How to slowly let a Virgo man down

So i am done with the Virgo guy as i lost the spark after he tried to test me we got in contact but i ain't feeling him the way i did before i am done either i be blunt or i let him down slowly i just don't know how to he already reacted insecure whenever i didn't want sex with him or whenever i would say i can not come over and becomes very dramatic in a very manipulative way which i do not deal with any longer i will no longer bend for him he had his chance and he wasted it

So i am done with the Virgo guy as i lost the spark after he tried to test me we got in contact but i ain't feeling him the way i did before i am done either i be blunt or i let him down slowly i just don't know how to he already reacted insecure whenever i didn't want sex with him or whenever i would say i can not come over and becomes very dramatic in a very manipulative way which i do not deal with any longer i will no longer bend for him he had his chance and he wasted it

I just ghosted him until he stopped stalking me..

Posted by SeaLion

I just ghosted him until he stopped stalking me..

He has a mars in aries venus in leo and moon in sagittarius i think that won't work on him lol but maybe i should ghost him i know whenever i tell him something he becomes dramatic i want to be honest but i think in this case it is best to just walk away

Why not just txt him that it was nice to get to know him but you just not feeling it and that it‘s best if you both let it be and move on? Dating doesn‘t need to be complicated

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Why not just txt him that it was nice to get to know him but you just not feeling it and that it‘s best if you both let it be and move on? Dating doesn‘t need to be complicated

He is not that easy to get rid off even though he ghosted me it was more so to manipulate me in some way thinking i would chase him but he fooled himself instead.

The thing is it is ok for him to reject me or to ignore me but when it is the other way around he gets very tempered i do not like to do things over text because then i feel like a coward i think i will speak to him face to face instead this week and end things.

Tell him exactly that.

Hey, your constant tests and then space helped me clear my head and I'm not looking at you in a romantic light anymore. Just a heads up that I'm not going to give you sex. Up to you whether you want to waste your time on me.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Tell him exactly that.

Hey, your constant tests and then space helped me clear my head and I'm not looking at you in a romantic light anymore. Just a heads up that I'm not going to give you sex. Up to you whether you want to waste your time on me.

Thanks ! yeah i will hope he won't take it too bad

just say "this isn't working for me" so I do not want to talk to you or see you again and then end with goodbye

Posted by dilettante

if you dont mind, how did he test you?

i fuck w/ a virgo w/ these placements.

long story lol at first he got jealous possessive and vulnerable then his feelings got too overwhelming and he backed off also after sexually opening up (certain things he liked) telling me he was emotionally too close to me and already wanted to know with who i am what i do and where i am going (where as he said i am not ready for a relationship but i wanna see where this is going) i am very busy with work at the moment and that is my main focus i am getting a promotion in April and then said can you please trust me ...next thing i know after all the things he said he ghosts me for 2 weeks and i felt being kept on a leash where as before he would contact me every other day or so and even call me after work and we would have calls of 2 hours or more not that i need to speak with him every day but at least know what his thoughts are because people often say things and words are just words to me.. so as i told him how i felt he became very unfair recorded a voice message on whats app with many nasty things said but deleted it within 10 seconds without knowing i had listened to the whole message then instead blocks me and sends me a text message very short. and after a month he unblocks me but doesn't talk and wanting me to send him a message as i have no ego in the way i forgive and i take the next step which was last week Wednesday i think he then threw me off with literally one message which gave me a clear confirmation that he was waiting for my message and being an asshole (he said "very brave of you to try again") at that moment i was like ok go fuck yourself inside my head so i talked with him but didn't reply to that so next thing he asks me is (do you wanna come over like nothing ever happened) asking for me to massage him and come and relax at his house ...so when i said no he kind of felt butt hurt and said ( guess i have to find someone else who can help me )and said some other things because he likes to get things his way

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by LadyNeptune

Tell him exactly that.

Hey, your constant tests and then space helped me clear my head and I'm not looking at you in a romantic light anymore. Just a heads up that I'm not going to give you sex. Up to you whether you want to waste your time on me.

Thanks ! yeah i will hope he won't take it too bad

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Why care about his feels?

He didn't care about yours when he ghosted/played games.

