I miss my aries friend

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Posted by Curiousram
Aries are too forgiving you should have no issues on talking to him again unless it was something that really hurt him.



Yes, I did. He is forgiving. He's forgiven me numerous times. Things were starting to change between us. We were getting a little closer and we was thinking about getting a place together. Then I did it. I told him that he couldn't be trusted. He cussed me out and said he doesn't care what I think. I didn't respond to it. I just left it at that.
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Aries are too forgiving you should have no issues on talking to him again unless it was something that really hurt him.



Yes, I did. He is forgiving. He's forgiven me numerous times. Things were starting to change between us. We were getting a little closer and we was thinking about getting a place together. Then I did it. I told him that he couldn't be trusted. He cussed me out and said he doesn't care what I think. I didn't respond to it. I just left it at that.


Learn to have trust with him... or you will never get anywhere
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Yes, but it's difficult to trust a guy that has been with a lot of women. I knew of one because she wanted it to be known. It was plenty before and after her. We wasn't in a committed relationship, but damn. When I heard it I was like no. Not him.
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Dont even worry about it...
I told my Aries ex...Scram, I dont want you, I found better.....and even said im putting her first, something you never did for me,......and she STILL hitts me up to this day just to chit chat.

They will come back, and rekindle the friendship...They keep EVERYONE around....

You can either stay silent..or try sending funny jokes...
They are like the sour patch commercials lol
first their sour...then they are sweet.
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Aries are too forgiving you should have no issues on talking to him again unless it was something that really hurt him.



Yes, I did. He is forgiving. He's forgiven me numerous times. Things were starting to change between us. We were getting a little closer and we was thinking about getting a place together. Then I did it. I told him that he couldn't be trusted. He cussed me out and said he doesn't care what I think. I didn't respond to it. I just left it at that.


Learn to have trust with him... or you will never get anywhere



Yes, but it's difficult to trust a guy that has been with a lot of women. I knew of one because she wanted it to be known. It was plenty before and after her. We wasn't in a committed relationship, but damn. When I heard it I was like no. Not him.


Fuck what you hear, take a leap and see where it goes. I listen to everyone else all the time and it dont get me anywhere!! Just because hes been with other women doesn't mean hes gunna cheat on your ass then again you guys just said u were friends so im confused
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Make desions based on how you feel, not outside influence. I do what I want and dont let others influence what I decide to do. In the end its on me, not my friend who told me to do something else. That way you did what you wanted and no regrets. Everything happens for a reason, if its meant to be it will be. Aries are very forgiving, just call him.
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Posted by Curiousram
Aries are too forgiving you should have no issues on talking to him again unless it was something that really hurt him.



Yes, I did. He is forgiving. He's forgiven me numerous times. Things were starting to change between us. We were getting a little closer and we was thinking about getting a place together. Then I did it. I told him that he couldn't be trusted. He cussed me out and said he doesn't care what I think. I didn't respond to it. I just left it at that.
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Wait, you guys were going to move in with each other and he was sleeping around?
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Aries are too forgiving you should have no issues on talking to him again unless it was something that really hurt him.



Yes, I did. He is forgiving. He's forgiven me numerous times. Things were starting to change between us. We were getting a little closer and we was thinking about getting a place together. Then I did it. I told him that he couldn't be trusted. He cussed me out and said he doesn't care what I think. I didn't respond to it. I just left it at that.


Learn to have trust with him... or you will never get anywhere



Yes, but it's difficult to trust a guy that has been with a lot of women. I knew of one because she wanted it to be known. It was plenty before and after her. We wasn't in a committed relationship, but damn. When I heard it I was like no. Not him.


Fuck what you hear, take a leap and see where it goes. I listen to everyone else all the time and it dont get me anywhere!! Just because hes been with other women doesn't mean hes gunna cheat on your ass then again you guys just said u were friends so im confused
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We were dating(no sex involved) for a year. No committed relationship.
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Oh i remember now,,,you were apologizing to him and said you didn't think you would hear from him again....yeah? So did he not respond to your apology?



I never apologized. I think it's because I'm a little confused about it. I told him he couldn't be trusted. I was going by intuition, not facts. Basically it was him going back and telling someone what other peoples personal business....including mines. So, I'm stuck in the middle. What if I apologize and I was right all along? What if my intuition was wrong? I don't know for a fact if he said anything.
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Aries are too forgiving you should have no issues on talking to him again unless it was something that really hurt him.



