1yr 8 mnth relationship with a Scorpio and already I feel like a mess (CONFUSED)..From a (libra) perspective is it the fact that you just can not be in contol that drives us crazy?..or can anyone else out there explain from experience?
Libra Girl /Scorpio Guy
Girl I'm in the same position, except we have only been seeing eachother 1 year and I have no clue what to do,but I hope it works out
I think what it is is that scorpios are very intense. Scorpio men, in particular are very serious and like (i think?!) things to go their way, from what i can tell. I love scorpio men, i get along with them like a house on fire because i dont want anything from them, except friendship.
Librans like balance and the scorps constant games of 'i love you, now i dont', seems to drive us insane. Ive had two relationships with scorpios and on both occasions they have ended in tears.
Scorps are fun people and i get along with them as friends like anything, although i sometimes disagree with the way they (the ones i know anyway) operate.
There is good and bad in every sign. There are some pretty naughty librans out there; i have to keep myself constantly in check!
Good luck hun.
Librans like balance and the scorps constant games of 'i love you, now i dont', seems to drive us insane. Ive had two relationships with scorpios and on both occasions they have ended in tears.
Scorps are fun people and i get along with them as friends like anything, although i sometimes disagree with the way they (the ones i know anyway) operate.
There is good and bad in every sign. There are some pretty naughty librans out there; i have to keep myself constantly in check!
Good luck hun.
geesch. scorps and libras don't mix well. One will try to control the other, and Libra- you won't stand for that!!!
Good luck anyway
Good luck anyway
Well, this Libra girl does. I like to be put in five-point restraints!!!!!!!
my libra played with my emotions and lied to me about basically everything..lol... and i gave him space and love and this is wut i get in return -_- well all i know is that i know a lotta fun nice libras except my ex was just FUCKED UP. Scuse my language but due to the sudden spur of anger i just had to let that out 🙂
wut did you get in return——??
Hi!
Scorpions and Libras are a really bad combination! I (being a Libra) was in a long-term with a Scorp and he did nothing but play games with me! One minute he "loved" me and the next minute he would avoid my phone calls! He made me feel like there was something wrong with me and he really messed up my self-confidence! It took me a really long time to figure out that he was the one that was insecure and he made himself feel better at my expense! In my opinion-Scorpios are not intense-they are insane-and the further you can get from them-the better!
Scorpions and Libras are a really bad combination! I (being a Libra) was in a long-term with a Scorp and he did nothing but play games with me! One minute he "loved" me and the next minute he would avoid my phone calls! He made me feel like there was something wrong with me and he really messed up my self-confidence! It took me a really long time to figure out that he was the one that was insecure and he made himself feel better at my expense! In my opinion-Scorpios are not intense-they are insane-and the further you can get from them-the better!
There is much sympathetic magnetism between these two signs. While Scorpio is the more dominant sign of the two, the libran's beauty and sense of fair play appeal to Scorpios good judgment. Libra sees all the virtues that she admires in Scorpio, for scorpio's sex drive is all libra's hope to be. There is much to recommend this union, for they have many sympathies in common. Librans are sentimental and susceptible as lovers. This seems to be appealing to scorpio's dominant and possessive urges. AS long as libra does not hurt scorpio's pride, Librians will find what they are looking for when they marry a Scorpio.
There is a strong sexual attraction here, but libra may find scorpio's intense nature a bit overwhelming. Common goals and shared interests could avert any difficulties.
There is a strong sexual attraction here, but libra may find scorpio's intense nature a bit overwhelming. Common goals and shared interests could avert any difficulties.
I have to agree with 216 and Lady Libra. A serious relationship between Scorp and Libra usually does not work. I've been there. I also have a brother that is a Scorp and we ALWAYS fought, always disagreed. Maybe, just maybe with friendship it would work but not an intimate alliance.
To all those who have been hurt in the past, I feel for you all. I hope you have been able to heal from it and to go on to find just what you always wanted.
