LDM90
@LDM90
9 Years
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Pretty sure my Aries is tryin to ghost me :/
I like you and your honesty but you seem to be a young lady. More people than not have anxiety but it's all on how you handle it. You are being manipulated from the parts about your ex and the mind games he is toying you with. Life is in front of you so try to surround yourself with trustful people and enjoy the ride. BTW what is his sign or chart. Love yourself first to help people understand who you really are.y
Why would you call him instead of the Police if you thought someone was trying to break into your place?
I’m not sure I see the ghosting part of the story. He’s been in communication with you consistently. He’s assured you he doesn’t want to end things (like you suggested) but he has stated he needs time to digest before talking it out.
You created this drama. The least you can do is be patient and give him the space to figure out where his head is at. Being demanding because he isn’t conforming to your timetable is a bad look for you. Be chill.
You created this drama. The least you can do is be patient and give him the space to figure out where his head is at. Being demanding because he isn’t conforming to your timetable is a bad look for you. Be chill.
What sign are you and placements?
Posted by DonnaLibra
Why would you call him instead of the Police if you thought someone was trying to break into your place?
I woke up startled. Checked and it was a bunch of drunk guys. I saw them walk down the hallway and grab on other people’s door handles as well. I was still freaked out and told him what happened. I get scared easily since this is the first time living by myself so he’s usually the one I call.
Posted by LadyNeptune
I’m not sure I see the ghosting part of the story. He’s been in communication with you consistently. He’s assured you he doesn’t want to end things (like you suggested) but he has stated he needs time to digest before talking it out.
You created this drama. The least you can do is be patient and give him the space to figure out where his head is at. Being demanding because he isn’t conforming to your timetable is a bad look for you. Be chill.
I wouldn't say consistently he's been in communication. I think a slow fade is more fitting than ghosting. I get that he may need time to digest, but it's his empty promises of "I'm going to call you tomorrow" along with blocking me and continuing to block me from his insta story that has me worried.
I needed to get my mind off things so I went out with my friends on Saturday for a day party. I got a little drunk and started to send a message but I stopped myself. Instead, he got "3ifoe" (some gibberish) in his inbox instead haha. He texted me and said he was at work and was going to call me last night but saw that I was out (I'm calling bullshit; I didn't post that I was out until 11 PM) and he said he would call me if I wasn't busy. I texted him about 6 hours later when I got back in and told him I was home. We sent a few messages back and forth then I fell asleep. I woke up at 3 AM and he texted asking if I was still near his part of town (about 45 minutes away) and 2 missed calls. I called him back and he was drunk. He said that he missed me, missed my lips, called me baby again, said if I had responded earlier he would've come to see me. Said the room was spinning and we'd talk the next day. He never said anything and still has me blocked from his story (I checked from my friend's page and he's not posting anything with another woman or anything). This behavior is what is making me believe he's doing the slow fade. How can you say that you don't want this to be over, keep making empty promises of hashing this out, not say anything, and still not doing anything about it almost a week later? This is making me seriously reconsider if I want to be with him. It's just incredibly immature. I'm really trying to be patient but I'm feeling like he's toying with me.
Posted by DonnaLibra
What sign are you and placements?
Mine
Sun:Leo
Moon: Scorpio
Mercury: Virgo
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Taurus
His (won't be as accurate)
Sun: Aries
Moon: Libra
Mercury: Pisces
Venus: Aries
Mars: Pisces
Posted by LDM90Posted by LadyNeptune
I’m not sure I see the ghosting part of the story. He’s been in communication with you consistently. He’s assured you he doesn’t want to end things (like you suggested) but he has stated he needs time to digest before talking it out.
You created this drama. The least you can do is be patient and give him the space to figure out where his head is at. Being demanding because he isn’t conforming to your timetable is a bad look for you. Be chill.
I wouldn't say consistently he's been in communication. I think a slow fade is more fitting than ghosting. I get that he may need time to digest, but it's his empty promises of "I'm going to call you tomorrow" along with blocking me and continuing to block me from his insta story that has me worried.
