to them/making contact? like days? and are you usually the first to?

feel like i'm always the one contacting this aries first. After a few days of nothing from him... is this guy just not interested? thought might be hes mars in taurus but hes got nearly everything else in aries? i've asked him and he said he was inerested but he dosent contact me im always txting him first?

Meet mid to late march I think. Yes we've had sex. Saw eacthother last Sunday havnt txt him since ... He's in Nz ATM for friends bday for a week I think...

He works nights and sleeps during day but I donno it's weird to not contact isn't it?

We've been having some trouble sexually but know its getting better and he said it was good but I donno if I knew I could trust him I could relax more

Feel so bad 😢

he hurts me during sex thats the problem we've been having, i dont know if he understands its because im not relaxed enough, think he thinks its always going to be like that cus hes too big.

I just need closer you know?...it's killing me as stupid as it is and as obv as it might be. hes so sweet and good to me maybe im just being an idiot and not seeing the signs. i've been so awkward/shy suspicious with him but feel like was starting to let go, dont know what to do now wish could just talk to him. and if he werent interested to just say it so then i know. he seems decent, sweet, funny maybe should just let him go i'm not what he wants and dont want to hold him back from finding it...

Posted by xxnightbynight
men are never too busy to pursue what they want. - all men.

stop talking to him. - let him find you. - and then when he finds you, find a better hiding spot, and continue hiding.

Couldnt do it if i tryed, suck at hiding, been dating around for almost 3 years with lots of crap inbetween. All about running forward atm! 😉

going to miss him....

dont want to let go, is there nothing to do to make this right—?

if i ask him what he wants will he be honest?

soo sorry if im anoying, just abit confused and hurt.. just wish could talk to him, soooo tempted to txt him. can't sleep

Posted by xxnightbynight
right away. lol

I'm an Aries soooo..yeah! Lol. Well, if he keeps on being 'uninterested' then I guess it's time to back off.. but it's always easier said than done as I myself cannot back off until he tells me to back off straight on my face. If he stops contacting you for sometime , might be he's needing space or that he's just busy. Hopefully he gives a good explanation when he appears again. Just try not to message him ALS long as you can..and when he's into you, you will eventually be missed for sure! 😉

You are coming across as "needy" with your frequent texts and need for affirmation. They say Aries are some of the fastest moving of the zodiac, but they are freedom lovers and need their space. You respect him on that front, don't pressure him and have confidence in yourself, if he is truly interested, he will show it. As others have said, stop contacting/texting him. In the end, if he is not interested, it's really no loss... just lessons learned.

Thank you all (thanks for not tearing me apart too), it's over now, Done being and idiot.

Don't have sex with any guys in the future until you know for sure you are in a one on one committed relationship.

Big mistake we are all making.

^ It is hard not to be physically attractive with the person in ways of getting close, though it is completely worth it to know what their true intentions are. Not only that but you will realize how much you value yourself for having no one place their hands on you and your body.

Until you know he's worth being with in a committed relationship.

Thanks, just wish I could turn back time and do things a little differently maybe. Feel so lost and hurt... feels so wierd it ending like this with nothing. feel like I should give him a piece of my mind about the whole thing, think thats what's hurting the most. Like someone kicked me in the knee and I just stood there and didn't say anything after. But it was my fault aswell, and in the end he just wasn't interested in what I had to offer. It's hard to hack but it happens, Still feel a bit sad just realizing that i'll never see him again or be in that house, ride in that car, hear his voice, hold him, see him smile, stupid things he says.. getting through it slowly. Nightbynight is right I do need time to get my shit together..haha. This shouldn't hurt so much, It's like Dating is Constant heart break, need to work on myself and be more comfortable with things so it's not as if my world turns upside down so easily.

Might take awhile, But here's too better days!!

*to ( and to ALL the other spelling mistakes! ) jesus suck at spelling when distracted I guess

Not sure I alway agree with the men pursuing you hard thing..that's a myth.

Most men don't want to push too much for fear of coming on too strong.

But I still say don't have sex too soon...and yes I agree it is very hard when you want it too. But listen to your head..when it says "I/We really shouldn't be doing this so soon", believe it and go with that.

There'll be time for that later..no wonder men are treating us like whores, we are acting like them..

No no you misunderstood...I said "Men are TREATING US like wh*res" because we are acting like them..giving it up too easily..

Value yourself and wait for it...until there is a relationship...

Posted by xxnightbynight
men aren't whores. da fuq ?

set aside your perception of what you think and look at the big picture. you're attaching WAY too much of your own thought process to think logically about your situation.

Trying

Is he Maori?

Posted by sweethearts
Is he Maori?

He's a kiwi. Why's that?

The question is...is he Maori?

Or islander or brown? And there is a reason I ask this question before I pt my 2 cents worth in.

Caved and texted him Sunday (got nothing) then Thursday, said he just got back, and was at the airport, had couple of texts, nothing much, he text me that night, asking if i got my new car yet, which was suprising. Then text him yesterday was going to call him later but found out he's shifts have changed so thought he might be tired and I had to go to dinner with a friend aswell, so texted him later "wanted to call but had to go to dinner"":/". That was lastnight, Now Don't even think I want to follow up and try and call him tonight. Maybe he does need space, I just hope he comes back thought think i know he won't, so hard leaving this alone but trying to be brave.

Posted by sweethearts
Or islander or brown? And there is a reason I ask this question before I pt my 2 cents worth in.

Na white. Like me I'm half, but was raised in OZ 🙂

You're going to say there big players?

and sorry thought kiwi was strictly the white colored population for some dumb reason there.

Not all there sometimes. That was probably abit rasist/ very illogical

sorry for the slip up

No, it's just I live in GC and I know the value the Aussie girls place on the brown boys, Maori and Islanders here. Racist... maybe, but they throw themselves at them!! The guys that come here treat them like shit, disposable chicks. Because they seriously can pick and choose from a whole bunch of the hottest girls.

They have a different attitude to fellow kiwi girls.

Your guy maybe blowing you off...but don't take the trip back home as it. See how he acts now that he is back. Whenever I go home, especially only a week I have to do the rounds and it's like a weeks party. Everyone wants a piece of you and tbh, the only rest I get is when I get back on that plane!

They go crazy over the Maori guys, really? I've not witnessed that, But you maybe right, one of the aries roomates is maori and some of the stuff in that flat that's his, you can tell that guy might be abit of a ladies man. Hope this aries hasn't adopted the same attitude 😢 He seems decent tho, hope I'm right. The've got an aussie there too so he might be a good influence in balancing them out too hopefully.

I'm kinda of curious to meet his roomate now..

Just text him tonight asking if it's okay to call tomorrow night, Haven't gotten anything back yet. Ball's in his court from here, He might just be worn out like you say... nothing to do now but to wait and see if he comes around this week i guess.

Most definitely, they are like that back home and 10 times worse here!!

You need to do you and not concentrate on him so much. You throwing yourself at him is lowering your self worth. Guys like to hunt down and chase the woman they want, if you are too easily accessible you've taken all the desire away.

When he does call to hook up, don't be available the day he suggests and give him a time when you can meet him because you are so busy doing you and your friends. Don't leave the whole day open, tell him you can meet around 2.00 pm that day or the next after work. If he doesn't like it then wait again until he contacts you...

it might be looked at as game playing but it's the game they want...they want to chase you, not have you lay down for them to take and then leave!