Did I read things so wrong...

HI, Just looking for some insight into this Aries man I met recently as I am confused about things.

So I come from a small town (in Ireland so small town really is small) where everyone would know each other either to see or talk to. I've knows this guy to say hello to for over 4 years now, literally we just smile, wave or say hello, he works at our local adventure centre. I have been attracted to him all this time but have steered clear as I was in a relationship. I am out of that relationship 8 months now, 2 months ago I met this guy out in the local pub, he made a point of looking over at me and eventually came over to wehre I was sitting and sat down, we talked for a long time and walked home, we had a lovely kiss before parting. I sent him a message on facebook the next day but he never replied. Basically asking him to get in touch if he would like to meet up. So i forgot about him but was disappointed that he didn't even reply. 2 weeks later I met him again we got on extremely well, he stood very close to me and was touching me knee with him - we had good fun together. In fact i think he may have followed myself and my friend from one pub to another. Again we walked home and kissed before parting - so with renewed hope (thinking the 2nd kiss meant he was interested after all) I texted him the next day and told him I would like to go out with him sometime if he would, he texted back that night (left his phone at home while at work) and said he would like to go out sometime but not that week as he was busy, it would have to be next week, I said that was good. The week came and went and I didn't hear from him so (being an impatient Leo) I texted him to see if he wanted to go out at the weekend, he said sunday might be good as he was out mountain climbing on the sat/sat night (he's extreme sportsman, typical aries!)and that he would text me when he got home, I replied that was great and looking forward to hearing from him, my text didn't go until 2.30 a.m. though so he must have been in a bad signal area. Didn't hear from him on Sunday, and didn't hear from him for the whole week. So the following week I decided to give it one more try and texted him and asked him would he like to go out this weekend, no reply so I texted and told him sorry I obvioulsy had gotten things wrong and that I wouldn't bother him again, no hard feelings. He didn't reply to that either - continued in next post.....

the follwing week I texted him a happy birthday message, he didn't reply but I wasn't expecting one either. Did i read the situation with him all wrong, I would love to have got to know him better as I felt a definite chemistry there. Would love an Aries insight into this as I am confused by the actions, btw I get on so well with Aries especially the men and I know how direct and go getting you all are, which makes me think he really isn't that into me! Still I have to obsess....!

can I just add that the fact he didn't reply to me texts is the most upsetting part, If he had just replied and said sorry change of heart or whatever i would have respected him, but ignoring me makes me sad (again a Leo thing!)

Thanks for the replies, Yeah I kindof knew if he wasn't putting in effort then it wasn't a good vibe! Us fire signs tend to go after what we want. I did see him this weekend just past and he said hello and paused his walk and turned towards me as if to chat, he commented on the weather to which i replied with a smile that yes it was lovely and kept walking, felt bad afterwards as if i should have stopped and chatted but i know really i was probably right to just keep walking, he set the tone himself... I just wish he hadn't made me think he was interested in the first place by agreeing to have a date, ah well, i will move on, thanks for your kind replies..

celticlioness dont mean to be so foward but i thought i throw dis out thare did it ever cross your mind that he might be involed with another female dont mean to be so negative eather but dont let no one play wit your emotions keep your head up.

Posted by CRUZITO
celticlioness dont mean to be so foward but i thought i throw dis out thare did it ever cross your mind that he might be involed with another female dont mean to be so negative eather but dont let no one play wit your emotions keep your head up.

hi cruzito, i don't think so, I asked around first before i texted him to be sure, as i said small town, so i would find out easily enough. Was just told he was quiet, hardworking and not a player, which all sounded good! I'm just obsessing over why he would feel it ok not to reply, i though Aries would be straight forward and not afraid to speak their minds so was very confused by the blanking - also think it quite rude not to reply to someone. Thanks for your thoughts though, its good to hear whether negative or not.

I love the Leo spirit, so much energy to go for it.

We can only assume what is going through his mind, as he hasn't been direct with you.

I can safely assume that he sounds rather focused with whatever he is doing that isn't romance related (unless he is courting someone else alongside your situation).

