Getting back with an Aries ex. Can I :( ?

First I would like to sorry if I make any grammar mistake and my story was too long but plz help me . My English is not really good. But I really hope you can give me some advice. I'm getting just crazy 😢

So here's the story: I'm a Leo girl and my ex (omg it's really hard to call him that) ?_s an Aries guy. We've known each other for 5 months. He's got his eyes on me 1st and after some chit-chat on facebook we decided to meet. And I had a crush on him right after that. Although we just have met, we could talk comfortly as if we had known each other for ages and he treated me nicely. 2 days after the first meet, I decided to let him know how I felt (I know it's quite fast but I'm not the type to keep everything inside) And that's when we started our relationship. But we didn't let it become public. Only we knew about us.

A few months ago, he had broken up with his girlfriend and he didn't hide it. He told me about that right after I let him know that I liked him. He also confessed that his family was having a big debt because of his uncle and somtimes he didn't get on well with his family members. And to me, it didn't matter beacause he also guaranteed that he'd give me the best and I was so into him.

The first 3 months were wonderful. We went to the same school and lived pretty close to each other so despite of the busy highschool life, we still can spend about 1-2 times in a week to go out. He was so caring and shared everything with me and so did I. He has lots of friends, plays many sports and have may social relationships but he tried his best not to let all of that affected our love. Yeah, save and sound.

But things started when it got closer to the college entrance tests, it's very stressful. There's a time that he didn't reply to any of my msm for 2 days, which was very strange. First I got upset and asked him frankly but after he explained that sometimes he wanted to be alone to concentrate, I forgave him. We met and talked,and kissed and everything went back to normal. Finally he moved into his tutor's house to just focus on studying. When I first heard the news, I didn't know why but I just wanted to cry. And I called him right after that to say some words because we would not be able to meet each other for at least 1 months. He just told me that it was not worth crying, everything would pass and he'd text me often. But he just did it once in the day after. He texted me at late night, told me that he had just finished his work that

(continue). He texted me at late night, told me that he had just finished his work that day and felt exhausted. And after that time, I didn't hear anything from him. As I wanted him to do his work well, I also didn't pm him on facebook or text him.

After the test (he took the test first, I took the test after him 3 days cause we were going to study in different college), I asked him how he was doing and he still talked everything to me but he seemed to be pessimistic about his result. I just told him to be strong and wait for the result (we'll know it by the beginning of August) And then, it's my turn to take the exam. He sent me msm to encourage me before that day and after the first two test he texted and asked if I was doing well. I replied him normally, and I asked him if he could go out with me when the final test ended. He said he had had a date with his friends and he couldn't go.(he's quite active, you know). Thats day was also our 5 month aniversary (10/07- just last week) so I just really want to meet him. And I was like crazy trying to contact with him. I called him, texted him, called him on facebook but he just didn't reply me.

So depressed, I texted a long text to blame him on how careless he was to not answer me and not remember our aniversary. I thought he'd explain but NOTHING happened. I also tried in vain to get contact with him but he just didn't do anything. Finally, last Saturday I texted him and told him that I'm sorry and that I really wanted to see him but I didn't see anything happened. Finally when I pm him on Facebook last Sunday he replied me but just in the way I expected least 😢

His texts was short and almost emotionaless. Maybe I should directly quote our conversation.
he: you dont have to worry about me anymore
me: did I do anything wrong? Just tell me and I'll fix it
he: you didn't do anything... It was just me. I want to be alone now. So... We'll stop, OK?
me: ... so that's it
he: You didn't do anything. It was just because of me
me: but you didn't do anything!
he: As you can see, you didn't do anthing wrong right? I have my own reason, it was all about my family
me: it doesn't matter. It was just beacuse we couldn't see each other for a long time. But I still wanna be with you
he: I want to...be friend with you... if you accept that..I'll still share evrything with you
me: Are you afraid that the love can't last long?
he: no..not this time..I dont want to..many reasons... It's all about my fa

