My Aries bf... (II)

Well, I guess some of you probably get bored of my up and down relationship now but the thread about Aries run away when they feel hurt and angry is exactly like my boyfriend at the moment.

He is very angry at me dressing up as bunny in a costume party last weekend. Especially that costume i bought to wear it for him a few weeks ago but I was dressing it in a more reserved way and no intention to make it sexy at all. He wasnt there in the party but found out about it later when i told him that i won a prize of funniest female costume there... No doubt he is really angry and says that outfit is only for him, not for other guys fantasy over his gf.

I know its my fault to wear it without asking or telling him first but i have done my best to apologise for my action. He is still very angry and comes up to the conclusion to break up again like last time (Normally he is very sweet and does really love me, He treats me like gold and planning a serious future together ahead) and i know that its just his anger that does him to say things he doesnt mean to... Kinda of emotional blackmail to punish me for hurting and making him jealous and ends up running away from problems and leaves me confused again...

I havent responsed anything to him after his email of breaking up. Just stay quiet and hoping that he will calm down and realise there is nothing to be angry at or has to end us up at all...

This is the second time that he chose to break up with me when he is angry and jealous about me over other guys. I really dont understand why... If our relationship isnt meaningful enough as he claims it to be the world to him.. so he can just easily end us up without thinking much about it. Im actually getting tired of his behaviour now and wonder if i should get engaged with him and move to a new country with him next year... Im seriously not a doormat and feeling like im in a shaky relationship. Once i heard Aries/Libra relationship can be very love/hate relationship... But i really do love him so i dont know what i should do... 😢

How long do u think it will take him to calm down and forgive me...? if i should apologise once more and try to explain things... not sure if that would just press his button to be more angry... or just stay quiet untill he contacts me again? and what should i do to tear him a new one to stop acting like a kid like this next time we ever fight again? 😢

Thank you for reading...

"He is still very angry and comes up to the conclusion to break up again like last time (Normally he is very sweet and does really love me, He treats me like gold and planning a serious future together ahead) and i know that its just his anger that does him to say things he doesnt mean to... Kinda of emotional blackmail to punish me for hurting and making him jealous and ends up running away from problems and leaves me confused again..."

Sounds like a very immature ram to me— Is he gonna keep breaking up with you everything you dress too sexy—? Do you really wanna keep going through breakup after break up like that??
Anyway, how come he wasn't at the party with you? Did he decline to go and didn't tell you? Or did you know he wasn't going to be there and dressed sexy anyway?
For all it's worthy, he's overreacting. Stand up to him and tell him to back off and that he is being silly. Aries like people who stand up to them unless something else is going on in his chart

Thank you, Thank you, Maia! No matter what other aspects he has in his chart, you need to stand up to him and stick up for yourself, Libran girly! I've been w/ my Aries for 1 and 1/2 years, now. My sister is also Aries, my neice is Aries, and I have Aries moon. Now, granted, we're all human and there are different strokes for different folks. But, honeys (gemfox and lg), you should not be dealing w/ your bf's as you are.

I ADORE my aries, partially because he does sometimes act like a huge baby. But I've learned that you've got to choose your battles, and sometimes (more often than not) you've got to rip em' new holes every now and then. Don't you dare let him bitch at you for something so dumb. You tell him that you're tired of his sh*t, you're not going to put up with it, and if he wants to break up w/ you, PEACE! Give him a taste of his own medicine, sometimes, tell him how wrong he is, and I guarantee you he will love you all the more AND learn AND change his ways!

Yes, Aries are insecure and fragile...but if you always tip toe around him, he will never build strength and confidence and you will never be completely happy. Aries likes challenge...challenge always betters the Aries persona. You've got to give that to him and he will respect you more. When he's playful...play. When he's moody (for his own reasons) show concern but disengage as well. When he's an ass...give him yours to kiss. As long as your intentions are good, Aries will appreciate you, and show how much they appreciate you in many loving ways...it's give and take. As a libra and his opposite you've got to try to keep the balance.

This has been my own experience. To be honest w/ you, I treated my BF the same way your BF treats you...the constant break-ups, jealousy, etc. (Me: Leo Sun/Aries Moon). It was hard, and I know I drove him crazy and vice versa. But I truly believe that our drama was our way of flushing things out and getting to know one another...could be the case with you two. But the only way you guys will learn and grow is to be up front about who you are and what you want/ don't want. That's the only way he'll know that he can trust you.

Good luck.

truthseeker, I see that you know your aries. My bf has aries moon and I also have an aries sister. Aries people mean well and are simple and child-like. But one rule is to never let them run you over. My bf is more of calm aries mooner because he is an aqua sun but I've learnt that with him standing up to him is what works. He even admitted that he doesn't like weak women. I don't have to be a bitch, just honest about my feelings. And I pick my battles well, of course.

