How do I get my Libra man back? Libra-Leo

Hello-I'm new here and was dating a wonderful libra man for 5 months, everything went well, chemestry, friendship and everything else went well. We both agree that it was a perfect sync with both. He-Libra and me Leo woman. We've both showed affection and love for each other during the entire relationship until one day I slipped and said the love word and scared him away. He said that he's not there, even though I know he is. His actions are stronger than words and I know in my heart that he does love me. We've now stopped all contact, according to him we both need a little be of alone time. What does that mean? He tells me he's not ready for something serious but neither was I. How can I get him back since I know that we both miss each other. Even our friendship is strong and conversations are awesome. Its so hard for me to function without any contact with him and its already been a week. Any ideas?

First-thing's-first, listen to what he told you and respect it - do not continue to project your feelings unto him.

If he's asked for alone time/space then he wants to put distance between the two of you. Let him go - concentrate on you and try not to dwell/over-analyze his every word or action or the reason why he's creating distance. Just take care of yourself, live, breathe, and refuse to be put on ice for anyone.

Sorry you are feeling bad...

Ok. I've done that and have no problems with that. Since he wants space do I give it to him or what do I do? I don't want to appear needy and also hear that Libras like to chase.

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librasrule36- I have been quiet for a week and giving him the space. Any possibilities to get him back or will a Libra just go on and not turn back.

Posted by jsharck
Ok. I've done that and have no problems with that. Since he wants space do I give it to him or what do I do? I don't want to appear needy and also hear that Libras like to chase.

Yes, give him all space he needs but more importantly concentrate on you and your needs. While you are trying to give him what he wants...the bigger question is what does jsharck want?

Don't believe the hype - think of it this way:

Someone is pursuing you and you have asked this person to back off. He disregards your request and pursues even harder...

You are more likely to dig your heels in 'resist that which persist' and may even began to resent him/his advances. You don't want to come across as a bug-a-boo; maintain your dignity.

If you just focus on you and grant him his space- he may began to have second thoughts (and you may have second thoughts about him too)

LibrasRule36 - I want him. Everything with him is awesome especially the friendship and that is what I miss the most. Our talks after work about our day, etc.....future plans together and so on. I'll give him his space. Hard for a Leo to do since I tend to show off and try to get the center stage all the time but for him I will step down. I think that is another reason why I fell for him so fast is that as a Libra, they know how to give attention to someone and that is what this Leo likes. I'm working on myself but just in pain without contact.

J

Posted by jsharck
librasrule36- I have been quiet for a week and giving him the space. Any possibilities to get him back or will a Libra just go on and not turn back.

I say look inward for the answer to this - Do you want a guy who may be emotionally unavailable? You were kicking it for 5 months (TO ME, that is more than enough time to decide if you want to be exclusive with a person) and when you declare your love he cuts contact...

What does he have that you think you want?

Has he been open about what he wants from the relationship?

I can relate to how you feel...

He WILL call you but in the meantime take care of number 1 - you'll be happier for it. Trust.

Lol thank you for this topic..
I'm a libra (male) and I actually fell for a leo women like 2 years ago. There was definitely chemistry since we chased each other for like the whole year. During winter last year I kinda decided to just "leave" cause I needed my own "space". It's been 9 months since I've contacted her at all even though I still have feelings for her and she thinks I don't like her anymore and stuff.

Since its her birthday in a few days I'm deciding to say something on her "special" day. The only thing that I'm worried about or a libra would probably be worried about is how the leo would respond. If she doesn't say anything or says something negative, I think I would leave her for good. (Sadly, but really there's no point on going further if they don't want you)

I reallllly hope that she replies back and we go back to the same old times because I really don't want to just leave her be forever. I'm pretty sure your libra man thinks the same way as I do cause leo's are amazing people so don't worry, if he's worth the time he'll be back fersuree unless you had a fault which I assume you don't.

Hopefully you two get back together because I've always thought leo women libra man combo was amazing throughout my experiences so far. There's always that something where it kicks in a spark everytime.

LIBRAry - I wish my Libra man would call me on my birthday, mine is in a few weeks and hope he does call me with the good news. We'll see. During my alone time, its hurting so bad that I said something to him and I miss him very much. Hope yours works out too. I see him almost daily on our social networking site that we belong to. He's on there doing updates and I "think" he's checking on me but don't know if he is.

Others- Last night someone suggested I write a letter or send him a email telling him that I'm letting him go and to agree with him that I'm done and not ready like he is to push him away to pull him back? Will that work with a Libra?

No, I'd be inclined to believe that the letter tactic wouldn't work. If *I* told someone that I needed space and they sent me such a letter I would totally be relieved and would not go back to them. There is a reason, usually not a good one, that I would request space, distance, etc. from a person in the first place.

Write the letter, for theraputic reasons, but don't send it. He's asked for space - respect his request. I know you are hurting and your reaction right now is to hold on for dear life - but don't. Think of a time in your life where you wanted distance from a guy but he did not listen to you...

Did you go back to him?
Did you respect him?
Did you feel contempt for him?
Did you pull further away from him?

Why do you have your mind so made up about someone who has to think about whether he wants you or not?

yeah, no use analyzing it. he wants space, give him space. just keep urself busy.

one thing i've realized over time is that, especially being an overly affectionate and loving leo, it's imperative that i am up front with everyone i encounter about how i operate. i can toss the "L" word out there pretty early but it rarely ever denotes romantic interest. i easily "fall in love" with ppl. due to my extravagance in this department it's important that i sort of forewarn others of my typical behaviors and where i come from. i hate having to warn them but it's the only way without being false (changing myself) or expecting them to change or conform to me. i want us all to accept each other as is. if it doesn't work for them now, then it never will. i understand making minor adjustments out of respect but i will never compromise who i really am.

ninjamu-I'm glad you brought that up. It is good to tell people up front in the beginning. That is something that I'll have to remember.

LibrasRule36!- I didn't end up sending the email. I did draft it and that was it. I kept putting off sending it and then when I wasn't thinking of him he contacted me via email asking how I'm doing. I then replied and told him I'm doing great and he called. We talked and it seemed to be ok but talked as if we were only friends. Told me he has been busy with work. I haven't contacted him since and don't know where this will go. I do know that he was thinking about me that one day and hope he does turn back around since I still miss him. I like the questions that you asked me. There was another guy that was asking me out right before I met the Libra and he kept on bugging me over and over again. I did move further and further away to a point where I'm just so sick of him. I am giving the Libra space but really miss the attention that he gave me and wonder if that will come back. I know I should let go but harder when he is so nice to me.

Do libras move on quickly?

JS

ok, i get it. thanks!

Even before the breakup, he has been busy with work. I've been there many times with his schedule but do know what you are talking about.

virgogotme-he's not a sept libra but do know that he's been hurt before badly from a prev relationship.

JS

Hello,
just wondering if someone has any idea what has happened to my lovely libra? We have been in a happy realtionship for nearly two years we both live apart due to work and have seen each other nearly every weekend, this has been working well as we both have busy careers. For the past few weeks we have just not been getting on as well and yesterday he rung saying he was claustraphobic, things have changed, our lives are going in different directions? It is very out of character, he has got lots going on at the moment and lost a good friend who died. As hard as it is do I leave him be is there any chance he will come back for good? It was so out of the blue and I love him so much. I am a aquarius by the way!