I needed to get my mind off things so I went out with my friends on Saturday for a day party. I got a little drunk and started to send a message but I stopped myself. Instead, he got "3ifoe" (some gibberish) in his inbox instead haha. He texted me and said he was at work and was going to call me last night but saw that I was out (I'm calling bullshit; I didn't post that I was out until 11 PM) and he said he would call me if I wasn't busy. I texted him about 6 hours later when I got back in and told him I was home. We sent a few messages back and forth then I fell asleep. I woke up at 3 AM and he texted asking if I was still near his part of town (about 45 minutes away) and 2 missed calls. I called him back and he was drunk. He said that he missed me, missed my lips, called me baby again, said if I had responded earlier he would've come to see me. Said the room was spinning and we'd talk the next day. He never said anything and still has me blocked from his story (I checked from my friend's page and he's not posting anything with another woman or anything). This behavior is what is making me believe he's doing the slow fade. How can you say that you don't want this to be over, keep making empty promises of hashing this out, not say anything, and still not doing anything about it almost a week later? This is making me seriously reconsider if I want to be with him. It's just incredibly immature. I'm really trying to be patient but I'm feeling like he's toying with me.click to expand
You just mentioned 7/8 times he texted/called in the above paragraph alone. You sound confused and incredably immature yourself.
Cut him loose then. You started to before but then backpeddled cause you didn’t have the balls. What is it you really want here? Cause your all over the map.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by LDM90Posted by LadyNeptune
I’m not sure I see the ghosting part of the story. He’s been in communication with you consistently. He’s assured you he doesn’t want to end things (like you suggested) but he has stated he needs time to digest before talking it out.
You created this drama. The least you can do is be patient and give him the space to figure out where his head is at. Being demanding because he isn’t conforming to your timetable is a bad look for you. Be chill.
I wouldn't say consistently he's been in communication. I think a slow fade is more fitting than ghosting. I get that he may need time to digest, but it's his empty promises of "I'm going to call you tomorrow" along with blocking me and continuing to block me from his insta story that has me worried.
I needed to get my mind off things so I went out with my friends on Saturday for a day party. I got a little drunk and started to send a message but I stopped myself. Instead, he got "3ifoe" (some gibberish) in his inbox instead haha. He texted me and said he was at work and was going to call me last night but saw that I was out (I'm calling bullshit; I didn't post that I was out until 11 PM) and he said he would call me if I wasn't busy. I texted him about 6 hours later when I got back in and told him I was home. We sent a few messages back and forth then I fell asleep. I woke up at 3 AM and he texted asking if I was still near his part of town (about 45 minutes away) and 2 missed calls. I called him back and he was drunk. He said that he missed me, missed my lips, called me baby again, said if I had responded earlier he would've come to see me. Said the room was spinning and we'd talk the next day. He never said anything and still has me blocked from his story (I checked from my friend's page and he's not posting anything with another woman or anything). This behavior is what is making me believe he's doing the slow fade. How can you say that you don't want this to be over, keep making empty promises of hashing this out, not say anything, and still not doing anything about it almost a week later? This is making me seriously reconsider if I want to be with him. It's just incredibly immature. I'm really trying to be patient but I'm feeling like he's toying with me.
You just mentioned 7/8 times he texted/called in the above paragraph alone. You sound confused and incredably immature yourself.
Cut him loose then. You started to before but then backpeddled cause you didn’t have the balls. What is it you really want here? Cause your all over the map.click to expand
But him replying to OP isn’t the issue. I could be wrong here but it seems as though he’s only replying. Then he doesn’t speak to her and is blocking her. Why would OP feel secure? If needed more time for whatever reason he should communicate that to her instead of blocking and avoiding. The lack of communication and avoidance does seem very immature.
Oh he’s a libra moon. Being all dramatic and fake breaking up isn’t going to work with libra moons.
Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by LDM90Posted by LadyNeptune
I’m not sure I see the ghosting part of the story. He’s been in communication with you consistently. He’s assured you he doesn’t want to end things (like you suggested) but he has stated he needs time to digest before talking it out.
You created this drama. The least you can do is be patient and give him the space to figure out where his head is at. Being demanding because he isn’t conforming to your timetable is a bad look for you. Be chill.
I wouldn't say consistently he's been in communication. I think a slow fade is more fitting than ghosting. I get that he may need time to digest, but it's his empty promises of "I'm going to call you tomorrow" along with blocking me and continuing to block me from his insta story that has me worried.
