The OH MY HEART thread

... For those who wear their emotions kinda on the sleeve, rams or not.

Today the saggi was circling around trying to grab my attention. I did my best not to give in. It's HARD because fire signs can be very physical when they want attention, and that's my weakness: keep your body close and I'll ram the shit outta you ---otherwise I'll be pisces rising all the way.

I decided not to focus on her, because weeks ago a friend saw us chatting and said "oh, you two are already dating!" and she reacted THE WEIRDEST way. Her face was like "hell no" and she grabbed his arm said something like "there's always space for more". Since then, I've been my distant self. Stopped reacting to her advances, basically.

So I was concentrated in work, the saggi was around talking and touching, and then the fish came asking if I'm going to the firm's new year's party (which, don't ask me why, happens next friday). I said yes, then she kept walking.

Then a while later, both the saggi and the fish are going to leave. When the first one stopped talking, the second one came closer; she stared at me for some time, smiling, and left without a word.

Holy shit, what an intense stare. It was like she went inside my soul. One hour later I still had butterflies in my stomach.

Today was a good day 🙂

What does butterflies in your stomach mean? Coming from the hardest, most selfish and stubborn war godlike arian...is that a physical attraction or is that just chemistry and that's the one you want to happen right.. the one who gives you butterflies is worth staying loyal, and honest with..

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What does butterflies in your stomach mean? Coming from the hardest, most selfish and stubborn war godlike arian...is that a physical attraction or is that just chemistry and that's the one you want to happen right.. the one who gives you butterflies is worth staying loyal, and honest with..

Feeling butterflies in your stomach means nervousness about something... In this specific case, a good kind of nervousness.

That's chemistry or maybe instant connection, I'd say.

Hope it works out. Cause it is rare for butterflies to happen... The Aries male I am talking to. Told me he has butterflies in his stomach every time he sees me. I told him I get them too. And we've never even seen each other before that.. it just happened.. I told him the same thing you just said. It's chemistry and it doesn't happen often.

Good luck with your woman...which one do you seem to get along with the best?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Hope it works out. Cause it is rare for butterflies to happen... The Aries male I am talking to. Told me he has butterflies in his stomach every time he sees me. I told him I get them too. And we've never even seen each other before that.. it just happened.. I told him the same thing you just said. It's chemistry and it doesn't happen often.

Good luck with your woman...which one do you seem to get along with the best?

You two were online dating before that? It's such a magical moment when you see the other person, right? 🙂
I remember when it happened to me. It felt like my body was melting from inside out. It was back then when I started writing poems and songs. That feeling cemented the way I write up to now.

About girls...

I naturally get along better with fire signs, and since the saggi and I had been openly flirting for a while, I'd say it works out better with her. I've hurt the fish a few times (because she can inadvertently be a pain the ass sometimes; and I can be an asshole when I'm mad --I suck), so I can see why things are kinda stuck with the two of them... Saggi doesn't want anything serious, fish doesn't want to be hurt again.

There's also a leo and a libra; both of them like to play cat-and-mouse with me, which hurts a lot; I'm giving them the same treatment I give to the saggi. Friendly but distant; not reacting to their touching or staring. It makes them crazy, but my hands are tied by their attitudes.

And there's a client whose sign I still don't know, but she's got a fiery approach, maybe a touch of gemini. I'm letting her take the initiative. She said she's got a boyfriend, but still, she makes a lot of effort to talk to me almost everyday. Many colleagues say she's interested. I'm not sure, it could be she's just very open and friendly. Also, being the cause of another couple's breakup SUCKS. I did once and I'm never doing it again.

I'm in a point where there's a lot of girls/women in my life that I could pursue, but I feel none of them are right... And my cancer moon tells me I can only give my all to the right one. Or maybe I'm being a bitch 😛

I understand. There's something about Aries that I am attracted to. Mainly for being independant and hard workers when you want to be, honest, and affectionate and alot more things I like...Something Ive notice hanging around my Aries.. I think he has lied and then forgets he mentioned it to me. And then somewhere down the line a topic would come up and it would be different. White lies is your best trait? When do you stop with all that shit, why lie in the first place.. is that testing me. I am a Taurus with mars in Taurus.. I dont forget what you tell me. I let it slide though..

Tell me what are you picky about in these woman your interested in?
How do you know she would be the right one for you?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I understand. There's something about Aries that I am attracted to. Mainly for being independant and hard workers when you want to be, honest, and affectionate and alot more things I like...Something Ive notice hanging around my Aries.. I think he has lied and then forgets he mentioned it to me. And then somewhere down the line a topic would come up and it would be different. White lies is your best trait? When do you stop with all that shit, why lie in the first place.. is that testing me. I am a Taurus with mars in Taurus.. I dont forget what you tell me. I let it slide though..

Tell me what are you picky about in these woman your interested in?
How do you know she would be the right one for you?

Well, lying wouldn't be defined only by sun sign. But I have lots of pisces placements, which makes me a white-liar/silent-omitting. I'm a terrible liar though, I can only do it for the sake of friendship/love/empathy.

