Would you share your partner

Looking at two other people talking, I decided to ask this question to all: Would you share your sexual partner and have a three-some? Would that really be so bad?

And then, if you decided that you would be open to that possibility - would you want the opposite or same sex as the 3rd person? That would probably be the hard part, wouldn't it?

As usual, I post this on the Aries board - I'm hopeless !!!!!!!!!!

I'm too selfish to share.

Having a 3-some isn't a "bad" idea. The problem is, many people don't want to see their partner being pleased by another individual.

In the cases where it's a man-woman-woman. Complications come when the woman sees her man pleasing another woman. Insecurity sets in, and she wonders if she can compete. Turn the mirror the other way- and men who claim to LOVE girl-on-girl action, don't necessarily want to their sweety being pleased in ways that he can't provide.

In the cases where it's a woman-man-man... same thing! Guys don't want see ride another man's pole. And unless your man VERY secure in his sexuality or is bi-sexual, he probably won't the other guy to even TOUCH him.

The psychological damage to couple who aren't as open-minded as they thought they would be-- can kill the relationship.

At present, I would be open to it - but only if I was the only female and there were 2 guys.
I would be afraid that if there was another girl, she might make a lasting impression on my guy and that he would compare her to me and also that I mightn't be as good as her in the bed (see how insecure I really am).
I would have to trust the two guys 110% .
One nite last year back in virgo-dom! Mr. Virgo, who was always fantasising about threesomes, - him, his cousin a Mr. Leo and I, all decided at the end of a hazy drunken-state nite that that tonite was THE nite for the threesome!! Mr. Virgo was very happy that his cousin would be in on it....at least he knew he was clean! he said.
So me and Mr. Virgo retire to the bedroom and await Mr. Leo. Mr. Leo got to the door of the bedroom and on entering puked up the entire contents of his body over and over again!!! Needless, to state, the party never began!!! Next morning, I was glad it hadn't - we were all a bit sheepish - there was an awkward silence in the air for at least 20 minutes..so glad it didn't happen with them.

Way way back in another time and place and in the land of scorpio-dom, it happened with a Mr. Scorpio and his best pal - a Mr. Gemini - twice!!
First time I was nervous as hell as I didn't know what to do or expect - I was a threesome virginite!!!
Second time round, I learn fast!!!, I gave all the orders and knew exactly what I wanted and when:-)
If you can let yourself go and truly relax, it's great but probably a little over-rated in reality.
Everything did change after that..............I still see that Mr. Scorpio on the bus to this day......we still can't look each other in the eye!!!!

Guess that makes me a slut..............but that's my truth..........

A x

A long time ago, before I married my second husband - my best friend and her husband used to sleep together all the time. At least 3 nights a week for about 2 years. There was never any problems with thier marriage and they are still married today, some 25 years later. She never felt wierd or insecure about and we are still best friends, and him and I are dear friends. I think it brought us closer rather than further apart.

No,no,no the closest anyone would get to a threesome with me is maybe if the other one is a blowup doll or vibrater,im lame like that.It takes alot of trust,guidelines and those guidelines inforced or just being bisexual to have it turn out successfully.

LMAO @Alana. Nah, you're not a slut-- you're the master.. teach me wise one.

P-Angel, I think I missed something..

you said... "A long time ago, before I married my second husband - my best friend and her husband used to sleep together all the time. At least 3 nights a week for about 2 years"....
Did you mean to convey that you had regular 3-some love with your best friend and her husband? If so.. how did that work? Or did you just sleep, like one big snuggle party..

I'm a little slow, but I just realized something..

a man should feel great about hanging out on dxp-- there's mostly women here.. intelligent, BEAUTIFUL women...

and they're talking about SEX, orgasms, penises-- and how much they like it!!!

If I were a man, I'd be on dxp all day..

it's like walking into a girls' locker room...

