Leo fallin for Aries

So, im the lionessm he's the ram.
Im single with no kids, he's married with two.

Here goes....We have been talking for a couple of months now, it started innocently.

I would watch and admire him from afar in our mutual setting. Finally, the opportunity came about, i turned on the seduction. We started with small get to know ya kinda conversations, then sensual conversations, personal conversations....the get to know ya stuff.

Then I received a card in my mailbox, then roses, we IM everyday allday from work. He's technically married....However, the wife bailed on him and his kids for another man, only after the lover used her up and threw her away did she come crawling back begging for forgiveness.

He says he is unemotionally attached to her in anyway. That he just wants to be a good man in his children's eyes..I get that.

We had phone sex a few times...Then he stopped calling or answering my calls. But he IMs me everyday.

Here is where I need an Aries man to break it down for me....
Couple of weeks ago on a friday, I told him I had a date...The next day I told him I just wanted to be friends, because I value our friendship and he's not done with his current situation.
He says fine...But we still IM everyday.
The tuesday after, we im as usual, then we set up for a first hookup, but I didnt believe it would go down. He shows up, im in lioness conquer mode.

He puts it on me! I would have never expected it from this man! BUt he laid it out! He leaves, then i miss his call he wants to come back. I say no!
The next day, IM continues but he's kinda cold, bye the end of the day it's on again....he comes over, I follow his instructions, we go at it again!
The next day In an IM i say dam you are a good lover, he says if im such a good lover y did my wife cheat on me? I say idk, its possible their was something missing in the relationship.

He goes cold. Days go bye, He blows some stema off about work. Tells me we should just be friends...Now im pissed bcuz I gave my celibacy to him, and I was fine with my own personal fantasies about him. SO, I say if thats what you want.
Then he starts with the im sex again. I cut him off, he says im making it hard for him to be a good man.
Swears we can never have another encounter agian, but.....he came over to give me a massage! Of course it wasnt just a massage! But he pleasured me, and refused to go further....actually ran out the door.
Now im confused, I really need help with my next move.

Just put on a life vest and ride the wave. You can't get to emtionally involved with Aries until they let you know they're ready. Just chill.

Thanks for the info.....today, I told him i was out, he calls and tells me no im not, then he says...i didnt force him to do anything, that its what he wants to do.....then were back to the sex topic.....ugh! Im lost

typical aries bs to be honest. I think that with Aries guys there is that underlying egoism, and they do this "i like you dont like you" thing a lot..maybe to show off that they really dont need you, that they can have perfect relationship with themselves (these people are the biggest egoists EVER).
I am a leo and I have dated an Aries guy and we broke up eventually bc of few differences but most bc of the fact that he had to move to another city. But he still constantly emails and always wants to "keep in touch"...i don't get it. Its hard to deal with exes that are clingy, especially with Aries, bc they are incredibly stubborn, but the advantage we leos have over them is that we think before we act.🙂)