My Aries X-husband is all over me.....what tha—

My x-husband and I were divorced in April after separating in November. He wanted a divorce I wanted to work it out. Well he thought it was best to part ways so we did. After crying forever over the divorce I finally realized that us parting was best and I moved on and my feelings for him diminished drastically because I realized that even though I still love him I am happier apart. I stopped the phone calls and moved on. He did too...or so I thought. Recently he has been calling me asking me how I'm doing and being really nice to me all of a sudden. So I figured he just wanted to work on our friendship and I figured that would be a good idea for our son's sake. He offered to fix my car and to take care of me when I was sick a few weeks ago. He calls me at work and says "hey beautiful how you doing" and I'm like "whhaaatt—" Last night he asked if he could come over and help me with our son (he is 1 now) because he wouldn't go to sleep and I didn't feel well. So he came over and we watched a movie and he said "I love you"...I didn't know what was going on. I don't understand all this because he didn't want anything to do with me and I was really under the impression that he didn't love me at all anymore. I really respect him because he takes care of his son and I love him as a friend but I'm not in love with him anymore. He asked me if I still loved him and I changed the subject. Is this just the typical Aries wanting what they can't have? He had me and was tired then when I moved on with my life he wants me back...Enlighten me please....

Why did you guys divorce?....I mean you sound like you still love each other....

He said he thought he was ready for marriage but then realized he wasn't ready.

well hmmm I dont know...maybe he realize the divorce was all a mistake....but usually an aries timing is a bit off...

I thought after that whole fiasco last fall that you two decided to try and work it out. I guess not 😢

All the signs say that he wants back in but I've been distant not because i'm trying to be mean but because I was so hurt over the divorce and I wanted to try so bad to work things out and then I was forced to part ways...It took so much to get over it all and now I don't feel like I love him the same as I used to. It's easy for me to say good bye when I see him and to not call him at all. It would take so much for me to fall back in love with him. I think he knows that.. I feel like when he is around me he is comfortable and he feels secure. I know that he has dated other women since our split, but I don't believe he found what he thought he would find out there. He acts like nothing even happened... His timing is so off...

No we didn't go to counseling..I wanted to but like an Aries he wasnt trying to have anyone tell him how to live his life...he is his own man and no one can boss him around! And yes, my fear is that things will end up the same way and if we ever were to be around each other a lot we may regenerate old issues and just hurt each other.

I feel that you shouldn't have allowed him back into your life. What they say abt Aries is true - we are innately selfish and itz ingrained. What stops us from realizing the same fact is this grand sense of entitlement and a feeling that only our contribution is paramount. But what can I say if hez truly repentent and willing to linger.

True. Learning from mistakes is one thing and seeking convenient hide-outs is another. You should be able to distinguish though.

Thank you Gaurav, this is exactly what I was thinking.. I hate to think that he is so selfish but as well as I know him it seems I'm right again...he is. It's all about him again...he wants what he wants when he wants it. It's like i'm not even a person like i'm an object. This may be the real reason why I have been extremely hesitant...not because I couldn't try again but because I don't believe his heart is in the right place...I don't believe it is genuine..maybe just a little uncomfortable for him to be without me and the kids sometimes but not to the point where he really truely wants to come back. Just wants to use me for his comfort til he feels better or til someone else comes along.