Anyone else have this problem?

Cancer man.

You have to pursue him, and in the meantime he's an asshole because he's all self pitying and scared of getting hurt because he's a fucking bitch of a man.

So finally you pursue him, and then he seems to think he's a queen who all you do is give give give and he only gives what HE wants to give. Not what you need. All the little things all the fucking emotional things you need, nah, not worth his time since he thinks he's enough and he doesn't need to do more than he "feels" like doing at the given moment.

Oh but wait, then that drags for months and you get mad at him and he starts crying and acting like a victim so you comfort him and stop him from crying so then it's all about him. His bratty toddler self gets so used to being the centre of everything 24/7 and always being the victim that he seems to make himself believe he's perfect, and he's doing all he can (more like is willing) to do and that's that.

Finally you become fed up ad try to break up and he begs you he won't and swears to change and doesn't even try.

Oh and worst of all, every time you are hurt and explain how he's wrong and how HE hurt YOU, he somehow turns it around even if he just starts throwing Radom insults that are unrelated like he can't face the fucking truth like a fucking child, and so after days he finally agrees he was wrong only to next time say that he didn't really mean that and slways taking back what he says always saying he feels one way and this is the truth and changing it to better fit every situation because apparently last time he told me how he felt wasn't true he was just saying that and now that it can work against him in a situation "he didn't mean that" and "this" is the truth.

Oh check this, he ended up having mental issues as in psycho type issues Because he's so fucking deluded.

What the fuck is wrong with cancer men?

Fucking liars and the most SELFISH pricks I HAVE EVER met.

The one before that with the same birthday would ignore me to play video games...for WEEKS. I would be crying, and Ed be playing games because I didn't matter but dare I break up, and be the prince of my dreams along with telling me my faults wtf? They don't care about anyone's hurt but their own. The only time they will do something for someone is if it can benefit themselves or if they can feel better from it, it's all about them and their emotions they will NEVER do anything for another

Is this the same guy from before or a new one?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/astrology/i-hate-cancer-men-i-hate-them-6635099/

I hate them so much I felt a need to make a thread about it in the FUCKING astrology thread. FUCK YOU MANIPULATIVE LITTLE BITCH BOYS. GROW THE FUCK UP AND BE ME. JESUS FUCKING CHRIST. Fucking go back in your shell where you fucking came from and get TF out of my face. I HATE cancer me. Hey are the most manipulative, lying, bastardous fucking retarded, and shit excuses of her man beings. I am FINISHED dealing with cancer me . If I find out someone is a cancer me. The phone gets blocked, good fucking bye, not even an explanation.

If it helps balance the scales, I have had my hear broken really bad by a pisces once, almost as good looking as you. Looking back, all we needed was to be able to talk to each other rather than hide behind the fears of our own hurt feelings. I think I see similarities here. The problem is the hurt is pretty deep because you both may pretend it doesnt so keep trying to hurt the other, so it spirals. It's also tough when you're both really young too, because talking and communicating is even MORE difficult.

Either way i hope you guys can at least amend the friendship if nothing else and if not, then there are others in the sea.

Posted by rabidtalker
Is this the same guy from before or a new one?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/astrology/i-hate-cancer-men-i-hate-them-6635099/

I hate them so much I felt a need to make a thread about it in the FUCKING astrology thread. FUCK YOU MANIPULATIVE LITTLE BITCH BOYS. GROW THE FUCK UP AND BE ME. JESUS FUCKING CHRIST. Fucking go back in your shell where you fucking came from and get TF out of my face. I HATE cancer me. Hey are the most manipulative, lying, bastardous fucking retarded, and shit excuses of her man beings. I am FINISHED dealing with cancer me . If I find out someone is a cancer me. The phone gets blocked, good fucking bye, not even an explanation.

If it helps balance the scales, I have had my hear broken really bad by a pisces once, almost as good looking as you. Looking back, all we needed was to be able to talk to each other rather than hide behind the fears of our own hurt feelings. I think I see similarities here. The problem is the hurt is pretty deep because you both may pretend it doesnt so keep trying to hurt the other, so it spirals. It's also tough when you're both really young too, because talking and communicating is even MORE difficult.

Either way i hope you guys can at least amend the friendship if nothing else and if not, then there are others in the sea.

