Real men cry...

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I have cried, maybe, tops of 5 times because of my relationships. I don't like crying. I will not do it if I can avoid it.
My ex, however, cried a lot. He must've cried for two days straight after we broke up. Also, during maaaaany other situations which weren't as serious. Sure, I like men who are sensitive, but, I also like...men.
I'm a Pisces/Pisces and he's a Scorpio/Scorpio
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I'm the same... I don't like crying and try to avoid it like the plague.

Not trying to be sexist, but I'm a chick and I've been a blubbering fool in the relationships I give a damn about. I feel it's more common with women. But no less sincere or meaningful.
Not every relationship can claim it reduced me to tears. Just 3 including the one I'm in now.

One instance where bf had me balling... he said something mean to me. Weird situation... we were out and there was an intense argument/fight brewing amongst a bunch of guys and I was wedging in to try to stop it because he and his friends were involved. That's the kind of idiot I am sometimes, but I literally CANNOT help myself when people I care about are involved. He kept trying to get me out of it. Sometimes I don't listen to good advice and he called me a gawd awful name to get me to listen and leave. Odd tactic, but it worked. I stopped dead in my tracks and shot him a look of horror I'm sure. I def stopped but I still wasn't budging so he kept going until I finally stormed off crying. I let him have it later even after his explanation. He actually started crying too because of how hurt I was. Looking back, it was an awkward situation, but heartfelt in the end. So yes he's cried too.

I'm cap sun/pisces moon. He's scorp sun/gem moon.
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"It's perfectly ok NOT to cry, too."

Yup. I agree.

It's a stress release just like laughing, sex and beating the shit out of ourselves at the gym or somewhere. We all have our preferences 😛

For some reason, the older I get, the less I mind myself crying. This is not to say I'm sobbing all the time! But when I was a kid I felt heartless, I was so stoic.

In regards to relationships though... I actually get mad before I get hurt. It's my last line of defense before being hurt. It's not the best defense and thats prob something I should work on. Being angry just compounds on pain inevitably. So I wonder if anger shows more weakness than crying. Maybe in some cases?
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Posted by CreepyPants
And real women of course.

Guys, if you're willing to share, have you ever cried in a situation pertaining to a relationship you were in... a romantic one.

Yes or No. Elaborate if you'd like and please state Sun/Moon signs

Women as well, share your tears or his if you'd like.



i think real men do cry and i think there's something sexy about it. the fact that they feel comfortable and allow themselves to be vulnerable enough to cry in front of you takes confidences and confidences is always sexy in my book. but in the same respect if they cry all the time ummm not so much lol
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"I cried at the strangest times. There was no rhyme or reason to it. "

That happened to me over my high school crush, but it was only once that I cried. Rightly so, my relationship was nowhere near as deep. We dated over the summer, then he split with me because we were headed to different schools. Reasonable. I didn't cry at all. I went completely numb. We worked together but I never talked to him. In fact I have no clue how I managed to avoid him, but I did. A month later, he'd long moved for school and out of nowhere I started sobbing. I'm not sure what the chain of thought was going through my head, but I was driving so, lol, not sure what jogged the waterworks.
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I have to admit, I cried a few times over my last relationship. Mostly in private, but a couple of times in front of her(my Libra ex) and once at work. My job is autonomous and I'm mostly by myself. I was just working and the reality that it was really over set in. As for my other relationships? Once when I was in my early 20s. As for the rest...not even worth crying over. I'm not one for tears lol.
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I did not make the list but I applaud it.

When It's Okay for a Man to Cry


1. The death of a loved one. There are few things more painful than the thought of separation from those dearest to our hearts.

2. The death of your beloved pet. A pet can feel like a member of the family. Whether a horse or dog, the bond between a man and his faithful animal runs deep.

3. When you first see the new life you and your wife created. Many a man has found himself choked up as they cradle their newborn son or daughter.

4. When you propose to the love of your life and she says yes. This should be one of the happiest days of your life. You found your best friend.