(continue) me: it doesn't matter. It was just beacuse we couldn't see each other for a long time. But I still wanna be with you
he: I want to...be friend with you... if you accept that..I'll still share evrything with you
me: Are you afraid that the love can't last long?
he: no..not this time..I dont want to..many reasons... It's all about my family so I dont want anybody to be involved
me: That's Ok. i dont afraid anything. Just tell me
he: I dont want to tell bad things whenever I see you. It's just getting more serious now.
me: its doesn't matter!
he: I dont have enough time to care about you anymore..I can't continue anymore ..I'm sorry.
me: but i want to be with you because of who you are. not because of the time you can spent for me or what
he: thank you but now I want to be alone.
me: Ok. Let's be friend. Friend and then lovers. we'll started from the bottom.
he: Just friend, Ok? 🙂(that's strange of him to use this emo)
me: that's hurted.
he: I know you'd feel so.
me: have you ever loved me?
he: of course. Or esle I wouldn't try that hard.
me: how about now?
he: I dont have ANY feeling about anyone, even in my family 🙂
me: Ok i understand
he: thank you
me: but when did this start? Now it's too late and too bad to fix.
he: It started before the exam. I was trying to struggle but it just got worse after the test.
me: ok...
he: You're a very good person. I dont want you to wasting your time on me. I dont want anybody to get involved into this thing.
me: Ok. I'll be your friend. I believe in my heart
he: I believe in the fact.
me: I believe in my tears. And I believe our feeling is true and in that case there's only one answer no matter what. But at least it's better that you told me the truth than just keep silence like these days.
he: I think so, too.
me: I still hope that our relationship'll be better if your situation is better. I'm silly, right?
he: People have the right to hope. That's not silly.
me: have you ever think like me?
he: yes, but I dont know when will my problem end. My life is such a big sh*t 🙂) If you cry or sad, sincerely, don't hold it back.

And after that I was asking him to see me. But he said he wasn't in a mood to have any fun and told me to go with my friends. He told me that it'd be suck when going out and having fun, then coming back home to see sh*tty things and having your mood down again. He just couldn't stand that, he'd rather be always upset than to change the mood so often. I was trying my best to encourage him to be optimistic and to share the things to me but he just say "In this moment, at this time, I dont want to share any F**KING thing, sorry!!" and he signed out.

All yesterday I was like giving him tons of text to tell him that I want to see him so bad but he just didn't reply me. Finally when I calmed down, here's what we said

me: I was losing my mind these days, I was so immature. All I wanted is to get in touch with you. Now I'll get back with my life and be happy. And you should do that too. I still want to share good music, good food or intersting things with you. Ok? "
he : Ok. But it might be a long time until I can talk to you normally
me: why? just tell me or else I wouldn't know
he: Just dont give a f**k about me. I'm signing out.
me: no!! I've been waiting for you whole day! Can we meet? 7h30 at the old spot ok?
he: No..Maybe other time.

And then he left me texting alone aking why and kinda begging him to text me back again. He saw what I wrote but he didn't reply. In the end, I just gave up and told him that I'd give him time and still want to share things with him and I also recalled about how excited I'd be if he could teach me how to skate (just like we planned before bads things happened) and how I really want to see him happy. After that, he just reply with "k"
Lats thing, when I asked him if he could tell me when he'd be ready to talk to me normally he just say "no". I, though sad, still say "ouch. K. I'll ask you then 🙂) you're having tough time anyway.."
It was last night. And after that I stopped texting him.

What really gets on my nerver is that he's still going out with his friend and act happily as f**k (sry) these days. These photos about his happy moments whith his friends and just pop up on my FB new feeds and just like a huge punch into my face. His fb profile still says thats he's still dating ( though he didn't show the name, I know that's still me).

I know that I still love him and want to be with him and ready to forgive evrything. But all Aries people, can you please tell me if i had any possibility to get him back in this case? Is that he is really in a dickies time or it's just the reason to get rid of me? What can I do to make him act normally with him? And how long will I have to wait? What I should do and shouldn't do?
Please..I feel like dying right now... 😢
Thank you so much and pardon me if my story was too long but I really need you help.

thank you so much. I talked to my sister earlier today and she also told me to forget him and that he's a jerk, a coward. He just got bored of me and tried to find a very serious reason to our break-up so that he won't ruin his pride. Also with your advice, I can make sure that I shouldn't get back with him.

As I can see on Fb he's trying to show that he's now having a very active and happy life right now, maybe he alse wants to make me feel that I was nothing matter to him.

I kinda want him to feel regret for dumping me so I'm gonna get back to my schedule too and live as happy as I can.
Is it the best way? I dont want to revenge, I just want to make him see that leaving me is the biggest mistake in his life.

P.s I really appreciate you for helping me 🙂 from now on I'll visit this site more often :3

I've made up my mind but somtimes I just feel so tough and painful while driving by the places we used to be, seeing somthing we used to do together...
How can I get rid of this fast :< ?

Ok thank you but on my way home I have to pass by these destinations 😢 I'm trying to take another road but it's just not always that easy.

Ah yeah today I saw his ex post a message on his wall saying that she loves him so much and sth kinda that. What does that even mean? Seriously? He can get back up that fast?

I just can feel sth even worse about him through this thing... What do you think?

I dont like to judge people too. Especially when I honestly dont know him long enough (5 months isn't a long time to know what's real and what's not, right?) and he's the guy I really used to want to be with. And about his ex, I really dont know anything about her.