I needed to get my mind off things so I went out with my friends on Saturday for a day party. I got a little drunk and started to send a message but I stopped myself. Instead, he got "3ifoe" (some gibberish) in his inbox instead haha. He texted me and said he was at work and was going to call me last night but saw that I was out (I'm calling bullshit; I didn't post that I was out until 11 PM) and he said he would call me if I wasn't busy. I texted him about 6 hours later when I got back in and told him I was home. We sent a few messages back and forth then I fell asleep. I woke up at 3 AM and he texted asking if I was still near his part of town (about 45 minutes away) and 2 missed calls. I called him back and he was drunk. He said that he missed me, missed my lips, called me baby again, said if I had responded earlier he would've come to see me. Said the room was spinning and we'd talk the next day. He never said anything and still has me blocked from his story (I checked from my friend's page and he's not posting anything with another woman or anything). This behavior is what is making me believe he's doing the slow fade. How can you say that you don't want this to be over, keep making empty promises of hashing this out, not say anything, and still not doing anything about it almost a week later? This is making me seriously reconsider if I want to be with him. It's just incredibly immature. I'm really trying to be patient but I'm feeling like he's toying with me.
You just mentioned 7/8 times he texted/called in the above paragraph alone. You sound confused and incredably immature yourself.
Cut him loose then. You started to before but then backpeddled cause you didn’t have the balls. What is it you really want here? Cause your all over the map.
But him replying to OP isn’t the issue. I could be wrong here but it seems as though he’s only replying. Then he doesn’t speak to her and is blocking her. Why would OP feel secure? If needed more time for whatever reason he should communicate that to her instead of blocking and avoiding. The lack of communication and avoidance does seem very immature.click to expand
Op just dumped him and then did a 180. How does that make him feel secure exactly? She’s lucky he hasn’t blocked her off of everything.
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
She tried to rectify. People make mistakes. If he’s done with the relationship then he should communicate that instead of keeping her in limbo. If he wants things to work all OP asked for is to have a conversation, which he keeps avoiding. Life isn’t about tit for tat-aka she didn’t make him secure so now he’s doing the same. Tit for tat behavior and lack of communication eventually leads to the demise of a relationship. OP just wants answers about what’s going on/where they stand. Fault of her own making or not he said he would communicate with her and he has to do so. This type of behavior would upset anyone. She communicated she screwed up and wanted to work on things and he claims he wants the same thing but hasn’t opened his trap. That’s a problem.
Oh and she didn’t dump him. She communicated to him that was concerned, he asked her what she wanted, she stalled, he threw a tantrum and broke up with HER. So again, this dude is the big issue here.
Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
She tried to rectify. People make mistakes. If he’s done with the relationship then he should communicate that instead of keeping her in limbo. If he wants things to work all OP asked for is to have a conversation, which he keeps avoiding. Life isn’t about tit for tat-aka she didn’t make him secure so now he’s doing the same. Tit for tat behavior and lack of communication eventually leads to the demise of a relationship. OP just wants answers about what’s going on/where they stand. Fault of her own making or not he said he would communicate with her and he has to do so. This type of behavior would upset anyone. She communicated she screwed up and wanted to work on things and he claims he wants the same thing but hasn’t opened his trap. That’s a problem.
Oh and she didn’t dump him. She communicated to him that was concerned, he asked her what she wanted, she stalled, he threw a tantrum and broke up with HER. So again, this dude is the big issue here.click to expand
All she wants are answers. All he wants is the space to make them. She’s not giving him space. He’s not giving her answers.
Relationships are tit for tat. Sry.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
She tried to rectify. People make mistakes. If he’s done with the relationship then he should communicate that instead of keeping her in limbo. If he wants things to work all OP asked for is to have a conversation, which he keeps avoiding. Life isn’t about tit for tat-aka she didn’t make him secure so now he’s doing the same. Tit for tat behavior and lack of communication eventually leads to the demise of a relationship. OP just wants answers about what’s going on/where they stand. Fault of her own making or not he said he would communicate with her and he has to do so. This type of behavior would upset anyone. She communicated she screwed up and wanted to work on things and he claims he wants the same thing but hasn’t opened his trap. That’s a problem.