Yes, I did. He is forgiving. He's forgiven me numerous times. Things were starting to change between us. We were getting a little closer and we was thinking about getting a place together. Then I did it. I told him that he couldn't be trusted. He cussed me out and said he doesn't care what I think. I didn't respond to it. I just left it at that.



Wait, you guys were going to move in with each other and he was sleeping around?
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I found about the others after we stopped communicating. It wasn't a committed relationship.
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I think it's pathetic you took others' word over your own experiences with this person and then judged them off of hearsay. With friends like you, who needs enemies? I don't blame your friend for ditching you. You created this shit storm, in usual Scorp fashion, and it sounds like your pride just can't make that leap from being in the wrong. ...also usual Scorp fashion. Suck it up and apologize if you really want to try to mend things.


And to the second post- just because you apologize doesn't mean the person automatically has to like you, talk to you, or treat you like they did before.

We may be forgive and forget, but if you continue to do the same dumb shit OR have done something that's seriously fucked, Aries ice yo. Good luck getting out of purgatory.
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I think it's pathetic you took others' word over your own experiences with this person and then judged them off of hearsay. With friends like you, who needs enemies? I don't blame your friend for ditching you. You created this shit storm, in usual Scorp fashion, and it sounds like your pride just can't make that leap from being in the wrong. ...also usual Scorp fashion. Suck it up and apologize if you really want to try to mend things.


And to the second post- just because you apologize doesn't mean the person automatically has to like you, talk to you, or treat you like they did before.

We may be forgive and forget, but if you continue to do the same dumb shit OR have done something that's seriously fucked, Aries ice yo. Good luck getting out of purgatory.



Some were heresay, but not all of it. How is my pride in the way of anything? If that was the case, then I wouldn't be apologizing. I said I don't want to end it the way that I did. What's wrong with being cordial? And me doing something seriously fucked? No, I didn't. He has done some shit to me that has been so fucked up, that I shouldn't have forgiven him for, but I did. I'm not asking for anything from him. I'm just admitting my wrongs in this. He plays a part in this just like I did. I didn't create shit. We both did. I posted what I did, but I didn't tell everything. I could point out somethings on aries, but why would I? I realize that all individuals aren't the same, no matter what their sun sign is.
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And to the second post- just because you apologize doesn't mean the person automatically has to like you, talk to you, or treat you like they did before.

We may be forgive and forget, but if you continue to do the same dumb shit OR have done something that's seriously fucked, Aries ice yo. Good luck getting out of purgatory.



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How old are you and this Aries guy?

Some Aries tend to reach a point where they are ready to settle down and won't go for less. However this is AFTER they've played around for a number of years in non-commitments and FWB situations.


So your assumption based on his past history really bothers me. As much as you miss him and loved his company, I have a feeling that you still don't trust him and probably never will (based on his history). And him being the typical Aries, I'll bet he's saying now that the trust is no longer there, there is really no point in trying for more. It's time to move on.

Oh he will forgive you, and eventually forget - but the dynamics of your friendship will be completely different now.
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I agree. The friendship will be different. That's not really don't point. I'm the type of person that's not afraid to admit when I'm wrong. And I'm the one that told him that he didn't have to contact me after what I said. He made his decision. You're right, I probably won't trust him. The assumptions aren't about his past, it's present. Now. I caught him more than once we weren't together, but he lied to me. He doesn't really owe me an explanation, but nobody likes to be lied to. It wasn't what he was doing. It was because he was LYING about it.
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And to the second post- just because you apologize doesn't mean the person automatically has to like you, talk to you, or treat you like they did before.

We may be forgive and forget, but if you continue to do the same dumb shit OR have done something that's seriously fucked, Aries ice yo. Good luck getting out of purgatory.




How old are you and this Aries guy?

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30 and 31
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I think it's pathetic you took others' word over your own experiences with this person and then judged them off of hearsay. With friends like you, who needs enemies? I don't blame your friend for ditching you. You created this shit storm, in usual Scorp fashion, and it sounds like your pride just can't make that leap from being in the wrong. ...also usual Scorp fashion. Suck it up and apologize if you really want to try to mend things.


And to the second post- just because you apologize doesn't mean the person automatically has to like you, talk to you, or treat you like they did before.

We may be forgive and forget, but if you continue to do the same dumb shit OR have done something that's seriously fucked, Aries ice yo. Good luck getting out of purgatory.



