aries breaks up then keeps calling ?

i thought aries knew what they want or not want ?

why would an aries break up with me , but then stay in touch ?
i expected to never hear from him again ..

after a few days he texted to see how i am doing ( ok , he is a nice guy.. its a nice thing to do.. )
but 2 months later, we still text short at least once in 10 days..

is this usualy how you guys are ?

cheers all !!
( u re still the best sign out there 😉

Ugh I know that is confusing.

I do that too to people when they have p*ssed me off. I cut them out of my life, and then I kinda regret it. Not saying that is the case here, but it could be alot of things.

Sounds like you need to tell him your confused, and is there any reason for his still contacting you?

Keep it simple, and see what he says.

Oh cheers to you too!!

We think we know what we want. We're (aries people) very childlike.. And children never know what they truly want. He probably still thinks of you as friend. So that's why he's contacting you. He still cares. He just doesn't want a relationship. I'm sorry he strung you along. We are definitely NOT the best sign. But thanks for thinking otherwise.

We have this thing that once we care about someone and they've been close to us, it never really goes away. If I'm able to, I check in on those who were, even if it's on FB or instagram or something. Just to see how they're doing out of curiosity. Even the fucked up ones (those I don't contact though).

I dunno about all Aries, but I don't mind staying friends with romantic interests if the situation permits. It's probably why he's contacting you.

But dude needs to lay off and realize some down time needs to happen first before you two revisit the idea of being friends.

I do think it's dumb on his part atm. Only selfish people keep in touch when they contact you after breaking up with you- mostly the whole "OMG HOW ARE YOU DOING??" bit. This isn't to ease your mind, it's to ease theirs.

=),

owh , i was just curious to what u guys would comment,

i was allways fine with just being friends.. i am a gemini, i am fine with pple changing their minds also.. 😉

its just that i thought aries would never make friends out of something he wanted to call relationship from the begining.. so..me surprised..

Or keep you on the back burner.

back burner doesn't make sense, cos he said he broke up cos he still had feelings for someone else,and my answer to that was : so what ? dont we all have left over feelings for past pple.. and why not just keep having easy simple fun that we were having.. but he went all 'i cant just use u to get over' blabla ..

sorry ..but that's not an aries thing.. going that far in testing is just simply wrong

yeah champranger , u make sense..
=)

actually... it's complete normal making sense kinda thing.. its just i guess i was listening to other pple to much , or got told too oft that other pple don't think like me .. =)

Mine essentially did this today in email... umm, why ask me how I'm doing? How the eff do you think I'm doing? Why tell me you won't be in the office today? Really? Should I care? Why tell me about some decision you're making about your cat? You apparently don't want me in your life, how does it involve me?? Then ended it with "take care" - a term he knows I utterly despise!

I didn't respond.

Posted by brianc213
I had too. Got played too many times to throw my trust out there like meat to a pack of hungry ass dogs. Cruel, but I gotta look out for me too. I don't see what's wrong with that?

i feel you

I think I've probably done that a few times. Basically after I breakup with someone (or convince then to break up with me(Libra moon)) I feel like the pressures off and we can be friendly again. The "relationship" was bad...the friendship is not. Maybe that's just me...It could also be that he wants to see how much you're suffering (to make him feel more important) or to keep on hand as a as a possible bootycall? I've stayed friends with all my exes except one🙂

They are the kings of —the non-break up break up?? and leave you in the wake of an empty bed, broken heart, and the —but I??ll always be your friend and I'm always here for you - so how have ya been— You didn't see it coming and didn't even realize you were in the friend zone until it was too late. The friend zone is not where you want to be — it's like being in a relationship without any of the responsibility of a relationship. Let that marinate for minute, and you'll agree. And trust me, of course he??ll come back just to see if you'll let him. That's why you're in the friend zone. That's what the calls/texts are for... temperature check! If you don't, he won't. Aries can't stand to be the —bad guy??, so when he's challenged and doesn't think he can win the challenge, he??ll do what he wants and you can spend forever trying to understand him, —fix?? the broken, or you can walk away — either way, in his eyes, it was all on you, even though he didn't cooperate in any way. He kept you around, but on his terms. Nice, huh?

yeah...guess that sounds about right Rain..

but ..if so.. what happens now ?
i let him keep in touch.. then when i saw him i slept with him again.. so.. if he was doing it just to see if i ll let him .. what now - he saw i let him - so now its not gonna be interesting to him any more ..and now he ll never call again ?

Posted by rockyroadicecream
mostly the whole "OMG HOW ARE YOU DOING??" bit. This isn't to ease your mind, it's to ease theirs.

Amen, Rocky.

I do this, too. I just don't trust people are strong enough like me to handle break-ups or other terrible situations that induce pain, so I check up on them.

Now that I'm older though--I realize that doing that was terribly selfish, although who am I kidding! Aries are selfish, but as we age, selfish turns to selfless.

🙂