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Yes same guy. I stopped hiding my hurt. But he's so fucking immature. I sat there with him and decided that we need to fix things so I was like making a list of things we'd both feel would help us better communicate such as the ten second rule. Midway through it he decided he can't do any of it because he's "too hurt" like man the fuck up you have done more to me than I did to you. He just had a perfect little fucking life and childhood and can't handle not being babied. Fucking pathetic. I tell him how I feel and it never changes and I'm fucking open but his truth changes about as much as his fucking moods we will never be friends fuck him

He might have a delicate/fragile ego. Plant a few ideas in his head and make it think it's his idea and you'll make more headway. Scorp rising, scorp mars (probably in 1st house?), aries venus, you have a lot of aries energy and from the way you write and stuff i can tell you are very direct, this might be difficult. I dont mean to be a chauvenist or anything but you might be smashing his idea of his role in this relationship (or whatever it is at this point).

Posted by rabidtalker
He might have a delicate/fragile ego. Plant a few ideas in his head and make it think it's his idea and you'll make more headway. Scorp rising, scorp mars (probably in 1st house?), aries venus, you have a lot of aries energy and from the way you write and stuff i can tell you are very direct, this might be difficult. I dont mean to be a chauvenist or anything but you might be smashing his idea of his role in this relationship (or whatever it is at this point).

What do you mean?

And no it's okay I want to know honest opinions

This might be more than what you want to do and there may be others out there who are easier to date but

he doesnt sound experienced, he needs molding but he's delicate so you have to make it seem like it's his idea. it sounds like you're telling him how and when he's fucking up and it can be 100% true but he will feel his inadequacy. it sounds like he doesnt know what to do or how to be in a relationship and doesnt know how to learn it.

i'm sorry but i have to go to sleep i only planned to be on this site for an hour tonight (it's almost been 1.5 hours). good luck.



edit: or you can move on... lol i could just be full of it. i *am* a cancer male after all, evil incarnate, you get the gist 😈

Posted by rabidtalker
This might be more than what you want to do and there may be others out there who are easier to date but

he doesnt sound experienced, he needs molding but he's delicate so you have to make it seem like it's his idea. it sounds like you're telling him how and when he's fucking up and it can be 100% true but he will feel his inadequacy. it sounds like he doesnt know what to do or how to be in a relationship and doesnt know how to learn it.

Oh defiantly I am the first girl he's ever kissed or anything or had a real relationship with.

Posted by CAPLOCKISBACK
MOVE THE FUCK ON MOVE THE FUCK ON

MOVE THE FUCK ON MOVE THE FUCK ON

😆 yes you're right

Posted by Geminigal123
Who told you you had to chase him? I have nothing against women chasing men.... But from your first few lines, it is obv he didn't enjoy the attention for what it is. It was more of an ego stroke for him.

Ego stroke?

And he told me he loved me and then would take it back and I always chase but whenever I decided to stop he would basically threaten to kill himself so I never stopped and we ended up together because he "needed me"

Posted by rabidtalker
i'm sorry but i have to go to sleep i only planned to be on this site for an hour tonight (it's almost been 1.5 hours). good luck.



edit: or you can move on... lol i could just be full of it. i *am* a cancer male after all, evil incarnate, you get the gist 😈

Goodnight!

No I mean I wanted it to work out and I always swallowed my pride bit my younger ad did things that were difficult for the sake of us and he just wouldn't do that. I can't have that I'm sorry about your emotions but I need someone who can put them aside for the sake if another or a relationship and as far as I've seen I won't get that with most cancer men

the "ten seconds rule" is for when you drop food on the floor or sthg?

Here's your posting history:



I hate Cancer men

I love my Cancer

I hate Cancers

I'm chasing my Cancer

I hate my man

I love my man



And this has been going on for quite a while. At some point, I would think that your brain would kick in, but, that doesn't appear to happen.

Posted by GiveMeAqua
My question for you, Is this man really worth the investment?

At the end of the day you have to accept that you can't Make him be the man you want or need him to be. He either is or he isn't. Some people are too set in their ways to realized that their destructive behavior is harming their close relationships.. That's their problem, it's no one else's job to make someone else change. This isn't a build a man work shop, you can't pick the guy you want and tweak all the nasty imperfections you don't like to make him your ideal match.