So those little lies were, from my point of view, something your aries thought would be the best for you to hear at that moment. Which is not a manipulative thought, we don't wanna change a thing about you or the relationship itself - it's the opposite, actually. We lie to keep things as happy and good as they are.

Also, don't forget our way of thinking is based on gut feeling. It's not we're machiavelic, it's just this automatic response 'because it feels right if I say this now'.

I think I'm looking for a woman with lots of "masculine" personality traits, which could translate as the opposite of mine... This is very hard to find. The saggi has it, and it drives me crazy.

I'd actually be fine with a "feminine" woman, but I think they lack something. It kinda sucks when the girl wants you to figure out what she wants by just hinting it.

I mean, you want to go climb that mountain? Say it. Even though I'd hate to climb a mountain, I'll happily do it with you, if that's what you really want. Actually, don't even talk about it. Just run to the mountain. Explain the details later. I'll catch up to you, as you would catch up to me if I had ran to it.

But don't expect me to invite you to do that just because you've put the Andes as a cellphone screensaver. That's the approach of many woman in my life and I'm somewhat tired of it.

The problem is, actually, my passive way of doing things and living life. I've hated it for a long time now. But it's not a thing I can change.

Today the saggi hugged me very hard and rubbed her head in mine, as if she was a cat, lol. She rested her hand in my thigh and asked how was my weekend. I half consciously shied away and gave her a generic answer. In my mind I'm like "why are you teasing me so much, if you're not really interested?".

Later on, I went to grab a cup of coffee. She was chatting with a friend in front of the thermos and I COULD NOT resist. I used my arms and served coffee while hugging her in the way. Then shied away again and didn't even stop to pay attention to her reaction.

Then, back to work, the dating girl is being looked after by my scorp friend who sits right next to me. She talks to us a bit, he tries to help build up the conversation between us two... But at this point I'm kinda playing hard to get. I don't wanna be involved with taken girls. Even though she's clearly my type, by all means.

Anyway, at the back of my head, I'm already thinking of going back to flirt mode with the saggi... Maaan, I've got no resolve at all...

Do you show emotions? My aries told me he isn't the emotional kind..me being a Taurus with Aquarius moon and Taurus in Mars. hearing emotions from someone who isn't like me. Kinda of sucks. He has Taurus in moon and Venus in Gemini..

Does showing or hearing emotions make you weak? Or detach more.. or makes you come closer to each other..

Hope you and your sag enjoy life..if she became emotional towards you. I mean open up..Would you reciprocate the feelings back? How would you if you are typically not the emotional type. Cardinals and mutables can work. Mutable are so go with the flow and hardly show any emotions....are you ok with anyone ever saying some mushy feelings towards you.

Generally, we aries have to open up two times with each person; the first when we meet you and the second one when we finally feel comfortable around you (which, except if you're extremely extroverted AND interested AND patient, can take some time too).

There's people I've known for four, six, or eight years that I still can't open up with. Those will rarely see my emotional side. I think this comes from that built-in self protective instinct that animals have and caveman had. In my opinion we are the closest sign to these two 😛

Also, he could have grown distrustful because of past relationships. So you'll need to encourage him to be himself in a subtle, non spoken way. Outside of astrology, some say that when we like a person, we tend to mirror them. So the more you show your emotions, the more comfortable he'll be about showing his.

I detach when I'm hurt, in the fear of being hurt OR feeling that I might hurt you with my bullshit. All of this is kinda about being weak versus being strong.

I won't necessarily open up to someone just because he/she opened up to me. I will take my time, probably letting you know some details from time to time.

I actually like sentimental talk, when it's light and lovey, but I could live without it if I had to. But heavy sentimental discussions are very drowning to me. They suck happiness out out of life.

Could you describe a sentimental talk vs heavy sentimental discussions? Well my aries has already opened up by telling his past life, I mean everything I asked he told me. Its only been three months that I have known him.. He tells me he is not the possessive or jealous person, but there is one guy he told "not that one". I tell him I may be possessive. I tell him it takes two to compromise and we are both stubborn. He says we'll see when it happens. I am the one saying call me and lets go have some fun. He doesn't even care if I have male friends? He doesn't call me. He's always busy. But he says he misses me and thinks of me always. I see him around and talk to him when I can. He tells me he's interested and that I am good person and we get along... and like I said the butterflies in each others stomachs, he trusts me and is comfy..

does that seem to you? That I am the one showing more interest than he really is..if i say call me and he says I don't have a phone. How do you get phone calls he says his sister's phone. I say If he's interested he would call right?

Thats the thing how could you go without it? doesn't it feel good that someone wants to take care of you and is sharing some emotions to show you I am interested.

An almost universal way of getting the attention of an aries is by teasing them, then leaving the rest of the work to them.

So if you want to get a better insight on this guy, to understand if he really means what he says, you should be the prey - so he can be the hunter.

Being emotional around aries is good because you make them feel like they should protect you, BUT being overly emotional will make him take you for granted, which is the worst thing that could happen.

So let him be the first to call. If he IS interested, he'll find a way - buy a phone, use his sister's...