He said...

I don't recall when it started but I have been avoiding the Aries like the plague. It hasn't been difficult because he was creating distance between us. I couldn't figure out why. I called it quits officially but he'd been pulling away for weeks/months so he started it 😛

So, I'm on yahoo a few days ago. He changes his profile pic. It's of him with his shirt off and he's lookin' all washboardy. I think the fucker did it on purpose so I wait a few days, msg when I know he's unavailable and tell him, "lookin good...bye." That was yesterday.

Last night he msgs to say he misses me. Long story short, I thought he began pulling away in January when I shared with him my plans to move overseas. Apparently, he said that no, he'd actually begun earlier!!!

He said he began distancing himself after an argument we had in December. I think it was about gun rights or something else that I know gets him riled up. We were both drinking. It was stupid. The argument didn't really phase me but he said he didn't like the way it made him feel. The he goes on about how he didn't feel he was good enough for me and knew he'd mess it up eventually, so he pulled away.

I told him my feelings and stuff and he said if he would've known that I cared for him he wouldn't have done what he did. He said he was sorry and that he can't believe he messed up again but that he can't help but be a spazz. The he made some chip shot about him being a "typical Aries."

I said what hurt me is that I thought we were at the very least good friends so when he started avoiding me, it really hurt because we were always pretty straight forward with one another. I said, I didn't understand why he felt so much pressure because it's not like we were on the verge of marriage.

This fucker says, "I dunno. It could have been."

WHAT?! BITCH!

I been thinking about whether or not to see him and there's a part of me that says HELL NO! he's an emotard and he's going to do this again. But then there's another part of me that says ok, you know he has difficulty with feelings and stuff and maybe he just needs help expressing himself and shit.

I really want to be done though. I haven't "moved on" but I don't see him the same way. I have difficulty moving on but once I have, I don't look back. I'm not sure if I should this time...not look back I mean.

Why is Aries so....UGH!

why "BITCH!"? i say it when i'm pissed.

and are you talking about my overbearing aries nature or my possessive taurus nature as they are two different things? 😛

believe it or not, i'm neither. in my youth, maybe. now, no.

i think i could've been less emotionally withholding and some of the things he's said since the breakdown in communication are starting to make sense. i think he needed me to chase after him and be more forthcoming with what i really felt. and, i dunno. he should go first. he's the boy.

i'm not ready to see him but if he like calls or whatever, i won't ignore him or be flat anymore.

ohhhhhh shut-it 365 🙂

i think what's odd is he needed me to be more expressive so he stopped being so expressive which made me be less expressive so we're both emotards.

after dealing with the leo, i am more cautious now than ever when it comes to feelings. the longer i can remain detached, the better. for, overall, that's a good thing. but in this case i guess i should've been more open sooner.

it's not gonna work out with you two.

he sounds like one of those guys that needs a woman who's in charge and while you are certainly dominant and in charge you're more fleet than fall. you guys were dating for months and he still couldn't tell if you cared about him. after you've been seeing somebody for a bit, the "he's the guy and he needs to initiate" thing stops being important. from the sounds of it he can't get comfortable with you. he likes you but it's not gonna work. the communication isn't there and neither of you are willing to be the initiator. i also get the feeling that you don't take him seriously and you make light of his feelings. "what?! bitch!" what part of his confession that he thought you had long term potential pissed you off?

nah ewe 😛

i think i did know that he liked me immensely DURING THE RELATIONSHIP which was why his pulling away was so trippy. it wasn't overnight. it was slow and then it just stopped. so right now, i'm basing my perception of his feelings not on the way he was when times were good. i remember that but the hurt over the past few months is far more real to me right now.

yes, i could've been more...more. he was chasing and i wasn't playfully running but i was sorta off at the concession stand buying cotton candy.

humor is how i get through things...and GOD, so does he. we communicate similarly and THAT'S the problem. we should be sympatico and we are...on everything...except displays of emotion.

i can do it. i've clearly forgotten how.

no, i just mean that being emotionally withdrawn is definitely who i've always been but my "cool detachment" has been in overdrive the past 2-3 years.

hanging around guys and seeing how men operate has changed me a bit.

i'm a taurus, i'm supposed to be more girly right? i think. i dunno 😛

365, i agree. i am perfect 😄

i guess i feel bad because i could've helped him out a little more. i won't say that he tried his best but he was trying and i should've been more sensitive to that. i preferred him being more invested than i was and that worked for a while but i should've reciprocated more.

eh...live and learn

I don't know...once you "don't see him the same way", usually most if not all is lost.
I don't know about you, but once that happens, I cannot get that lovin' feeling back. This may indeed be his last fuck-up.