Oh and she didn’t dump him. She communicated to him that was concerned, he asked her what she wanted, she stalled, he threw a tantrum and broke up with HER. So again, this dude is the big issue here.
All she wants are answers. All he wants is the space to make them. She’s not giving him space. He’s not giving her answers.
Relationships are tit for tat. Sry.click to expand
Okay then answer me this:
Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Oh he’s a libra moon. Being all dramatic and fake breaking up isn’t going to work with libra moons.
Yeah, I'm a Libra with a Libra moon and we can see right thru butter. Nothing turn us off more than drama and anxiety. Stop telling an Aries how anxious you are. They are strong and view that as weak butter.
Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
She tried to rectify. People make mistakes. If he’s done with the relationship then he should communicate that instead of keeping her in limbo. If he wants things to work all OP asked for is to have a conversation, which he keeps avoiding. Life isn’t about tit for tat-aka she didn’t make him secure so now he’s doing the same. Tit for tat behavior and lack of communication eventually leads to the demise of a relationship. OP just wants answers about what’s going on/where they stand. Fault of her own making or not he said he would communicate with her and he has to do so. This type of behavior would upset anyone. She communicated she screwed up and wanted to work on things and he claims he wants the same thing but hasn’t opened his trap. That’s a problem.
Oh and she didn’t dump him. She communicated to him that was concerned, he asked her what she wanted, she stalled, he threw a tantrum and broke up with HER. So again, this dude is the big issue here.
All she wants are answers. All he wants is the space to make them. She’s not giving him space. He’s not giving her answers.
Relationships are tit for tat. Sry.
Okay then answer me this:
Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t?click to expand
"Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t? "
I would say the OP sounds a bit tiresome (sorry, OP) and keep pushing..... he just wants a little peace to decide when to call..... the OP is texting him constantly that she is home he can call.... I mean its sounds very "demanding" and like an order "now I am at home, you call me"..... the OP did it not once
maybe he feels guilty, because the OP guilt-trip him, so he doesnt want to be inpolite, when she constantly harassing him
he says he will call her tomorrow so he can get off the phone finally from the "made up dramas" about some breaking-in, anxieties, etc..... and when he sees how desperate the OP is to talk to him, he maybe feel a bit remorse and try to placate her, so she is not going more cry cry...
@LDM90: OP, I am sorry, it must be very hurtful from him, but you have to give him time.... you said, what you wanted to say and he knows you want to continue with him..... now let him come to you and stop the constant harassing.... just wait a bit for the answers, okey?
dont post on social media, dont drunk-text him, dont call him on pretense situations, just give him time
emotional blackmailing and manipulating is not the best way with an Aries, I am afraid
but its just my opinion, you know the situation and him more obviously, so you do what you want to do
him blocking you is alarming..... I mean what lead him to block you in the first place?
Don't Worry, he is just being an Aries 😆
Ok, what led to this was ofc you blowing him off, but you are fine with him, trust me ^^
Aries forgive people (and fast) if it's not a major thing, and this one wasn't 🙂
If he didn't wan't you anymore, he wold tell you straight away...he woldn't say he wold talk latter to you about this lol ^^ He is basicly *making you pay* for *blowing him off* xD kinda like..."Ohhhh so you are not sure you *want me*...i see..." lolol
Were you actualy expecting him to say "Yes" and have that convo, after that ? lolol It's Aries, you hurted his *not very fragile ego* with that..."Yeah...now show me that *you really don't want me*..." xD
The blocks, it's like..he was prob pissed at the time...and tbh, i think he baited you to check it out that he blocked you when he watched your instant story thing hehe I don't think he gives a fuck about it tbh lol But...why didn't you asked him why he blocked you ?...(....the power plays...lolol ^^)
As for the *answer* it's like...he had such a tremendous fun last time you 2 had this convo, that i can almost bet he is just dying to have it again hehe Aries like Fun things...just the thought of having this convo with you and it can go both aways, and you can flip again, and he is tired from work and he just want's to decompress...it's like...why do you even want to have this convo ? Aries are about actions, you don't need to ask for this convo, he will say it to you ^^ Don't push it ^^ (And you had to slip in the convo topic when you 2 were having fun on the phone that day, hun ?...god damn you women...lolol This actualy works...but you kinda need to do a bit more to get it out lol ^^)
