Attracting People with Issues

I've noticed that I seem to attract people who have been/are deeply hurt, and they always seem to come to me for advice. My friends come to me when they need advice, but even people who are acquaintances come to me for advice. And they all seem to tell me deep secrets because they trust me right away. Are there any aspects or placements that cause this?

But who hasn't got issues?

Posted by 4youbinator2
But who hasn't got issues?

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Yur cancer Moon...empathy..nurturing..the moon that gives a shoukder to cry on..puts everyone at ease 😄

And your Virgo ascendant = the helpful person.

And Taurus sun...sooo stable, people can rely on you, cry before you..you are solid and provide support.

The struggle is real! This happens to me as well!!

Posted by CruellaWhite
What crowds do you move in? Some tribes open more than others?

It's a good thing to be seen as trustworthy and compassionate but if you are noticing a pattern it may be time to look beyond astrology and look inward. Do you have a history of landing in codependency relationships? Do you find yourself in toxic, unhealthy friendships...perhaps you are not the issue but you have toxic friends with toxic actions? So you constantly feel the need to be their anchor?

There's so many variables that could be why you attract the people you attract. Look out for your emotional health and sanity, be there for those when you can but dont allow their burdens to become your own...especially if their issues seem to be repetitive.

I understand everyone has their own issues, but most people tend to confide in a close friend, or a family member. I'll meet people for the first time, and they just pour their heart out to me without really knowing me. They'll seek advice from me rather than their close friends. I don't mind helping others, but sometimes it gets overwhelming and it affects my mood. It could just be the people I surround myself with idk.

Posted by KittyKnitter
you could be an empath
if you are affected by other people's energy then you need to be aware of protecting yourself. it's ok to give advice and be a nurturer and be proud of that but too much negativity or struggle even in someone else's life can be overpowering if you feel responsible for helping them

That's what I was thinking as a possibility. Certain people overwhelm me with their problems and constantly seek advice, and sometimes I just have to take a step back because it starts to negatively impact me.

Posted by thefierybull
I understand everyone has their own issues, but most people tend to confide in a close friend, or a family member. I'll meet people for the first time, and they just pour their heart out to me without really knowing me. They'll seek advice from me rather than their close friends. I don't mind helping others, but sometimes it gets overwhelming and it affects my mood. It could just be the people I surround myself with idk.

Totally get this... total strangers walk up to me and share very deep and personal things, some deeply heartbreaking. It used to make me crazy but the older I get the more I've realized what a gift it really is. But I don't go to Walmart or mall or anywhere super public on a Saturday afternoon, if I'm in a hurry. 😄

Posted by CruellaWhite

Posted by TaurusinTexas

Posted by thefierybull
I understand everyone has their own issues, but most people tend to confide in a close friend, or a family member. I'll meet people for the first time, and they just pour their heart out to me without really knowing me. They'll seek advice from me rather than their close friends. I don't mind helping others, but sometimes it gets overwhelming and it affects my mood. It could just be the people I surround myself with idk.

Totally get this... total strangers walk up to me and share very deep and personal things, some deeply heartbreaking. It used to make me crazy but the older I get the more I've realized what a gift it really is. But I don't go to Walmart or mall or anywhere super public on a Saturday afternoon, if I'm in a hurry. 😄

I would not say that is a gift though. Sounds creepy.

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I think ppl need to be heard and I think I've been given a gift to be able to hear and offer comfort and sometimes advice but I'm older, so I also know how to handle their emotions and it's not draining on me anymore.

Posted by CruellaWhite
You don't have to allow people share with you if you don't want them to. Simply say you may not be the best person. Or just listen without taking it on so much.

It could be you give good advice?

That's what I try to do these days, I listen without taking it on so much.

Sun in Pisces, Moon in 12th, Mars in Cancer