the cancer man and infidelity

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by lindavi20 on Sunday, January 1, 2012 and has 14 replies.

Do Cancer Men Pursue or Are Pursued and Can They Maintain Long Distance Relationships

Cancer men often prefer to be pursued rather than pursue actively and may struggle with long-distance relationships due to their emotional nature. They tend to seek deep connections and can be loyal if truly committed, but their tendency to seek comfort can sometimes lead to infidelity if emotional needs are unmet.

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@lindavi20
14 Years

do cancer men like to pursue or be pursued? and are they capable of successfully maintaining a long distance relationship? i have read much about their tendency to find "love" in other places even though they say they are committed to you.

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@OceanDeep
15 Years1,000+ Posts

I'm going to bump this for you to the top of the forum... in the hopes you can get some male Cancer's thoughts. I have mine, but being a female Cancer and having dated one I can only go on those things. You'll need the men's input mainly, and maybe just a here or there from us females 🙂

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@thecontender
15 YearsCancer

1) When I was younger i refused to pursue due my crazy schedule now I'm relentless. The thirst is strong.

2) Depends on how rewarding the relationship is and how often I'm seeing my lady.

3) I refuse to cheat because i know how i'd react if I found out I was being cheated on. I know I'm not the only crazy person on earth and like minded people attract one another so no I do cheat. KARMA IS A MOTHER!

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@CancerGemini
16 Years

Posted by lindavi20
do cancer men like to pursue or be pursued? and are they capable of successfully maintaining a long distance relationship? i have read much about their tendency to find "love" in other places even though they say they are committed to you.

Our pursuit is tender and full of subtlety. Being pursued is easier, as long as it is a pleasant and thrilling game of romance, not just crazy clingy stalker. Once we are fixed on what we want and have an inkling of interest on their part, we fearless pursue to close the deal. 🙂

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@CancerGemini
16 Years

With regards to infidelity, anyone can be a cheater, usually this is not so typical with a Cancer...but character flaws can exist in anyone.

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@missscorps
14 Years

Yes, I too will bump....I also am very interested @iwin.....I kinda got that initially from the crab....but now im not so sure? What about if they are single but courting you....is it only the 1 girl or do you find gour into more than one at ghe same ti
E while single?

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@lindavi20
14 Years

great insight.. keep it coming. as a virgo, if ifeel like things are not totally for sure or set in place, i worry and back off, in turn seem like i am playing a game myself, i think. i definitely dont like to come on as too forward, but like to let you know i am interested, especially my cancer guy. note that i only do this with people i am totally into, and when i am totally into you, i might flirt/talk to other people as well so i dont become too attached, but i am completely loyal. would this be hard for a cancer male to deal with? and should i be upfront and honest if i am dating people until we are more serious?
also, i am old-fashioned and want to let him pursue me, but it is, oh so hard with him. i usually have so much patience, but cant wait to hear from him. fyi, we have known each other for 14 years, when we were young, shy, and dumb, and life happened. recently ran into each other after 7years, and experienced INSTANT chemistry upon seeing each other. i cant quit thinking about him. damn you cancers. ;-p scares the shit out of me as well, because i know he can see inside of me and notices every little funny quirk about me, esp. since i am just as observant and i dont usually meet a match that notices details like me.
at cancergemini: i would think that being pursued would be more of a turnoff like it seems to be with most other guys.

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@lindavi20
14 Years

iwin32- so that contradicts a woman pursuing you right? just curious... because you said that you like to be pursued but then you like to be the pursuer. are you sure it's not a little bit of a game in the begining. i have seen a lot of your other posts and im curious. i mean games or "courting" is fun, butis it someone that is not afraid totell you what they really feel about you "attractive" or when they play hard to get?

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@lindavi20
14 Years

iwin32- so that contradicts a woman pursuing you right? just curious... because you said that you like to be pursued but then you like to be the pursuer. are you sure it's not a little bit of a game in the begining. i have seen a lot of your other posts and im curious. i mean games or "courting" is fun, butis it someone that is not afraid totell you what they really feel about you "attractive" or when they play hard to get?

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@lindavi20
14 Years

mes and leechers? sorry i am new to this all and the terminologies. lol