And i believe he is kinda clueless and insecure with you atm, wold you believe in that ? ^^ 🙂
I think he is kinda imitating your actions tbh lol A good way for you to very if it's actualy a bluff on his part...wold be for you to back off...be the diva again..."Waitttt !!...Let's have that convo after all..." lolol The more you push it, the worse ^^ It's the oposite with Aries ^^ You need to turn this power play in your favor ^^
Listen, this all may sound childish, and it kinda is lol, but I can bet that you are also a very very very *sweet thing* hehe
It doesn't matter in the end tbh. We all have our things, our personalities, just try to find a middle ground and try not to worry with your anxiety. Believe in yourself. ^^
Take Care 🙂
Ok, what led to this was ofc you blowing him off, but you are fine with him, trust me ^^
Aries forgive people (and fast) if it's not a major thing, and this one wasn't 🙂
If he didn't wan't you anymore, he wold tell you straight away...he woldn't say he wold talk latter to you about this lol ^^ He is basicly *making you pay* for *blowing him off* xD kinda like..."Ohhhh so you are not sure you *want me*...i see..." lolol
Were you actualy expecting him to say "Yes" and have that convo, after that ? lolol It's Aries, you hurted his *not very fragile ego* with that..."Yeah...now show me that *you really don't want me*..." xD
The blocks, it's like..he was prob pissed at the time...and tbh, i think he baited you to check it out that he blocked you when he watched your instant story thing hehe I don't think he gives a fuck about it tbh lol But...why didn't you asked him why he blocked you ?...(....the power plays...lolol ^^)
As for the *answer* it's like...he had such a tremendous fun last time you 2 had this convo, that i can almost bet he is just dying to have it again hehe Aries like Fun things...just the thought of having this convo with you and it can go both aways, and you can flip again, and he is tired from work and he just want's to decompress...it's like...why do you even want to have this convo ? Aries are about actions, you don't need to ask for this convo, he will say it to you ^^ Don't push it ^^ (And you had to slip in the convo topic when you 2 were having fun on the phone that day, hun ?...god damn you women...lolol This actualy works...but you kinda need to do a bit more to get it out lol ^^)
And i believe he is kinda clueless and insecure with you atm, wold you believe in that ? ^^ 🙂
I think he is kinda imitating your actions tbh lol A good way for you to very if it's actualy a bluff on his part...wold be for you to back off...be the diva again..."Waitttt !!...Let's have that convo after all..." lolol The more you push it, the worse ^^ It's the oposite with Aries ^^ You need to turn this power play in your favor ^^
Listen, this all may sound childish, and it kinda is lol, but I can bet that you are also a very very very *sweet thing* hehe
It doesn't matter in the end tbh. We all have our things, our personalities, just try to find a middle ground and try not to worry with your anxiety. Believe in yourself. ^^
Take Care 🙂
Posted by Pandora101Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
She tried to rectify. People make mistakes. If he’s done with the relationship then he should communicate that instead of keeping her in limbo. If he wants things to work all OP asked for is to have a conversation, which he keeps avoiding. Life isn’t about tit for tat-aka she didn’t make him secure so now he’s doing the same. Tit for tat behavior and lack of communication eventually leads to the demise of a relationship. OP just wants answers about what’s going on/where they stand. Fault of her own making or not he said he would communicate with her and he has to do so. This type of behavior would upset anyone. She communicated she screwed up and wanted to work on things and he claims he wants the same thing but hasn’t opened his trap. That’s a problem.
Oh and she didn’t dump him. She communicated to him that was concerned, he asked her what she wanted, she stalled, he threw a tantrum and broke up with HER. So again, this dude is the big issue here.
All she wants are answers. All he wants is the space to make them. She’s not giving him space. He’s not giving her answers.
Relationships are tit for tat. Sry.
Okay then answer me this:
Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t?
"Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t? "
I would say the OP sounds a bit tiresome (sorry, OP) and keep pushing..... he just wants a little peace to decide when to call..... the OP is texting him constantly that she is home he can call.... I mean its sounds very "demanding" and like an order "now I am at home, you call me"..... the OP did it not once
maybe he feels guilty, because the OP guilt-trip him, so he doesnt want to be inpolite, when she constantly harassing him
he says he will call her tomorrow so he can get off the phone finally from the "made up dramas" about some breaking-in, anxieties, etc..... and when he sees how desperate the OP is to talk to him, he maybe feel a bit remorse and try to placate her, so she is not going more cry cry...
