Will an Aries woman ever forgive you?

Dated an Aries woman in a long distance relationship of about 8 hours away for 6 months and we both fell in Love which scared her, many commitments and promises were made from both of us. Not knowing the way an Aries woman can become distant, flirtatious but very true and faithful. I became jealous when She distanced her self all of a sudden and I was being ignored and couldn't get an answer. I questioned her about another guy and accused her of having a fling which she kept denying and I kept insisting till I cracked and broke it off. After that we were still on talking terms but she kept flirting on the website we met and ignoring me. I didn't mind her doing it with O/S guys but when she started with someone local I cracked it even more. The more I questioned her the more I got ignored and the more I pissed her off for not believing in her, till it got to the stage where I went off my tree telling her she pushed me to break it off so she can date some other guy. she kept on telling me there was no other guy and I kept on accusing her, That's when i sent her 4 nasty and hurtful text messages telling her that she will hate me for the rest of her life over a few days and calling her a lair. Told her I could never believe or ever imagined she would get me to a point to say things like that in a million lifetimes. Love does hurt.

Do you think she would ever forgive me let alone let me back in her life?

do you now trust her? And why did you get all suspicious in the first place?

no its over you blew it

I got suspicious on her last visit end of September that she was to stay for 2 weeks and spend time together, in that period of time she was cold as ice, a corps, could not kiss her let alone touch her and there was no intimacy what so ever even sleeping in the same bed, cutting her stay down to a week. When she got back, is when it all started her flirting and ignoring me on the net and that's when I started accusing her seeing another guy in her state which she kept denying.


After sending her the texts and she had read them we got that last call in that I mentioned and thats when she finally said something to me, I then realized yes I do trust her and I was wrong. But then told me there's nothing else to talk about she had made her decision and I had mad mine and hung up on me. Getting hot headed and not giving me a chance to say anything I sent her a final nasty text telling it was time for closure.

I HAVE REGRETTED EVERYTHING THAT I HAVE DONE THIS LAST MONTH AND WOULD DO ANYTHING TO TAKE BACK IT ALL BACK OR TO TURN BACK TIME.

I DID EVERYTHING FOR HER AND I WOULD DO ANYTHING IT TAKES TO GET HER BACK BUT I THINK ITS TO LATE.

HouseCleaning

Yes it seems that way, but I don't want to believe it.

febe16aqua

Yesterday is when I blew it over the phone and text, I have bloked her in every social media we had together Iv deactivated my account for about 2 weeks now and she had stopped flirting since the first nasty text I sent her about 3 weeks ago.
I dont know if any time could make her heal in what I have said and called her.

I am thinking that, she was feeling something either about her feelings or maybe your distrusting at your last visit.. shoulda, coulda, woulda.. you can't change what has happened or what was said, just give her time.. crazy thing that if she cares, she will forgive you, but it'll be hard to get back to the way it was before and your going to have to have more faith and trust in her. thats really your issue, not hers. but let her know eveyday you are thinking about her and missing her.

Arietteheart

I Bought her a very sex elegant dress she loved it was my favorite and she looked hot in it amongst other things she posted a pic on her profile wearing it and everyone went nuts with comments and the guy I accused of having the fling with his comment was "I am so going there one day" her reply " you never know you might see it sooner than you think" that's be fore we had broken up and the time she had distanced her self and there had been other comments between them. Him posting a pic of a hotel bedroom suite on his profile others had made comments but the comment she mad was "not fair teasing a girl in what she missed out on" On that comment she explain her self on that this guy wanted to meet her a while back but she knocked him back. I understood her explanation in what she may had missed out on but crossed my mind as whats stopping her from going there, but the first comment she never gave me a real explanation just to say "it was a smart ass comment you know what I'm like, it was never meant to make you jealous, you had me and you knew it" telling she never really showed me.

