Hate at first sight (Cappy-Aries)

Hey everyone, I am a cappy with a rising Sagittarius. I do not know why but when I meet someone, if I really dislike him/her, his/her sign always turns out to be Aries. The hate at first sight is really mutual. Why do you think this happens to me a lot? I am a reserved and quiet person and for whatever reasons that I dunnno all these Aries attack me verbally just from the first moment we meet— Could you suggest me why? Do I seem threatening despite my modest appearance? Should I try to be mean with them 🙂

I know a cap and aries best friend duo that has been going strong for 14 years. I've known them both for the same amount of time.

I actually don't know why the friendship is so strong, except... they're both kind of buttholes. They're mutual buttholes to each other. They argue like an old married couple and both HAVE to be right, especially pertaining to politics (they're favorite topic of discussion because they always end up in heated debate).

The respect is heavy though and they're actually a lot alike which is why they keep on. They love to debate, prove others wrong with their self-righteous attitudes, are kinda pretentious, they complain all the time about everything and everyone... wait, why am i friends with them again? 😛

It's a little hard to fathom from a distance. The cap acts so much more refined in public and is fussy. He loathes crassness and rude behavior. Then comes aries with a fuck-you attitude and is so blunt one is often left stroking their bruised ego after a conversation with him. I think they met somewhere in the middle many years ago. I should ask them about this actually.

DO NOT FEEL BAD!

I have had some intense interactions with Capricorns, and I could feel the dislike ooze everywhere.

I think we rub each other the wrong wrong way and we can't say it is because we are bad people or that it is anyone's fault.

I really hate authority figures at first sight, so I know how that feeling can feel.

Please please don't give yourself a hard time. You guys are so fun and rad and smart and cool. I am an Aries, I bet I would annoy you to no end, but I understand how these things happen. Beat me up if you want

LOL Thanks a lot guys! I guess sometimes one needs to accept the facts. Maybe I need to try to get more aggressive with Aries people (esp. same gender), wish me luck .)

I'm with an aries and its like am2002 said. Plus..the sex rocks 🙂

then its not my cappy side which attracts dislike from Aries. maybe the blunt and polyanna saggy side? :/

I m really sorry to hear that. I thought capricorn men would not cheat and would not lie. Smt wrong about that one 😢

his chinese sign must be horse. I know a cappy man like that. he was magnetic to all girls and he was almost stoic.

Maybe it's a cardinal sign thing because I'm a Cap and I feel a bit of tension with both Aries and Libras. Cardinal signs are dominant and controlling, so maybe she does view you as a threat in some way.

If I were you I wouldn't go outside of myself just to prove a point. Whenever I've done that in the past it always backfired, so just ignore her/them until they push it too far.

Posted by lnana04
Maybe it's a cardinal sign thing because I'm a Cap and I feel a bit of tension with both Aries and Libras. Cardinal signs are dominant and controlling, so maybe she does view you as a threat in some way.

If I were you I wouldn't go outside of myself just to prove a point. Whenever I've done that in the past it always backfired, so just ignore her/them until they push it too far.

Thanks Inana for the good advice. I think you're reading it right.

Posted by amethyst2002
Agreed. Maybe other Aries instantly didn't like her because of her projecting her issues all over the place. Aries don't do bullshit for very long. It's not necessarily bad to have issues, we all do, but how some people choose to deal with them says a lot. If one clearly cannot control themselves and just let that shit get in the way of functioning socially, then it's no wonder she's had Aries be total bitches toward her.

I can be understanding, but it goes away the second someone pushes it too far and can't attempt to get a grip.

Fair enough. But you re forgetting that in social life I do not bring out my issues like that. I feel more safe here. So I can talk about my inner feelings freely. In social life I am very reserved and you can say inhibited. So, maybe my weak appearance makes the Aries mad :-)

Thats odd, I get along with capricorns very well.

Posted by borderlinecapri
you re forgetting that in social life I do not bring out my issues like that. I feel more safe here. So I can talk about my inner feelings freely. In social life I am very reserved and you can say inhibited.

if there's one thing i've learned that aries can't tolerate, it's being reserved, inhibited and not sharing what's on your mind. the aries i know would rather have you talk until their ears bleed than to have to always pry things out. the thing is, you are reserved in real life but you have a lot of stuff bubbling just beneath the surface; aries can see through that, and when they don't think someone is being "real" with them it lights their fire (and not in a good way), they get frustrated and to put it plainly - want you to cut that shite out. xoj

Posted by cappiebelle

Posted by borderlinecapri
you re forgetting that in social life I do not bring out my issues like that. I feel more safe here. So I can talk about my inner feelings freely. In social life I am very reserved and you can say inhibited.

if there's one thing i've learned that aries can't tolerate, it's being reserved, inhibited and not sharing what's on your mind. the aries i know would rather have you talk until their ears bleed than to have to always pry things out. the thing is, you are reserved in real life but you have a lot of stuff bubbling just beneath the surface; aries can see through that, and when they don't think someone is being "real" with them it lights their fire (and not in a good way), they get frustrated and to put it plainly - want you to cut that shite out. xoj

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Wow yes!

I have found this my personal issue within me as far as being with a Scorpio. I can pull only so much out and then I am just at sorts as to what is up/down.

I am making peace with it.

This explanation helped me a lot just reading it, thx

Posted by heroic_guy


Wow yes!

I have found this my personal issue within me as far as being with a Scorpio. I can pull only so much out and then I am just at sorts as to what is up/down.

I am making peace with it.

This explanation helped me a lot just reading it, thx

aye yi yi....well, i'm a cap sun with a scorp moon so i really have a tendency to withdraw/reserve my comments until later when i've analyzed them over and over and over...etc...and it was in my current relationship with an aries that i discovered "sharing at all times" is actually a need for him. heroic, just be sure you express what it does to you when she withdraws. she probably has no clue - she's probably thinking she's doing you and your relationship a favor by not expressing the ticker-tape of thoughts in her head, when instead she's only making it worse because you're left to imagine the worst. good luck with your scorpio! 🙂 xoj

Well most caps I meet are liars and fake. I keep my distance from them

Posted by ImpressMe
@ Cappiebelle

At least you wanted to change. Some people hold on, and believe they shouldn't have to change in order to suite their partners needs, wants, and desires. How does it make you feel now that you express yourself to him and is not so reserved? Curious 🙂

thank you! 🙂

to tell you the truth, it is an on-going battle with myself to not resort back to over-analyzing and internalizing everything, but the more often i share, the easier it gets. while it goes against my very nature (i think caps are reserved, but my scorpio moon likes to be secretive/mysterious) and at times makes me feel extremely vulnerable, i am certain that i was causing harm by not allowing myself to step outside my comfort zone in order to pursue what i very much desire - to become close to another and let love in. one could say i am changing for him; i say it was my fondness for him and my own desire for intimacy with another that prompted the realization that this is an area of personal growth for me. i want to evolve, and evolving means change. communication is important to all relationships; his need for complete openness is actually a deep desire of mine - i just was my own worst enemy. his fondness for me produced patience in the ever-impatient aries' nature...i think our relationship happens to cause us both to evolve.

xoj