celticlioness
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Jult a 'lil update on aries guy
heart thumps🙂
Oh goody gum drops!!
I am so happy he contacted you, mine would do this too after a few weeks I would get a call or text, but he still acted strange sometimes. But just be cool...I know its hard.
Keep us posted....
I am so happy he contacted you, mine would do this too after a few weeks I would get a call or text, but he still acted strange sometimes. But just be cool...I know its hard.
Keep us posted....
ok, sigh... seeing as you asked for updates sunshine 🙂
Came home tonight from dinner with friends and there was a bottle of wine on my doorstep from said Aries guy with a note, "hope we can enjoy this together". Foooooop (that's my polite word for treetrunk), I need to KNOW how to play it cool now, i justa wanna jump his bones - advice is now requested!
Came home tonight from dinner with friends and there was a bottle of wine on my doorstep from said Aries guy with a note, "hope we can enjoy this together". Foooooop (that's my polite word for treetrunk), I need to KNOW how to play it cool now, i justa wanna jump his bones - advice is now requested!
Can you invite him over for dinner and share the wine then? Can you also refrain from jumping into bed and just let it be a nice romantic evening that leaves him wanting more? Leaving him wanting more is the key you know 😉 Now step to it sister!
Posted by Mistery
Can you invite him over for dinner and share the wine then? Can you also refrain from jumping into bed and just let it be a nice romantic evening that leaves him wanting more? Leaving him wanting more is the key you know 😉 Now step to it sister!
Lol, I shall keep my little paws off him 🙂, but it will be hard! We've arranged to get together next Tuesday to share it - he wanted to meet up sooner but I'm busy until then.
oh dear, is this a case of "here we go again"! Not sure what to think now.
Texted him yesterday to say are we still ok for sharing my wine tonight, he texted back - not a big wine person and that he is feeling sorry for himself and he is home alone with a hangover. Need looking after. So i just LOL'd and asked who was going to look after him, he said "me i think, how was your christmas" I said good, how was yours, he said good and asked whats my plan tonight, so I said just going to enjoy my wine by myself and have a quiet night.. Then he asked what time are you opening the wine, I said about 9, and that was that.
So is there interest or not, he's got me confused again.... Foop!
Texted him yesterday to say are we still ok for sharing my wine tonight, he texted back - not a big wine person and that he is feeling sorry for himself and he is home alone with a hangover. Need looking after. So i just LOL'd and asked who was going to look after him, he said "me i think, how was your christmas" I said good, how was yours, he said good and asked whats my plan tonight, so I said just going to enjoy my wine by myself and have a quiet night.. Then he asked what time are you opening the wine, I said about 9, and that was that.
So is there interest or not, he's got me confused again.... Foop!
LOL, probably right, well he ain't going to get that, not without proving any true interest and at this stage i think he may find that hard to do as i've grown weary of the games - I thought you aries men weren't game players :-)
Posted by Dragalutzi
It's far more complex. We have an ideal partner in our head that is not real. It's a ferry tale princess. And if we don't get it out of our head at the right time it can be stuck there. That means no one is good enough for us. We may be attracted, even fall in love but when we are faced with the fact of the relationship we get really confused. So it gets on and off.
please tell me your not serious. Im a libra gal. They say we are the most feminine of the zodiac in every since of the word, that could be the reason my aries has liked me since we were little and i him. He was different, very quite for the most part but it only made me more curious about. I didn't find out how direct, and funny he was until recently now that we're older and we around each other almost everyday during the summer. He started talking to me till wee hours of the morning, and just being very open. I would hope this is a good thing. My sister is an aries, an older one and she says its a great thing. After 7 mths of us ALMOST crossing the line, i finally gave in, and just recently backed off sweetly to preserve our frienship. I dont wanna be mad at him,and him to get irratated with me for wanting more. Im almost afraid to ask you if i did right...but...what do you think?
By the way i said please tell me you not serious, because i know im Extreamly feminine and very smart my aries says he see's this in me and it makes me stand out, but im far from perfect. I'd hate for someone to think i am, maybe it is good i dipped. He'd probably drop once he found that out anyway. I hope aries dont think that, because if they do, then that would explain why every aries in my family is alone. Waiting for that perfect person that just simply does not exist.
I have to admit that I am pretty bambozzled by the way this guy is behaving. Something just isn't kosher in this scenario, but I can't tell you what that would be.
