Not sure if I should ask this girl out when I already have a GF?

Hey, guys I have a question. And kinda sorry about this, but I will come across as being a jerk.

So I’ve been dating this girl for five months. And we have had a couple of arguments but nothing major and I am always confused about the money, she’s terrible with money. I know the guy pays for all the dates and drinks and stuff, but she is a dancer and her income is very unstable, so I have ended up paying for rent, lingerie and a tv, a hotel room for her.. and I pay for makeup, nails, hair which I don’t actually mind cos boyfriends maybe do pay for that. And I make good money, so it doesn’t bother me really. I’ve never been able to determine if she is just using me for money, but I think not, just not sure. And the relationship kinda just went a bit more serious, because we’ve started saying we love each other, and I do.

She parties really hard, like on another level. And she went away this weekend with a friend. So I was a little worried because, the place is famous for.. drugs and sex shows and major alcohol. She’s the type to make the most of it. I trust her, but I know she is very wild, and I guess I like it in a way.. she very sexy, and she can definitely do a good strip tease, like I would never need to go to a strip club, cos I know she can outdo them all. She the sexiest dancer I know. But the thing is.. I don’t know where it ends, can’t party forever?

Then somehow, I went out with some friends, and there was a girl there, she was attractive and she came over and started talking to me. I was just talking as she was in the group. Then at the end of the night, her friend came over and asked what my intentions were. And then asked if I was asking her out, and she said not to mess about. The girl looked at me and said yes I need to know, I don’t want you to waste my time. She gave me her number and I said I’d message.

She’s sensible, educated, works hard, she’s attractive and cares for the environment, cycles to work... kinda all sensible stuff, ambitious. And the relationship would progress quickly. She dances too, maybe not sexy style , i haven’t seen her dance.

All day I’ve been thinking about it, if i could just go on one date to see how it would go, or if I should message and say I’m sorry I’m already taken, as I don’t want her to wonder why I didn’t message. Or see her as a friend somehow. She’s the type that if I was single I would definitely message. And normally I would just tell them I’m taken, but last night I just couldn’t somehow. I’ve just had women only after money in the past, and I think it’s messed me up. I can never tell.

I don’t know, I know I’m a jerk for thinking it. I just wondered what everyone else would do?

Scorpio, obviously sexy.

Taurus, obviously stable and hard working.

Posted by Jade_Alexander

So the girl your dating is ultimately not compatible?

Dump her

She may be nice but she sounds like a hot mess and a waste of time.

Call this new girl up

Either way, I think you’re current relationship isn’t worth your time.

The compatibility was always to do with sex, it’s taken time but now the connection is built in different ways. She knows she parties too much and will look for a more stable job soon, as she doesn’t make enough to live on. She may end up making more money or maybe less, but more steady, difficult to know.

Wow this is some Venus Retrograde shit

aw 😢 sounds like you already know what you gotta do. hit this new girl up, check how it goes

Posted by AriesJo

Scorpio, obviously sexy.

Taurus, obviously stable and hard working.

Apparently you making this post is because your sexy is driving you wild and crazy about ‘what if she was the wife’? These thoughts buried inside but finally you’ve seen alternative and that’s what you longing for because you said it - how long can one party?

Dating isn’t marriage. While you aren’t hitched - you have rights to pick and choose.

Take Taurus for coffee or lunch.

See if she is all you think she is.

See how you click and THEN think.

And think hard.

Question. What if you ran out of funds? Would your sexy pout her lips and start looking for someone else because she apparently used to be a kept woman by you?

Man, you have work to do. Seems like party is over. By meeting working stable woman you went step up mentally and you are growing up.

Let’s face it! You don’t want to drive from bar to bar looking for sexy on a middle of the night...but it’s coming.

Good luck and I think you just closing that chapter in your life to open up a new one. I swear it’ll be messy af!

Sexy won’t let you go just like that!

You are her meal ticket!

Maybe try and tell her story about poor investment and loss of funds and see what is she made of.

And if things will progress with Taurus - don’t beat behind the bushes. Tell her as it is including how she turned your mind into a right direction.

Taurus or not - it’s time to see sexy ‘in poverty’...I don’t feel good about outcome of it. And I know so are you.

❤️

Posted by Tur

I'd just like to point out that broke strippers cant be that sexy.

He keeps her living large so...when he stops...theeen it’ll be an eye opener!

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I'd just like to point out that broke strippers cant be that sexy.

lmao. stupid

Am I lying?

Brazilian waxes ain’t cheap

You gotta spend money to make money.

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If he was her PIMP...

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I'd just like to point out that broke strippers cant be that sexy.

lmao. stupid

Am I lying?

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Maybe she's sexy but has a pills and cocaine habit...

He says her income is not consistent. I'm thinking an eye twitch that comes and goes.

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@Whorpio to the rescue!!!

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I'd just like to point out that broke strippers cant be that sexy.

lmao. stupid

Am I lying?

Brazilian waxes ain’t cheap

You gotta spend money to make money.

Agreed... between nails, waxing and hair you could easily spend $ 400 or more a month

A sexy stripper can make that in an hour.

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...and snort in 10 min...

If you met her at the club your not her bf, your a trick.

Think long term- do you really want to continue to enable her to work as a stripper, and pay for everything?

Maybe the Taurus can provide more stability, and also contribute to the relationship financially as well. Then you’ll not only know, it’s not about your money for her; but it’s more of a team doing it together.

It is what I’ve always wanted, to be a team doing it together.