@LDM90: OP, I am sorry, it must be very hurtful from him, but you have to give him time.... you said, what you wanted to say and he knows you want to continue with him..... now let him come to you and stop the constant harassing.... just wait a bit for the answers, okey?
dont post on social media, dont drunk-text him, dont call him on pretense situations, just give him time
emotional blackmailing and manipulating is not the best way with an Aries, I am afraid
but its just my opinion, you know the situation and him more obviously, so you do what you want to do
him blocking you is alarming..... I mean what lead him to block you in the first place?click to expand
I called him to let him know when I was home because he ASKED me when it was a good time to give me a call. He's been the one telling me he would give me a call the very next day so I'm not being extreme. I'm just taking his word and that's why I let him know. He was commenting on my page last night and he called the other day and again, told me he was going to give me a call the next day to have a conversation. So, again, I'm not being extreme I'm just taking his word. I don't see why he keeps saying he's going to call the next day when I didn't ask (ex., again when he asked when he could give me a call). Just say that you need more time instead of giving me signals like calling me and saying you miss me and wanted to come over but have me blocked. I have no idea why I'm blocked I have backed off.
Posted by IamTheRam
Don't Worry, he is just being an Aries 😆
Ok, what led to this was ofc you blowing him off, but you are fine with him, trust me ^^
Aries forgive people (and fast) if it's not a major thing, and this one wasn't 🙂
If he didn't wan't you anymore, he wold tell you straight away...he woldn't say he wold talk latter to you about this lol ^^ He is basicly *making you pay* for *blowing him off* xD kinda like..."Ohhhh so you are not sure you *want me*...i see..." lolol
Were you actualy expecting him to say "Yes" and have that convo, after that ? lolol It's Aries, you hurted his *not very fragile ego* with that..."Yeah...now show me that *you really don't want me*..." xD
The blocks, it's like..he was prob pissed at the time...and tbh, i think he baited you to check it out that he blocked you when he watched your instant story thing hehe I don't think he gives a fuck about it tbh lol But...why didn't you asked him why he blocked you ?...(....the power plays...lolol ^^)
As for the *answer* it's like...he had such a tremendous fun last time you 2 had this convo, that i can almost bet he is just dying to have it again hehe Aries like Fun things...just the thought of having this convo with you and it can go both aways, and you can flip again, and he is tired from work and he just want's to decompress...it's like...why do you even want to have this convo ? Aries are about actions, you don't need to ask for this convo, he will say it to you ^^ Don't push it ^^ (And you had to slip in the convo topic when you 2 were having fun on the phone that day, hun ?...god damn you women...lolol This actualy works...but you kinda need to do a bit more to get it out lol ^^)
And i believe he is kinda clueless and insecure with you atm, wold you believe in that ? ^^ 🙂
I think he is kinda imitating your actions tbh lol A good way for you to very if it's actualy a bluff on his part...wold be for you to back off...be the diva again..."Waitttt !!...Let's have that convo after all..." lolol The more you push it, the worse ^^ It's the oposite with Aries ^^ You need to turn this power play in your favor ^^
Listen, this all may sound childish, and it kinda is lol, but I can bet that you are also a very very very *sweet thing* hehe
It doesn't matter in the end tbh. We all have our things, our personalities, just try to find a middle ground and try not to worry with your anxiety. Believe in yourself. ^^
Take Care 🙂
Thanks for the advice 🙂
I'm sorry I'm a little confused here.
"A good way for you to very if it's actualy a bluff on his part...wold be for you to back off...be the diva again..."Waitttt !!...Let's have that convo after all..." lolol The more you push it, the worse ^^ It's the oposite with Aries ^^ You need to turn this power play in your favor ^^"
You're saying that I should do what now?
But do you hear yourself? He texted you what time your free to talk. You CALLED him to tell him you can talk. Ummm wut.
Aries like a bit of a chase. Your doing too much and it’s gonna turn him off even more.