The ideal mate is good for special "gumdrop farts and unicorn snots" fantasy hour, but real time there's simply no way anyone can sustain that. Everyone will fail such a lofty test. Come down from Olympus back to Earth if you please.
Posted by celticlioness
Hi Guys, well cut him out of my thoughts etc. deleted his number and texts so I wouldn't be tempted with that horridly typical spontaneous Leo personality trait :-) Anyway, after 3 weeks of no contact from me he texted the other night to say that he hoped I have everything sorted for christmas, i replied to say nearly and hoped he did too, he then said well he might see me out some night for a drink and I said that would be nice but I'd be pretty busy but might get up to the village at some stage.
Don't worry, not getting my hopes up as much as I would love to take things forward - just pleased he has reached out. That's my head talking of course, heart is thumping wildly and trying to take over, but it won't :-)
pretty sure a man without the balls like an aries isnt much what you were after...
have you tried scorpio? or taurus!
Posted by Dragalutzi
we aint playing games.
well if he's not playing games then he would just come out and say he wants a FWB situation surely, if all he wants is a ride every now and then. I think he is playing games and i'm not going to participate, my Aries sister in law is a real game player, loves going out pulling men in with flirting and then pushing them away - and very funny with it :-)
Posted by impresswho
LOL, I guess that's the Aries indirect way of saying...pussy please. Aries are direct and straight to the point, lol.
No pussy no conversation.
LOL, no conversation no kitty - that's the Leo direct way :-)
Posted by Dragalutzi
It's far more complex. We have an ideal partner in our head that is not real. It's a ferry tale princess. And if we don't get it out of our head at the right time it can be stuck there. That means no one is good enough for us. We may be attracted, even fall in love but when we are faced with the fact of the relationship we get really confused. So it gets on and off.
Hey, you've just made sense of something I think my Aries brother in law is going through, he's always had the fairy tale in his head which his marriage isn't living up to and I think that is where his current problems are stemming from - thanks for the insight.
I;m obviously not the fairy tale for my aries man either, oh well, he'll just have to live in his own head and with his own repercussions.
Posted by liborePosted by celticlioness
Hi Guys, well cut him out of my thoughts etc. deleted his number and texts so I wouldn't be tempted with that horridly typical spontaneous Leo personality trait :-) Anyway, after 3 weeks of no contact from me he texted the other night to say that he hoped I have everything sorted for christmas, i replied to say nearly and hoped he did too, he then said well he might see me out some night for a drink and I said that would be nice but I'd be pretty busy but might get up to the village at some stage.
Don't worry, not getting my hopes up as much as I would love to take things forward - just pleased he has reached out. That's my head talking of course, heart is thumping wildly and trying to take over, but it won't :-)
pretty sure a man without the balls like an aries isnt much what you were after...
have you tried scorpio? or taurus!click to expand
Oh, had me a yummy scrummy Taurus - knee wobbling stuff, unfortunately he came packed with his own baggage. Scorpio, not sure, my best friend is a scorpy and I tell him frequently that if we had ever got together one or both of us would be dead by now, he assures me i would have suffered an enjoyable death :-) They are sexy, just not sure I'd match well.
Posted by DragalutziPosted by celticlionessPosted by Dragalutzi
we aint playing games.
well if he's not playing games then he would just come out and say he wants a FWB situation surely, if all he wants is a ride every now and then. I think he is playing games and i'm not going to participate, my Aries sister in law is a real game player, loves going out pulling men in with flirting and then pushing them away - and very funny with it :-)
He is not playing games. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings. we can't be that heartless as Scorpios are.click to expand
I understand now what you are saying, thank you, though I'm still not sure why he dropped off a bottle of wine, rang my bell (i was out but my car was there and my house was lit up like a christmas tree so he thought i was in), then texted me to make sure I knew it was there and said we could enjoy it together?? (they are his questions marks not mine) asked me to text him when I got back and set up the tuesday night date. Surely my feelings would be spared better if he just didn't initiate anything, which he does, each and every time we meet. I'm not sure if you read my other thread which covers the whole saga :-) My feelings, thankfully this time, have just died in the water.
Posted by DragalutziPosted by ALibra
By the way i said please tell me you not serious, because i know im Extreamly feminine and very smart my aries says he see's this in me and it makes me stand out, but im far from perfect. I'd hate for someone to think i am, maybe it is good i dipped. He'd probably drop once he found that out anyway. I hope aries dont think that, because if they do, then that would explain why every aries in my family is alone. Waiting for that perfect person that just simply does not exist.