The extra stupid thing is. I didn’t expect the Taurus to be so interested, I said she should do the same dance class with me on Saturday. And then also, before that, my girlfriend said she wanted to try the same class. So basically I could have a situation where they are both in the same dance class because I asked them both.

This is too ridiculous to think of, it’s like a movie. I would have to disappear afterwards and pretend something happened.

Posted by AriesJo

It is what I’ve always wanted, to be a team doing it together.

The extra stupid thing is. I didn’t expect the Taurus to be so interested, I said she should do the same dance class with me on Saturday. And then also, before that, my girlfriend said she wanted to try the same class. So basically I could have a situation where they are both in the same dance class because I asked them both.

This is too ridiculous to think of, it’s like a movie. I would have to disappear afterwards and pretend something happened.

Let sexy go to dance and make up excuse and take Taurus out...

You are done with Scorp. Face it.

So...think Sherlock!

Posted by AriesJo

It is what I’ve always wanted, to be a team doing it together.

The extra stupid thing is. I didn’t expect the Taurus to be so interested, I said she should do the same dance class with me on Saturday. And then also, before that, my girlfriend said she wanted to try the same class. So basically I could have a situation where they are both in the same dance class because I asked them both.

This is too ridiculous to think of, it’s like a movie. I would have to disappear afterwards and pretend something happened.

If it’s what you’ve always wanted, then ask yourself this.

Who can you see having those dreams, and turning them into a Reality with?

It seems like OP likes to party hard to haved scheduled to current orbits to the same dance class. Reckless Ram. Dating a dancer who is broke doesn't make sense they can make 1k in 3 days easy would be a flag. Flag 2 is a Scorpio with an addiction believe me I know.

The sexy, hot, wild, very desirable and fun mess of a guy/girl gets old and loses their lustre pretty fast when we get a real sense of what life is. Life doesn’t run on excitement, fun and wildness. Life throws shit at you (responsibilities like health issues, rent, bills or matters pertaining to finances) and you need to be well-equipped to handle it and need (not want) a partner you can rely on to help you out.

Nobody wants a liability/burden for a partner. Your current gf sounds just that. It could also be that you’re painting her in this nehgatovr light because you have decided to exit and you want validation. Anyway, she can be great in bed and exciting sexually, but life doesn’t run on sex. After meeting what seems like a quality chick(has her ducks in order), you are now having an epiphany and realizing that life runs on more than just aesthetics and good sex. You need someone you can count on, not a burden.

The Scorpio chick sounds like a joke. I don't know any Scorpio women who seem as scattered as her.

@AriesJo: "I went out with some friends, and there was a girl there, she was attractive and she came over and started talking to me. I was just talking as she was in the group. Then at the end of the night, her friend came over and asked what my intentions were. And then asked if I was asking her out, and she said not to mess about. The girl looked at me and said yes I need to know, I don’t want you to waste my time. She gave me her number and I said I’d message."

aside everything, did you like how agressively she (the Taurus girl) went after you? I mean sending that crazy friend of hers to "ask you out" and "not to mess about"..... I mean, what dared her (the friend) to act like this? was it more than you revailed?

Or is it still a thing after the 8th grade to send our friends to tell our crush we want them?

PS. I am not sure about the Scorp girl and the 5 months dating line.... I remember not a long time ago you were pining after a Taurus girl, who was a successful something and travelled a lot....

and at the same time talking to other girls as well...

I mean, you are behaving like mess with women🙂

and thus keep attracting the not suitable ones

Posted by Pandora101

@AriesJo: "I went out with some friends, and there was a girl there, she was attractive and she came over and started talking to me. I was just talking as she was in the group. Then at the end of the night, her friend came over and asked what my intentions were. And then asked if I was asking her out, and she said not to mess about. The girl looked at me and said yes I need to know, I don’t want you to waste my time. She gave me her number and I said I’d message."

aside everything, did you like how agressively she (the Taurus girl) went after you? I mean sending that crazy friend of hers to "ask you out" and "not to mess about"..... I mean, what dared her (the friend) to act like this? was it more than you revailed?

Or is it still a thing after the 8th grade to send our friends to tell our crush we want them?

PS. I am not sure about the Scorp girl and the 5 months dating line.... I remember not a long time ago you were pining after a Taurus girl, who was a successful something and travelled a lot....

and at the same time talking to other girls as well...

I mean, you are behaving like mess with women🙂

and thus keep attracting the not suitable ones

Haha thanks for this. I love hearing about how much of a mess I am lol.

No, it wasn’t her friend that asked me out. I was talking to the Taurus most of the night and her friend was extremely bossy and a little scary tbh. She kept coming and interrupting us. She asked me if I was asking the Taurus out when she was sat next to me.

The other Taurus 5 months ago, I know I was a mess. She was a model / stripper / competitive pole dancer, 12 years younger than me. Travelled for photo shoots, eventually moved for better work. I couldn’t work out why she was interested, and I know I freaked out when I saw her Facebook and hundreds of weird guys / millionaires complimenting her swimsuit photos. I couldn’t say she was a stripper as the advice would have changed. Anyway, not gonna give myself a hard time now as I think I did better than most guys. I kept in touch with her, she was never after money (like I thought a bit at the time). She just thought, quote “all guys under 33 are useless” ..I just wasn’t confident with all the attention she got, but I learnt. But yeah that was 5 months ago, time moves quick.

Hmmz anyway, with this new Taurus, we have a date planned, so will just see how it goes.

Guys, that like " crazy " chicks. Must be that combination of turmoil that's exciting and you feeling the abuse is appropriate. Too each his own I guess.