I'm an Aries woman and I've known this Cancer male for almost three years, we've been together for about one and a half years. We're in a long distance relationship and we're 7 hours apart (time zones). (We still talk literally each and every day) We both used to have a really low self esteem and gradually we've helped each other out and became best friends, but lately he's been acting differently and saying that the reason for that is because he's more confident and that he has changed. He used to be so very affectionate but not lately. He's been slightly cold but not rude or anything like that, and sometimes doesn't even acknowledge when I say something affectionate, but just brushes it off. Any affection/compliment that I give to him and he doesn't really return. It's fine if it's a few times, but it's like this all the time, I feel a bit hurt lol and I've told him this and he sounds a bit hurt or offended, telling me that he's trying his best. He gives off this vibe that he doesn't really care as much unless it's a serious situation, only then he *kind* of gives it off. Maybe I'm too clingy and should stop giving him so much attention/affection? I don't want to "earn" the affection. He's been a bit stressed lately but he used to really talk it over with me, and I don't like how it has changed. He used to do nice things like leave me nice messages to wake up to and call me cute names but now it's kind of less and less, even though he still calls me nice names (rarely) I just want him to show me that he cares still, I feel like I'm putting forth the effort and he's not and it really hurts and I don't think it's fair. I know that he loves me, although he might not show it as often as I'd like. Will it help if I sort of back off, and stop showering him in attention but just to let him come to me instead? As I said, he does show affection but not nearly as much. I really want to make this work
