So he didn't reply, First time ever happened. Whats next with this Aries Men? Please help

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So i met this guys about 2 month ago, hes aries, I'm a Sag.

we been seeing each other at least once a week for a month(one on one date),sometime 2-3 time a week.One time hes was really nice took me to a really expensive place for dinner, he said because he wanna do something nice for me. And i know he doesn't make that much money can afford that place.everything single time we had so much fun together and he told me couple times he likes me a lot,.Last time we hangout we talked a lot about our past, both of us really opened up i feel like. Also Sex getting better each time.

So since after last time we hang he been distant himself from me, didnt reach out , we haven't seen each other for 2 weeks now. First week he was sick, so reach out check on him why not see how is he doing,but he never ask to hangout. Second week i didnt reach out to him the whole time until thur ( but all week he been liking my stuff on fb and commenting things, but instead of txting me) afternoon see hows he doing and if he will have time to do something next week.And still hes making exscuess avoiding seeing me. He's saying he have a lot of work stuff going on, been busy,and also starting a new job next week,not sure how open he will be, but "he will keep me posted "

So after that day i txt him wanna ask him straight up ,like whats up? and he was like" I start have feelings and i have a feeling that this is going down "that route", I'm not looking for anything serious right now,and i didnt want to keep hangout with you ledding you on, i dont know whats your intentions are.

So i agree to be FWB with him for now because i didnt want to lose him, and i feel like this is not a situation for me. Also we both talked about it we arent talking or hooking up with anyone else, which i trust him , hes a really good honest guy.And he said we are cool.

We have couple txt back and force this past Sat night, and after that i txt him as how was work last night? he never responded back. Never happened like this before, he will always respond maybe just take little longer.

So whats going on ? is he done with me ? or should i give him space let him reach back ? Will he reach back ? I just feel like after that talk he acting little weird. Not like before.......I'm afraid hes gone.
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Hahah, aries always wants to run away as soon as we start having feelings. Feelings, man. We can't control them, they make us weak (in the knees). I hate it when I first realize I'm having feelings for someone, and I immediately start trying to reverse it. Of course that can't be done, and I will always give in, in the end (usually just after about a week or so). Once I've accepted that I have feelings for this person, I immediately start planning how I'm going to seduce him, and then I will chase him down.

I don't know, if I have feelings for someone, I'm always willing to give us a shot. Unless I was keeping my options open, maybe... But I don't know. It's so weird this "not responding" thing that the aries men are doing lately. I don't understand it.
Aries men are very different from Aries women. They tend to have a more nonchalant view of relationships in general.
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girl smh

why would you agree to fwb if you have feelings for him
Didn't wanna to lose him, now im thinking about it , when next time i see him in person,I need to cut the sex part off, and just be friends.
or you can get let him go..he is not sure of your intentions already and you will always want more than friendship

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hes not sure because he said we never talk about it , i guess we should have talk about it at the very beginning.

I think im gonna let it go though. I'm already feeling so much better, i just have to know what is he thinking i guess.
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girl smh

why would you agree to fwb if you have feelings for him
Didn't wanna to lose him, now im thinking about it , when next time i see him in person,I need to cut the sex part off, and just be friends.
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That’s desperate and unattractive. If you would have stuck to your guns you probably would have had a better chance at “keeping” him

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Uh, why are you even wasting your time? How desperate are you?

Dude isn't into you and if this isn't working for you, move on. Why the fuck would you cling on to someone who doesn't want you?
i do have feelings care about this guy, maybe havent met one like this for a while. hes not normally that type of guy i will go for,
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Man, get the hell over it. You're acting like a desperate hoe with no self respect.

Guess what? Sometimes when you like someone, they don't like you back. It's shitty and a blow to the ego, but you have to accept it and move along. Trying to be friends with someone you like can be a PITA anyway. And settling for fwb in a situation like this where you have feelings is just pathetic.

Reread what you wrote. Is your self esteem really that shit? Are you THAT desperate for a dude? "Oh, I haven't met a guy like this in awhile"

Who cares? Women use the most stupid shit logic to cling on to a fly by because omg I may be single and never will meet another man again!!!! I will ditch all self respect and let him treat me like a human cum dumpster if it means keeping him around!!

It doesn't work like that. By accepting FWB when he clearly told you he wasn't into you just makes him look at you like a piece of shit to be used. You haven't heard from him because he's not interested in you. AND if he hasn't even hit you up for FWB, that means he's not all that interested in that either. He either doesn't want you to cling on, which you WILL do because you're one of those silly bitches who thinks that's the appropriate action to keep a guy, or he just doesn't have the heart to use you like that.

