how do aries handle drama?

in really weird situation with an aries. i have known his best friend for a year. we are very very close. i met him properly about two months ago. we hung out for a few weeks, all at his chasing/wanting. however our mutual best friend was quite put off by the potential relationship. it made things quite awkward and we were trying to tiptoe around it. however, he told his friend he would not pursue the relationship with me. but then, we did hang out again, which is when he told me he said that. we spoke some, and when we were together he was very attentive and happy to be with me and it seemed like things would move forward. Now things have gone weird, i am unsure if he is upset about time i spend alone with our mutual best friend, and he has said he believes the mutual friend is a bit possessive of me, even if we are only friends. i thought we'd moved forward, but now i am wondering if he is put off by that. we have spoken very little, but since we are in the same friend group, i do see him a fair bit. we will sometimes lock eyes, and he'll stare at me, and i can still feel that connection, i believe. but it feels he is pURPOSELY trying to avoid me when we are all out. like spending time with all the other girls but me, when before he was only spending the time with me. also his ex and him are still friends, and i know she has been in and out of the picture in the past. but he told her how much he liked me, and that i was really great. i am wondering if all this drama would make aries try to stay away from me for his friend, and possibly go back to an ex? is there any use trying to talk to him? or is he just not interested?

they have been friends their whole lives. they were next door neighbors. met in kindergarten, and have lived together since graduating college. i did ask the mutual friend if he was simply not interested anymore, and he said while he didnt want to talk about it, he did feel he liked me a lot. but since that time, i have heard very little from the guy, and when we go out he flirts a lot with other girls. i am unsure if he is trying to prove to his friend he wont pursue it. i dont know if its worth asking him about what he is feeling, or if it would make me me seem a bit stupid because he is trying to give a hint. he seems like such a direct person, and has been in the past, so i am very confused.

I am an aries, and I would suggest having a direct conversation and telling him your 'into him' how does he see it going?

A lot of aries are direct and he should respond back to you either in a positive and negative way. After that leave him to chase you.....if he wants to he will!

Bros before hoes.

Also, you're a silly bitch for trying to get between two friends.

im not trying to get between two friends. the one friend and i have never been anything but platonic and we've had the conversation many times before the friend ever showered interest. he came after me,and then backed off. thank you lurverlurver. i was planning to do this but was unsure if it was needless due to his actions.

Well just be prepared as we can be blunt, so if he isn't into you back be prepared for what he might say. If he is, he may be cautious in what he says but when you back off, if he is interested he will chase u-then play it cool to keep him interested. The chase for aries is almost as good as getting the prize!

Let me know how it goes!

i am perfectly ok with blunt. it's more that he's gone completely silent. and our relationship was so new, that i think he may be unsure what to say, or if he should even bother. i've also acted very distant, because of the nature of the situation, i think it is making both of us unsure about each other, and what to do.

we did all hang out together once. it went well enough, however because the friend and i are so close, i kept finding it was much easier to hold a convo with him, and this aries can be quite shy, so he would throw in a few things to his friend, but to me, it was minimal, though jokey and happy, until he ended up going off to do something else. (it was late in the evening and he had work to prepare for the next day).

I wasn't sure if this put him off. but again, we've not spoken enough to even know what the hell is going on. i don't want to push something if aries is trying to give me hints that he's done. but i also know they are incredibly hard to read and i can't assume anything.

I'm a gemini. I think I am overthinking this more, as it was not something i started nor even thought I wanted. but through aries pursuing realized i genuinely liked him as a person. that is currently what i have been doing. i have gone back to hanging out with my close friend, and i am friendly with aries, but i have not tried to hang out or discuss anything. though the gemini in my very much wants to communicate and clear the air, i am worried about making drama as well.

though i also feel, since i am direct, and aries are usually as well, it could help move everything forward as well. i am not trying to push the relationship in any direction really, rather get clarity and see what happens from there.

yes, this has definitely been a concern of mine,
i do not want to lose a close friend, nor jeopardize their relationship.

i really appreciate all your help!

"...he has said he believes the mutual friend is a bit possessive of me, even if we are only friends."

There are conversations going on about you that you are unaware of. You need to become conscious of this so things aren't such a mystery to you. You'll never fully know for sure what the conversation was or is but, being aware that they have or are occurring will help you peace together the puzzle.

Posted by VenusAquarius
"...he has said he believes the mutual friend is a bit possessive of me, even if we are only friends."

There are conversations going on about you that you are unaware of. You need to become conscious of this so things aren't such a mystery to you. You'll never fully know for sure what the conversation was or is but, being aware that they have or are occurring will help you piece together the puzzle.

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yes, i get a bit too focused on what it must be that I have done to influence a situation, and can forget the whole picture. i did speak with my friend last night, and found out that he expressly told aries he felt it was wrong for him to pursue anything with me.

he said he didnt know if it affected aries though, but i told him he know it had as aries goes out of his way to ignore me now, and i knew my friend had seen it. he responded " i dont want him to do that!" in an agreement that he had noticed it. and he had briefly mentioned before that perhaps aries was trying to prove a point to him.

i have sent aries a message asking to talk if he wanted, we will see what comes of it all. however now that i know my friend did that, it seems this may be a moot point. though he did apologize and say he knew hed been wrong to, because he does not wnat to date me himself. he was merely possessive of our friendship.