YES words can be hurtful in anger which I had much of at the time, telling her in the very first message that she will hate me more than anyone that she has ever hated in her life and the bad thing is I never stopped as my anger got stronger getting the silent treatment and not being able to communicate resulting in a few more bad texts.

raerae2one8

Yes she was thinking of....(shoulda, coulda, woulda) and much more, as we had come a very long way in such a short period of time and did get scary. We were in each others faces 24/7 and couldn't get enough of each other becoming each others drug addiction and falling in Love. Falling in Love for her for the first time, opening up herself to me about her life that she had never told anyone before, showing me what real Love was with the most genuine person I had ever met. Yes every thing happened so fast it seemed we knew each other inside out in that short period of time wanting to move in together and get married. Then all of this started to happen and has driven me crazy.


SassyVirgo

As very loving? yes she is, forgiving? after what I have said to make her hate me that I don't know, as for morals? I'm a family man with kids and have great morals and the utmost respect especially for her and so do my kids, but it seems in anger I have thrown my respect out the window the way things have evolved.

sixshadesofhell

OMG how true are the points you make in your statement, it is exactly what has happened, I became that broken record and wanting to know where I stood with her wanting an answer and that's where it all started and that's when she said NO I gave her some space after that but couldn't help myself seeing her flirting and ignoring me and kept being that broken record, it would drive anyone crazy, and as you said the more I pushed the more she distanced her self.
The flirting I didn't see it as perception it became an accusation and could not get answers after telling her I was jealous.
After I kept accusing her and calling her a lair as she kept denying it that's when I got nasty very nasty with the text messages and now I think even if hell froze over I don't think she would have me back and as you said she would never forget it.

Depending on what you did, yes, an Aries woman will forgive you.

I think you should just wait a little while, if she calls you up, apologize, she'll forgive you.

AriesIntrovert16

I have called very bad things that i have never ever called anyone before in my life, I have made her hate me because of my anger in losing her which I really didn't so she had said, and still love her like hell, if that makes sense. But in what I have said and called her has hurt her telling me last week she has made up her mind as I have made up mine by the things I have called her.

Even if hell was to freeze over only ever so slightly, She will never call.

I must have been reading your mind I have just finished drafting a letter to her. You make some great points that i have not included and one in particular had writing it and making it personal. I am keeping my self respect recognizing what i have done but not begging for forgiveness and showed her honesty and regret. You make some other great points in there that I have not thought of and I will be adding them.
She is clearly not cheated on me, as she did mention in our very last conversation that she should have said something that was on her mind and not go into silent mode when she was here last. Communication is the key to anything but as I have learned Aries are withdrawn in that aspect and try to solve their problems on their own. The problems she has is she cant convince herself that she deserves happiness and keeps doubting about the relationship and keeps telling me she is not worth it and that I am too good for her and whether the relationship is real or not and becomes very withdrawn and goes into silent mode.

Its only been a few days since the s**t hit the fan so I am going to finish the letter give it a week or so before I decide how to go about it.

What i am thinking of doing is flying up to see her before Christmas buying some tulips her favorite flowers mayby chocolates as well with the letter attached handing them to her personally not saying anything turn and walk away and fly back home. The only thing that worries me doing that is I don't want to freak her out when she sees me at her doorstep as all the bad things I have said to her.

You both seem so alike.

Please can I have your opinion in this.

Posted by SassyVirgo
I've never dated Aries women but one of my best friend is Aries. She has a very loving and forgiving heart.

However if she believes you have bad moral and lost respect to you she won't bother with you anymore.

You are correct! 😉

miha

You are so correct she has issues which we worked together to overcome them and were succeeding only for her to crash and burn again. and as for feeling something is wrong yes there was and did brings out insecurities. I dont know what it is but that gut feeling and intuitions aquas have can be so real sometimes.


intuition

Just found out my hunches were probably correct, she posted pics of her weekend showing there was someone else, I don't know if its really true but I'm imagining shes done that to spite me due to what I did. I will not be bothering with the letter anymore. She is probably waiting for me to respond with another lashing telling her I was right, but I wont and have just been ignoring her and the pics. I don't know what Aries are like in that sort of a situation trying to spite someone.
Maybe it is time to move on as everything I had accused her of was probably correct.

Its probably eating her up inside as I have not responded, so I am just going to leave it at that and see what happens.


Thank you all for your advice especially you "sixshadesofhell" you have very good knowledge about Aries.

If anything out of the ordinary happens which I don't expect I will let you all know.