I think it's cool.. anyone else? Show of hands.

lol, actually, it's pretty sad, don't you think? I mean, if we have to talk about it all the time then that's because we aren't getting enough.

I'm certaintly not getting enough. But I don't think talking about it is a bad thing.

Blow up doll, huh? That might be interesting.

STD . . . yes, I meant . . . me, her and her hubby. It started right after her first child and she couldn't service him because of the severity of her tearing and his thing was so big that she couldn't . . . well, the oral thing was difficult for her, so . . . she asked me and well . . . what are friends for?

Him, being a Leo - well . . . he played the whole king of the den role with pride and pleasure. I consider myself a straight female, since I've been married to men over half my lifetime, but . . . well . . . anyway, that's how it went down

wow.. and she didn't get jealous or anything? That's security and a 1/2. When she healed, did she join in- or was it always just you and him? But then again, if was you and him-- it wasn't really a 3-some, was it? It's more of regular sex + 1 voyer..

I dunno about blow-up dolls. They can be cold and un-caring at times. Not that I would know anything about that..

😛

She was a participant - most definitely. Actually, he was a little worried, though, because he wouldn't . . . um . . . should I say . . . neither one of them fancied oralization and me . . . well, I'm all mouth, so, at first, he didn't like it that I was willing to eat her and he wasn't. So, no, she wasn't upset at all, he he he. After awhile, though, he started getting into it and wasn't intimidated any longer. After she healed and was able to mount him again - I will still there because by then we were all one big happy (couple?). Then, of course, I met my current husband and it all stopped. But, we're all three very close friends still.

WowowowowWOW..so how big was it?

Yeah, I'm too possessive also. I think in order for me to successfully get through a 3-some, I'd have to not care about any of the people involved. But then it would be just meaningless, mindless sex-- which is no fun for me. I'll admit it. I'm soft and pink. I need that emotional connection.

What about the man-man-woman thing? Do you think, in the throws of passion- the guys exchange a kiss.. would that turn you off?

Would you be with 2 bi-sexual men?

LMAO-

This goes back the theory, that some believe humans (and some monkeys) aren't completely hetero..or completely homosexual. That if curiosity got the best of us, we wouldn't be able to resist "knowing" a partner of the same sex.

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Hey...what's going on over there?

How the hell did I miss out on all this exciting banter!

Alana! Yep, we are twin souls. I would never have a threesome with another woman, but I have with two men. It was lame though because the boys were so worried about each other thinking the other one was gay, they couldn't get into it.

Technically it was twice b/c I watched two men go at it and somewhat participated...One of them wanted to lick my butt (For what reason I will NEVER understand) and spank his. I obliged of course. Two women though? YECK! Not for me!


SeizetheDay you are so crazy girl you need to stick with that therapy...maybe diddle around with your therapist...

While we are on the subject, are there any women here who get off on having their butt crack licked? All my boyfriends love to do it but I just sit there like this is stupid. I don't want to tell them though because I don't want to discourage the other down there activity.

Cancerlady

Aprilbaby, I think I saw that same episode- the problem with the doll being so life-like, he was actually heavy to lift. Women have to put him in a chair and push him around. I don't know- the thing looked rather creepy to me.

As for the tossed salad( slang for tasting the tail-pipe) - no-thank-you. I think that would mess with me psychologically. Every time my sweetheart would come in for a kiss-- I'd think.. but you just...

yah. I'd have to say, "no" on that.

You would like a harem, Sweet-P? I guess that'll work.

Did I ever mention, I was dating a guy.. and found some of his pornographic magazines. One of them was titled, "Butt Lust" .. no joke.

Oh. And it was all women.. sorry.. I had to add that...

I seen that episode too,had that in mind when I wrote that actually.No on buttcrack for me and nothing wrong with a male harem of five guys though,anythings possible.It's just the serious relationships that I wouldn't want 3 or more,I think I might take it as an insult from someone who's supposed to love me.

