Advice for ALL signs

ARIES
: Your vibrant & in-it-to-win-it persona is very admirable, UNTIL you take things to the extreme. It's understandable that winning & being the best at what you do (in any area or field) is a big goal of yours but try not to step on your loved ones just to get where you want to be. Understand that not everything in life is supposed to be yours & quitting becoming so temperamental when that realization finally comes. It's okay to be 2nd place. It's okay for others not to agree with you. And half of the reason people are always testing you is b/c they are trying to teach you a lesson that being #1 is more a state of MINDset more than it is a physicallity. Learn to "join" and not always "beat." While it is admirable that you have the need to be very blunt, direct & "go-getters" realize that everyone who criticizes you isn't doing so just to spoil your fun or bring you down. Open up your horizons a little & understand that normally you can spot the people who actually care for you & respect you by how HONEST they are with you, even after knowing how hard you'll take it. That's caring, more than competition.

TAURUS:
Security (in relationships, with finances & with self) is understandably important BUT don't forget that since you sign up for things with people (love, relationships, friendships) where having that cut-throat attitude will turn away more than it will cause you gain. You are so fixated on impressing your loved ones with status, prestige & financial security that you tend to forget sometimes that life is about more than just who you are. Try not to handle your relationships like you handle your issues in the boardroom. Treat the boardroom at work like a boardroom, but when you get home, treat your love life will delicacy & sensuality. If you try to connect the boardroom with the bedroom, it's no wonder things get so rocky beyond your control. Taurus, you know how it feels to be face-to-face with a know-it-all who clearly doesn't know it all. You feel bad for them b/c if they only would stop being so narrow/closed-minded, they'd learn something. Well understand that others may feel the same about you sometimes. Others sometimes shake their heads at you, wishing you would just stop pretending like you know it all, when it's clear that NO ONE does. You should want people to love you for who you are & not just for what you can do for them. Try not to live in double-standards.

CANCER:
Yes, sometimes it's good to have someone like you who isn't always too good or too cold to live in the emotions, BUT understand that half of the conflicts in your life come MORE from you over-whelming YOURSELVES more than you are others with your emotions. Stop pointing the fingers at others for not understanding you & admiring you for this when in truth, sometimes you don't even understand you or admire you for this side of your personalities. Stop, relax & realize sometimes that not everyone is out to hurt you & that most people understand you better than you think. They may not chose to adapt or adjust to your personality, but they DO understand. There's a difference. When you are pessimistic all the time you begin noticing that your partners are getting annoyed & are thinking about running for the door. But if you really think about it, once they are finally out of the door, you ALSO lose sleep & get annoyed with the same things. So before you are quick to defend how in tune with your emotions you are, make sure you think clearly & are able to weed out the times when you're being too/overly-sensitive so that your situations become win-win. You guys have valid emotions & arguments, but quit calling false alarms. Quit blowing your top over things that are minor b/c then people will not respect you for this side of you & will assume that you are just a nut-case who has mental problems. And the problem: When you really do have a major issue, people will not hear what you're saying (even when they should) b/c of all the false alarms in the past. I'm not saying change this side of you b/c you cannot. But learn self-discipline. Learn how to control what comes out of your mouth & limit what emotions you express to the emotions that are semi-permanent & have foundation, versus just blurting out the emotions that are only there for 5 minutes.

GEMINI:
We get that you like spunk & need variety in your lives. We get it. BUT, quit assuming that someone can't handle you, b/c in reality, they can, they just chose not to adapt or accept your constant mind that's always moving in 50 directions at once. It's understandable that you guys need lots of chemistry with others in order to function, but don't use that need to make an excuse for why you betray or step over others. If you need freedom, that's fine, but don't cheat, lie or have a self-righteous attitude about things when you're partner can't handle it. Pick someone UP FRONT that can handle you so you won't have to deal with those things. And for God's sake, make up your minds. Are you sure you necessarily want a partner whose just like you? Be open to having someone that can compliment the personality that you don't have. Don't be so afraid to pick a partner who'se your opposite, but yet that still fulfills your needs. Don't be afraid of having a partner that hates how big of a flirt you are, b/c if you don't get one like this, you'll end up resenting the fact that you got done the same way you self-righteously did others. The point is, don't wait until it's done to you & for the tables to turn before you act like you now get the point. Take into consideration that if you pick a partner, show them your true colors up front so that THEY can decide if you're worth it. But atleast give them that option. Don't appear to be one way & then when you've gotten them to commit to you, pop out as another person just to then wonder why things aren't working out or why it seems that they can't handle you. Give people the option to observe & analyze you the same way you analyze & observe them, that way it's a win-win situation for the both of you vs. always just being about you thinking the world owes YOU everything.

