My Aries boyfriend is ignoring me?

Saturday I hung out wih a guy friend who happens to be an ex. All day that day I was trying to get ahold of my boyfriend. I sent him three texts and called once. Later that day I called and he answered. He said he had been busy and hadn't been able to talk to anyone. So I was okay and very relieved and we were having a light hearted conversation an I laughed and said I was so worried I was about to do something drastic, just joking of course. He laughed too. Then asked what I was up to and I told him who I was with and that I was at the park and whatever and he was obviously upset and rushed off the phone. A few minutes later I sent him a picture of something I thought he'd think was cute and all I got back was "k". I kept trying to get him to talk to me about what was bothering him and when he wouldn't, I said fine just to go and to call me when he was done being pissy at me. He blew up and started calling me names and saying really hurtful things. After defending myself for a while he asked if he could go try to enjoy his night unless I wasn't down ruining it for him. I told him just to go and that was the last I heard f him. We've been together for six months and he says he loves me very much, but he's been ignoring me since that night. He's suppose to get home tonight, but I still haven't heard from him. I tried calling him and texting him, apologizing and everything. It's supposedly normal for Aries to do this, but I don't know hen he plans to stop and talk to me. I know I shouldn't have tried to get anything out of him And I really regret that now. He's usually understanding about me having guy friends and when we fight were usually over it the next day. I need to hear an Aries point of view I think. He does a lot for me and I know he does his best to try o be as good as he can for me, but the week before this one he was a little distant, which he can be sometimes and I respect that and give him his space. But I don't know what he's thinking and don't know when or if he plans to talk to me again. Any input? :/

I'm an Aquarius, if that matters at all. Haha

Posted by ImpressMe
Aries like to feel like they are number one. Any indication they are not number one then it's pretty much a wrap. Oh, it doesn't mean he is number one, but he has to feel like he is number one. Don't let his ass fool you and have you thinking he is ok with your guy friends. That shit is a front.

I'm aware he gets jealous, but never does he get that upset over it. It may be because I didnt tell him before hand? But! Since he didn't talk to me almost all day that day, it would have been a bit difficult to talk to him about it. God, this boy is frustrating.

I'd be a hell of a lot more willing to forgive him for this if he hadn't called me the names he did.

Of course it'd bother me, but I'd never be so childish about handling it. It wasn't like I cheated on him and I never would, he says he trusts me, so I believe him. I've never dealt with an Aries before, and this is a completely new experience, really. It's been four days and he's still completely ignoring me. So idk if he really even cares at this point. But I've about had enough.

I called because I was worried about him, really. I mean I get why he'd be upset, I'm not mad because he's upset. I just need to hear from him. I don't know if he went home tonight or not, but if I still haven't heard from him by the time I get home I'm thinking I might stop by and try to talk to him, even though that probably not a good idea. I don't know how to go about handling this situation. It kind of sucks. I'm done trying to contact him by phone until he comes to me, though.

It's hard not to call him, but I'll do what I gotta. Yeah, it does seem stalkerish, but if I need to figure out whats going on and he won't talk to me, I kin of have to because I don't want to see him at school and end up having a big blow out there instead of in privacy. And i want to bring back the fishing poles and stuff hes left in my car since valentines day. So theres my excuse. Creepy, right? Whatever. Hah. Were on spring break right now, actually. I was worried about him Saturday because I usually hear from him, when he's over at his dads out of town, before he goes to bed and when he wakes up in the morning, and I felt like he was blowing me off the day before. But when he's over there I'm content with just getting a goodmorning call from him, but when I didn't, I thought maybe something was wrong. I might be a little over protective. Aheh.

But now I'm worried he's done with me over something stupid

I know, right? Maybe it's my cap moon? Ha. I'm very detached usually. Up until I got serious with this guy. Yeah, I hope you're right.

Hah, you know it. 😛 but yeah, I'm going to do my best to just chill and not think about it. Whatever happens, happens.

It isn't jealously.

He thought highly of you. You turned into an inconsiderate turd right before his eyes, ignoring that he was upset, then sending him some dopy picture thinking that was all gonna make things go away.

I hope he finds someone considerate.

If you don't want to have a boyfriend, then don't have one. If you want to hang out with your exes all day then do that instead. You can't go out with someone and expect to ignore them 24/7 or act like you don't need to be responsible for anything at all.

Next up I guess he would be a jerk for leaving you for being so inconsiderate? LOL

Takes two to tango, he is probably more upset he chose to hang out with you, so no worries.

Posted by Kelsbear
....He's usually understanding about me having guy friends and when we fight were usually over it the next day...

sounds like when you fight it's over the fact that you have guy friends. logically he knows it's irrational to not be ok with you having many guy friends at your age and level of commitment so he tries to understand, but it sounds like he doesn't, really, if you fight about it.

Posted by Kelsbear
Saturday I hung out wih a guy friend who happens to be an ex.

..and because you aren't reading him correctly and respecting his feelings, you continue to perpetuate his feelings of disregard and hurt by hanging out with various guys/exes.

Posted by Kelsbear
..the week before this one he was a little distant, which he can be sometimes and I respect that and give him his space.

