How can i re-ignite aquarius' interest?

Hello all!

I need some advice. I'm a capricorn who had an amorous fling with an aqua guy. It was shortlived: I developed feelings, wrote him poetry, and he decided he wasn't interested. I was heartbroken.

Since our one and only discussion on how he couldn't reciprocate the feelings I had for him, we have not talked about it again. We're friends, if only it was because we are in the same clique of buddies. I try to act normal, like the rejection never bothered me and try to maintain a friendly relationship with him. He tries too, I think, but I know deep inside he is uncomfortable with how I once offered my heart. I think sometimes he notices in my expression a longing for him, and I can see from his actions that he tries to keep a distance during these instances. Other times however, he goes as far as to hold my hand, stroking it even...but I suppose he thinks of it as a friendly gesture rather than a romantic one. We talk and laugh online and when we meet, but sometimes we couldn't be as comfortable with each other because unsaid emotions get in the way...u know what I mean, i hope.

I am careful not to share any of my feelings with him, confiding in friends instead. I act cool and friendly but control urges to be affectionate, although once in a while when he aches in the neck, I offer him a friendly rub which he appreciates and thanks me for.

Anyway, I now need to decide: if I shouldn't give up and try to win him back (how?) or if I should just carry this pain in my heart as I try to keep this frienship going the way I think he wants it (and in the process, be someone he can better appreciate albeit only as a friend).

Any thoughts, oipinons and advice appreciated.

Capricorn in dilemma

Hi Caprianna,

You sound like you are still hurting from this experience and I would suggest you give yourself time to heal and perhaps fill your life as much as possible with people who do really care about you.

I'm wondering if you have thought about if you were to 'win' him back, he has the same potential as before to leave you heartbroken again, and that isn't going to be to be good for you. I think as you share the same circle of friends, you may know in time what he is feeling for you, but then again you may not. Perhaps if you really like this guy you should give him alot of space and see whether he comes back to you. I'm sure there are other people who have read your post and can offer advice and 'tips' on how to proceed, i'm just not a big fan of playing games because at the end of the day you need to be you and not morph into some-one who he will be intrigued by, buts thats just me.

Good luck with the future, hope everything turns out well.

I second what people adviced you above Capriana...
Just give him a lot of space. That doesnt guarantee that he will come back to you but it will certainly help you move on if he doesnt. Stop spending too much time with your groups of friends...branch out. good luck.

and people always value what is not readily available...