VIRGO:
You know what it's like when you're trying to talk some sense into somebody & they're just not hearing you out. It's annoying & quite sad isn't it, especially since they appear to be wrong on big issues? Well, understand that the person people might shake their heads to & be thinking "If she/he only knew" is YOU sometimes. Somewhere a long the line you got the impression that being wrong was a sign of weakness. You forgot along the way that others are just as intellectual, observant & manipulative the same way you can be. Don't get such a big head about yourself that you too forget that others can just as easily be 2 steps ahead of the game more than you (the same way you often feel about others). It's admirable that you guys are very picky, observant & always liking a good debate, but quit interfering into things that you truly know nothing about b/c it doesn't help you the way you think it is. It doesn't mean anything to anyone else that you stepped in & gave your opinion. The only time you are validated is when what you have to say is RIGHT (and in most cases, more right than what others said). If you step in just to step in, but yet don't make any sense or are faking your expertise in something, others will catch on & lose the respect for you when all you really wanted was some recognition for your intellect. Understand that you can be recognized for your intellect w/o having to fake it all the time. And if you are shaking your head that this is not true, then that is EXACTLY what I'm talking about!

LEO:
We understand that you like attention & need recognition from all parties in your life. But learn how to share the spotlight sometimes, b/c if you haven't realized, being the "famous" one all the time can have more disadvantages than advantages. Above all the attention, you guys really just want people to like & accept you so you're going to have to realize that sometimes getting that popularity means being quite & sitting back in the chair, versus always being the one who has to be heard. And Leos, you guys are so picky when it comes to finding the right mate for you & that's a great thing. BUT, the reason so many people believe you guys lead-others on is b/c you will still act as if nothing has changed, even though you've made the decision not to commit to that person. Let people know sometimes that you've put them in the "friendship" category & let THEM make the decision as to if they are content in just being that to you. You are entitled to have your turn-offs & to act on them, but don't keep giving the same attention, affection & sweet words to someone if you've already made the decision that they'll never be lucky enough to upgrade to commitment-status. After all, what victory is there if the only people who give you attention are the people who you don't really even want anymore? If you don't want them for long-term use then still having their attention shouldn't matter either. Let them go. Just like you are entitled to act on your turn-offs, so are they. And you'd be suprised at how many people would've BEEN GONE had you been honest about deciding not to go further with them (in terms of a relationship). All I'm saying is that it wouldn't hurt to let people know where they stand. I'm assuming you'd want to know if kept trying to impress & win someone over, but yet everybody BUT you knows that it'll never happen. You'd be mad as hell! So keep that in mind when dealing with others b/c the last thing you want to do is end up with a list of people who resent you & feel they have been used b/c that will crush & deflate your need for plain & simple love & attention. So, in a nutshell, only seek the attention from those who matter! That is true victory & is more understandable!

LIBRA:
You guys have got to learn the art of knowing what you want FIRST before jumping the gun & chasing after the first thing that appears as "gold." It's very honorable that you put your entire lives into the person you're dating but know that this will come back to haunt you in the long-run if you keep doing this. It's great that you love to people-please but don't OVER-Do it so much that you make that person who your life revolves around, just to realize later that they disappointed you. Everything in your love life will not always go smoothly & if you guys wouldn't put so much energy into it, you wouldn't have the horrible "crash" at the end when the "bumps" & "trials" come. I'm not saying give up your loving & people-pleasing side. All I'm saying is that in relationships, even if you want to still give 99% , atleast leave 1% left for yourself so that when it's all over, you won't be in shambles & you'll still have a piece of yourself. And don't let others pressure you or put you down b/c of your indecisiveness. As a Libra, balance & harmony is very important to you & determines whether or not your state of mind will be harmounous or balanced. When others disappoint you or betray you, your sense of peace, harmony & balance literally gets thrown off, no different than a woman becomes more moody or irritable (not herself) when she's got raging hormones during her period (PMS). So this part of your personality is normal & if anything is a good thing. It's great that you guys can't function w/o peace & balance, versus some people who thrive off of drama, pessimism, etc. The only thing I'll recommend to you is to be just as indecisive in the beginning when you're first dating someone so that you take ample enough time to know what you're getting into to. If you keep jumping on impulse at the 1st thing that appears like gold, it's no wonder your feelings are always being hurt & your expectations are never being met. Instead of thinking that maybe you need to lower the bar on your expectations, just learn how to pick your partners better.

