ATTN Cancerians: help a sista out

So say I hung out with a Cancer guy who was clearly hinting that he felt something with me.

I rushed into this hook up. I rushed into the actual sex act because I'm an entitled Leo woman who thinks I deserve some fun and so thinking that this guy actually entertained me, i thought he might only want sex as well.

He was in no rush and just wanted to kiss long and slowly and said some things that are only said in movies.

I think back to my actions and realize that the reason why I can get no response every since, he probably thought I was using him for sex.

You see, I'm actually a very well kept woman that prides herself in how she carries herself.

But his ONE TIME that I felt stress from life and tried to "let loose"....

I totally bombed his opinion of me now.

Like I said, he was in no rush at all.

It's like I was the one pushing for it.

I've liked this Cancerian for awhile and I'm guessing I ddint know how to convey that to him properly because apparently there's a certain way that these guys move.

I like him a lot.

I portrayed it as garbage & id like for him to speak to me. Just not sure if he will.

He has said before that he doesn't just do hook ups because it's trash. And we know all the same people, he's known to be low key and only hangs out with his boys.

He's the most genuine/selfless person I've ever met.

Or maybe this is all in my head?

I'd like to know...how would I even go about giving him the correct impression of me?

Would he even give me a thought again?

He went out on a limb to hangout with me for complicated reasons.



ALSO. In the middle of us hooking up,he would randomly ask me "what do you want?"

And I would tell him over and over what I wanted, sexually. And it's like it didn't answer his question.

Was this supposed to be an emotional question?

Help.

Thank you all for your input!

I sincerely like him. I've liked him for awhile now.

I feel genuinely warm around him but I'm guessing that I couldn't reciprocate that back.

I didn't want just sex, I misinterpreted and thought that HE would only want sex so then I just went with it and ended up taking the reigns because that's all I thought he wanted.

I asked him one time if I was just another floozy and he repeatedly told me no I was not and seemed annoyed that I would even ask that.



But I stepped back and replayed it in my head and almost right away, I knew my mistake.

Does anyone have any tips to how I can maybe...

Redeem myself? Rid myself of this image that I only lusted him?

I mean, I literally get NO text back.

So I stopped nagging it.

Just didn't know if this was reversible.

I mean I would LOVE to just sit and continue to talk lovely and deep conversation. he opened up about the way he thinks and his opinions and his childhood. He talked most of the time.

I feel like I've been in his shoes for so long as far as someone only wanting sex, hence the way I led the night to go.

Thanks in advance!

So, what I am about to share with you doesn't necessarily fall into signs but it's factual. First like me start by stating that sex and love are two different things. You don't show someone you like and care for them while in the "getting to know" each other stage through sex. Men trade love for sex, and women trade sex for love. Meaning when a man sleeps with a woman he doesn't even know, 9 times out of 10 that's what it is "just sex". He's ignoring you, because you slept with him. It's kind of how most men are especially in the "getting to know" stage. They don't need to really put much effort in any longer. Not saying this is irreversible, but it would really depend on the relationship or friendship y'all had before. Of course he's not going to treat you like crap and go 100% ghost on you. eventually he will contact you again ( i'm sure) but it may not be under the circumstances you are wanting. See when a man and woman connect the mans emotional aspect plateaus out when he has sex. The more you deny a man sex, the more his emotional ability grows for a woman and when the woman has sex after allowing the man to truly get to know her then the sex plateaus out. Does that make sense? If there's anything you can take from this, do not text him anymore. Let him text you!!

allow him to court you.

No, no, no. Haha. Leo is a control freak, Cancerians don't like control freaks. You're acting like Kat Hepburn in Philadelphia Story and he's Cary Grant, just looking at you like "what she doing?". Do what Hepburn did at the end to get him back round.

You're welcome.

I'm a leo woman and I have been with a cancer man for almost 6 months don't feel bad because you wanted to hook up but trust and believe cancer men don't just do hook ups and if they do it literally means nothing to them they want to pursue you and be exclusive I did the same hook up fast with my cancerian and he was not playing games it became exclusive right after so him asking what you want was more probably looking for you to say I want you (him)

Posted by Wanderlustcancerian24
allow him to court you.

I agree. Let him come to you 🙂