@LibraRoseE
9 Years
Why So Desperate ?
Why Are Some Leos Desperate After a Breakup
Leos may feel intense pride and fear of rejection after a breakup, leading to desperation. They often seek quick reassurance through rebounds instead of addressing underlying feelings. This behavior is driven by their desire for validation and fear of loneliness.
Huh—? I can't speak for other Leos, but after a break up I certainly don't go running to another. It's the LAST thing I would want to do.
I used to. Because we don't see it as needing to fix anything; we just need to find someone who's compatible with our ish.
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either parties
And not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
only leo men.
Posted by SMC
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either partiesAnd not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
- If you are tryna get multiple ppls attention by commenting on each of their half naked photos then that's pretty much desperate.
Posted by SMC
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either partiesAnd not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
- If you are tryna get multiple ppls attention by commenting on each of their half naked photos then that's pretty much desperate.
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Better question : why do libras care what happened after a break up? What's done is done you don't own him anymore ...
Posted by SMC
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either partiesAnd not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
- If you are tryna get multiple ppls attention by commenting on each of their half naked photos then that's pretty much desperate.
Better question : why do libras care what happened after a break up? What's done is done you don't own him anymore ...
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- Because that's in our nature . All about balancing the scale .... If something is left wrong we don't rest until you see your wrong . It's not about owning anyone it's about understanding right from wrong .
Posted by SMC
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either partiesAnd not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
- If you are tryna get multiple ppls attention by commenting on each of their half naked photos then that's pretty much desperate.
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yes so that's basically one leo who did that to you.
also what would someone ever have to do to fix that..its not desperate leo behavior...just an asshole
Posted by SMC
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either partiesAnd not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
- If you are tryna get multiple ppls attention by commenting on each of their half naked photos then that's pretty much desperate.
Better question : why do libras care what happened after a break up? What's done is done you don't own him anymore ...
- Because that's in our nature . All about balancing the scale .... If something is left wrong we don't rest until you see your wrong . It's not about owning anyone it's about understanding right from wrong .
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I think this thread is also a bit desperate. I reaaally dont mean to offend, honestly, but you're not going to get him to see wrong
Let it be
Posted by Nevermore
Yo Op, do you actually mean more "settle down, reavulate the whole relationship. Contemplating in meticulous (not to be extreme) of "why the relationship didn't went well", "what was the mistakes of" is just to learned a lesson?Or is it litteraly fixing up the relationship and not to jump from another relationship like a desperate one?
Because somehow I see a less details in it and more standard of "fixing" whereas you meant something else. Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.
- I meant as in re-evaluating what went wrong & coming up with a solution to fix it. Even if it does not mean getting back together.... more of just mending what happened so that we could leave things on better terms than what it currently is.... opposed to both parties being mad & he/she jumping around trying to find someone else.
Posted by Nevermore
Yo Op, do you actually mean more "settle down, reavulate the whole relationship. Contemplating in meticulous (not to be extreme) of "why the relationship didn't went well", "what was the mistakes of" is just to learned a lesson?Or is it litteraly fixing up the relationship and not to jump from another relationship like a desperate one?
Op, you sound extremely passive aggressive.
Because somehow I see a less details in it and more standard of "fixing" whereas you meant something else. Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.
- I meant as in re-evaluating what went wrong & coming up with a solution to fix it. Even if it does not mean getting back together.... more of just mending what happened so that we could leave things on better terms than what it currently is.... opposed to both parties being mad & he/she jumping around trying to find someone else.
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Posted by Nevermore
Yo Op, do you actually mean more "settle down, reavulate the whole relationship. Contemplating in meticulous (not to be extreme) of "why the relationship didn't went well", "what was the mistakes of" is just to learned a lesson?Or is it litteraly fixing up the relationship and not to jump from another relationship like a desperate one?
Because somehow I see a less details in it and more standard of "fixing" whereas you meant something else. Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.
- I meant as in re-evaluating what went wrong & coming up with a solution to fix it. Even if it does not mean getting back together.... more of just mending what happened so that we could leave things on better terms than what it currently is.... opposed to both parties being mad & he/she jumping around trying to find someone else.
Alrighty, so thats what you meant of this. Glad I asked this since I had a feeling you meant what your answers said and kinda a bit misunderstood.
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- sorry sometimes I think so fast that my words come out all over the place at times ... the libra in me lol ... thank you for you input !
Posted by Nevermore
Yo Op, do you actually mean more "settle down, reavulate the whole relationship. Contemplating in meticulous (not to be extreme) of "why the relationship didn't went well", "what was the mistakes of" is just to learned a lesson?Or is it litteraly fixing up the relationship and not to jump from another relationship like a desperate one?
Because somehow I see a less details in it and more standard of "fixing" whereas you meant something else. Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.
- I meant as in re-evaluating what went wrong & coming up with a solution to fix it. Even if it does not mean getting back together.... more of just mending what happened so that we could leave things on better terms than what it currently is.... opposed to both parties being mad & he/she jumping around trying to find someone else.