SCORPIO:
It's okay to be very intense & to put your full-capacity emotions into whomever you've invested your time in. But understand that alot of the people you attract just love this part about you, but don't necessarily have the same deep passion to give in return back to you. Some people are content & feel fulfilled by just simply having someone so intense, but they never did necessarily say that they'd have the same kind of energies to give in return. So understand that everybody is not going to love the way you do. They still love you BUT they just show their love in different ways & the way they show it doesn't make how they show it any less efficent or fulfilling. Just like you expect for people to warm up to you & have that "take it or leave it" attitude about things, understand that others (even though they may love you too death) have that same mentality. And instead of detaching b/c they are not being who you want them to be, learn to adjust. Remember, that you are not the easiest person to get, commit to AND maintain so give others the same patience they've had with you. And understand that being revengeful is understandable sometimes but always be careful to make sure you're not just a hot-head whose out to hurt any & everybody who hurts you b/c half of the time, your hurt really comes from you not being able to handle your own intenseness more than it does from others not being able to do so. Pick and chose wisely who you'll chose to be vindictive & revengeful to b/c if you keep assuming that you guys are the only ones who can lie & kill & get away with it, you'll miss the shadow behind you that was JUST AS GOOD at those things the way you were. And if you're going to seek a more submissive partner make sure they aren't just appearing to be submissive just to make you believe so. Make sure they are actually OKAY with being submissive to you b/c they actually don't mind. Alot of times you guys attract people who are just putting on a front like they are just as intense, only b/c just like you, they hate for others to underestimate them. Check for sincerity. Just b/c someone does what you tell them to do doesn't mean that they actually mind doing so, behind closed doors & when you're back is turned.

SAGG:
Quit being so impuslive & irresponsible all the time. It's understandable that you crave variety & spontaneity, so make sure you surround yourself around people who crave the same things so that you won't feel all alone when it all comes back to haunt you. We understand that you have a "crewd" sense of humor, but hey, if you're main objective is to get acceptance & for people to like you then you're going to have to make sure that your humor is on THEIR level too. What good is it to make jokes, with the intention on wanting people to think you're funny, if the only person who is laughing is you? I'm not saying change how you think. But learn how to size people up & measure each person differently. Don't give everyone your personality in 1 dosage. Learn how to size people up & measure how much of you they can handle & once you've done that, THEN give them bits & pieces of who you really are, so that there is no confusion or misunderstanding. It's great that you are very non-chalant & direct, but learn when to put that side of you away for your OWN benefit. People take you seriously for other reasons than just your directness & boldness & if you keep forgetting this, then you'll end up making those same people who once admired you for this, end up being annoyed by or resenting you for the very same thing. And no matter how care-free you claim to be, there is NO fun when everyone around you either hates you, misunderstands you or doesn't respect you for the things you thought would gain you respect. It's okay to live on the edge, but learn when to put that childish side away. Learn that you're not being any less yourself just b/c you know when to put certain sides of you away. If anything, if you show people that you know when to bring certain sides out, they'll respect you a wholllle lot more & for a whole lot longer. And let's be honest, this is what you want so don't mess it up for yourselves when all you really wanted the whole time was the GAIN, not the loss.

CAPRICORN:
It's admirable that you have the "somebody's got to do it" attitude about things but learn how to separate the boardroom from the bedroom (your personal life). Stop being so pessimistic about everything & stop assuming that money & status are the only 2 things to have in this life that will make you happy. If you limit yourself to believing that only those 2 things are important, than yes you will have riches BUT you'll be shorting yourself of the other things in life that are JUST AS rewarding. When you're at work, it's great to be very serious & have that "CEO's" mentality, but understand that when you come home, your partner doesn't want to see that side; after all, they already worked their shift for the day & looked forward to coming home b/c of how much of the boardroom they were leaving BEHIND when they come home. Keep that in mind. You Capricorns would give the world to any & everybody. You'd give your last dollar to a loved one & this is admirable. BUT, you crave love & affection & sensuality just like everyone else, so stop assuming that showing the softer, less serious side of you will have any effect on your success at the office. Even the biggest bull-headed monster has a companion waiting for them at home, whom they change into their other side for. It's a great thing that you're a natural leader but don't get so boggled into that boardroom world that you miss out on the other things that are equally just as important & fulfilling.