I don't know if I got you right. You got together and you backed off? or what?
When you girls find someone you like you all tend to slow things down so we won't fuck up. that's a bad idea. If he complimented you that way and gave you so much attention he is into you for good. Time and separation will kill the moment. All emotions need to be cultivated like a flower, or they will dry. Why did you back off? preserve friendship? u joking? there is no thing as friendship between a man and a woman. the platonic thing is only valid when they are both ugly as hell and there can't possibly be any spark of attraction, unless they get drunk. 😄
About that ideal partner, I was serious, a small number of aries get stuck in this illusion but I was referring to the gentleman from the center of this topic.
The others alone arians hide behind fear and frustrations. It all comes from teenage hood when we might have scared away the object of our affection due to our childish exuberant restless way to express our emotions. I've noticed this "single period" happens between 20's and 30's. After that we "grow up", heart bruises have healed and we can handle emotions like normal people do.
Forget about your imperfections. We all have them and that's the beauty of human nature. When someone loves you, he does it for who you are, all the package. If the Creator of this world or mother nature or whatever you believe in loves you enough to keep you here it's enough. Accept who you are. People who love you do that all the time.click to expand
Great. Now I feel bad.lol. But yes "I" backed off. And thank you for responding. I've been giving myself the runaround about this whole thing. A libra loves the idea of love but when it finally happens and there's a chance it could be real we tend to back off and cool off
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and try to do everything right so we don't mess it up, and it drives our partner nuts. I backed off because my emotions were getting rawled up and I found myself getting frustrated with him for not spending more time, and not calling as much, and the whole thing was just bothering me. Even though he was honest about not being ready for a relationship, it doesn't change the fact that I am. And he says not right now, he wants to have some things in order, but am I really suppose to wait around screw him, allow him to talk to me when he wants to talk, see me when he feels like it, um sounds like a doormat and from what I head aries hate doormats, and even if they loved them I still couldn't do it. Its not my style . I love him more than he'll ever know. But he has to meet me half way, I didn't mean to hurt him by backing off but I had to. I didn't think it would've been fair for me to ask for more, when he was so direct and honest saying he wasn't ready??_ Was I wrong? I mean you??re an aries guy you can tell me? Was this so bad? My two bestfriends says he's probably upset with me for pulling away, but my aries sister says it was too deep and he probably prefers talking face to face, or doesn't know what to say. Im supposed to see him tomorrow at our 1/2 uncles 60th party (His uncle by blood, mines by marriage) what do you think?
and try to do everything right so we don't mess it up, and it drives our partner nuts. I backed off because my emotions were getting rawled up and I found myself getting frustrated with him for not spending more time, and not calling as much, and the whole thing was just bothering me. Even though he was honest about not being ready for a relationship, it doesn't change the fact that I am. And he says not right now, he wants to have some things in order, but am I really suppose to wait around screw him, allow him to talk to me when he wants to talk, see me when he feels like it, um sounds like a doormat and from what I head aries hate doormats, and even if they loved them I still couldn't do it. Its not my style . I love him more than he'll ever know. But he has to meet me half way, I didn't mean to hurt him by backing off but I had to. I didn't think it would've been fair for me to ask for more, when he was so direct and honest saying he wasn't ready??_ Was I wrong? I mean you??re an aries guy you can tell me? Was this so bad? My two bestfriends says he's probably upset with me for pulling away, but my aries sister says it was too deep and he probably prefers talking face to face, or doesn't know what to say. Im supposed to see him tomorrow at our 1/2 uncles 60th party (His uncle by blood, mines by marriage) what do you think?
Posted by Dragalutzi
I don't think you were wrong at all. But cut trough that mist of "not ready". You have to know for sure if he is into you or not. a quick yes means yes but any hesitation or beat by the bush equals a big no.
so cut yourself some time and pain sweety and ask him. put the ball in his court.
I don't believe in "not ready".
I private messaged you, i hope thats okay. I didn't want to take up the thread with my own issues :/
Posted by DragalutziPosted by ALibra
u joking? there is no thing as friendship between a man and a woman. the platonic thing is only valid when they are both ugly as hell and there can't possibly be any spark of attraction, unless they get drunk. 😄
HAHAHA so funny...but tru
About that ideal partner, I was serious, a small number of aries get stuck in this illusion but I was referring to the gentleman from the center of this topic.
