@CancerianGoddess
18 Years1,000+ PostsCancer
Aries men moving too fast?
Understanding Aries Men Moving Too Fast
Aries men often act quickly in relationships, seeking immediate connection and excitement. If their pace feels overwhelming, communicate honestly about your comfort level and set clear boundaries. Taking things slowly can help build a stronger foundation and ensure both partners are on the same page about the relationship's pace.
Whoa CG!!! - you just tell him to put a brick under the accelerator there.
Don't worry about hurting his feelings.... I don't even know if guys really have them.
Why does he want to live together? What's the rush? Where's the ring?
No shit! I asked him, "Why do you wanna live together"? He said "Because your everything i have ever wanted and your beautiful,why wait when you know its right" i said "Well can i call you later" he said "Yes,but dont make me wait forever please" oh lordyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!
wow!!! let us know what he brings back from the jewellery store.
Make sure he keeps it real... I don't want to hear the words "friend" or "benefit" this time round.
words that ARE welcome include: engaged, wedding, bethrothed, hot sex, home, forever, love, romance, sincere
You just gotta be really straight-forward with us fire signs. Be blunt or otherwise we get confused.
Posted by bluemoon2
@CancerianGoddess:I have no idea why he is wasting his time with you.
meaning?
Is this another internet guy? Drop him fast. A decent guy would ask to meet you in public first and would want to take things slow.
No it wasnt through the internet, it was at church! I never go to a church ever because i am a wiccan. But i went with my grandma to make her happy awhile back and me and him talked an dhit it off and talk to each other alot... i finally talked to him today and told him "Theres NO way i am gonna let you move in" he tells me "Good, i was testing you" lordy!
Posted by bluemoon2
@CancerianGoddess:I have no idea why he is wasting his time with you.
LOL, I guess we can see pass the bullshit...while others entertain this foolishness.
LOL!
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If it is such a waste of both your time, i guess you can both entertain yourself on a differant thread... unless of course, you have nothing better to do—
You know what blue, i have never said jack crap to you, and you start in on me? i dont think so. Seems to me your jealous. Jealousy IS a disease, so get well soon B***H!
I had an... well i've GOT an aries like this at the moment also. We met about a month and a half ago at a club through a mutual friend.. since the night he met me he chased me down, went through 2 friends to get my number and 5 days after the club he got in contact with me. Moved SUPER fast and it FREAKED me out to the point where id just ignore his calls and texts but somehow that made him chase me more.
After 2 weeks of ignoring, sometimes talking, etc I agreed to go on a date with him. He took me to a super fancy seafood resturant, racked up about a $ 250 bill, borrowed his friend's BMW (he knows those are my fav cars) and was a complete gentleman the whole night and wined and dined me. Since then we've been 'seeing' each other and as my xmas present, were going on a holiday interstate for 3 days in February.
I've told him to slow down and to give me my space I mean I've had to do a dissapearing act like 4 times and he doesnt get it. I finally directly told him to relax, I need space im a very independant person and I dont like someone up my ass 24/7. He understood and apologised and said he'd give me space. Although its not the space I want, he has calmed down a bit, now only text me 15 times a day as opposed to like 30 and only calls me like twice. hahaha tsk tsk aries men. And I dont plan to give it up to him until we go away in Feb, even then, i'll think twice about it.
dont want his fire to burn out!
Posted by CancerianGoddess
I Been talking with this Aries man for a couple weeks.. He calls me about 6 times a day and gets frusterated if i dont answer right away. NOW he wants to live together, were not even together yet! How should i let him down without hurting his feelings? I Like him,but hell we havent even been on a real date yet!
Hurt his feelings, he wont get the point otherwise. Like you owe a guy you haven't dated compassion. It sucks, but he is sounding too creepy Arian or no.
Posted by nats
I had an... well i've GOT an aries like this at the moment also. We met about a month and a half ago at a club through a mutual friend.. since the night he met me he chased me down, went through 2 friends to get my number and 5 days after the club he got in contact with me. Moved SUPER fast and it FREAKED me out to the point where id just ignore his calls and texts but somehow that made him chase me more.After 2 weeks of ignoring, sometimes talking, etc I agreed to go on a date with him. He took me to a super fancy seafood resturant, racked up about a $ 250 bill, borrowed his friend's BMW (he knows those are my fav cars) and was a complete gentleman the whole night and wined and dined me. Since then we've been 'seeing' each other and as my xmas present, were going on a holiday interstate for 3 days in February.
I've told him to slow down and to give me my space I mean I've had to do a dissapearing act like 4 times and he doesnt get it. I finally directly told him to relax, I need space im a very independant person and I dont like someone up my ass 24/7. He understood and apologised and said he'd give me space. Although its not the space I want, he has calmed down a bit, now only text me 15 times a day as opposed to like 30 and only calls me like twice. hahaha tsk tsk aries men. And I dont plan to give it up to him until we go away in Feb, even then, i'll think twice about it.
dont want his fire to burn out!
no I dont dump him but the eagerness and moving so quick put me off now that he has relaxed a bit im much more comfortable. I told him, i need space and time to MISS YOU and to develop FEELINGS for you. So in time eventually i'll like him. Im not a gold digger or a bitch so using and abusing him is not in my plans nor has it been my intention.
...so you want to keep him around so you can go on your nifty trip, THEN dump him? 😉
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sometimes the aries man will tr to jump in with both feet but later regret it
but they can get in a big hurry sometimes.Just don't give into that right away
give him time to chill out for awhile.Aries men can be alot like speedy gonzales
but that doesn't mean you should take it too seriously even if he's serious at the
time because he can change his mind almost as fast as he made it.If every fiber in
his body tells him your the one,that's not going to change if you slow things down
a little.
Posted by CancerianGoddess
You know what blue, i have never said jack crap to you, and you start in on me? i dont think so. Seems to me your jealous. Jealousy IS a disease, so get well soon B***H!In all seriousness, I am a woman attracted to other women. And I don't find anything attractive about your character or looks. So I am trying to find out from Aries men why they waste their time or why they even bother chasing you. How did you get "jealous" out of it? People have more things to do than to be jealous of a hoe on dxpnet. *Shrug*
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Yup i am a garden tool, a hoe ... what a lame, at least know how to spell what it is your insulting someone with. I go on DATES, So what? i am single, i think i am allowed to do so. And no offence blue, i dont care if your attracted to me. Just because your not doesnt mean every other man thinks the same as you. Sooo get over it.
Posted by Geminithefox
sometimes the aries man will tr to jump in with both feet but later regret it
but they can get in a big hurry sometimes.Just don't give into that right away
give him time to chill out for awhile.Aries men can be alot like speedy gonzales
but that doesn't mean you should take it too seriously even if he's serious at the
time because he can change his mind almost as fast as he made it.If every fiber in
his body tells him your the one,that's not going to change if you slow things down
a little.
Thanks Fox for sticking to subject. I did tell him, and he said he was testing me. LOL Idk.. So i been ignoring him all day, but i plan on talking with him tonight, so we'll see.
im an aries and we move at our spead our timing and the world is ours
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I Been talking with this Aries man for a couple weeks.. He calls me about 6 times a day and gets frusterated if i dont answer right away. NOW he wants to live together, were not even together yet! How should i let him down without hurting his feelings? I Like him,but hell we havent even been on a real date yet!