I do however, have a special place in my heart for Scorpios! I can only tell you from the perspective of a daughter having been raised by a Scorpio father.
I see him as my best friend, confidant, spirtual teacher, healer, compadrie, protector, and when there was a storm going on in my life he was the one you could go to for safety. As a matter of fact, he was at his best when coming from a position of service to others. His heart is huge and his feelings are too. Yet, he never wanted to burden others with them even when he felt pain. He has big shoulders and trys to take everyones problems on himself, and usually can solve them, if people were smart enough to listen to his advice. I love him for this!!! What a truly loving and generous soul.
However, here comes the part that I hear many people compalin about who don't take the time or just don't understand how to peel back the deep layers of a Scorpios personailty.
With all the good things about my father, there were othertimes that he was unpredictable and moody!!! He wants his privacy and will never tell you what he doesn't want you to know. I have been talking to him on the phone or in conversation and if he feels your not carrying on your end of the conversation, he will hang up on you or just cut you off. I sometimes see him lose intrest in a conversation and can tell he wants no more of it. I have been over to his house on numerous occassions and I know immediately when to leave. He is the same way. We waited to see my sister for years. Recently she was able to fly in for a visit with her kids--his grand kids. We hadn't even got home from the airport and he was wondering when the were going to leave!!! hahaha some of it was a joke but some of it was not! And here is why-- He needs his space. It is not because he doesn't love us; It's because he spends sooooo much emotional energy in every connection with others that he needs more down time than most to recharge his batteries. When my pops is there for you, you get his full attention or non at all!
Sincerely
Susan
I do however, have a special place in my heart for Scorpios! I can only tell you from the perspective of a daughter having been raised by a Scorpio father.
I see him as my best friend, confidant, spirtual teacher, healer, compadrie, protector, and when there was a storm going on in my life he was the one you could go to for safety. As a matter of fact, he was at his best when coming from a position of service to others. His heart is huge and his feelings are too. Yet, he never wanted to burden others with them even when he felt pain. He has big shoulders and trys to take everyones problems on himself, and usually can solve them, if people were smart enough to listen to his advice. I love him for this!!! What a truly loving and generous soul.
However, here comes the part that I hear many people compalin about who don't take the time or just don't understand how to peel back the deep layers of a Scorpios personailty.
With all the good things about my father, there were othertimes that he was unpredictable and moody!!! He wants his privacy and will never tell you what he doesn't want you to know. I have been talking to him on the phone or in conversation and if he feels your not carrying on your end of the conversation, he will hang up on you or just cut you off. I sometimes see him lose intrest in a conversation and can tell he wants no more of it. I have been over to his house on numerous occassions and I know immediately when to leave. He is the same way. We waited to see my sister for years. Recently she was able to fly in for a visit with her kids--his grand kids. We hadn't even got home from the airport and he was wondering when the were going to leave!!! hahaha some of it was a joke but some of it was not! And here is why-- He needs his space. It is not because he doesn't love us; It's because he spends sooooo much emotional energy in every connection with others that he needs more down time than most to recharge his batteries. When my pops is there for you, you get his full attention or non at all!
Sincerely
Susan
One other comment about Scorpio, Respect them always, don't ever try to get the upper hand with them, unless you are ready to go to war!. It just isn't going to happen. I have gotten in my share of battles with him and he always wins!! If there is such a thing as a winner. He has always out lasted me as far as a battle of wills. I always have to surrender first and after that we never talk about it again. I think they can forgive past hurts, if they know you are truly sincere and it doesn't happen again! I have more but then I don't want to bore you all.
Good Luck Lovers of Scoprio!
Susan
Good Luck Lovers of Scoprio!
Susan
Hi everyone...I am the one who originally wrote the question. Thank you for all of you who have responded.