5. At the altar as you get married. Everyone in attendance loves to see the husband-to-be get a little misty-eyed as his blushing bride walks down the aisle.

6. When your beloved car or truck, especially your first one, gets totaled. There's a bond between a man and his wheels that when severed, can really sting.

7. Visiting sites that pay tribute to those who laid down their lives for others. Whether running your fingers over the names at the Vietnam War Memorial or watching the oil leak from the sunk USS Arizona, contemplating the sacrifices made by your fellowman should make you tear up.

8. Describing a really spiritual experience. Feeling touched by a higher power can be really affecting.

9. As an athlete, after the final game/match/event that you will ever play in. You??ll never be in as good shape again. You??ll never experience this level of camaraderie again. You??ll never push yourself so hard every day. Go on and let it out.

10. While watching any of the following movies:

Field of Dreams
Brian??s Song
Shawshank Redemption
The Pride of the Yankees
Old Yeller
Iron Giant
Life is Beautiful
Saving Private Ryan
Rudy
Braveheart
Dead Poets Society
Friday Night Lights
We Were Soldiers
Gladiator
Butch Cassidy and The Sundance Kid
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The last time I cried was like 10 years ago when I read this manga...

http://mangafox.me/manga/ai_ren/<BR>
After that there was a time I was emotionally hurt by someone. I didn't want to cry in front of her or anyone so I waited until I could lock myself in my room. When I was about to cry I thought "what's the point?". I then I realized there was no point whatsoever, nothing would change because of me crying. So I just stood there, without crying. I felt totally helpless. And since that day I've been unable to cry even when I'm hurting inside. When I want to cry, something (I don't know what it is) restrains me from doing so. However, people who are close to me know I'm sad even though I don't show emotion in the most conventional ways.

Sun Aquarius
Moon Virgo
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Posted by CaliGirlXXO
Posted by venusianbull
And pray tell..how does one 'allow' what falls out of someones piehole?



It's just gross! Don't bring that shit on here!



LOL You picked the WRONG forum to join if you find that disturbing.
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Yeah but she is 19. At 19 I thought sooooooooooooooo many things I now do were gross. LOL ! 😛

Meet her back here in 15 years. "Singing the theme to Aladdin...I can show you the world"

Shining, shimmering, splendid
Tell me princess, now when did
You last let your heart decide?

I can open your eyes
Take you wonder by wonder
Over, sideways and under
On a magic carpet ride

A whole new world
A new fantastic point of view
No one to tell us no
Or where to go
Or say we're only dreaming

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caligirl, i don't see how my mentioning wet dreams constitutes sluttiness. sounds more like you're uncomfortable with sexual discussion, immature, and a tad presumptuous.

btw, your hostility towards me is making me wet. if i dream of you tonight, and you allow me, i'll tell you all about it in the morning. 😛

vb, capgirl, lioness... cheers — 🙂



That's so vulgar. Have you no decency for urself? My gram used to tell me that if you don't stand for something you'll fall for anything. Sounds like you fall for a lot. I swear me n my girls would eff you up so bad in person. We might dress cute but we fight hard. Never throw the first punch but ALWAYS a knockout. I don't get hostile, I get hard, and I'll eff you up in half if you disrespect me.
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That's so hypocritical.
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Posted by PurrrrHissss
Cancer Sun/Aquarius Moon

I tear up regularly. I get goosebumps and am emotionally touched by lots of things quite frequently. I don't CRY cry too often, but when I do, I sob....in private, unless privacy is absolutely out of the question at the moment and I can't help myself. I don't view crying as a weakness in men (or anyone), though. If it's over something genuinely painful, it's one of the bravest and most powerful things you can do in front of another human being, in my opinion. Crying in front of others is (for many) embarrassing, opens you up to possible ridicule because it puts you in a vulnerable position, makes most people uncomfortable, and instantly turns the situation you're in or exchange you're having with another person into something more intimate. I don't understand how something so emotionally risky can be seen as weak.



🙂))) moving that one up for all to see