Men & STRIP CLUBS

Tell me...What is your opinion on Men in relationships who go to strip clubs? Does it depend: on how many TIMES he goes/how frequent he goes? WHO he goes with? Whether OR not he tells his girlfriend? Why he feels the NEED to go? What SERVICES he did OR didn't receive from the strippers? How LONG or strong the relationship/commitment is? Give me your OPINIONS & viewpoints on how you feel about committed men going to strip

Huh? Oh I wasn't asking this question b/c I'm currently involved with someone who goes to strip club. Me and few girlfriends of mine were discussing the topic of committed men & strip clubs, so I decided to get everybody's point of view on the topic just to see the differences

Well in other words, do you feel that it is appropriate for a man who is in a committed relationship to frequent strip clubs?

My ex didn't like strip clubs and said the same thing as zuvis (waste of money)
The person I'm seeing now likes to go sometimes with his friends. I don't mind as long as
he's respectful to the dancers. I've never gone with him but he's a nice person so I suppose he
is respectful at clubs.
We've never really discussed why he feels the need to go. I just figured men like variety.
I guess the guys on this site that go to strip clubs and have girlfriends or wives
can answer that better than I can.
For services he says the most he's had is a lap dance. Our relationship is good - at the moment 😉.
We were together for about 10 months and broke up and got back together about 4 months ago.
His visiting clubs every now and then has never been a problem for me.


Also Zuvis they are supposed to take your money that's their job. They're strippers not volunteer
speed daters.
Maybe the woman at the grocery store buying her own food earned her money by dancing for it
the night before. You never know....

I think even if some of them spend their money in a way we don't approve of it doesn't matter
because they are not approaching us in the general public asking for cash.
If a man (or woman) chooses to go to their place of work where it is understood that they strip for money
then he/she should pay them.

Her usage of frequent means to visit or hang around. i.e He frequents the pier in the evenings. My take on this is. Hes only gonna be looking its like a live 18a movie. If he goes 3 or 4 times a week, hes looking for some sort of stimulation that your not providing. Ergo it may be time utilize your feminine form for him visually. Sex is important to men and a huge part of it is visual for us.

Maybe he doesnt want to ask you to pole dance for him or get into a sexy outfit. Maybe your unwilling and think its "dirty". But straight up if its bothering you time to talk to him about it. But dont get the claws and fangs out. Straight up its "What do you get there that you cant get here". Chances are he thinks that dance and show and outfits are sexy.

Now in my own experience if a girl wants me to do something kinky for her and i trust her. Then hell yes, why the hell not? Im not losing anything and well ill be honest i find satisfying gratifying. Do some internal and external sexual detective work. Get him in on it and i bet you hell be more interested in a trip to the bedroom with you than a night at the strip club.

Oh and before someone comes along and tell me dressing up or striping for you man is demeaning ill go ahead and call bullshit. If he treats you with equality, love and respect in all aspects of life, then youve got nothing to worry about. Yeah we are evolved mentally to a point but in the bedroom why not go for gold? I mean your going to get naked and get off anyway so might as well spice it up.

I havent been to a gentleman's club since my 18th but then again im stimulated at home. Its a two way street tho, if your going to go the extra mile for him he damn straight better reciprocate. You wouldnt be asking if you werent worried about it. You posted this on a ton of forums. Ask him and ask yourself whats up. Save yourself the agony of to much advice and go to the source for your information. ---->(Source = Boyfriend)

Personally, I dont have a problem with it, but I've never been with anyone that "frequented" the clubs. And by frequent, I mean several times a month. Honestly, I've probably been more times than the most of the men I have dated. I cant really answer the question as to how I would feel about being with someone who went frequently. I guess it would all depend on the person and the relationship. It's a matter of situation, IMO.

Posted by seavixen2
maybe it's the lure of it being a woman that is not their "woman". IDK, but shit, I'll put on a wig and bump&grind and my dude can give me the $ $ $ he's about to waste...I can dance and make a good drink😄

LOL!! I hear ya girl!!!

My bf didn't like strip clubs. Maybe his venus in libra, but he always said he was turned off by sluttyness. Didn't watch porn either.

But honestly, I can't see myself getting upset over something like that anyways. Males will be males.
I think most men go to strip clubs for social reasons anyway. You know, type A man - have a few drinks, talk about pussy, while they stare at pussy...
*shrugs*

Whatever

Some women are a little unreasonable when it comes to this kind of thing, IMO.
If he's going to cheat on you...well, he's just going to. There's nothing you can do to change that. Certainly not by being overbearing and controlling.
& if he is going to cheat on you, I can almost guarantee you it WON'T be with a stripper.

Posted by brianafay
If he's going to cheat on you...well, he's just going to. There's nothing you can do to change that. Certainly not by being overbearing and controlling.