Personally...my relationship with my scorpio guy is over. He walked out on me again. I love him still, I know I always will. However, the one thing that I can not seem to grasp about scorpios, or him is this: When they do you wrong ( as in something that really hurts your feelings) and you confront them with it, they want nothing to do with it. Our relationship was very unfair play..I treated him with the upmost respect, but when it came to me, he couldnt do the same and personally..not just from being a Libra, but a woman period. (or a human) You can only put up with someone hurting you so much. He was smart, and he did love me..but the games..or whatever you call them, where mean and hurtful, and EXTREMLY selfish of him to do the things that he did, and at the expence of my feelings. He use to always tell me You get what you give, and personally...I didnt get what I gave. I got the short end of the stick with him, and at the end he didnt want to fix what he had done, he would have rather turned his back on me again...and that is something that I cant forgive him for ever again.
I understand you!!! Much happiness for you. You deserve it!
This might be a strange comparison, but I'll make it anyway. Since I love to watch animals in their natural environment, I have wondered the same about humans. Male Scoprios remind me of the 'Alpha Male' in any species. They are always the most dominate and most protective,territorial, loyal etc...They are first to kill, first to eat, first to breed and whatever is left over for the rest of the family or pride or community, is split between them. Maybe we aren't that different from them. Maybe this goes all the way back to creation and was a system put in place for a reason. It was to keep the species going.
Sorry for errors, alright...geez not enough time!
Hi, I have to respond.
You see my father is also a Scorpio.
We have a very special relationship. I don't get in his way much, and he... well, I stay away from him, so that he can't get into mine, but I know that he loves me, and has proven to me and others that he's willing to do battle to protect me and my mother in any situation... as long as it involves his pride. In defense of him, I have to say that I uderstand him, and have had a wonderful relationship with him all throughout my childhood up until a point- the point where I needed to get out (could be my scorp rising I guess). Still, he proved to be too controlling for me. I will never let him have control over me again. Distance from him is great for me. He still provides me with whatever I need, and I can love him, and respect his accomplishments. That's as far as that goes. This Libra is out and free,although, I do try to visit when I can... for my mother's sake (virgo).
You see my father is also a Scorpio.
We have a very special relationship. I don't get in his way much, and he... well, I stay away from him, so that he can't get into mine, but I know that he loves me, and has proven to me and others that he's willing to do battle to protect me and my mother in any situation... as long as it involves his pride. In defense of him, I have to say that I uderstand him, and have had a wonderful relationship with him all throughout my childhood up until a point- the point where I needed to get out (could be my scorp rising I guess). Still, he proved to be too controlling for me. I will never let him have control over me again. Distance from him is great for me. He still provides me with whatever I need, and I can love him, and respect his accomplishments. That's as far as that goes. This Libra is out and free,although, I do try to visit when I can... for my mother's sake (virgo).
216.164,
I heard that!! Some Scorps may be like that. My dad was not. I got out when I was only 17, and never went back. Not because he was too controlling, but because I wan't to do what I wanted to do. My own thing. He never tried to interfere with my decisions. He was very supportive, but he had to learn at a very early age how to survive and so did we. It was a very good lesson, and I respect him for making me go through it. I think kids today are over protected, spoiled and dependent on their parents. In the long run it does more damage than good. Whenever I did run into some trouble though, he was there to help me.
I heard that!! Some Scorps may be like that. My dad was not. I got out when I was only 17, and never went back. Not because he was too controlling, but because I wan't to do what I wanted to do. My own thing. He never tried to interfere with my decisions. He was very supportive, but he had to learn at a very early age how to survive and so did we. It was a very good lesson, and I respect him for making me go through it. I think kids today are over protected, spoiled and dependent on their parents. In the long run it does more damage than good. Whenever I did run into some trouble though, he was there to help me.