...are you really respecting it and giving him his space, or do you purposefully pick the times that he goes through these moods to hang out with guys and former boyfriends because you want attention? it seems to me that this is your MO: he gets distant because he needs space/time to himself --> you hang out with guyfriends and exes --> you call him to act sweet/thoughtful/worried --> he feels relieved that you let him have his space/didn't pressure him and is really glad he opened up to you --> you casually mention you are with an ex, a known source of contention between you two --> he withdraws because it cut him to the quick and starts to put that wall up again

Posted by Kelsbear
...But I don't know what he's thinking...

pay attention:

Posted by heroic_guy
He thought highly of you. You turned into an inconsiderate turd right before his eyes, ignoring that he was upset, then sending him some dopy picture thinking that was all gonna make things go away....he is probably more upset he chose to hang out with you.

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you are probably acting your age - you're in high school (or early college), yes? consider this a learning experience. learn to really pay attention to the subtle reactions mates have and use them to communicate better. no one expects you to (and you shouldn't) change yourself unless you want to...but if you want this guy, take a hard look at yourself, admit to yourself and your boyfriend insecurities/manipulations and let the chips fall where they may. if you don't want to change/improve the way you are in relationships then move on. good luck~ xoj

Posted by Kelsbear
I'd be a hell of a lot more willing to forgive him for this if he hadn't called me the names he did.

oh also... do you want to be with someone who would do that? someone having difficulty expressing themselves is one thing, but calling names is another unless you communicate/fight like that as well and are comfortable with it. if you do end up working things out, let him know how his name-calling affected you. xoj

He ended up talking to me on facebook last night. He was posting things so I'd see them, trying to get my attention, and I caved. The whole time he was a jerk and talking down to me. Basically saying i didnt appreciate him. He still wouldn't call or text me and still won't. I left him a couple voicemails beggin him to talk to me so I knew what was going on wih him, but still nothing. Even tried playing on his heartstrings a bit. And also went over to his house to try to talk to him, but his grandfather said he never came home last night. I know he's in town an I know where, but I'm not going to stalk him. Now I feel totally used and like a complete fool. How can they just flip a switch and become totally emotionless towards someone they supposedly loved? Is there any hope or should I just give up? Which I am very close to doing.

Woahhh, First of all, I have always had more guy friends than girls. My ex and I are completely over it and we never hangout anymore. The person I see more than anyone is my boyfriend. I know for a fact that my ex does not want me nor do I want him. I'm not going to abandon all of my friends for him. I just see them sparingly. He's allowed to have girl friends, why can't I have some guy friends? All I want is to know how the hell to diffuse this situation. I've apologized and I've told him he's the only one for me and I love him and I'd stop. Still nothing.

I don't deserved to be treated this way!! I just need for him to tell me how he feels. I Want to be wih him but I don't want to put up wih this, it's seriously tearing me apart. It's going to be hard to avoid him at school Monday considering we have a few classes together. I feel like if I don't try, he'll give up. If I do try he'll get pissed off. I could break up with him, Which I don't want to do but he is really pushing me, for the way he is treating me. I'm not saying I didn't hurt him an I didn't mess up, I did. And I see what I did wrong and what I need to fix. I've apologized for everything, but it doesn't even seem to shake him. I'll leave him alone but I'm just so nervous and so worried he won't ever come to me.

Easier said than done. like last night I stopped trying to contact him, and he decided to try to upset me by posting stupid things on facebook. He wont let me be happy. I'll give him his space and let him be childish. And forget about it and be okay for the first time in over a week.

Eighteen. However, at the moment I feel like a five year old. Sound about right?

Posted by Rafail
I also have a problem with girls who hang out with ex boyfriends.
Do you have many boys you hang out with? I think this boiled in him for a while now till he blew off.
Why do you have to hang out with our ex bf anyway? You may think it is cool but truth is your ex just wants sex from you.
You see, us aries men are not very opened to modern free relationship concepts. We like our woman the classic way. 😉
Like a prices or something.
And as a man that fucked all of his exes a few times, I really won't let my gf to hang out with boys alone in the park in any way. LOL
oh and I left a girl cuz she had to many boys around her. Air sign girls tend to do that, especially libra and aqua. And as and advice please grow up and quit acting like a boy that hangs out with boys. Be a woman.
if you want him back tell him you love him and he's your only man and you won;t hang out with other boys again and it was foolish of you and childish.

Lmao, DUDE, you are cute, but such a greenhorn. Once you learn to stop control and quit making your girl your property, then you are ready for a big thing like marriage.

"I really won't let my gf to hang out with boys alone in the park in any way. LOL"

LOLOLOLOL, what if she secretly goes to the park? You will hand her a green (opps I meant YELLOW!) card as a warning? LMAO!!!

You gotta take responsibility for your own actions too in cases where you feel a game is being played with your emotions.

Playing checkmate with someone and complaining that that person is doing stuff to piss you off, means they feel you did something wrong to them, and if you don't feel you did, say so, so that they know you aren't trying to get away with something that hurt their feelings.

FACEBOOK is never a place for loved ones to share how they feel hurt about each other. The only emotion you should feel on facebook is YAY LIFE IS GOOD FOR ALL OF US AS A FACEBOOK GROUP OF FRIENDS. And people can let on that something happened or need to speak with you, so then it can get taken out of the realm of drama.