Truth

I don't 'think that it's 100% wrong for all committed men to go to a strip club, b/c every relationship & level of foundation within the relationship is different. BUT on the surface, I believe that a committed man going to a strip club is unhealthy for the relationship. And here's why..would you have a problem with your man going to his ex girlfriend's house for dinner? Most WOULD. They would b/c even though you might trust your man, think he's nice or faithful, him being at his ex girlfriend's house in the 1st place represents him putting himself in a situation/environment where the likelihood of respect for the relationship is alot lower. I understand that strippers need money & that their job is to activate a man's sexual appetite in any way they can so that they can pay their own bills. I get it. BUT, that's the problem. Nowadays men & people in general are going OUTSIDE of their relationships to get fulfillment, which completely defeats the purpose of the relationship. All strippers are not whores who are on drugs or prostitutes. BUT one thing alot of them have in common is their inability to give a FLIP about the girlfriend, wife, or family of the man that is standing in front of her. THAT is the problem. A stripper's goal is to have a man at HER mercy..to activate his sexual drive sooo high & so much so that all logic goes out of the window..hence that's why some men can get so deep into it that they end up spending their rent money. It's nothing against the strippers. It's just that the strip club represents one another environment where respect for the relationship would be relatively low. Isn't that why women would "prefer" their man come home at a decent hour? (B/c we all know that a man staying out late is unhealthy for the relationship). Isn't that why women would "prefer" their men not be in enclosed spaces with other women? Sure men will do what they want, & if you trust him it technically shouldn't matter BUT I don't believe using that "trust" excuse justifies a man literally leaping into a situation that poses a potential threat to his relationship.

Ughhhh, I try not to judge but strip clubs aren't classy. I think it's unintelligent to buy into a system that demoralizes and puts women up for sale.

Posted by tryandguess
Ughhhh, I try not to judge but strip clubs aren't classy. I think it's unintelligent to buy into a system that demoralizes and puts women up for sale.

hmmm... What about male strips clubs?

I don't really care what my guy does. Although I do think those clubs are tacky as hell😛 I did consider working in one a few weeks ago when I was hating my job though. It's easy money for a few minutes, and I love dancing!

Posted by Lobo

Posted by tryandguess
Ughhhh, I try not to judge but strip clubs aren't classy. I think it's unintelligent to buy into a system that demoralizes and puts women up for sale.

hmmm... What about male strips clubs?

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Sorry I didn't know there was such a thing. In that case it also is unfair to them.

Posted by Wasis
I don't mind if my guy goes to a strip club every once in awhile with friends.The stipulation would be that no lap dances are allowed.
Now if he goes every week and alone, then I would mind.
Also it depends on the type of club too. The Burlesque type of club is OK with me. But the ones where the dancers are practically shoving their money makers in the their faces are repulsive to me.

It's not that I mind someone that I'm with going to a strip club, it's just that I would feel unable to get close to someone that felt the sale of women's bodies and hearts was ok( and that goes for men too). This is a never ending debate I have with people that somehow women enjoy selling their bodies- it's" empowering". No matter what way you try and present it- no human "enjoys" being stripped of their heart and mind to just be a body on stage. My heart breaks for the women and men that are in many ways forced into this career. I say forced because if you take a long and hard look at "choice" it becomes pretty obvious.

for me, i wouldn't want my boyfriend to go to strip clubs if it was a personal thing he wanted to do for himself. computer porn? that's ok. i'm usually non-traditional & open to most things, but having an unclothed girl dry hump my man even pushes MY boundaries lol. but if he was participating in a bachelor party or his friends just broke up w/ their girl and he (my boyfriend) wanted to take his friend out to help get his mind off, i wouldn't mind much.

Posted by krysrenee7
I don't 'think that it's 100% wrong for all committed men to go to a strip club, b/c every relationship & level of foundation within the relationship is different. BUT on the surface, I believe that a committed man going to a strip club is unhealthy for the relationship. And here's why..would you have a problem with your man going to his ex girlfriend's house for dinner? Most WOULD. They would b/c even though you might trust your man, think he's nice or faithful, him being at his ex girlfriend's house in the 1st place represents him putting himself in a situation/environment where the likelihood of respect for the relationship is alot lower. I understand that strippers need money & that their job is to activate a man's sexual appetite in any way they can so that they can pay their own bills. I get it. BUT, that's the problem. Nowadays men & people in general are going OUTSIDE of their relationships to get fulfillment, which completely defeats the purpose of the relationship. All strippers are not whores who are on drugs or prostitutes. BUT one thing alot of them have in common is their inability to give a FLIP about the girlfriend, wife, or family of the man that is standing in front of her. THAT is the problem. A stripper's goal is to have a man at HER mercy..to activate his sexual drive sooo high & so much so that all logic goes out of the window..hence that's why some men can get so deep into it that they end up spending their rent money. It's nothing against the strippers. It's just that the strip club represents one another environment where respect for the relationship would be relatively low. Isn't that why women would "prefer" their man come home at a decent hour? (B/c we all know that a man staying out late is unhealthy for the relationship). Isn't that why women would "prefer" their men not be in enclosed spaces with other women? Sure men will do what they want, & if you trust him it technically shouldn't matter BUT I don't believe using that "trust" excuse justifies a man literally leaping into a situation that poses a potential threat to his relationship.

i agree

Posted by starlover
I went to a male strip evening years ago, think it was a hen night......funniest most unsexy thing i have ever seen. We women are for more skilled at being sexy

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