Susan,
Thanks for providing me with a bit of insight into scorpios, it makes me understand them better. There are good qualities associated with every sign and scorpio is no exception to this. I suppose i have had some bad experiences with them, i think i need to find some of the types your father is. I can handle giving people their own space, i just cant handle nasty people and dont see why i should. My best friend from school (yes, miss scorpio) used to antagonise me, treated me like a slave (when i look back on it). She has now upped and moved without letting me know where she is. While i feel this is just another stab in the back, i am relieved. Why should i put up with someone like that. When i look back on it, i got very little from the relationship. Not the things i need anyway, which are equality, intellectual stimulation and a feeling of oneness with the person. Anyway, thats enough of that.
On the other hand, i have just become friends with a scorpio who is lovely. She is funny, generous and kind. She calls me 'sweety'!!! Its very cute and she treats everyone and every thing really well. I may even grow to like them yet!
Can i ask you something? What if you have done the wrong thing by one and you are not sorry but you want to apologise for the way you went about it? Its hard to know when to apologise. Maybe i should create another thread for this question.
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Thanks for providing me with a bit of insight into scorpios, it makes me understand them better. There are good qualities associated with every sign and scorpio is no exception to this. I suppose i have had some bad experiences with them, i think i need to find some of the types your father is. I can handle giving people their own space, i just cant handle nasty people and dont see why i should. My best friend from school (yes, miss scorpio) used to antagonise me, treated me like a slave (when i look back on it). She has now upped and moved without letting me know where she is. While i feel this is just another stab in the back, i am relieved. Why should i put up with someone like that. When i look back on it, i got very little from the relationship. Not the things i need anyway, which are equality, intellectual stimulation and a feeling of oneness with the person. Anyway, thats enough of that.
On the other hand, i have just become friends with a scorpio who is lovely. She is funny, generous and kind. She calls me 'sweety'!!! Its very cute and she treats everyone and every thing really well. I may even grow to like them yet!
Can i ask you something? What if you have done the wrong thing by one and you are not sorry but you want to apologise for the way you went about it? Its hard to know when to apologise. Maybe i should create another thread for this question.
210.50
Oh yeah, to the original poster.
You did everything you could. He is right, what comes around goes around. It may not come around with him. More importantly, you are walking away with your head held high. Self love and self respect are the most important things in life. Honestly, with all due respect to him, he is doing you a favour. You dont need to feel bad in your life.
Seeya,
210.50
You did everything you could. He is right, what comes around goes around. It may not come around with him. More importantly, you are walking away with your head held high. Self love and self respect are the most important things in life. Honestly, with all due respect to him, he is doing you a favour. You dont need to feel bad in your life.
Seeya,
210.50
i got LIES and PLAYING WITH MY EMOTIONS. THATS WUT I GOT. Didnt i just say that in the way beginning??
No, not really. You didn't say much except that they F***ED UP—? How can I respond to that. I have learned that there are three sides to every story, Yours, Theirs, and then the truth.
Just by the way you spoke with me, I have to say that I don't believe it was all the undoing of just one person. You may want to step back from your rigid point of view and except that you had a part in your situation too.
Don't want to sound mean to you, but you sound unrealistically angry. Just because someone doesn't do what you want them to do, doesn't give you the right to be angry and hostile with others.
I don't know what happened to you. I don't know what say or do, except to say I hope you get somewhere in your life and all of this suffering will stop and life and happiness will be made up to you in spades!!!!!!
Remember the Otis Redding song 'Try a Little Tenderness?? One of my favorites!
Susan
Just by the way you spoke with me, I have to say that I don't believe it was all the undoing of just one person. You may want to step back from your rigid point of view and except that you had a part in your situation too.
Don't want to sound mean to you, but you sound unrealistically angry. Just because someone doesn't do what you want them to do, doesn't give you the right to be angry and hostile with others.
I don't know what happened to you. I don't know what say or do, except to say I hope you get somewhere in your life and all of this suffering will stop and life and happiness will be made up to you in spades!!!!!!