I say be brutal and rip the bandaid off. No softening of the blow cause then he'll just think theres still a chance he can add you to his weekly rotation.

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Why not just txt him that it was nice to get to know him but you just not feeling it and that it‘s best if you both let it be and move on? Dating doesn‘t need to be complicated

He is not that easy to get rid off even though he ghosted me it was more so to manipulate me in some way thinking i would chase him but he fooled himself instead.

The thing is it is ok for him to reject me or to ignore me but when it is the other way around he gets very tempered i do not like to do things over text because then i feel like a coward i think i will speak to him face to face instead this week and end things.

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How long have you been seeing eachother?

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by dilettante

if you dont mind, how did he test you?

i fuck w/ a virgo w/ these placements.

long story lol at first he got jealous possessive and vulnerable then his feelings got too overwhelming and he backed off also after sexually opening up (certain things he liked) telling me he was emotionally too close to me and already wanted to know with who i am what i do and where i am going (where as he said i am not ready for a relationship but i wanna see where this is going) i am very busy with work at the moment and that is my main focus i am getting a promotion in April and then said can you please trust me ...next thing i know after all the things he said he ghosts me for 2 weeks and i felt being kept on a leash where as before he would contact me every other day or so and even call me after work and we would have calls of 2 hours or more not that i need to speak with him every day but at least know what his thoughts are because people often say things and words are just words to me.. so as i told him how i felt he became very unfair recorded a voice message on whats app with many nasty things said but deleted it within 10 seconds without knowing i had listened to the whole message then instead blocks me and sends me a text message very short. and after a month he unblocks me but doesn't talk and wanting me to send him a message as i have no ego in the way i forgive and i take the next step which was last week Wednesday i think he then threw me off with literally one message which gave me a clear confirmation that he was waiting for my message and being an asshole (he said "very brave of you to try again") at that moment i was like ok go fuck yourself inside my head so i talked with him but didn't reply to that so next thing he asks me is (do you wanna come over like nothing ever happened) asking for me to massage him and come and relax at his house ...so when i said no he kind of felt butt hurt and said ( guess i have to find someone else who can help me )and said some other things because he likes to get things his way

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Just based off of this you telling him no is gonna do him a world of good.

Sounds like an entitled asshole. Knock him down a few pegs.

Just make sure to tell him that his behavior (playing games, blocking on sm, ghosting for 2 weeks etc) is what turned you off. Maybe the next chick will benefit from you telling him like it is.

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Why not just txt him that it was nice to get to know him but you just not feeling it and that it‘s best if you both let it be and move on? Dating doesn‘t need to be complicated

He is not that easy to get rid off even though he ghosted me it was more so to manipulate me in some way thinking i would chase him but he fooled himself instead.

The thing is it is ok for him to reject me or to ignore me but when it is the other way around he gets very tempered i do not like to do things over text because then i feel like a coward i think i will speak to him face to face instead this week and end things.

How long have you been seeing eachother?

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2 and a halve months and 1 month only texting before ever meeting

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by dilettante

if you dont mind, how did he test you?

i fuck w/ a virgo w/ these placements.

long story lol at first he got jealous possessive and vulnerable then his feelings got too overwhelming and he backed off also after sexually opening up (certain things he liked) telling me he was emotionally too close to me and already wanted to know with who i am what i do and where i am going (where as he said i am not ready for a relationship but i wanna see where this is going) i am very busy with work at the moment and that is my main focus i am getting a promotion in April and then said can you please trust me ...next thing i know after all the things he said he ghosts me for 2 weeks and i felt being kept on a leash where as before he would contact me every other day or so and even call me after work and we would have calls of 2 hours or more not that i need to speak with him every day but at least know what his thoughts are because people often say things and words are just words to me.. so as i told him how i felt he became very unfair recorded a voice message on whats app with many nasty things said but deleted it within 10 seconds without knowing i had listened to the whole message then instead blocks me and sends me a text message very short. and after a month he unblocks me but doesn't talk and wanting me to send him a message as i have no ego in the way i forgive and i take the next step which was last week Wednesday i think he then threw me off with literally one message which gave me a clear confirmation that he was waiting for my message and being an asshole (he said "very brave of you to try again") at that moment i was like ok go fuck yourself inside my head so i talked with him but didn't reply to that so next thing he asks me is (do you wanna come over like nothing ever happened) asking for me to massage him and come and relax at his house ...so when i said no he kind of felt butt hurt and said ( guess i have to find someone else who can help me )and said some other things because he likes to get things his way

Just based off of this you telling him no is gonna do him a world of good.