When he was with me he once said that his ex was still crazy about him and he had some girls chasing in the past but I didn't have to worry about that. Well... After all I have said to him, all the begging things I have sent him (which make me feel very embarassed now) as you can see above. Will he consider me as one of hiw crazy-fans like he used to do to make him more precious in other girls' eyes?

I just dont want him to think about me like that...

Actually idk...They've been with each other for 3 years...so there must be many things that i dont know. As at first I and him wanted to keep our relationship in secret, now i'm just like a stranger to all of his friends and I dont think I can ask anything from his friends or siblings cause I just simply dont know them at all...

The message the ex wrore on his wall is kinda weird...He didn't do anything about it (comment or like..etc.) but the way she talked to others in her comments was just like they'd come back and things between them is normal now. She even asked a friend "are you jealous? lol"

I just cant make sense of it o.o

At first I didnt want our relationship to be public just because that I didnt believe that he's the one for me. But by the time, while I was so happy being with him, I realized that I want to be with him so bad. HE even told me that I'm better than his ex, I did many things wonderful for him that he hadn't seen before and I could always hang out with him comfortably, unlike his ex (her family was very strict) and told me not to worry about anything.

And now he broke up with me because of a family reason and right after that there's a post from his ex about how much she loved him...Most of his friends know about her and their relationship but they dont have good impression about her (I accidentally heard it when they were talking about her). When he told me that he had broken up with his ex 5 months ago, he told me that it was a secret and only his close friends know. So technically MAYBE some people still think they're still together. And so does his ex.

The truth is the 5-month that we've been together is also the time when we were preparing to take the college entrance test so his friend was not always be free to hang out with him and I was the one who's often ready to do it. But now the test's done. Everybody is so free and ready to party. I think maybe he'd prefer to maintain his old life, party with his old friends, be with his old girl who's familiar to all of his friends than being with me. He's just afraid to lose the comfortable life when he can freely partying but still have a gf follow him and suffer everything (I think I can be sure that she can be more easy with him than me)

And I also think that the time that I texted him too often before he broke up with me is one of the reasons make he feel that I wont let him to have a free life...

But that's just all my prediction... As you can see in my old posts, he didn't let me know the reason clearly.
What do you think?

Maybe he didn't say it to all his friend (he told me so), he just showed it by his fb's info saying he's single that time and then when he's with me, he said he's now in a relationship. Some of his friends did know about he was having a rela with me.

I really want to talk to him to make everything clear but he just keeps advoiding me, not replying etc.. and make me feel like a beggy person. All I want just a serious talk but as you can see in my old posts...he just acted like a jerk though i'm trying to say that I wanted to talk to him 😐

yeah I totally agree. I'll wait till the day I can talk normally to him and completely deal with him.

But I still wonder. Why did he reject my idea of a seriuos talk? Was he afraid of me begging him to com back?

Maybe.. but earlier that day he was partying hard with his friends. I can see many photos about that on my news feed ._.
He semed to be happy and excitedin the comments, still.

umh.. If it's the truth, I can say he's a douchebag...And umh...maybe it'll make me feel easier to forget him...and even to hate him

But if he's really in trouble, I just dont want to misconsider him as a bad guy. I have been with him for a while anyway.

He said that he broke up with me just because his family is having a huge problem (he used to tell me stories about a big debt which his family is having which caused by his uncles and how badass that uncle was- he seemed to be truely upset while telling me that) and he now just didnt have time to care about me and he wanted to be alone and his mood was very bad etc.
All is about his family. That's what he said.

But who knows? I mean I dont have any clue to make sure that what he said was true...

Yeah! He used to deal with it well and can still be with me in the past!
Now he's saying that the problme is getting bigger and becasue of that he has to dump me? I dont think so. Maybe it's just a fair reason he could think of to make me not think that he's a bad guy.
His pride is way too high so he dont wanna ruin it and face the truth that he's the one who dumped a girl.
kinda like "it's not becausei'm bad that i leave you, it's just because of the situation that urged me to do it .."

This was my first thought, he's not over either his ex or the breakup or maybe even both. He was barely out of that relationship, let alone the breakup, when you two began dating 😢 He may have thought he was, and gungho over you etc. but it seems to me like he rebounded into your relationship thinking he was on his way to a new life w/ someone new 😢

His family debt I'm sure does weigh on him, but his partying even moreso is a huge indicator imho that he's drinking to forget ... things.

Yeah I will try my best to accept it but I just cant understand why he couldnt meet me just for once to talk it over though I begged him to? Was all the happy time we have had together just a big lie? Didnt he love me as much as he say?

All I'm trying to do is to figure out what's on his mind to understand this situation, to not judge him wrongly and to advoid future's failure.

Im an aries man and Im trying to get an ex back too.

I googled how. im trying michael fiore's program.

http://www.textyourexback.com/