Alrighty, so thats what you meant of this. Glad I asked this since I had a feeling you meant what your answers said and kinda a bit misunderstood.
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It doesn't matter though because it's not up to her to decide how her ex partner deals with the break up.
Maybe he did, but got over that really quick, like most leos do actually
Posted by SMC
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either partiesAnd not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
- If you are tryna get multiple ppls attention by commenting on each of their half naked photos then that's pretty much desperate.
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Posting half naked photos of yourself is
desperate... and terribly gauche.
And you call yourself a Libra.
Pfft
Posted by Nevermore
Yo Op, do you actually mean more "settle down, reavulate the whole relationship. Contemplating in meticulous (not to be extreme) of "why the relationship didn't went well", "what was the mistakes of" is just to learned a lesson?Or is it litteraly fixing up the relationship and not to jump from another relationship like a desperate one?
Because somehow I see a less details in it and more standard of "fixing" whereas you meant something else. Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.
- I meant as in re-evaluating what went wrong & coming up with a solution to fix it. Even if it does not mean getting back together.... more of just mending what happened so that we could leave things on better terms than what it currently is.... opposed to both parties being mad & he/she jumping around trying to find someone else.
It's possible he thought
it wasn't worth it.
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Exactly.
If it was worth it, why leave in the first place?
I feel like a LOT of people from all signs do this....it helps you MOVE ON. Not always. But it can help.
If this dude dating other chicks comes off as desperation- i'm not sure what to tell you.
It sounds like he is looking to move on.
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.
Posted by earlorg16
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.
Sometimes, that's true.
Obviously I can't speak for all LEOs but once I
actually *leave* a relationship, its over-- I've
already tried to reconcile whatever was wrong.
9 times out of ten, the other person had no
interest in doing anything about the problem
while together-- maybe they didn't take me
seriously which is a bad sign anyway.
But by the time I move on, *I* am okay with it.
You had your chance... here's a Kleenex.
I'm going to get my hair done. 🙂
Posted by earlorg16
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.Sometimes, that's true.
Obviously I can't speak for all LEOs but once I
actually *leave* a relationship, its over-- I've
already tried to reconcile whatever was wrong.
9 times out of ten, the other person had no
interest in doing anything about the problem
while together-- maybe they didn't take me
seriously which is a bad sign anyway.
But by the time I move on, *I* am okay with it.
You had your chance... here's a Kleenex.
I'm going to get my hair done. 🙂
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...unless it's an Aquarius ex it seems.
Posted by earlorg16
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.Sometimes, that's true.
Obviously I can't speak for all LEOs but once I
actually *leave* a relationship, its over-- I've
already tried to reconcile whatever was wrong.
9 times out of ten, the other person had no
interest in doing anything about the problem
while together-- maybe they didn't take me
seriously which is a bad sign anyway.
But by the time I move on, *I* am okay with it.
You had your chance... here's a Kleenex.
I'm going to get my hair done. 🙂
...unless it's an Aquarius ex it seems.
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So very true. Damn them.
Posted by earlorg16
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.Sometimes, that's true.
Obviously I can't speak for all LEOs but once I
actually *leave* a relationship, its over-- I've
already tried to reconcile whatever was wrong.
9 times out of ten, the other person had no
interest in doing anything about the problem
while together-- maybe they didn't take me
seriously which is a bad sign anyway.
But by the time I move on, *I* am okay with it.
You had your chance... here's a Kleenex.
I'm going to get my hair done. 🙂
...unless it's an Aquarius ex it seems.
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I don't have one of those.
Unless they were loaded with Pisces, or some
other water placements, I don't imagine it
would be a very good thing for either of us.
Both LEO and Aqua can be ridiculously
pompous, but we care care on a personal level.
Aqua-- on a general level or something.
Not even claiming to understand because I
don't... not meant to be offensive either.
They're fabulous people otherwise.
Posted by SMC
what do you mean by fix? If it's done it's done right...Not saying you should move right one, but dwelling about it isn't going to make it better for either partiesAnd not huge fan of the word desperate either cause you can't see inside our heads so you don't even know...weird choice of words
Lmao nothing in your head can change it from being desperate. It's that Libra Moon. Your Leo Sun is too prideful to admit it.
As a Libra Sun I fully acknowledge that the 1 time I did that, I was desperate as shit.
How bout instead of deflecting. You take this to realize doing that isn't so honorable and prideworthy as you think? You're being told bluntly. So change. Holy shit.
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Actually talking as if I am the one did this..judging from your convo with other people recently I'm not going to even discuss this with you, cause there will be no end^^
Have a great day! @TerramineLightvoid
Posted by earlorg16
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.Sometimes, that's true.
Obviously I can't speak for all LEOs but once I
actually *leave* a relationship, its over-- I've
already tried to reconcile whatever was wrong.
9 times out of ten, the other person had no
interest in doing anything about the problem
while together-- maybe they didn't take me
seriously which is a bad sign anyway.