Thank you so much geminifox (im really surprised that there is a same ram like mine!), Maia and truthseeker... Well, we are having a long distance relationship now and he is a pilot so he flys away alot so he couldnt come to the party... he knew that i was going but he didnt know i was going to dress as bunny and i wasnt being thoughtful enough that he would get mad with it.

yeah he is still young (26), he is Aries sun/Sag moon/Leo rising, im Libra sun/Aries Moon/Leo rising... so you can tell we are real drama king and queen out there. my Libra just helps me being rational and calm in this situation but my Aries moon is telling him to go and get rid of him out of my life! See, im really a confused person myself already 😢

I have tried to explain things and reassured him how much i love him and he means to me bla bla but now seems like he is just blind with his anger and doesnt want to listen to anything. He turns his mobile off all day so I cant call him.. so i just sent him an email to accept his decision on breaking up and wish him the best and that I wish we could be togehter again... and now im going to disappear after this to drive him crazy coz i know he will get paranoid and upset about what im doing or who im going with! Not sure what is his reaction would be tho? but im preparing myself now if he is not going to come back... 😢

I hate playing games really but Aries does seem to like it. I dont want to be tame with him coz i know he will get bored of me in no time. He is drawn to me for being attractive and popular among guys. He is proud that people cant stop looking at me when he takes me out to party and it doesnt mean i have to be ugly when he is not around!

I wish i could treat him like you truthseeker... but im afraid i would lose him completely coz we are not together and far away... Im afraid if none of us is willing to compromise. things would just get out of control...

My Aries moon does help him to respect me for not being a weak person actually, for always being implusive, sponteneous and honest with myself and him. But breaking up issue is just too sensitive for me to take a risk... 😢

Awww...Libran...Wish U luk n luv.

truthseeker got it completely right, you need to tell him that he's behaving like a brat and you're not putting up with his behaviour. i'm an aries female, but one thing i can tell you is that if i played that "you did something i don't like and i'll punish you by threatening to break up with you"-game and got away with it, i'd to it a second time...and a third...and a fourth. not to be mean, just to see how far i can push it. aries needs some resistance and someone showing them where the boundary is every now and then. you didn't do anything wrong, his reaction is over the top and childish and you need to tell him this. don't apologize for wearing a bunny costume at a party. and as truthseeker said, if you oppose him, he'll like you even more.
all the best for you, libran 🙂

Libran-girly,
I understand that you feel insecure because it is a long distance relationship and the dynamics are a bit different; I'm away from my bf as well...and it sucks. However, trust is vital in long distance relationships and he is not showing much of it in you unfortunately...
Compromise is important but so too should be trust and understanding on his part. Don't worry so much about him now, worry about yourself: you didn't do anything wrong as you reported, he overearcted, you explained yourself, now just go on with your life. But if he does come back, do let him know that his behavior was unaceptable and childish. He has to know it in order to not repeat it as others say and you don't want him to keep behaving that way especially in a long distance relationship! it just will break the whole thing. Don't be afraid of drawing boundaries with this guy; it'll only strenghten the relationship if it's worth it.

ohhh gosh!!

Libran-girly, girl i feel you so much it's crazy - ur ram and my ram, are they the same person? cus holy sh*t they sound alike!!

my ram is stubborn and he does try to punish me when things don't go his way - he can be so hard to deal wit - i wonder if it's worth it - why he's so childish? i don't kno -it bugs me soo much i was gunna do some research on how to deal with wayward kids jus to find a way to get to him

i really try to be upfront with him - i try to be calm when i talk to him but sometimes i jus wanna yell at him - he jus doens't see reason sometimes
u're not alone - right now jus try to get some "you" time - i'm tellin you girl sometimes u jus gotta say u kno what "he can kiss my ass for today" and jus go to the spa or take a nice long shower and pamper urself, especially when he's being difficult

i kno the breakup thing hurts believe me i know - he broke up wit me this weekend (i was soo miserable cus he told me how much he wanted to be with me and how serious he was bout me and all this stuff- and jus like u i wonder y he wud wanna break up) and i called him today n i talk and tried to explain to him (i talked not yelled) that he shund't give up on things easily - u kno wut he said "i like my life easy, and i don't like worryin and getting headaches over things, so i will destroy things in my life if things start to get difficult"
- in my mind i was like "what the f**k!!! he is so freakin childish!! who thinks like this—" anyway he told me that he jus says things he doesn't mean when he's angry - i think i will jus leave him alone when he's agry next time -
my relationship is long distance also and it doesn't help either - and now tonight he was supposed to come online to chat wit me rounf 7pm ish and he's not here - and i'm getting pissed off - here's the thing tho if i didn't show up online he'd be pissed - they don't really think much bout other ppl's feelings sometimes- yep their selfish and i's drivin me crazy as to how to get thru his thick skull

Goshh...Everybodyz talkin of aries as stubborn and childish. That calls for some serious introspection.

geminifox and Libran_girly,

man if you guys didn't put ur posts up- i wud have given up long time cus this situation is like no other i've been in- and it's good to kno that i'm not alone

and it helps that we can bounce stuff off each other to figure out how to deal and understand these stubborn men that we love so much - thanx alot for ur advice geminifox on all the other posts 😄

to all aries - keep ur advice comin cus u guys r tuff enough to deal wit as it is!!

i really think that ppl give up too easily in relationships, NOTHING IS PERFECT-perfection is only our individual ideas - i think if my parents had given up as easily as ppl give up today they wudn't have a marriage BUT they stuck thru it - it takes patience and time - loyality -(there is no such thing as a happy ending so we need to stop tryin to live in that cinderella and snow white world) life ain't disney

as we get older it seems like our society wants everything fast and easy - robot vacuum cleaners, dishwashers, online shopping with delivery to ur door the work is gettin less for us so we feel that everything else in life shud be easy and fast - HUMAN BEINGS are more complicated than technology - remember that!! (damn even i forget sometimes)