Have you heard the men are like rubber bands analogy?
Aries like a bit of a chase. Your doing too much and it’s gonna turn him off even more.
Have you heard the men are like rubber bands analogy?
Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
But do you hear yourself? He texted you what time your free to talk. You CALLED him to tell him you can talk. Ummm wut.
Aries like a bit of a chase. Your doing too much and it’s gonna turn him off even more.
Have you heard the men are like rubber bands analogy?
I don’t think she’s doing too much.
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Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
But do you hear yourself? He texted you what time your free to talk. You CALLED him to tell him you can talk. Ummm wut.
Aries like a bit of a chase. Your doing too much and it’s gonna turn him off even more.
Have you heard the men are like rubber bands analogy?
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Posted by LadyNeptune
But do you hear yourself? He texted you what time your free to talk. You CALLED him to tell him you can talk. Ummm wut.
Aries like a bit of a chase. Your doing too much and it’s gonna turn him off even more.
Have you heard the men are like rubber bands analogy?
Please read correctly. We were on the PHONE. He asked me when it was a good time to give me a call the next day. I said I wasn’t sure because my schedule changes. When I got home from work the next day I told him I was home from work and said he could call if he wanted. Again he ASKED.
Posted by LDM90Posted by LadyNeptune
But do you hear yourself? He texted you what time your free to talk. You CALLED him to tell him you can talk. Ummm wut.
Aries like a bit of a chase. Your doing too much and it’s gonna turn him off even more.
Have you heard the men are like rubber bands analogy?
Please read correctly. We were on the PHONE. He asked me when it was a good time to give me a call the next day. I said I wasn’t sure because my schedule changes. When I got home from work the next day I told him I was home from work and said he could call if he wanted. Again he ASKED.
Dude I can’t with you. You can’t even keep your own story straight. Good luck with your relationship.
Posted by LDM90I called him to let him know when I was home because he ASKED me when it was a good time to give me a call.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by LDM90Posted by LadyNeptune
But do you hear yourself? He texted you what time your free to talk. You CALLED him to tell him you can talk. Ummm wut.
Aries like a bit of a chase. Your doing too much and it’s gonna turn him off even more.
Have you heard the men are like rubber bands analogy?
Please read correctly. We were on the PHONE. He asked me when it was a good time to give me a call the next day. I said I wasn’t sure because my schedule changes. When I got home from work the next day I told him I was home from work and said he could call if he wanted. Again he ASKED.
Dude I can’t with you. You can’t even keep your own story straight. Good luck with your relationship.Posted by LDM90I called him to let him know when I was home because he ASKED me when it was a good time to give me a call.
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OP def had this her original post...
"I agreed and he asked when it was a good time to give me a call tomorrow to talk about things. Then he said well I'm going to bed and said good night baby.
I texted him after I got home from work around 6 and said I was home if he wanted to give me a call."
Posted by Pandora101Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
She tried to rectify. People make mistakes. If he’s done with the relationship then he should communicate that instead of keeping her in limbo. If he wants things to work all OP asked for is to have a conversation, which he keeps avoiding. Life isn’t about tit for tat-aka she didn’t make him secure so now he’s doing the same. Tit for tat behavior and lack of communication eventually leads to the demise of a relationship. OP just wants answers about what’s going on/where they stand. Fault of her own making or not he said he would communicate with her and he has to do so. This type of behavior would upset anyone. She communicated she screwed up and wanted to work on things and he claims he wants the same thing but hasn’t opened his trap. That’s a problem.
Oh and she didn’t dump him. She communicated to him that was concerned, he asked her what she wanted, she stalled, he threw a tantrum and broke up with HER. So again, this dude is the big issue here.
All she wants are answers. All he wants is the space to make them. She’s not giving him space. He’s not giving her answers.
Relationships are tit for tat. Sry.
Okay then answer me this:
Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t?
"Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t? "
I would say the OP sounds a bit tiresome (sorry, OP) and keep pushing..... he just wants a little peace to decide when to call..... the OP is texting him constantly that she is home he can call.... I mean its sounds very "demanding" and like an order "now I am at home, you call me"..... the OP did it not once
maybe he feels guilty, because the OP guilt-trip him, so he doesnt want to be inpolite, when she constantly harassing him
he says he will call her tomorrow so he can get off the phone finally from the "made up dramas" about some breaking-in, anxieties, etc..... and when he sees how desperate the OP is to talk to him, he maybe feel a bit remorse and try to placate her, so she is not going more cry cry...
