Being dumped by Gemini man after 6 years

You need to decide whether you still want him in your life or not. I think having him even as a friend is better than nothing at this point in time. Of course, if it hurts too much then maybe you should tell him that it hurts too much to just be friend and you need to take some time off from him.

Whatever you do, please COMMUNICATE with him. I can't stress this enough. Gemini loves communication. If you shelling out, shutting him out without any explanation, he'll just think that you're no longer interested in him and he'll leave for good. If you're open about your pain (without being angry), he'll likely do the same as well. Once again, talk to him. Do not ignore him. Even if the talking is just to tell him that you need some time away from him.

Poor lady, I know it hurts but it will get better I promise. I see you two back together again. This is temporary.

I am shocked by these responses..... currently darling you are in no fit state to be in a 'friendship' with this guy..... you are all over the place and all the normal emotions, grief, anger, stress are all showing and making you think you feel hatred because you want to hurt him for hurting you. You need to take some time out here no?

Besides that, I hate the fact that he wants immediate friendship. Who does he think he is?!! That to me is him trying to smooth over the hurt he has caused you...... making him feel better about himself at the same time by not totally destroying you. He will keep contact because it takes away some of his guilt if you allow him to switch the relationship.

Honestly, move away, give yourself some time and you will then be able to be calm and a little more rational in thought. You will be surprised at how much becomes clearer to you I am sure.

Good luck

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OP, when you get yourself back together, take a big breathe and get yourself organised. Try editing your post and make it readable. Right now it's a block of text. Organisation should help you out with your emotions and getting yourself back on track.

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By the way, since he wants you to be friends, the idea of you 2 being together is still in his mind. But games like this is not healthy for any relationship; and when one loves the other like you have said, and not judging your position on your anger, it's very unhealthy to be friends with an ex. Don't do it. You have millions of academic studies showing how emotionally painful it is to have an ex as a friend. It doesn't work when one has feelings for the other.

I have to disagree with you there. I prefer to remain friends with exes if it's possible. My reaching out like that isn't a sign that I still want to be a couple. It's often not possible to be friends, because one has feelings. I'm kind of surprised you're not the same. I thought Geminis usually remained friends with exes.

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I am so happy my Cap remained friends with me after ten years but it wasn't immediately.

Yup, I agree if I had strong feelings for an ex I can't be friends. Some people can, and most can't. Listen to your gut OP, you need to cut all contact immediately and then you will feel in power to move forward because you will have regained control of the situation.