"But then there's another part of me that says ok, you know he has difficulty with feelings and stuff and maybe he just needs help expressing himself and shit."

Ha! I've learned after almost 11 years with my bull that this difficulty doesn't go away often or without a huge fight for say 10.5 years! Mine adds yet another brick in his wall almost daily 😢

RFT that's sorta what is going on right now and i'm sorry that your bull is being obstinate.

i don't think taurus means to be difficult/stubborn. it's involuntary. it's who we are. for me, i know when i'm in the process of erecting a wall and what makes it difficult is wondering if i should?

i'm creating obstacles for dude right now and maybe that's because we're not meant to be. or maybe it's because i'm being a bitch?

i need manual.

DXP MOVE THIS SHIT TO THE DRAMA BOARD!

oh shut up! can't you see that my soul is crying 😛

you are souless rat is godless and I am both the differance is I can see you and rat are evil.

stop invoking powers that are higher than yourself.

at it is, i only speak to you because you're actually one smart bastard. which is odd given you're a cap.

😛

LMA, you're a woman after my own heart. that's exactly why i've been pissed and why although i'm conflicted, i don't want to look back. i get that he's a spazz but i don't want to be with someone who CLAIMS to feel strongly and does the exact opposite of what one rationally does when emotions run high.

he text me tonight and i sensed that he wanted me to call...has wanted me to call but eh...

i think the tit-mouse reads what i write on here and if that be the case, i shall give him something to read.

can someone casually/jokingly ask you to marry to marry them via yahoo messenger?

i'm not so much bothered by his joking around. that is fine. what's pissing me off right now is that had i not messaged him, we wouldn't be speaking at all. so how can he speak of his feelings/fears when all he's ever sought to do is avoid them?

when a man tells you he's not very good with emotions, listen.

no satori. i don't think i said that...at least i didn't mean it if i did.

what i think i said/meant is that he's not book smart. he knows it, i knows it, i don't see the big deal. we're able to communicate/relate just fine. i never felt as if i was talking to a doorknob.

he's self-conscious and i'm well aware of that. i have never dumbed myself down for him which is why i think he's overreacting.

AND, it's not that he can't be himself in dealing with me. we can discuss whatever. i think he just feels anxious/stumped at times when talking to me but has he ever stopped talking? NO!

so i want to take what he's feeling into consideration but he pooped out those butterflies, not me.

Go Tubby Go, yea tubby

nah 365, i wish it were like that. the problem is, i'm NOT turning into mush. not in the slightest. it's not that i don't wanna. it just doesn't help if he's not the initiator when it comes to feelings. i think that's due to my being a taurus and the ironic thing is, his venus is in taurus so no wonder we're both hedging.

for now, will just focus on the friendship. if he wants to come with when it's time go abroad, all the better.

what does my being a bore have to do with calling the aries?

perhaps you can call A.A. he's an air head.

Arrrrrgh. Taurus stalemate. I drive myself nuts with the "you first'' crap.

yeah, it's definitely one of those moments where my body wants to act but my brain refuses to make my limbs move. damn stupid brain and its need to control everything.

Absotively. You want too so badly and at times it's like "You've got the taters, go for it." You say it, "NO YOU SAY IT". Makes you want to rip your hair out by the roots. *bashing head on desk*.

yes and it's moments like these where the words "cattle prod" come to mind

you got the taters wtf

Slang Tate, for "You've got the balls, now man up and step up to the plate".


*** No actual Tate was harmed during the making of this thread ***

My current prejudice is with Taurens because Taurens have driven my Aries spirit mad and broke my heart so many times over the past decade.

The bullheaded (no room for us) mentality is a big f.u. to my wanting to be partners, to share, to love. Its like one big wet blanket falling over all my passion, and it seems like a drastic way to look at a difference of opinion, but the bullheadedness? it seems so two-faced, like we aren't allowed to be who we are, but Taurens are allowed to be single-minded on a topic and close their ears. Its so confusing and heartbreaking to me personally.

The withholding of sex was what finally made me move on from my last Tauren hottie. Why are you so attractive to me but so frustrating ARGGGGH.

^awwh 😢

an infant and a toddler...the bigger baby gets away with murder when no one is looking.