Your post makes me sad and you should be embarrassed for yourself. You WILL survive and you need to wake the eff up and get with it. What you're doing is disrespecting yourself and painting a total doormat target on yourself.

Are you a water sign by chance??
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Uh, why are you even wasting your time? How desperate are you?

Dude isn't into you and if this isn't working for you, move on. Why the fuck would you cling on to someone who doesn't want you?
i do have feelings care about this guy, maybe havent met one like this for a while. hes not normally that type of guy i will go for,
Man, get the hell over it. You're acting like a desperate hoe with no self respect.

Guess what? Sometimes when you like someone, they don't like you back. It's shitty and a blow to the ego, but you have to accept it and move along. Trying to be friends with someone you like can be a PITA anyway. And settling for fwb in a situation like this where you have feelings is just pathetic.

Reread what you wrote. Is your self esteem really that shit? Are you THAT desperate for a dude? "Oh, I haven't met a guy like this in awhile"

Who cares? Women use the most stupid shit logic to cling on to a fly by because omg I may be single and never will meet another man again!!!! I will ditch all self respect and let him treat me like a human cum dumpster if it means keeping him around!!

It doesn't work like that. By accepting FWB when he clearly told you he wasn't into you just makes him look at you like a piece of shit to be used. You haven't heard from him because he's not interested in you. AND if he hasn't even hit you up for FWB, that means he's not all that interested in that either. He either doesn't want you to cling on, which you WILL do because you're one of those silly bitches who thinks that's the appropriate action to keep a guy, or he just doesn't have the heart to use you like that.

Your post makes me sad and you should be embarrassed for yourself. You WILL survive and you need to wake the eff up and get with it. What you're doing is disrespecting yourself and painting a total doormat target on yourself.

Are you a water sign by chance??
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No

Thanks for the advise, i decided to cut if off,moved on. just friends
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Uh, why are you even wasting your time? How desperate are you?

Dude isn't into you and if this isn't working for you, move on. Why the fuck would you cling on to someone who doesn't want you?
i do have feelings care about this guy, maybe havent met one like this for a while. hes not normally that type of guy i will go for,
Man, get the hell over it. You're acting like a desperate hoe with no self respect.

Guess what? Sometimes when you like someone, they don't like you back. It's shitty and a blow to the ego, but you have to accept it and move along. Trying to be friends with someone you like can be a PITA anyway. And settling for fwb in a situation like this where you have feelings is just pathetic.

Reread what you wrote. Is your self esteem really that shit? Are you THAT desperate for a dude? "Oh, I haven't met a guy like this in awhile"

Who cares? Women use the most stupid shit logic to cling on to a fly by because omg I may be single and never will meet another man again!!!! I will ditch all self respect and let him treat me like a human cum dumpster if it means keeping him around!!

It doesn't work like that. By accepting FWB when he clearly told you he wasn't into you just makes him look at you like a piece of shit to be used. You haven't heard from him because he's not interested in you. AND if he hasn't even hit you up for FWB, that means he's not all that interested in that either. He either doesn't want you to cling on, which you WILL do because you're one of those silly bitches who thinks that's the appropriate action to keep a guy, or he just doesn't have the heart to use you like that.

Your post makes me sad and you should be embarrassed for yourself. You WILL survive and you need to wake the eff up and get with it. What you're doing is disrespecting yourself and painting a total doormat target on yourself.

Are you a water sign by chance??
Are you a fucking bitch by chance?? Jesus, are you so perfect? Why do you feel so entitled?

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No idea

i been feeling lot better now, we talk yesterday about some work stuff, but AW. i decide to cut it off, the hooking up part, before is too late, now we could still be friends. I don't know why i act so desperate, no idea why i care about it soo much. something is wrong with me LOL
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Posted by LuckyLibra979
He's done. He was straight up with you tho. If your feelings are attached then being a fwb will only crash and burn in the future which he knows and will probably become more and more distant.

Not an Aries but im a man and one of our biggest pet peeves is clingy women when we aren't emotionally invested nor ready to be. If you keep reaching out he will keep ignoring you
i havent reach out at all im gonna leave him alone.
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Why would you agree to fwb? Why are you being desperate? Don’t want to lose him? You’re losing yourself in the process. Putting his needs and wants before your own. If he don’t want what you want keep it moving.


Thank you. I tend to do that every single time, that why i feel like im not even ready for serious stuff either
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It gets better with time. Just know you’re a prize, your needs and wants are most important and always put yourself first.

Don’t ever compromise what you want for the attention of a man. The happiest women have standards. Actually people in general with standards are happy. They tend to get the very best out of life.
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Uh, why are you even wasting your time? How desperate are you?

