wtf is wrong with me

Why do i keep getting involved with the same type of "unavailable" men! I am so sick of this repeated pattern. Guys that are"good" or there is no chase, or challenge, i dont like. It always has to be a challenge and I always end up heart broken!!! I am sooo sick of this. Are thier any other Aries women that do this same mofo thing to them selves?

yes mam

Aries? Sounds more like a bored Aqua Venus!

Posted by CluelessCancer
Raises hands! Both hands.

I love you cc....you are hilarious🙂

Posted by Impulsv
Not just Aries all signs are affected. Next give the nice guy a try. Find ur excitement through life rather than the push n pull drama these relationships hold. That's the way I see it now. I'd rather start to share my exciting life with an available man. N seek my excitement by activities, travel, exploring.

But what if they portray themselves as available? And you give him a try because you think he is a nice guy?

also guilty as charged... should the criteria be expanded to air venus?

all the good, keen grr-less men get overlooked in favour of the arrogant shitbricks of the universe!

I'm trying to change this behaviour but let's just say I am a slow learner... 😐

Right.. i mean, i don t see these guys as bad guys player types. Most recently i been talkin to capicorn. hes great.been talking steadily for 2 months, talk about seeing eac other. one say tells me he cares for me, now i barely even talk to him. twice in over a week. now no communication. its long distance so its not like i am really that hooked up on him, but still... why not see the signs? Why would he go throught the trouble of spending so much of his time talking to me and blah, blah, blah, and to tell me he cares if he ain't gonna f'n talk to me again. i just dont get it!!!! are these guys getting to be better players, even more sweet and sincere or am i just so damn messed up that I am refusing to see the lies and bullshit. I swear, he was honest as the sky is blue.. wtf—

Posted by sixshadesofhell
"Aries? Sounds more like a bored Aqua Venus!"

Yes, you are right, I am both Aries sign and ascendent PLUS an Aqua Venus, I can tell you, it ain't easy, it ain't easy! So, OP, the only "consolation" I can offer is: welcome to the club. And once you found out how to deal with this situation or even find a solution, let me know, because I sure don't have one

I have no idea how my venus in aqua is.. please someone enlighten me, because I hate it, what ever it does..lol

lol.. captain sav a hoe!! nice

but its not just a bad boy/player type. I have been staying away from them, i thought. wolf in sheeps clothing!!

so i am the equivilant.. captain-sav-a-dick!!.. ctfu!

Posted by Undine
Aries? Sounds more like a bored Aqua Venus!

Yeah but, we know how to play and walk away. LOL!

Arie w/Aqua Venus

Posted by raerae2one8
so i am the equivilant.. captain-sav-a-dick!!.. ctfu!

Hahaha

Some of this could be pathological pattern from childhood. One parent and/or both parents were unavailable in some way or another.

A lot of women who choose unavailable men have some type of unresolved pain, unresolved emotional problems for example feeling insecure, low self esteem, feelings of low self worth etc which deems them unavailable too. A woman or man cannot be available if they haven't resolved their personal demons/issues.

So many people that choose unavailable partners are passively unavailable themselves, she's passively unavailable and he's overtly unavailable, they are mirror images of one another and that's mainly why it won't work.

So many variables to why people choose who they choose.

I find that I chose "broken" men. They aren't necessarily unavailable but boy are they shattered in pieces. Maybe it's the Venus in Virgo but I always find men that need fixing somehow. I have made more resumes, bought more ties, paid more cell phone bills, checked on child support issues. You name it and I have done it.

Then I met my husband. He didn't need to be fixed. He graduated from college , had more money than me a better job than me, was grounded and I was bored to tears. He was absolutely everything that I thought I wanted then I realized there was nothing for me to do.

I guess I need to be needed then I resent being needed.

I would like a really pretty pink straight jacket. If you find one with rhinestones on it that would be awesome.

Makes sense JustALeo, so many people deal with abandonment issues as adults when abandonment is involved.

There simply is no real healthy way to connect and remain connected when the example from a parent/s was/is riddled with abandonment.

Who really feels worthy of love when the people that should love you the most were not there for you so of course you'd gravitate towards people who inevitably abandon the relationship with you.

Nala I wonder if someone in your family dealt with some kind of addiction because from my own experience and understanding is when a parent is mentally ill or has some kind of addiction going on it can set up a pathological pattern of fixing.

Maybe you saw your mom/mother figure, the women in your family/environment saving and fixing the man/men in their life.

I'm so not psycho analyzing anyone here plus this kind of stuff can trigger a person and bring up hard negative feelings but I do love delving into topics like this.

I could be way off here but I think it is my maternal instinct manifesting itself where it should not. I don't have any children and I want them. I just don't want to be a baby momma. Since, there is no child to fix or groom. I try to do it with men. I don't know. The men in my family were really strong men and providers. My grandmothers, mother and some of my aunts didn't even work. They are probably rolling over in their graves at my choices.

Nala that makes so much sense. Definitely hard to curb those maternal feelings.

What you're feeling is normal though, what's considered not normal is transferring those feelings onto men, it can make a good thing turn bad real fast.

it usually stems back to your childhood. think back - think farrr back. did a parent ever seem unavailable to you growing up? Did you VIEW them as unavailable? Were you a latch-key kid, or did you ever feel as though you were un-wanted?

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