But by the time I move on, *I* am okay with it.
You had your chance... here's a Kleenex.
I'm going to get my hair done. 🙂
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This is exactly how it is for me too
Hope your hair turned out great! 😄
Posted by earlorg16
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.Sometimes, that's true.
Obviously I can't speak for all LEOs but once I
actually *leave* a relationship, its over-- I've
already tried to reconcile whatever was wrong.
9 times out of ten, the other person had no
interest in doing anything about the problem
while together-- maybe they didn't take me
seriously which is a bad sign anyway.
But by the time I move on, *I* am okay with it.
You had your chance... here's a Kleenex.
I'm going to get my hair done. 🙂
This is exactly how it is for me too
Hope your hair turned out great! 😄
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Haha thanks!
It usually does 🙂
Posted by LibraRoseE
Why are some Leo's (particularly men , but can be about Leo women as well) become so desperate after a breakup?Instead of fixing what they messed up, they rather run to another female/male for a "rebound" ?
As my close Leo friend says, "There is always a back up. No one is ever 100% faithful in a relationship."
I don't have one of those.
Unless they were loaded with Pisces, or some
other water placements, I don't imagine it
would be a very good thing for either of us.
Both LEO and Aqua can be ridiculously
pompous, but we care care on a personal level.
Aqua-- on a general level or something.
Not even claiming to understand because I
don't... not meant to be offensive either.
They're fabulous people otherwise.
Honestly I don't even know why either? On this side of the fence I've never had such an infuriating yet fulfilling relationship like the one with a Leo. I hate him and love him at the same time. I despise the way he is yet admire it. I sometimes feel like killing the cat, yet I end up coaxing it instead.
It's very easy to walk away but it's also easy to fall back into that hole. I've never onsidered going back to anyone like I have with a Leo. And like @sultrykitty said...DAMN YOU! Damn you, you bi-polar kats.
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Aye!
Give me the good chaos.
I don't necessarily have to understand it-- I just
need to be able to respect it.
I think so, anyway.
Sounds like there's a bit of familiarity in it for
you-- like you know you and your LEO are both
aiming at the same target, you just can't figure
out the way he's going about it.
Admittedly, we can be strange birds.
Or kats.
Posted by Gob_Shite
It's a pride thing. Also, the ego needs to be constantly fed...
THIS
Posted by earlorg16
Where these desperate Leo's at? From my experiences, Leo's avoid relationships like the plague after a break up.Sometimes, that's true.
Obviously I can't speak for all LEOs but once I
actually *leave* a relationship, its over-- I've
already tried to reconcile whatever was wrong.
9 times out of ten, the other person had no
interest in doing anything about the problem
while together-- maybe they didn't take me
seriously which is a bad sign anyway.
But by the time I move on, *I* am okay with it.
You had your chance... here's a Kleenex.
I'm going to get my hair done. 🙂
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Spot on.
Posted by Nevermore
Yo Op, do you actually mean more "settle down, reavulate the whole relationship. Contemplating in meticulous (not to be extreme) of "why the relationship didn't went well", "what was the mistakes of" is just to learned a lesson?Or is it litteraly fixing up the relationship and not to jump from another relationship like a desperate one?
Because somehow I see a less details in it and more standard of "fixing" whereas you meant something else. Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.
- I meant as in re-evaluating what went wrong & coming up with a solution to fix it. Even if it does not mean getting back together.... more of just mending what happened so that we could leave things on better terms than what it currently is.... opposed to both parties being mad & he/she jumping around trying to find someone else.
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I'm not sure if it's a Leo male thing or just your typical male thing but there is a section of men who feel if it has to be fixed then we don't belong together. They are accustomed to leaving when the relationship turns sour and since that's his relationship pattern and habit he's reluctant to change it and sees no reason to change it since it's working for him.
Some people really don't get how necessary and beneficial it is to communicate and apologize and fix a wrong which builds healthy social skills wheras some men feel it's freeing to move on to a new woman and leave the negativity behind them. Just a matter of maturity in my opinion.
This is more accurately, why are HUMANS so desperate... or YOUNGER PEOPLE, its hardly a trait pin pointed to Leo's rarely are people mature enough for self reflective behavior after a breakup. Could be bias. lol
Posted by LibraRoseE
Why are some Leo's (particularly men , but can be about Leo women as well) become so desperate after a breakup?Instead of fixing what they messed up, they rather run to another female/male for a "rebound" ?
Leo men do this, not really women. Some Leo men's pride will have them going from chick to chick to avoid them saying sorry UNLESS he really loves you. Leos can't fight love no matter the gender. And make sure that he actually does because some Leos live real life based on theater and will play a role that they have mentally given themselves. Leo women (some) will become desperate but only in trying to win the relationship back. Big difference.
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Why are some Leo's (particularly men , but can be about Leo women as well) become so desperate after a breakup?
Instead of fixing what they messed up, they rather run to another female/male for a "rebound" ?