AQUARIUS:
While yes, you having that coldness & the ability to detach from others in a heartbeat has caused you to get through alot of sticky situations w/o getting burned, understand that eventually you letting those fears of rejection and/or being fooled will start to cause you MORE LOSS in the future. If you're going to sign up for love & expect for your partner to be willing to drop their shield & open up to you, then you have to give the same back in return. You can't keep signing up for love & then making excuses and justifications for why you can't put down your walls & fulfill YOUR half of the deal. By not doing this, you are stripping YOURSELF of what you deserve just the same as you are stripping your partner. Learn how to deal with your emotions in the moment (but still in the dark) instead of supressing them, b/c while you think you are doing yourself a favor by being so detached & so scared, you are really keeping yourself from your own blessings. Not everyone is perfect & is going to submit to everything you say so don't point them for that b/c after all, you won't do the same for most people you know either. Love with CAUTION is NOT love. And the problem is, you are the 1st ones to want to see the true color of others emotions, but yet won't take out enough time to see the colors of your own emotions. That's why you detach all the time, b/c it's an excuse & justification to NOT tap into your own emotions, where you're heart won't lie to you or always say you're right. Don't be afraid to be wrong sometimes & stop assuming that others are the only ones hurt when you detach b/c YOU hurt more than they do in the long run. You'll spend your whole life trying to be 2 steps ahead of the game than everybody else, & when you're finally ready to settle down & find "the one", all those pent-up emotions will come back to haunt you, b/c suddenly they'll be so pent up that it'll be almost impossible to get out. And you'll end up finding yourself paying for years of neglect with your own emotions. Just like being too sensitive or too care-free can hurt you, so can being too fearful & being too shut-down. Being there for yourself every once in a while won't make you any less a friend, companion or humanitarian. If anything, you'd be suprised at how many of your loved ones jump for joy (and not run away) when you finally look in your own mirror, for longer than 5 seconds.

PISCES:
Quit assuming that being true to yourself & expressing how you really feel (even in times when your emotions are complex) will cause you more LOSS than gain. If you learn how to get your emotions in check & only let out the emotions that are stable & have foundation, then there shouldn't be a problem with your partner rejecting you or those emotions. And if you find yourself with someone with whom you don't feel comfortable being your true self around, then what are you really gaining? You assume that if you adapt to what you really don't want to adapt to or if you become who THEY want you to be, things will go alot smoother for the moment. And you're right. Things will. But at the end of the day your emotions will jump out of control b/c your heart & conscious will NEVER be okay with only gaining & winning over things through being somebody other than your true self. I thought the whole point of this love thing was to find someone who compliments who we really are, not trick us into replacing who we really are? One of the BEST advantages to having love is the ability to feel contentment while with that person. Well, if you notice that no matter how much your partner does for you that you STILL aren't content, then make sure the reason for your void still being present isn't b/c you aren't being yourself. Having a companion but yet still not being fulfilled defeats the purpose of having a companion. Learn how to be bold enough to be your true selves & take the risk of losing alot of people while doing so. I thought the whole point in being yourself was to eliminate all the people who can't/don't admire you for your true colors. Find people who love you for the REAL/RAW you, not people who are really in love with the person you are pretending to be. If you keep "pretending," you'll end up losing that person AND yourself. The reason you feel that being yourself will cause you loss is b/c your heart is trying to tell you that you are with the wrong person. When your heart starts racing & you can feel that discontentment starting to take over, that's not code for KEEP pretending or keep hiding. No, it's code for get some balls & trust that your intuition & heart will never fail you! If you'd just try it, you'll notice that from then on out you'll start attracting people who are content with & admire the REAL you. And life goes by so much smoother this way, versus always having to be on pins & needles just to keep someone in your life.