Dude isn't into you and if this isn't working for you, move on. Why the fuck would you cling on to someone who doesn't want you?
i do have feelings care about this guy, maybe havent met one like this for a while. hes not normally that type of guy i will go for,
Man, get the hell over it. You're acting like a desperate hoe with no self respect.

Guess what? Sometimes when you like someone, they don't like you back. It's shitty and a blow to the ego, but you have to accept it and move along. Trying to be friends with someone you like can be a PITA anyway. And settling for fwb in a situation like this where you have feelings is just pathetic.

Reread what you wrote. Is your self esteem really that shit? Are you THAT desperate for a dude? "Oh, I haven't met a guy like this in awhile"

Who cares? Women use the most stupid shit logic to cling on to a fly by because omg I may be single and never will meet another man again!!!! I will ditch all self respect and let him treat me like a human cum dumpster if it means keeping him around!!

It doesn't work like that. By accepting FWB when he clearly told you he wasn't into you just makes him look at you like a piece of shit to be used. You haven't heard from him because he's not interested in you. AND if he hasn't even hit you up for FWB, that means he's not all that interested in that either. He either doesn't want you to cling on, which you WILL do because you're one of those silly bitches who thinks that's the appropriate action to keep a guy, or he just doesn't have the heart to use you like that.

Your post makes me sad and you should be embarrassed for yourself. You WILL survive and you need to wake the eff up and get with it. What you're doing is disrespecting yourself and painting a total doormat target on yourself.

Are you a water sign by chance??


No

Thanks for the advise, i decided to cut if off,moved on. just friends


You did the right thing. At least he was honest. That's alot these days where ppl will lead you on
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At least he was honest and he answer when i called him, and cool to have a talk, a lot of guys just ghost town ppl which is i hate. But i do feel like you know what i deserve better than that, Things were going so great but is not there anymore, so that's the truth.
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Posted by bittercupcake
Worst mistake you can do with Aries man is have sex with them too soon - which is a common trait they share with Aquarius males.

I never lost my ex Aries attention. He chased harder as time went on and was relentless. Was always there when I wanted something and introduced me as his within 3 months. I didn't give in to having sex with him until the 10th month, so that was partly the reason why he stuck around so long. According to him I was his classy lady.

Aries men are the poster child for 'don't give it up to soon if you want him to stay'.
yea i totally can see that now, and I feel like thats what i did wrong too. he didnt try to do it right away, and it wasnt all about sed, it it was we would have sex every single time when we see each other
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Why would you agree to fwb? Why are you being desperate? Don’t want to lose him? You’re losing yourself in the process. Putting his needs and wants before your own. If he don’t want what you want keep it moving.


Thank you. I tend to do that every single time, that why i feel like im not even ready for serious stuff either
It gets better with time. Just know you’re a prize, your needs and wants are most important and always put yourself first.

Don’t ever compromise what you want for the attention of a man. The happiest women have standards. Actually people in general with standards are happy. They tend to get the very best out of life.
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Thank you and yea for sure thats so true, i need to work on that and be strong not afraid about what i want.
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He's done. He was straight up with you tho. If your feelings are attached then being a fwb will only crash and burn in the future which he knows and will probably become more and more distant.

Not an Aries but im a man and one of our biggest pet peeves is clingy women when we aren't emotionally invested nor ready to be. If you keep reaching out he will keep ignoring you
i havent reach out at all im gonna leave him alone.
Yea my bad I didn't see your response until after I posted
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all good no worries.

To be honest i havent even been looking or thinking about guys because i been so busy with work and all the other stuff been going on in my life, he just pop out of no where lol

I guess whatever happens happens, i cant fore it right 🙂
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Why would you agree to fwb? Why are you being desperate? Don’t want to lose him? You’re losing yourself in the process. Putting his needs and wants before your own. If he don’t want what you want keep it moving.


Thank you. I tend to do that every single time, that why i feel like im not even ready for serious stuff either
It gets better with time. Just know you’re a prize, your needs and wants are most important and always put yourself first.

Don’t ever compromise what you want for the attention of a man. The happiest women have standards. Actually people in general with standards are happy. They tend to get the very best out of life.
Thank you and yea for sure thats so true, i need to work on that and be strong not afraid about what i want.
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Exactly! Don’t worry you got this.
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Worst mistake you can do with Aries man is have sex with them too soon - which is a common trait they share with Aquarius males.

I never lost my ex Aries attention. He chased harder as time went on and was relentless. Was always there when I wanted something and introduced me as his within 3 months. I didn't give in to having sex with him until the 10th month, so that was partly the reason why he stuck around so long. According to him I was his classy lady.

