Angry Cancer

I had a question concerning when cancers get angry. I dated a cancer guy and we broke up 4-5 months ago. The girl he dumped me for rejected him too. I've heard he's been shit talking me alot lately and I don't get why? He's started talking to a girl thats very similar to me, but more aggressive (talks dirty). Any ideas on how to deal? Why's he upset at me still? Will he ever come back?

Posted by 500daysofsummer
I had a question concerning when cancers get angry. I dated a cancer guy and we broke up 4-5 months ago. The girl he dumped me for rejected him too. I've heard he's been shit talking me alot lately and I don't get why? He's started talking to a girl thats very similar to me, but more aggressive (talks dirty). Any ideas on how to deal? Why's he upset at me still? Will he ever come back?

also had to add he doesn't try to contact me at all. In fact whenever we're online at the same time, he signs off or just never chats with me. As I'm typing that I realize it's probably a no go in ever being friends let alone getting back together, but cancers are an interesting bunch.

Well I'm a Cancer girl, might offer some insight on your guy. I don't know why or what happen that lead to your breakup, but usually when we hit 3 months and above, if we really like you, we will start becoming closer to you. If we're looking elsewhere, that means we're not really that into you. I'm sorry but he sounds like he's just testing the waters with you. How long did you know each other before you started dating? We fall in love slowly and it gets more and more intense. If he's dumping you for other people, that means he's not really holding on to you.

Don't go back. These types of Cancers are too insecure. See how he goes after girls right after breaking up with you, not even grieving about you? He's just playing about, because he feels insecure if he's not loved.

If he doesn't contact you, that means he's definitely over you. If he still has feelings for you, he'll say a "hi" after a while. He might be feeling guilty that he hurt you, but he knows he won't be forgiven, so he's avoiding you in case you confront him and hurt him.
It'll be hard at first, but get over him. Insecure Cancers are not worth the time. 🙂

Carrie

umm like a few months, but he fell quick..very quick and chased me

you're saying he dumped you for another girl,so is HE mad at YOU?you're the one that should be mad.

Hes bitter and that is why. How to deal? forget him and move on is how.

Do you even want him back after that? Really? I'd say you need to do some deep introspective and self esteem work if you do. Who cares about him at all at this point?

well, I'm one of those people that forgive easily. Life is too short to hold grudges or be angry.

geminigal - I'm lost about that too

Life is also too short to waste it on the wrong people. You can be with someone who would never dump you for another girl and bad mouth you on top of that. Don't you think you deserve better?

Posted by 500daysofsummer
well, I'm one of those people that forgive easily. Life is too short to hold grudges or be angry.

OK then. So forgive him and move on with your life, and don't include him in it.

Posted by 500daysofsummer

Posted by 500daysofsummer
I had a question concerning when cancers get angry. I dated a cancer guy and we broke up 4-5 months ago. The girl he dumped me for rejected him too. I've heard he's been shit talking me alot lately and I don't get why? He's started talking to a girl thats very similar to me, but more aggressive (talks dirty). Any ideas on how to deal? Why's he upset at me still? Will he ever come back?

also had to add he doesn't try to contact me at all. In fact whenever we're online at the same time, he signs off or just never chats with me. As I'm typing that I realize it's probably a no go in ever being friends let alone getting back together, but cancers are an interesting bunch.

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The red flags are there, the writing is on wall. You know what you have to do. Forget him and move on.

As a cancer I can tell you that cancers can be secretly vindictive a-holes when pissed. he is bitter. the most hurtful thing you can do to a cancer is ignore them but if you want him back just a very emotional apology (letter or call even) and it will not even take a day or two before he is over it. cancers empathize with strong displays of emotions.

virgodreamz - "Life is also too short to waste it on the wrong people." < so true and I do deserve better.

addictedtochoc - In the process of doing that right now. This is my first hardcore breakup so its taking a bit of time, but I'm getting there 🙂

cancerlovestaurus - it sounds like he is bitter. I haven't contacted him for a few months, but its not to get back at him. It's because he's really scarred me. I don't have it in me to apologize because he's in the wrong and never admitted to it.

Posted by 500daysofsummer
Will he ever come back?

Probably not, but who cares?

Get into a casual-sexual relationship with his best friend if you want to TRULY even the score.

🙂