Sounds like an entitled asshole. Knock him down a few pegs.

Just make sure to tell him that his behavior (playing games, blocking on sm, ghosting for 2 weeks etc) is what turned you off. Maybe the next chick will benefit from you telling him like it is.

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He is very much my way or the high way it is not that i don't wanna hurt his feelings i had so much drama that right now if there is any more drama i am ready to kill someone but yeah you are right he already found me detached and was nagging about the fact that i didn't want to open up i told him how it made me feel and he just denies everything like what games what this and that so then i just simply let it go and think ok whatever you will never acknowledge a damn thing ...

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Why not just txt him that it was nice to get to know him but you just not feeling it and that it‘s best if you both let it be and move on? Dating doesn‘t need to be complicated

He is not that easy to get rid off even though he ghosted me it was more so to manipulate me in some way thinking i would chase him but he fooled himself instead.

The thing is it is ok for him to reject me or to ignore me but when it is the other way around he gets very tempered i do not like to do things over text because then i feel like a coward i think i will speak to him face to face instead this week and end things.

How long have you been seeing eachother?

2 and a halve months and 1 month only texting before ever meeting

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Hm and how often have you seen eachother irl?

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Why not just txt him that it was nice to get to know him but you just not feeling it and that it‘s best if you both let it be and move on? Dating doesn‘t need to be complicated

He is not that easy to get rid off even though he ghosted me it was more so to manipulate me in some way thinking i would chase him but he fooled himself instead.

The thing is it is ok for him to reject me or to ignore me but when it is the other way around he gets very tempered i do not like to do things over text because then i feel like a coward i think i will speak to him face to face instead this week and end things.

How long have you been seeing eachother?

2 and a halve months and 1 month only texting before ever meeting

Hm and how often have you seen eachother irl?

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5/6 times once a week or so

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Why not just txt him that it was nice to get to know him but you just not feeling it and that it‘s best if you both let it be and move on? Dating doesn‘t need to be complicated

He is not that easy to get rid off even though he ghosted me it was more so to manipulate me in some way thinking i would chase him but he fooled himself instead.

The thing is it is ok for him to reject me or to ignore me but when it is the other way around he gets very tempered i do not like to do things over text because then i feel like a coward i think i will speak to him face to face instead this week and end things.

How long have you been seeing eachother?

2 and a halve months and 1 month only texting before ever meeting

Hm and how often have you seen eachother irl?

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5/6 times once a week or so

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by LadyNeptune

Tell him exactly that.

Hey, your constant tests and then space helped me clear my head and I'm not looking at you in a romantic light anymore. Just a heads up that I'm not going to give you sex. Up to you whether you want to waste your time on me.

Thanks ! yeah i will hope he won't take it too bad

Why care about his feels?

He didn't care about yours when he ghosted/played games.

I say be brutal and rip the bandaid off. No softening of the blow cause then he'll just think theres still a chance he can add you to his weekly rotation.

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I forgot to mention he still has something that belongs to me that i need to get back and whenever i asked him when can i pick it up he says i will let you know....i even told him you can also send it to me

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by dewiklaessen277

Posted by LadyNeptune

Tell him exactly that.

Hey, your constant tests and then space helped me clear my head and I'm not looking at you in a romantic light anymore. Just a heads up that I'm not going to give you sex. Up to you whether you want to waste your time on me.

Thanks ! yeah i will hope he won't take it too bad

Why care about his feels?

He didn't care about yours when he ghosted/played games.

I say be brutal and rip the bandaid off. No softening of the blow cause then he'll just think theres still a chance he can add you to his weekly rotation.

click to expand

I forgot to mention he still has something that belongs to me that i need to get back and whenever i asked him when can i pick it up he says i will let you know....i even told him you can also send it to me