Remember the Otis Redding song 'Try a Little Tenderness?? One of my favorites!
Susan
"Can i ask you something? What if you have done the wrong thing by one and you are not sorry but you want to apologise for the way you went about it? Its hard to know when to apologise. Maybe i should create another thread for this question."
210.50
If there is no truth to the apology and no sincerity then why are you bothering— If you don't care that it may have hurt them then why are you worried about it now. Next time think before you lash out!
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If there is no truth to the apology and no sincerity then why are you bothering— If you don't care that it may have hurt them then why are you worried about it now. Next time think before you lash out!
im sorry, this is online, maybe you got misunderstood the tone of my voice?? who knows? anyway, you dont know the whole story and im sure if you went through what i went through then you would understand and im pretty sure your gonna ask some stupid question like 'oh then you shouldve told me about it in the first place' just to save your a**. But anyway, i dont wanna look like a fool and make you think that i am 'unrealistically angry' because you dont kno jack s*** about the position i am in, you just make assumptions because i appeared 'hostile' in your face when i was just correcting you. alrite, and since you are saying things to my face about how i appear than i guess i have the right to lash out on you also. The Story is: i used to love this young boy. He was never there and never showed nothing(after awhile..) but i still loved him with all my heart. He was everything to me. I would do anything for this boy, care for him, feed him, wutever.. but sometimes he would say hurtful things and drive me to the point where i would wait for him everyday. He treated me like im some cheap whore. Basically i was taken advantaged but no i never let him have me as in take my virginity away. So i am still a virgin, thank god. I think sex is something special and that should be shared with someone u love and that loves you back...yes even tho i loved this boy.. and even tho sometimes it felt like he really loved me too..i still felt in the back of my mind that his feelings werent true..and it wasnt. He lied to me about everything..where he was and wut he did..everything. He played with my emotions like it was some sick joke. When all i ever did was want to be near him and love him. He accused me of things and put the blame on me which ofcourse hurt me deeply because from my point of view i did nothing wrong. He would say that i never gave him space..when all i ever did was give him it. He would always be off running somewhere..and he'd tell me where hes going..but thats not really where he was. I let him live his f*** life.. while i stayed back and basically just wasted mine. My closest friends would tell me that im blinding myself..that hes taking advantage of me..but i couldnt see it. Because i was so in love that i couldnt ..wouldnt..want to believe it. I didnt want to believe that the man i was in love was a liar and was some player..so i just went on with this artificial relationship.. he would only talk and stay with me if we were being affectionate with eachother.. and when he sees my worst..my problems..he would run off..and leave me there hanging. I cried every night wondering wut im doing to myself and also wondering where he was..and wut he was doing.. but i still couldnt realize anything.. i was too blinded from his 'love'. Now he wasnt ALWAYS like this..when we first met he was so kind..so caring..and i thought this was the real him..and when i got with him..everything just changed. And my whole world was turning and i didnt kno which way to turn. He would always get mad when i told him my feelings about waiting.. i waited for his phone calls and everything.. because i missed him so much..and i didnt want to miss if he did or not.. so i just waited, how pathetic is that?..anyway so basically i gave this guy everything, my trust, my devotion, my love, just..everything..but i dont think he realized how much i loved him..and if he did know it..then i guess he was just doing this intentionally. I would never get back with this boy.. hes just too twisted for me. He aint real.. everything that came out of his mouth was just lies. so fake. I was always honest with this guy..and yet he never gave the same back. But i guess the good side of this is that i stayed true to myself and to this guy..even tho he wasnt..atleast i was. Yea.. i realized one day that i couldnt keep living like this forever..so somehow it just ended...but i guess in a way..i left him becus i told him i had enough. And it was the best decision i ever made in m
I wouldn't tell you that you were wrong!!! You obviously opened your heart and for whatever reason the love you gave wasn't equal to the love he took from, which is probably the most painful and devistating place you would ever want to go. I understand exactly how you feel!!! I'll let you what I think , I think that what we want sooo much sometimes, isn't what we should have at that time in our lives and fate has a way of intervining. That your destiny is still out there waiting and hoping for you and you ALONE and when, and if, it ever comes to pass, you will forget all about your sorrow and hurt because the love you made will be equal to the love you take and it will be all yours!!! You will realize that things do happen without us being in control after all!