The others alone arians hide behind fear and frustrations. It all comes from teenage hood when we might have scared away the object of our affection due to our childish exuberant restless way to express our emotions. I've noticed this "single period" happens between 20's and 30's. After that we "grow up", heart bruises have healed and we can handle emotions like normal people do.
I have to agree with this, I have been effed over so many times by the objects of my affections, i ran off the Pisce after had lied, manipulated and used me, when I said somethings baout it he just up and vanished poof gone like the wind, as did my Gem bf. I havent had any luck with men in my life at all. I know at some point you have to look within which i did. I can be head strong and argumentative at times ( im an Aries) and this I have tried my hardest to work on, other that that I dont know what I have done wrong with every relationship. Ive seen people with far worse personalities than me yet they find people who accept them for who they are. So yeah i have spent a lot of my twenties single, Id rather so that then suffer in a bad relationship relationship. But somedays I just cant help but think WTF am I doing wrong? I was open, giving, honest and loving to all my partners, yet they never returned the affection. I dont want anyone perfect, just someone to love me for me and not use me and then dispose me afterwards, yes I am strong but I have feelings tooo and people forget that.
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Have to agree with Draga, this guy wants to f*ck and he ain't playing about it either, he doesn't want to spend quality time with you, he want them panties dropped and he's not going to play games with that either LOL. He's a fun one! He said he's not a big wine person so that clarifies that wine is to get YOU loosened up so he can have some hot sexual relationships 😄
LOL@LOL, I guess that's the Aries indirect way of saying...pussy please. Aries are direct and straight to the point, lol.
No pussy no conversation.
LOL@LOL, I guess that's the Aries indirect way of saying...pussy please. Aries are direct and straight to the point, lol.
No pussy no conversation.
Posted by Dragalutzi
there are tons of books and material about relationships a social dynamics. it helped me a lot as I could see what I was doing wrong and how to make a solid connection with people. maybe it will help you too. 🙂
Thank you...do u have any of the names of the ones that helped you?
Posted by tiki33
Have to agree with Draga, this guy wants to f*ck and he ain't playing about it either, he doesn't want to spend quality time with you, he want them panties dropped and he's not going to play games with that either LOL. He's a fun one! He said he's not a big wine person so that clarifies that wine is to get YOU loosened up so he can have some hot sexual relationships 😄
LOL, now this is what I wanted to hear, in my last thread on this "fun one" i was getting confusing replies, saying he is interested etc. which just confused me as I couldn't see it. But I don't like his indirectness, if he was straight up with it he might have just got what he wanted 🙂
Now another Aries in my life just told me straight out he wanted to treetrunk me but seeing as in this life we couldn't he was going to come get me in the next life and treetrunk me and not stop until we were both dead - that's the kindof Aries directness that will get this lioness, this boys silly games won't work :-)
Posted by tiki33
LOL@LOL, I guess that's the Aries indirect way of saying...pussy please. Aries are direct and straight to the point, lol.
No pussy no conversation
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LOL, Its Lion against Ram now so, as no conversation no kitty - i'm much more stubborn :-) If he had been direct and straight, well that would be a whole different thread!
Oh and BTW, i sent him a photo of the empty bottle of wine with a note of thanks
Posted by celticlioness
Oh and BTW, i sent him a photo of the empty bottle of wine with a note of thanks
Ah yes, a message even an Aries will understand.
Well, that and fucking until you die in the next life. Both of those are good messages in the Aries world.
Posted by DragalutziPosted by bkbella86Posted by Dragalutzi
there are tons of books and material about relationships a social dynamics. it helped me a lot as I could see what I was doing wrong and how to make a solid connection with people. maybe it will help you too. 🙂
Thank you...do u have any of the names of the ones that helped you?
well you can just google. "how to ...?"
The first self improvement book I read was "The Complete Idiot's Guide to a Healthy Relationship". It has a funny name LOL
And if you really want changes you can get Paul Mckenna's books and hypnosys programs. This guy is the shit!!click to expand
Google is good but I do love a good reference :-)
Hypnosis O-o I'm intrigued, thank ya!