I'm not saying this to be harsh, I've been there, done that and you're slowly becoming as crazy as you say he is.. Loving someone means accepting them they way they are, the good the bad and ugly and you have to decide If these not so great parts are deal breakers in the end.. From the sounds of it you need to,

Move the Treetrunk On!!!

Why continue wasting both of your time, when you can actually meet someone that better fits you? 🙂

Build a man workshop 😆 I guess it's hard after two years to let go completely. We aren't dating but we were friends and he's still doing shit so I guess you're right I need to drop him

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Posted by Geminigal123
Who told you you had to chase him? I have nothing against women chasing men.... But from your first few lines, it is obv he didn't enjoy the attention for what it is. It was more of an ego stroke for him.

Ego stroke?

And he told me he loved me and then would take it back and I always chase but whenever I decided to stop he would basically threaten to kill himself so I never stopped and we ended up together because he "needed me"

For him 'love' was just a word to toy with other's feelings. Emotional manipulation....

See, as soon as you stopped chasing him he was back to emotional manipulation.

So, how long do you intend to chase him? Venus not your responsibility you know? Are you getting some kinda high out of the mind fuckery he is doling out?

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Well it took a few months, but I guess I look a it like this. I don't want to miss out on anything and when I chase someone, I really want to be with them, I don't wan to miss out, and anything that challenges me is worth it and ill do it to get that person even if in reality they aren't worth it.

Posted by hydorah
the "ten seconds rule" is for when you drop food on the floor or sthg?

If you're mad at someone, don't say something right away, wait ten seconds to calm down and think about it first

Posted by P-Angel
Here's your posting history:



I hate Cancer men

I love my Cancer

I hate Cancers

I'm chasing my Cancer

I hate my man

I love my man



And this has been going on for quite a while. At some point, I would think that your brain would kick in, but, that doesn't appear to happen.

I haven't posted anything about me chasing or loving him in two years. In the beginning yes I did that. I broke up with him moths ago, and for a really good reason. I can't love him that way anymore, but I didn't drop him as a friend and he sat there and manipulated me and did all kinds of shit behind my back despite the fact we aren't a thing anymore, and I'm having a hard time just throwing him out if my life completely, but he keeps doing shit. And it's like he doesn't see that I'm a fucking human with feelings and trying to fuck around my life isn't okay

Posted by Redoctober2000
From what I can recall OP, you don't have a great personality yourself to be honest....

So look like to "water markers" have met each other. . Perfect balance!!!

I'm not the perfect person, I can say that, and I have my faults, but I'm not someone who is going to sabotage someone or fuck them over to get my way like a sneaky little fucking child. And I'm actually willing to do things for someone else and willing to put in the effort needed to show someone I care rather than sitting there and when the person tries to leave throw out threats. He's fucking 19, not twelve we aren't in middle school anymore, he can be an adult.

You're both very young, so dont feel any shame in trying to figure out yourselves and your relationship style s. I can tell you both could not communicate with each other very well and it seemed he shut down at some point from talking which frustrated you. I understand he is talking bad about you to some of your friends but in order to move forward in your lives, you might just need to stop talking with him for a bit. This is also one of those cases where you will know who your real friends are and are not.

The other thing to realize is that you cant control how he acts or what he does, so if he chooses to display poor behavior, do not allow it to provoke a reaction from you. There is no last score in this, both sides lose, it is just harder to see when you are in the thick of it.

But right now if you guys are done (for 2 months and counting?) then end it and stop talking to him. Try to learn from it and grow as a person. One of the best and most wonderful things about relationships is learning about yourself. Do not lose this opportunity.

You're getting exactly what you deserve.

You say things about him like, "sneaky little fucking child", and many more horrendous things about him.

Considering you're stupid enough to want that in your life ..... it means you've earned him, earned it ... so you are deserving of having it.

I'm not going to hold your hand and treat you like the little weak girl you want to play at when you come in here and try to get people to coddle you.

You're ridiculous by choice, and only deserve to be treated like a piece of shit ... just as he does because that is what you put out to come back.

you could try being better person .... but, that might be too honorable for such a low person, who actually wants to be treated like dog shit.

So, my counsel to you is: try hitting him, maybe when he's not looking ... then perhaps you could more of the abuse you are craving.