Please, don't lose faith in love because it is out there, and it will come to you in time, I pray.
My heart to your heart to your hand to mine!
Love,
S
Please, don't lose faith in love because it is out there, and it will come to you in time, I pray.
My heart to your heart to your hand to mine!
Love,
S
I wouldn't tell you that you were wrong!!! You obviously opened your heart and for whatever reason the love you gave wasn't equal to the love he took from you, which is probably the most painful and devistating place you would ever want to go. I understand exactly how you feel!!! I'll let you what I think , I think that what we want sooo much sometimes, isn't what we should have at that time in our lives and fate has a way of intervining. That your destiny is still out there waiting and hoping for you and you ALONE and when, and if, it ever comes to pass, you will forget all about your sorrow and hurt because the love you made will be equal to the love you take and it will be all yours!!! You will realize that things do happen without us being in control after all!
Please, don't lose faith in love because it is out there, and it will come to you in time, I pray.
My heart to your heart to your hand to mine!
Love,
S
Please, don't lose faith in love because it is out there, and it will come to you in time, I pray.
My heart to your heart to your hand to mine!
Love,
S
Susan,
I see you point about "why am i bothering". I guess im sorry for HOW i went about certain things but may not be sorry for HOW i felt at the time. An example would be if you told someone you didnt like them in a nice way then you have told the truth but in a nice way. If you told them you didnt like them in a nasty way then you have told the truth but in the WRONG way. Do you get my drift?
Sometimes things just dont come out the right way and you regret it later. Also, you may not really have meant what you said but feel they might not believe you if you apologise.
Yep, next time i will be thinking before i lash out, believe me. Some damage is permanent, i have learned this.
I appreciate your honesty; sometimes you just have to hear it like it is.
I see you point about "why am i bothering". I guess im sorry for HOW i went about certain things but may not be sorry for HOW i felt at the time. An example would be if you told someone you didnt like them in a nice way then you have told the truth but in a nice way. If you told them you didnt like them in a nasty way then you have told the truth but in the WRONG way. Do you get my drift?
Sometimes things just dont come out the right way and you regret it later. Also, you may not really have meant what you said but feel they might not believe you if you apologise.
Yep, next time i will be thinking before i lash out, believe me. Some damage is permanent, i have learned this.
I appreciate your honesty; sometimes you just have to hear it like it is.
Thats right too! A slap, kick, or a punch hurts and then your body heals. Hurtful words are with usfor life, aren't they. I'm quit sure your apology would be excepted. I would forget about it and not keep bringing it up. My loved ones and I sometimes never say 'I am sorry' we show them that we are! Sometimes this is better!
Good Luck
S
Good Luck
S
dittooooooo....! a scorpio drove me crazy for 8 years....didnt want me didnt want anyone else to have me.....even my first boyfriend/a scorpio/ STILL 20 years later and he is married to someone....gets jealous when i tell him i date. there is no greater love than this match. unfortunately...if you are satisfied w/someone loving you but hardly being into you or seeing you......then stay away from scor. ms. libra
dittooooooo....! a scorpio drove me crazy for 8 years....didnt want me didnt want anyone else to have me.....even my first boyfriend/a scorpio/ STILL 20 years later and he is married to someone....gets jealous when i tell him i date. there is no greater love than this match. unfortunately...if you are satisfied w/someone loving you but hardly being into you or seeing you......then stay away from scor. ms. libra
its very very hard but its up to the libran girl to decide if she can handle it or not..
They're worth the trouble!
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