I must announce that you are definitely making your intentions clear to him, which is great! Sadly an Aries man can be aloof and in his own world while a romance is simmering on one side of the equation. We can be dense, and have to see it for ourselves before the chase starts. I think you provided him with enough information to know you are interested, but he hasn't wizened up to the fact that romance is in his cards with you. I think you need to understand that all the things you see in him that are exciting or interesting, don't cover up the fact that he can be dense, ignorant to what you are trying to show him, and alas we have to wait for him to wise up to the facts.

He definitely will make his interests in you known if and when that happens. That we know for sure. I just want to add to this topic that as great as we are in matters of love, we can put it on hold and be blind to it while we are so driven or focused on relaxing or taking care of ourselves/business.

Maybe consider this his one and only chance to relax and celebrate his birthday month, and consider the courtship ritual is on hold. Obsess about the fact you had a great time with him, and not so much the outcome.

Good luck!

celticlioness...I am sending you a private message.

Posted by sunshine222
celticlioness...I am sending you a private message.

Thanks, sent you a reply

Posted by heroic_guy
I love the Leo spirit, so much energy to go for it.

We can only assume what is going through his mind, as he hasn't been direct with you.

I can safely assume that he sounds rather focused with whatever he is doing that isn't romance related (unless he is courting someone else alongside your situation).

I must announce that you are definitely making your intentions clear to him, which is great! Sadly an Aries man can be aloof and in his own world while a romance is simmering on one side of the equation. We can be dense, and have to see it for ourselves before the chase starts. I think you provided him with enough information to know you are interested, but he hasn't wizened up to the fact that romance is in his cards with you. I think you need to understand that all the things you see in him that are exciting or interesting, don't cover up the fact that he can be dense, ignorant to what you are trying to show him, and alas we have to wait for him to wise up to the facts.

He definitely will make his interests in you known if and when that happens. That we know for sure. I just want to add to this topic that as great as we are in matters of love, we can put it on hold and be blind to it while we are so driven or focused on relaxing or taking care of ourselves/business.

Maybe consider this his one and only chance to relax and celebrate his birthday month, and consider the courtship ritual is on hold. Obsess about the fact you had a great time with him, and not so much the outcome.

Good luck!

He would be very focused on his work, he is self employed and is very involved with the public and works long hours - which i love, hardworking focused people. its interesting to hear that Aries men can be blind to romance flickering on the sidelines, i am way too leo to think of that, sure we can be as busy as anything but always time for love so maybe i need to understand that its different for you guys - but it gives me a bit of hope... i'll leave him be and see what happens, as you say my intentions have been made clear so the ball is firmly in his court. I will take your advice and remember the nice times. Thanks for your very helpful insight into the Arien mans mind!

Once he realizes what is going on, you will be surprised at HOW EXTREMELY INTERESTED in you he will be. You might have to change your phone number just to get some sleep haha

But yeah, I guess that is something wonderful about Leos is they are ready for love and can think about it anytime. Aries can too but I mean we can be completely focused on something and forget what day it is.

don't make any more attempts to contact him. you will come off looking desperate. if he initiates contact with you, then that is a good sign. if he doesn't, then he isn't interested.

Leave him the hell alone for a while. For pete's sake don't text him anymore. You are contacting him more than he is you. He is probably showing his friends every last text. Let him see you walking down the steet with another dude. If he likes you, that will piss him the hell off. If you don't hear from him still, then that means that he doesn't care at all. When an Aries man likes a woman, OMG you cannot get rid of them!!! Text, call, email, visitation, sex, over and over and over.

I haven't texted him in the last couple of weeks and only sent 3 texts initially. Saw him out on Friday night this weekend and basically didn't look over to him for the night, he came over and his friends followed and we all had a nice friendly time then went home.. i'm happy to leave well enough alone now.

Hi Ariens, Update! Stayed away from the Aries man for a few weeks and from his haunts. So he turned up where I was one night (via an event attendance listing on Facebook) and then the texts started. Finally got with him and he lived up to the Arien reputation, hot hot hot - i'm not chasing still though and leaving him to do the running. So... a Leo develops patience - who knew where that would lead! Thanks for the advice

True. If u ignore, he will come back.

Don't you see a pattern here? He comes only at night, when he is a little drunk, alone, and has nothing to bang?
been there...done that....
Damn! we are so charming sometimes.