Married with a Married crush

So i have been married for 4 years to my hubby and like all relationships we have our ups and downs. But lately, I have been crushing hard on his married friend. They are not best friends but friends through other friends and so on. Well, this friend that we will call"donald" got married 2 years ago and lately we have been hanging out at their house on weekends. I just instantly feel hard for him. He sends me messages on FB and my heart burst, Nothing serious just little things. I know it's wrong and I;m willing to be chastised for it, but i think he might have the same feelings for me. He acts really shy around me and him and his wife got into a huge fight right in front of us. It's almost like he got drunk on purpose just to hide his emotions. I want to tell him how I feel about him, hoping it will free my mind and get the cat out of the bag. i don't want to have sex with him, but damn I'm smitten. So keep my mouth shut or let it all out— Here's our charts...

Donald;s Chart

Sun 11??08' Sagittarius
Moon 03??02' Cancer
Mercury 28??12' Sagittarius
Venus 06??03' Capricorn
Mars 15??43' Pisces
Jupiter 16??02' Sagittarius
Saturn 02??30' Gemini
Uranus 17??07' Libra
Neptune 03??04' Sagittarius
Pluto 01??44' Libra

Donald's wife chart


Sun 29??04' Taurus
Moon 20??43' Scorpio
Mercury 13??19' Taurus
Venus 27??30' Gemini
Mars 21??30' Gemini
Jupiter 27??46' Libra
Saturn 14??29' Taurus
Uranus 04??50' Libra
Neptune 29??29' Scorpio
Pluto 24??42' Virgo


My Chart

Sun 25??45' Aquarius
Moon 17??45' Pisces
Mercury 00??45' Aquarius
Venus 20??15' Pisces
Mars 22??17' Pisces
Jupiter 08??24' Sagittarius
Saturn 04??26' Scorpio
Uranus 08??46' Sagittarius
Neptune 28??40' Sagittarius
Pluto 29??22' Libra

My advice: go "swinging" and get it out of your system! 😉

Never open your mouth on this unless you are both in swinger relationships that accept this situation. It's just not worth it. I completely ignored the charts. Ask yourself why you are unhappy. This is his friend, of course you are smitten. I am willing to bet they share a lot in common and the lust you feel should not take your mind from the truth. Fix what you have but don't run from bed to bed. Be honest and move on from your husband (by honest I mean tell hubby you are unhappy, not tell him you want his friend something bad). You don't think saying you are hot to a man won't end in sex? Even if right now you are like, no way? Think again, he could easily persuade your hot to trot ass in a "moment of weakness".

You're willing to screw over BOTH relationships by admitting to something that's just now developed?

How about getting over this case of wanting what you can't have and focus on your actual relationship, not just some made up one in your head?

I'd advocate honesty w/ your husband too ... although I just tried a completely honest relationship and we just went down in flames. Still, I think it's best to open up about things before anything bad happens. Right now it's pretty innocent ... although there's still a chance your hubby could freak at the thought of you having the hots for someone else. At least give your hubby a chance to fight for you.

way better to come clean sooner than later ... being honest about difficult things will make your relationship more passionate ... maybe too passionate so be careful.

Posted by seraph
DXP is not a marriage counselling service. Dating and relationship advice, a bit of life-coaching, most folks around here can manage.

But Marriage/Divorce? Please look elsewhere, like, to professionals.

I can tell by the tone of your post that you haven't thought this through AT ALL.

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