If any of you should be afraid of any kind of LOSS, it should be you being afraid of the loss of SELF, rather than someone else.

Dude. You can type. I'm going to read that but before I do can you answer me one question? Are your fingers bleeding? Because holy Toledo!

Dude. You can type. I'm going to read that but before I do can you answer me one question? Are your fingers bleeding? Because holy Toledo! "

Actually no, I'm just getting started. I type 95 WPM & never get tired either, b/c typing & writing alot is what I'm used to

Holy shit that's a lot of reading. 95 wpm yeesh!

Thanks guys!

I don't professionally study astrology anymore but I used to. To make a long story short, I took some general ed astrology courses back in college & found it very interesting. I started studying it, along with the other astrology majors & even though I didn't make it a profession or my major for school, I still decided to stick with it in my personal time & private life.

If anything, my personal experiences with people of every sign has led me to all of my opinions & beliefs about each sign. Me studying back in college was just the prep for me to atleast understand astrology as a whole. After I got the general concept of it all, then I started testing the waters by seeing if the people I knew actually fit the description of what all those astrologers & astrology books said. Once I noticed ALOT of sheer coincidence I figured I'd actually take things into my own hands & actually use astrology to help others through certain situations

Trust me, I used to be the world's BIGGEST SKEPTIC, when it came to stuff like astrology. But even the most skeptical person can't deny when something is sheer coincidence. When I first read about my sign & how we Aquas were as a whole, I was in shock & was hooked ever since. The key is that you have to know that there are factors involved (that are different with each person) that can easily sway what the description says about you. As long as you come into astrology with the mindset that it's just coincidence and NOT fact, then everything will make more sense.

I do believe that astrology is helpful in relationships b/c think about it. If it's helpful to helping one learn about self, then it also can be helpful in learning about someone else. Now, some people take the astrology-relationship thing to another level & those kinds of people mess it up for everyone.

For example, every time I meet a Libra, I always test out the waters to see if what I already heard about, learned about & experienced with them will be true in the new person's case. And usually after careful observation, they end up acting just like the typical Libra. And after your observations have been right for so long, you naturally start to implement astrology into your love life, but only on the surface. I'm telling you, if I didn't understand Leos from an astrological standpoint, me & my Leo's relationship would've been over a lonnnnnng time ago.

good read indeed, kudos kyr. I know i can always count on you for the breakdown of thee signs..

nice... but it stabs a little deeper than necessary. Slightly overdone, but NICE!

and *HI-5* for the typing speed w/o getting tired.

oops, sorry wrong thread.

"thought the whole point of this love thing was to find someone who compliments who we really are, not trick us into replacing who we really are? One of the BEST advantages to having love is the ability to feel contentment while with that person."

How true; if you can't be & express who you truly are, what's the point? The greatest gift you can give someone IS to be yourself while appreciating totally who they are. And while through this contentment you naturally bring out the best in each other, supporting & always being there. Thankfully i've always understood this concept and am living it. (As well, pisceans crave, desire & need stability & consistency. In the end, you truly* are each others best friend).

insightful read, thx ..

Just waiting for a scorpio to come in here and complain about how u discribe them lol. virgo was funny.

I was waiting too. But hey, I didn't write this as a "bashing" of the signs. It's more like advice to each of them from a genuine standpoint. They might disagree but that's okay b/c just like I am not like every Aquarian described by others, they may not necessarily be the typical advice, therefore this advice doesn't apply to them.

I was hoping that even the "fixed" and more stubborn signs would read this & see how some of this advice can fit into their own lives. And b/c I didn't bash any 1 particular sign, I'm assuming that's why no one has yet to get ignorant on me!

That's funny. I had a Pisces & Gemini try to burn me on mine, and didn't go @ any one particular sign. LOL
Dual personalities... WTF? LOL

as a leo, i must say, that i don't seek attention... it just happens! i accept others as they are and it has to be a mutual understanding. they must accept me as i am, which just so happens to be very friendly and warm. if they will just take the time to stop and look at my behavior with everyone, then they will know that my affections are for all who are willing to receive it. there's no sexual connotation behind it either. i may put my hand on ur arm or my arm around ur shoulder when talking to u. i only stop when ppl are bothered by the physical closeness. besides, i do share the spotlight all the time. i want to see others shine as well. makes me feel good if i have any part in it!