@LDM90: OP, I am sorry, it must be very hurtful from him, but you have to give him time.... you said, what you wanted to say and he knows you want to continue with him..... now let him come to you and stop the constant harassing.... just wait a bit for the answers, okey?
dont post on social media, dont drunk-text him, dont call him on pretense situations, just give him time
emotional blackmailing and manipulating is not the best way with an Aries, I am afraid
but its just my opinion, you know the situation and him more obviously, so you do what you want to do
him blocking you is alarming..... I mean what lead him to block you in the first place?click to expand
"made up dramas" about some breaking-in, anxieties,
Did you really just say OP was making up her anxiety? Wow that's disgusting. To diminish people who suffer with mental issues is horrible. You're a disgusting person.
Posted by bizzybee84Posted by Pandora101Posted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by vanballmoosPosted by LadyNeptune
Sorry if I’m coming off as harsh I just don’t understand the tantrum over having to deal with a fallout of your own making.
She tried to rectify. People make mistakes. If he’s done with the relationship then he should communicate that instead of keeping her in limbo. If he wants things to work all OP asked for is to have a conversation, which he keeps avoiding. Life isn’t about tit for tat-aka she didn’t make him secure so now he’s doing the same. Tit for tat behavior and lack of communication eventually leads to the demise of a relationship. OP just wants answers about what’s going on/where they stand. Fault of her own making or not he said he would communicate with her and he has to do so. This type of behavior would upset anyone. She communicated she screwed up and wanted to work on things and he claims he wants the same thing but hasn’t opened his trap. That’s a problem.
Oh and she didn’t dump him. She communicated to him that was concerned, he asked her what she wanted, she stalled, he threw a tantrum and broke up with HER. So again, this dude is the big issue here.
All she wants are answers. All he wants is the space to make them. She’s not giving him space. He’s not giving her answers.
Relationships are tit for tat. Sry.
Okay then answer me this:
Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t?
"Then why doesn’t he tell her that? Why is he blocking her?
Above all else, why does he continue to say that he’ll call the next day when he doesn’t? "
I would say the OP sounds a bit tiresome (sorry, OP) and keep pushing..... he just wants a little peace to decide when to call..... the OP is texting him constantly that she is home he can call.... I mean its sounds very "demanding" and like an order "now I am at home, you call me"..... the OP did it not once
maybe he feels guilty, because the OP guilt-trip him, so he doesnt want to be inpolite, when she constantly harassing him
he says he will call her tomorrow so he can get off the phone finally from the "made up dramas" about some breaking-in, anxieties, etc..... and when he sees how desperate the OP is to talk to him, he maybe feel a bit remorse and try to placate her, so she is not going more cry cry...
@LDM90: OP, I am sorry, it must be very hurtful from him, but you have to give him time.... you said, what you wanted to say and he knows you want to continue with him..... now let him come to you and stop the constant harassing.... just wait a bit for the answers, okey?
dont post on social media, dont drunk-text him, dont call him on pretense situations, just give him time
emotional blackmailing and manipulating is not the best way with an Aries, I am afraid
but its just my opinion, you know the situation and him more obviously, so you do what you want to do
him blocking you is alarming..... I mean what lead him to block you in the first place?
"made up dramas" about some breaking-in, anxieties,
Did you really just say OP was making up her anxiety? Wow that's disgusting. To diminish people who suffer with mental issues is horrible. You're a disgusting person.
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bizzybee84: "Did you really just say OP was making up her anxiety? Wow that's disgusting. To diminish people who suffer with mental issues is horrible. You're a disgusting person. "
what??
I said....."so he can get off the phone finally from the "made up dramas" about some breaking-in, anxieties, etc....."
meaning: so he can get off the phone from the "made up dramas about some breaking-in"
AND so he can get off the phone from the anxieties... I was just listing the reasons
I mean, anxiety is a real thing, but not everybody is good with how to deal with other people´s anxieties... he is maybe not a skilled and professional therapist so maybe he wanted to get off the phone
clear now?
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