Obessed parents

I have moon opposite pluto and I always thought my mother was obsessed with me but this takes the cake.
(She also has a scorpio moon and I'm a taurus moon)
It's like with my presence she feeds of my vitality, idk or she's like in love with me secretly.
When I make my word I agree on it, for the sake of our relationship I'm keeping it. I love my mother, she is a good mother but she is obsessed with me and it isn't healthy.

I literally chose my mother over my boyfriend.
I left my relationship when he really needed me and he's completely preoccupied with life... he as not contacted me in 2 days.
Understand why, I wish I can be there physically but it hurts to not be a priority. I being a brat at first until he told me all the reasons and now I feel completely horrible.
I told my mother the situations 3 days ago but she still wants me to spend a week on vacation with her before i spend two weeks abroad.
I'm feeling so miserable and I can't even talk to her, she acts like she cares but she obviously does not... Idk why i'm still here I just keep to myself.
If i was her i would tell me to go back and fix my relationship...
I'm scared if I leave now she will resent me but it's sad because my anger for her is brewing inside my heart..
Idk if I can forgive her for this because my feelings for this guy is strong.

I'll throw my hair down the tower so you can climb up and video tape me smothering her to death 😛

Posted by 4ND5
Videotape it

You actually made me feel better lmfao

HAAAAAA
she does not believe in therapy, she had a pretty hard life and to her i am her trophy, like a reward for working so hard.
She was like were having dinner at 5 are you taking a shower?
and i just stare right at her and was like probably and we stare at each other for 30 seconds.

It was like a very intense moment... I saw her scorpio come out in her eyes, she have very intense dark eyes and they were especially plutonic atm..
I have very fixed looking eyes too.. it was probably a very intense moment to witness

where is your moon.
Dude she just told me to get my ass up.

I will cut this bish..

honestly I love my parents a lot and I always thought they would live with my future family and I.
I could never call my mom a bitch.

She has mars in leo and I have mars in Aries so I know we will duke it out very soon.

I can relate, I do hope you're able to cherish the small things and make the most of your time with her.. you never know if it will be your last ya know?

My mother has never accepted me for who I am.

No matter what I do, say, wear, or think - she tells me how SHE would do it and precedes to tell me it's how I should be as well. Any "back talk" and I'd either be slapped or called names.


But people have it worse than me.


As weird as it may be, she is the only human whom has never let me down when I needed someone - car breaks down .. she just wants me happy in her own way..


My mother, and everything surrounding deeply saddens me to a point of anxiety. Even on my own I worry about her health, how she eats unhealthy, smokes etc. She tell me about her body ailments and for years I've been convinced she is on her death bed.

I've gone to therapy in the past for it but lately I've been wanting to start it back up for some peace of mind. Still, I think my problem with my mom is small compared to others.

My apologies for throwing my issues in your thread but it felt good to vent.



Mother therapy thread ; )

So aspects with the moon are related to the mother right?

Posted by BigEyesBigLies
I have moon opposite pluto and I always thought my mother was obsessed with me but this takes the cake.
(She also has a scorpio moon and I'm a taurus moon)
It's like with my presence she feeds of my vitality, idk or she's like in love with me secretly.
When I make my word I agree on it, for the sake of our relationship I'm keeping it. I love my mother, she is a good mother but she is obsessed with me and it isn't healthy.

I literally chose my mother over my boyfriend.
I left my relationship when he really needed me and he's completely preoccupied with life... he as not contacted me in 2 days.
Understand why, I wish I can be there physically but it hurts to not be a priority. I being a brat at first until he told me all the reasons and now I feel completely horrible.
I told my mother the situations 3 days ago but she still wants me to spend a week on vacation with her before i spend two weeks abroad.
I'm feeling so miserable and I can't even talk to her, she acts like she cares but she obviously does not... Idk why i'm still here I just keep to myself.
If i was her i would tell me to go back and fix my relationship...
I'm scared if I leave now she will resent me but it's sad because my anger for her is brewing inside my heart..
Idk if I can forgive her for this because my feelings for this guy is strong.

Do you think your mom approves of your relationship? Would it matter to you if she didn't? I was wondering if she wants you to not date him or if she feels like he doesn't matter compared to her.

When I lived at home I couldn't date anyone she didn't think I should or it was like living in hell. If she wasn't happy, nobody was happy, but looking back she was right on many things I failed to see at the time.

I'm not sure how old you are, but imo, it's probably best to try to live away from her for at least a few months. This could help her come to terms with the fact that you're your own person and may also help you gain some individuality and independence. I think it's also abnormal to have such a close dependent relationship with your parents, at least in most western cultures. If I told my s/o that I planned to live with my family forever, he would probably stare at me like I was crazy. Depending on your background, that might be the norm or more accepted, though. No matter your culture or background, I think it's really important to make your own decisions and to do so because it's what will make you happy. If you're afraid that your mother will resent you because you're doing what makes you happy and trying to make your own path, then that's really problematic. You should be open with how you feel about this whole situation and see what happens then. Even if I had a good relationship with my mother, I would never let her rule my life forever. I would have many regrets if I let that happen.

I don't live with her.
I'm just emotionally manipulated by her.

She treats me like a little girl I'm 23.
I do have childish ways about me but I have adult needs like the desire for a relationship...

I met a guy who is everything I could ever want in a partner and he's unavailable to me because of her..
He has a lot going on and I need to at least be close by so we can figure things out...
She has not even met him that's what's so fucked up.
She just asked me 3 questions. His age what occupation and if he's childless.

Posted by BigEyesBigLies
I met a guy who is everything I could ever want in a partner and he's unavailable to me because of her..
He has a lot going on and I need to at least be close by so we can figure things out...
She has not even met him that's what's so fucked up.
She just asked me 3 questions. His age what occupation and if he's childless.

Girl, you decide what's best for yourself. If you want him, go for him. I'm pissed off for you.
Stand up to her. She'll never stop controlling you, otherwise. At this point, you're on track for an arranged marriage. Forget about love and choosing for yourself.
She based her decision on three answers and you listened to her. Doesn't that piss you off?

Why you care so much? Bigeyesbigliz

because I want everyone in my life to be happy...

Idk. I told myself if he contacts me soon than I will go see him. He's disconnected from his phone right now...
I don't even know how he's doing right now and It's a bit crazy for me go to his house to see if he's home but I considered it, I'm crazy enough to actually do it.
This venus in retrograde has be fucked up because I'm so confused what to do.

Haha not.a good time for drama...Do you think she feels something?

who?

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Posted by 4ND5
I also think my mom will live with me lol

Is your mom a pisces?

Ya lol

Yes lol her dream life is for me to live with them when they are old. Heck right now lol

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interesting.

my mother is not pisces sun. but my own mother's dream is that we all live with her, or one of us till the end.

my pisces grandmother wasn't ever alone, as she was with us till the end. My husband's grandmother was not alone. Her grown children stayed with her for weeks in her home, slept there everynight, before she passed away (she had cancer)

i'd never allow my parents to be without any of us if they become so old they can't do anything independently.

3 weeks.

in total.

BigEyesBigLies i don t get it.

Posted by tiziani
Well it depends on why your boyfriend needs you and why he couldn't wait a couple of days (or a week).

That is a great question.

Does he not support you and your struggles with your mom? Playing cat and mouse with the phone isn't conducive to the relationship.