Do Aries men think before they act—

I have been seeing an Aries since April (I'm Cappy), things have gone very slow. We have been only on a few dates, but I was in the hospital due to an accident that needed some healing afterwards, so it is understandable.
We have not been physical yet, but we have a really good emotional connection. Things are light and fun and a bit dreamy (with my ex bfs things were always heavy and dark). I can be myself in his presence (that is so rare).

Our last night out was in a dancing local near his home (he lives in another country, 50 km from my place, so beyond the border🙂. Then I found out why we haven t still got physical. I think he is seeing an ex lover.

Shortly... after a bad divorce 2 yrs ago he started to spend more time in that Tanzlocal and of course he met some women he got intimate with. "To have some fun until he finds the "right one"", his words. I think that he still spends nights with one of them who was also there last night (a heavily make-uped and fake-tanned something over 40 chick). As we are just friends in this moment, it didn t bother me very much.

What bothered me was that when he took me back to the table after dancing this woman was in front of us and he gave her a slight slap on her bum (playfully). It was so disrespectful!!! I told him that too! I just didn t have words!

We were both a bit drunk and he looked at me with "forgive-me" eyes, so we danced and he took me home soon afterwards, but today I just cant forget it!

I think I dont want to see him anymore. He has not contacted me either, probably he feels that Im like a ticking bomb.

Are Aries like that, was it an innocent gesture or should I dump him?

thanks,
Gia

"Aries men are a mess just period.."


That's a fucked up thing to say.

Gia ... you said that you two just friends at this moment, so you really have no grounds to get possessive. And two, you both were intoxicated.


Everybody does stuff they wouldn't normally do when they're fucked up.




I think you need to give this a chance for success ..... and food for thought: If you are serious about trying to develop a serious relationship with a person, then you'd be wise to keep it sober at first, so niether one of you do stupid, fucked up things to/in front of each other.

Thank you Starfish and P-Angel,

that s good to get different opinions, I appreciate both.

This man is at least a bit in love of me (I dont know at which degree, but I can see it), he seems to be a dreamer, although he is an aries, but he has Cancer moon and Pisces mars and Taurus venus. Not player signs. As an Aries, he adooores to shine! He was a party animal on the dancefloor.

I on the other hand, Im quite quiet and introvert (personal planets all in scorpio, Cappy sun), I hate parties and socializing! The truth is I d like to socialize and party now when Im nearly 40 (you know capricorns get younger when time passes🙂. And strangerly I never attract serious and introvert guys, but my opposites (nature probably seeking a balance).

We both had some feelings and we had just taken 1 cocktail, so we were not drunk. My guess is that he didn t think when he tapped her and that he realized probably only later how it looked like to me.

Anyway, he probably got it cos we have been in contact nearly every day and he has now been quiet for 3 days. I doubt I will hear from him in the next future.

He has a real playboy exterior (fit body, tall, slightly tanned (he is Mediterranean)), always well dressed, a real gentleman, a playful and warm behaviour, but I doubt he is a womanizer in his heart (was married 23 yrs)...

Yes, but I think he has lost me, like Starfish said.

What is sad is that my ex Taurus looked at other women indirectly in a dirty manner that irritated me and that's why I left him, this one slaps other women??s asses in a direct manner. Where are normal guys—?🙂

ooups... wanted to write 1 coctail🙂)))

Thanks for support🙂 I think Im already over him although it normally takes me ages to get over with someone, but I wasnt really in love, just a bit thrilled....

Nope, he said nothing, he has not contacted me since. This man has no balls.... Pisces Mars to blame, maybe.
I guess that this bum touching just showed that he was attracted to that girl, not to me. Come on, we had 4-5 dates and he never even tried to kiss me! A hot Italian guy like he is supposed to be...

Ok I forget about him... Weve known each other since January, so 6 months just falling in a void....

If anything happens, Ill update the thread, just to illustrate the Aries man behaviour in the human zoo. LOL

No they do never think

All fire signs love drama to a certain extend, maybe he wanted to see how you react to drama, gia?

