Folks with an attached/romantic Venus mixed with an aloof, busy Mars

How do you manage to cope with these two energies? Speaking only in terms of dating.
I'm aware of the notion that a woman mostly operates in love and dating based off of the energy from her Venus sign. However, I think along with myself, a lot of you could find that to be untrue. My Mars is in Gemini in the ninth house, and I feel this energy constantly. I get crushes easily, I like to flirt, date and enjoy interacting with people in a light, exciting manner.
And as for my Venus in Taurus in the seventh house, all I want is to deeply attach and trust someone -- I wanna be in it for the long haul. It does take a long time for my Venus to officially bond; Taurus placements are slow. But once I'm attached, I dig my heels in. And it's hard to find someone who can offer both of these things to me.
Mars in Gemini is quite scattered energy, and I can lose interest rather quickly; my Taurus Venus has held onto things longer than my Mars wanted it to lol
I desire a partner who can understand my need for space, freedom and they need to be able to keep up with me. But I also need them to be stable, loyal and not averse to my need to bond, merge and be romantic. That can be highly confusing to potential suitors, I'm sure. It has been in the past. And I'm looking for perspectives from others who have a similar experience with conflicting energies in their chart.

Well I have a Venus in Taurus and a Mars in Cancer - so I want to merge with you, be romantic, make this cozy safe serene home with you but then my mars kicks in and I'm an emotional basket case and can be incredibly passive aggressive - I just think this adds to my charm, keeps him guessing and on his toes! 😄