Aries men are the poster child for 'don't give it up to soon if you want him to stay'.
yea i totally can see that now, and I feel like thats what i did wrong too. he didnt try to do it right away, and it wasnt all about sed, it it was we would have sex every single time when we see each other
It is what it is. Now learn from it and let him go. He's not interested and I doubt he's ever going to be. So holding a torch and being 'friends' will only backfire. Don't be friends just cut contact, cold and cut, otherwise you'll never be able to move on properly.
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I feel like i shbould have listen to my friend told me , dont call him out have that talk, if i just cut it off all contact with him then it ould have a better outcome i feel like.
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Uh, why are you even wasting your time? How desperate are you?

Dude isn't into you and if this isn't working for you, move on. Why the fuck would you cling on to someone who doesn't want you?
i do have feelings care about this guy, maybe havent met one like this for a while. hes not normally that type of guy i will go for,
Man, get the hell over it. You're acting like a desperate hoe with no self respect.

Guess what? Sometimes when you like someone, they don't like you back. It's shitty and a blow to the ego, but you have to accept it and move along. Trying to be friends with someone you like can be a PITA anyway. And settling for fwb in a situation like this where you have feelings is just pathetic.

Reread what you wrote. Is your self esteem really that shit? Are you THAT desperate for a dude? "Oh, I haven't met a guy like this in awhile"

Who cares? Women use the most stupid shit logic to cling on to a fly by because omg I may be single and never will meet another man again!!!! I will ditch all self respect and let him treat me like a human cum dumpster if it means keeping him around!!

It doesn't work like that. By accepting FWB when he clearly told you he wasn't into you just makes him look at you like a piece of shit to be used. You haven't heard from him because he's not interested in you. AND if he hasn't even hit you up for FWB, that means he's not all that interested in that either. He either doesn't want you to cling on, which you WILL do because you're one of those silly bitches who thinks that's the appropriate action to keep a guy, or he just doesn't have the heart to use you like that.

Your post makes me sad and you should be embarrassed for yourself. You WILL survive and you need to wake the eff up and get with it. What you're doing is disrespecting yourself and painting a total doormat target on yourself.

Are you a water sign by chance??
Are you a fucking bitch by chance?? Jesus, are you so perfect? Why do you feel so entitled?

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Do you have sand in your vagina?
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Uh, why are you even wasting your time? How desperate are you?

Dude isn't into you and if this isn't working for you, move on. Why the fuck would you cling on to someone who doesn't want you?
i do have feelings care about this guy, maybe havent met one like this for a while. hes not normally that type of guy i will go for,
Man, get the hell over it. You're acting like a desperate hoe with no self respect.

Guess what? Sometimes when you like someone, they don't like you back. It's shitty and a blow to the ego, but you have to accept it and move along. Trying to be friends with someone you like can be a PITA anyway. And settling for fwb in a situation like this where you have feelings is just pathetic.

Reread what you wrote. Is your self esteem really that shit? Are you THAT desperate for a dude? "Oh, I haven't met a guy like this in awhile"

Who cares? Women use the most stupid shit logic to cling on to a fly by because omg I may be single and never will meet another man again!!!! I will ditch all self respect and let him treat me like a human cum dumpster if it means keeping him around!!

It doesn't work like that. By accepting FWB when he clearly told you he wasn't into you just makes him look at you like a piece of shit to be used. You haven't heard from him because he's not interested in you. AND if he hasn't even hit you up for FWB, that means he's not all that interested in that either. He either doesn't want you to cling on, which you WILL do because you're one of those silly bitches who thinks that's the appropriate action to keep a guy, or he just doesn't have the heart to use you like that.

Your post makes me sad and you should be embarrassed for yourself. You WILL survive and you need to wake the eff up and get with it. What you're doing is disrespecting yourself and painting a total doormat target on yourself.

Are you a water sign by chance??
Are you a fucking bitch by chance?? Jesus, are you so perfect? Why do you feel so entitled?




No idea

i been feeling lot better now, we talk yesterday about some work stuff, but AW. i decide to cut it off, the hooking up part, before is too late, now we could still be friends. I don't know why i act so desperate, no idea why i care about it soo much. something is wrong with me LOL


When were you born?

You sound very Cancer like tbh, which is why I asked if you were a water sign. They tend to do this, as well as fixed signs.

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Why would you agree to fwb? Why are you being desperate? Don’t want to lose him? You’re losing yourself in the process. Putting his needs and wants before your own. If he don’t want what you want keep it moving.


Thank you. I tend to do that every single time, that why i feel like im not even ready for serious stuff either
It gets better with time. Just know you’re a prize, your needs and wants are most important and always put yourself first.

Don’t ever compromise what you want for the attention of a man. The happiest women have standards. Actually people in general with standards are happy. They tend to get the very best out of life.
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Troof.