Posted by dofaccPosted by celticlioness
Oh and BTW, i sent him a photo of the empty bottle of wine with a note of thanks
Ah yes, a message even an Aries will understand.click to expand
Well maybe it gave him some message - he went off on a ski trip a couple of days after our non-date and has texted me a few times from there - "wish you were here" was one. he's also sent kisses in one text (unheard of for the last 11 months) and when I texted him thanks for the morning wake up kisses he told me there was hugs too. Soooo... i'm letting him off to go at his own pace now, if there is going to be a pace. He's back tomorrow so we shall see, i'm not waiting with bated breath anymore though and I have a date with a nice man on Wednesday. Thanks for all the input, no doubt there will be an update, he is fun 🙂
Posted by dofaccPosted by celticlioness
Oh and BTW, i sent him a photo of the empty bottle of wine with a note of thanks
Ah yes, a message even an Aries will understand.click to expand
Well maybe it gave him some message - he went off on a ski trip a couple of days after our non-date and has texted me a few times from there - "wish you were here" was one. he's also sent kisses in one text (unheard of for the last 11 months) and when I texted him thanks for the morning wake up kisses he told me there was hugs too. Soooo... i'm letting him off to go at his own pace now, if there is going to be a pace. He's back tomorrow so we shall see, i'm not waiting with bated breath anymore though and I have a date with a nice man on Wednesday. Thanks for all the input, no doubt there will be an update, he is fun 🙂
Posted by dofaccPosted by celticlioness
Oh and BTW, i sent him a photo of the empty bottle of wine with a note of thanks
Ah yes, a message even an Aries will understand.click to expand
Well maybe it gave him some message - he went off on a ski trip a couple of days after our non-date and has texted me a few times from there - "wish you were here" was one. he's also sent kisses in one text (unheard of for the last 11 months) and when I texted him thanks for the morning wake up kisses he told me there was hugs too. Soooo... i'm letting him off to go at his own pace now, if there is going to be a pace. He's back tomorrow so we shall see, i'm not waiting with bated breath anymore though and I have a date with a nice man on Wednesday. Thanks for all the input, no doubt there will be an update, he is fun 🙂
oops, 3 posts 🙂
He's pretty hot and heavy...That's sexual...So do you want a real relationship or do you want something imaginary like sex and fun?
A real relationship Tiki, that's why I've managed to not sleep with him for the last 8 months, its getting harder now 🙂. The last time we communicated about it he said he wanted to go slow which is fine by me but then he went standstill and as usual i blew my top at him and that's how I stopped any communication with him until before christmas, when he texted me, and you know the story since then 🙂
Any advice, I love your advice!
Any advice, I love your advice!
I think you're doing good celtic, my only suggestion would be to KNOW what it is you exactly want from him or any man for that matter, don't settle for fun and then expect more later b/c most likely you'll end up disappointed.
What?? He blew off your wine date?? And then texted sweet nothings from his ski trip??
I agree Celtic...let him pace it.
Maybe he wasn't in the mood that night..I get that way sometimes too and have broken a few dates myself on a weeknight.
Give him the benefit of the doubt.
We should all be doing that more anyhow...nowdays everyone jumps to conclusions and assumes..
I agree Celtic...let him pace it.
Maybe he wasn't in the mood that night..I get that way sometimes too and have broken a few dates myself on a weeknight.
Give him the benefit of the doubt.
We should all be doing that more anyhow...nowdays everyone jumps to conclusions and assumes..
Posted by tiki33
I think you're doing good celtic, my only suggestion would be to KNOW what it is you exactly want from him or any man for that matter, don't settle for fun and then expect more later b/c most likely you'll end up disappointed.
Thanks Tiki, I know what I want and don't ever take second bests or crumbs, when he tries to just "have fun" he gets called on it, to be honest I think that is what keeps him coming back.
Posted by sunshine222
What?? He blew off your wine date?? And then texted sweet nothings from his ski trip??
I agree Celtic...let him pace it.
Maybe he wasn't in the mood that night..I get that way sometimes too and have broken a few dates myself on a weeknight.
Give him the benefit of the doubt.
We should all be doing that more anyhow...nowdays everyone jumps to conclusions and assumes..
Ha ha, yes be blew it off, but as i just laughed at him becuase of it i think he was a bit confused, he's used to women falling all over him (he is extremely good looking and very fit body) so he's wobbling with me I think. I have given him the benefit though. He's back now and we chatted, he was being frisky last night, prob expected me to come running around after all his sweet nothings, I told him to enjoy his DIY.
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