For me, it's the other way around. It would get my engines firing to watch a woman do my man. I would be like the Mrs. Horn Dawg - watching him get off with someone else. Oh well, I guess I'm just too kinky for my own good.

I won't comment on the butt-licking because . . . well, nevermind!

Why aren't any men jumping in here with thier thoughts? Oh, and btw STD, to answer your question - yes, I would do a 3some with two men who were into each other. That would be a huge turn on.

It's just because I want my man to be happy, to be satisfied - that's all. I don't do women just for myself, never have. I'm most definitely straight, only think about masculinity. But, men like it and it turns them on - so, the way I see it, if you truly love your man and you want to make him happy, then you have to be willing to do anything for his happiness. Of course, that also applies to being a real friend too. My best mate wanted me to help her and so I did. I wasn't married or in a relationship at the time, so I wasn't hurting anyone.

And to answer your question STD - he was the biggest I've ever encountered. So freaking huge that you feel like all your innerds are going to come spitting out of you. You know, you'd look down at the cum and you think your going to see all your guts running out too. Very painful. It's funny 'cause I used to tease my mate, telling her when she got pregnant by this man that we were going to have to put some sort of harness or something on her so the fetus wouldn't flush out of her everytime she sat on the commode to push a dump.

that doesn't sound sexy..

It wasn't - it's not! Kind of gross, really!

So I am the only girl that gets her butt licked? I mean I guess it's because my butt is sort of my defining factor seeing as though my breasts are non-existent...but the boys LOVE kissing, grabbing, touching, all types of things with it which I like. But the butt munching? I don't necessarily hate it, but it is kinda annoying when there are so many other appealing places to be...

Cancerlady

just as I thought go to the aries site for the by sexuals. Cant make up there minds which way to go. As for the butt and the brest there was a tv show about the attraction to the male s. something about the shape. Oh well can't remember what it was now.

men like round and soft things? That actually makes a lot of sense.

AprilBaby

Come to Atlanta...There are plenty of guys here ready & willing to lick whatever you want them to!

I think all the other males aren't saying anything so they can just sit back and watch and let the chicks do the work for them,lazy punks geez.

They're intimidated..

plus not many guys would say, "YES.. I LICK @SS!!"

Hmm,yeah thats could be true too.

I may start a butt licking religion, new converts female would have to take a mustachio ride to join with the promiss of server butt lickings if they miss behave.

That may be the only religion I'd want to be a part of.

Hi Branh!

One is so used to reading very cold logic stuff form you that it is kinda refreshing to read abotu lighter stuff coming out of you. 🙂 Keep it up. Liked the way you explained this too -with perfection.

*double takes*

is that.. was that... I think that was.. YES it WAS.. Brahn!!!

so, can I ride the B-Train, huh? will it take me to O-town?

Wow...

I must also admit that it is refreshing to see you pull your skirt tail down and stop acting like a little virgin girl, but do you honestly think this statement is cool and or true?

"But I am a man, so that means I'm smart."

I personally think it's a little broad sweeping and sexist, but I guess that is my sensitive nature b/c everyone else here thought it was funny...Perhaps I need to desensitize more but you never cease to amaze me with these types of statements.

Cancerlady

he said that.. I didn't read the whole thing..

Wow Branh - what's this?

A bit rough, but at least it shows some passion. Here we thought that you were all logic - and then you show us how inside there, you really feel. Really feel something other than just resentment because of your little Pisces girl.

Impressive!

I'm just impressed with the way he spoke - it wasn't just droning on. I could almost see his face lighting up and feel his blood surging. Maybe everyone else has heard him speak like this, but I haven't.

As for the statement: "But I am a man, so that means I'm smart" - that's ok, really, because women think they are smarter than men. No, actually, that's not true.

We don't think we are smarter - we KNOW we are!

Hey branh what are you doin?wink,wink,kiss,kiss.(sorry cheap computer,downloading smileys would take up too much room)