Tupeline, you may be right... he was very very proud to be the king of the party all the females want...
But lack of courage and no contact for 4 days knowing that I leave for a month of holiday tomorrow is certainly not sign of courage nor interest....
ahh who cares. I hate those German tanzlocals now🙂))

You are JUST friends at this time! I wouldn't read anymore into it at this time.
WOW! whats this about already trying to condemn the man?
If he wants more,I believe he will let you know.Enjoy getting to know him &
lighten up a bit.Take things as the come.Just get to know him better & see
what happens.

They think,lol.... but it depends on the situation!

Posted by gia37
Tupeline, you may be right... he was very very proud to be the king of the party all the females want...
But lack of courage and no contact for 4 days knowing that I leave for a month of holiday tomorrow is certainly not sign of courage nor interest....
ahh who cares. I hate those German tanzlocals now🙂))

And I wondered why you wrote tanzlocals, so did this happen in Germany lol

and hi Geminifox? That was your name the last time I was around on these boards which was ages ago...but I think I remember you 🙂

Well, if you already knew that you're above him and his behaviour, based off of the ex-Taurus man who paved the way for you not being tolerant ........ then why even post it here?



To perpetuate the very drama in which you had already decided to walk away from because it is beneath you?

I thought you wanted to actually have insight into this man .... obviously, you wanted the negative, which Starfish graciously offered.


You will be able to find lots of people to aid you in ripping him down, plenty of people .... and the funniest part is .... those people think they are being positive for supporting you .. when in reality, they perpetuate hate.




My bad, this is a hate thread ..... out then.

ooh, nothing changed here, p-angel is still around to spoil things. love you, hon 🙂

that was a joke of course

a bad one I admit

Wow... so many comments... Wait wait.... P-Angel, it is not a hate thread, I dont hate nor my ex Taurus (who made me a bit insecure with his ways of eating other women with eyes) nor this Aries. Not at all! I posted in order to get some insight what Ive got and I appreciate it a lot.

We are not just friend, we were heading towards a relationship... we both had feelings for each other and we had had one kiss and some touching. His last texts were quite sexual, so it was obvious that going further was his plan. But we had dated already for 3 months, he had not attempted nothing (the kiss was my initiative), so I though that maybe he has in Germany where he lives ... you know some woman he sleeps with. And hence the slowness. To tell the truth Im not a big fan of men who date different women at the same time...

The tanz evening sort of made me think that he is a playboy... and I didnt like his star-like behaviour. So the evening just cooled down my feelings for him and I started to think that maybe I dont even like him that much. And I think I also have a say in all this and Im not supposed to wait for him to decide if he leaves his fun girl for me and chooses me, if I even dont want him anymore.

He has not initiated the contact since, as I said...

And all this has nothing to do with hate.

Thank you GeminitheFox and P-Angel, for a different perspective! I know that I have to lighten up, and I will do it!

Posted by tupeline
and hi Geminifox? That was your name the last time I was around on these boards which was ages ago...but I think I remember you 🙂

It's good to see you again too tupeline!!!

Oh I thought you stated that you were just friends with the aries man.
After a bad relationship,it's hard to trust the opposite sex again,but in
time,you'll gain more confidence,& some caution is good,but this is a
time of getting to know one another better,so time will tell what will
unfold.

Aries men don't have brains. 😛

^ I hope that answers your question

Do Aries men think before they act...No, next question.

In defense of my Aries counterpart, he was drinking, she was a former (present?) lover and a slap on the a** was probably just that, a slap on the a** to assure her (the woman he spanked) that that is exactly what her place is in his life...a piece of a**. It probably had nothing to do with you but everything to do with her. As far as him not contacting you, he realized that he crossed the line in front of you and he really is unsure of how you have taken his actions...hence the no thinking before acting trait...trust me, this has got me into alot of trouble in the past and it will continue well into the future.