Thanks for the advice..
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n I wouldn't be apologizing. I said I don't want to end it the way that I did. What's wrong with being cordial? And me doing something seriously fucked? No, I didn't. He has done some shit to me that has been so fucked up, that I shouldn't have forgiven him for, but I did. I'm not asking for anything from him. I'm just admitting my wrongs in this. He plays a part in this just like I did. I didn't create shit. We both did. I posted what I did, but I didn't tell everything. I could point out somethings on aries, but why would I? I realize that all individuals aren't the same, no matter what their sun sign is.



You're quite the immature and vindictive individual, aren't you? Pointing fingers and trying to unload some of the blame on your friend. The commentary given was based on the information you gave.

Your pride is in the way, because YOU said that you want to apologize but something is holding you back. If you truly missed your friend and felt that it was because of something you did, you'd jump at the chance to rectify, not hesitate because of some shit you made up in your head. Either get over yourself and do what needs to be done, or deal with the shit you created for yourself here.

And how much do you have yourself on a pedestal that you're holding it against him for lying to you about something he owed you no explanation for? You are all over the place here and holding some double standards.

"Omg I don't care about what he did, but he LIED." *condemns him to hell*

Btw, if he's lying about something to you, chances are he doesn't trust YOU. From my understanding, Aries are more honest than liars, unlike, say, water signs who act like they have shit to hide all the time or bait responses from lying... *cough*

I know the only time I lie to someone is if I don't trust them, or I know they have a history of reacting like a dick about whatever the topic is, and I omit things. Example- a friend has a crush on me and gets all moody, ignores me, acts distant if I were to talk about guys I'm dating and whatnot. So I omit information or I won't exactly be up front and honest about what I did the night before. Why? Because I don't feel like being emotionally abused for having a life outside of the guy.

Did your friend maybe lie to you about what he was doing because he knew you'd overreact to the situation?
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Oh i remember now,,,you were apologizing to him and said you didn't think you would hear from him again....yeah? So did he not respond to your apology?



I never apologized. I think it's because I'm a little confused about it. I told him he couldn't be trusted. I was going by intuition, not facts. Basically it was him going back and telling someone what other peoples personal business....including mines. So, I'm stuck in the middle. What if I apologize and I was right all along? What if my intuition was wrong? I don't know for a fact if he said anything.
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Yes, they are known for that, but anyone who talks about their own personal business to everyone else definitely isn't going to guard yours. If you are a very private person, which MOST Scorpio's, Cancers, Pisces and Libra's are, then Aries is not the sign you want to open up too. I've seen it happen numerous times. I have 3 Aries nieces that do this too each other all the time. They talk about each other like dogs to anyone that will listen, and then they talk about other people's business as well with anyone that will listen, especially when they get angry. In the meantime, I'm just standing there shaking my head. I don't even think they mean anything by it because they usually put their own business on front street too. I guess that's what they call being DIRECT. Always pick and choose who you share personal information with....especially when some folks turn around and use it against you. A dog that will bring a bone will also carry one back, which means if he was talking to you about other folks, that should have been a clue.

As far as "trust him" goes..MOST Aries likes to be first and foremost in everything so don't think for one moment if the shoe was on the other foot and you had been with numerous guys, he wouldn't have also had trust issue with you....especially when you're both already in an open non committed relationship. Maybe you guys started out as friends and then things begin to get serious so your concerns are natural and should be questionable, but if he got that pissed and cursed you out because you said you didn't trust him, then why are you even entertaining have any kind of relationship with him? Trust your own intuition.
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^^ Sounds like that's a family issue and not an Aries issue. I don't share mine or anyone else's business..



Well, actually I know two other Aries that does the same thing and their not family. That's just been my experience. I have an uncle, whose actually the father of one the niece's and he's just the opposite. He's a very private Aries. He's direct and opinionated, but he's very private.
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Yes, they are known for that, but anyone who talks about their own personal business to everyone else definitely isn't going to guard yours. If you are a very private person, which MOST Scorpio's, Cancers, Pisces and Libra's are, then Aries is not the sign you want to open up too.



You are kind of saying that all Aries can't keep a secret with the above part. Other than that, I understand what you are saying. 🙂
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You're right....I apologize because I definitely don't like to generalize. I should have said SOME instead of THEY, so I see how that could have came across as meaning all Aries, but yes, in my experience with the one's that I know, it's always been that way..Well, except for my uncle. Also, I had a guy Aries friend that talked about everyone including himself..lol, which I thought was really weird for a guy because I don't know of any guys that like to "what I call" gossip.