Wait what?

I'm seeing...well was seeing this gemini man and one night we decided it was time to take it to the next level. He couldn't get it up and to me it was no big deal I was glad it didnt happen yet because maybe it just wasnt the right time yet.

Unfortunately after that he became sort of distant not contacting me as much as he use to then later stated he wanted me to contact him more that he wants to feel like he is my man. He later admitted he was disappointed that it didnt happen and that he was kind of embarrassed. Fast forward to now he seems a bit cocky and arrogant. This is not something I am attracted to. We meet up at a resturant and he did something that pissed me off. He made a comment in my face about the waitress ass. At first I thought clearly he didnt say what I think he just said to me but he tried to brush it off but by that time I lost my appetite and told him how disrespectful that was.

Then he tried to brush it off as me being too sensitive and tried to get me to let it go. I politely got up and left out the resturant went home. I was hurt no guy has ever been that bold before. I get it if a man looks or comments something to his friends but to the woman he wants to be with? Did I over react?

Sounds like a dick

Thank you all. I was truly hurt. I was confused. Never have I ever had a man do that to me.

Posted by LiveAndLove
That's just plain disrespectful to you. I don't think you over reacted at all. Did he even apologize afterwards?

The only thing he did was try to grab my arm and get me to stay at the restaurant. He has not called nor text me to apologize. I'm gutted right now.

You did the right thing. My ex Virgo did something similar he commented how small a girl's bikini was for her boobs....lol

What did he say though?

When he circles back around to you in a few months DON'T RESPOND. Don't give him the time of day. It's obvious he doesn't respect or value you, don't become a backup option for him.

Posted by Pisces1803
What did he say though?

I can't remember the exact words but something like, "That woman ass mmm..

mmm...mmm..." It just seemed so out of left field for him. He seemed genuinely happy to see me before this but just cocky. I can read people well and it felt as if he was trying to push me away before I left him.

After the night he wasnt able to perform he said I probably called some other guy up. I am not sleezy and so hung up on sex that I would need to do anything like that. Prior to everything he was so attentive, never missed an opportunity to text or call. As soon as the intimacy didnt happen boom...he was a different man.

Posted by LadyNeptune
When he circles back around to you in a few months DON'T RESPOND. Don't give him the time of day. It's obvious he doesn't respect or value you, don't become a backup option for him.

I will never call him again. I have been going through a lot having to find a new place etc and all I wanted at the end of the day was to see him. He ruined it.

Posted by yupvirgoo
He got insecure so he overcompensated.

Exactly this?

Posted by yupvirgoo
He got insecure so he overcompensated.

Waaay overcompensated.

Candor... humor.

That will get you through just about anything.

Too bad for him. :/

Ewww..and then to make that comment about the waitress? Insecure or not, he's a dud. Count your blessings and move on, girl. 🙂

Posted by NotSoInstant

Posted by EveryOunce
I'm seeing...well was seeing this gemini man and one night we decided it was time to take it to the next level. He couldn't get it up and to me it was no big deal I was glad it didnt happen yet because maybe it just wasnt the right time yet.

Unfortunately after that he became sort of distant not contacting me as much as he use to then later stated he wanted me to contact him more that he wants to feel like he is my man. He later admitted he was disappointed that it didnt happen and that he was kind of embarrassed. Fast forward to now he seems a bit cocky and arrogant. This is not something I am attracted to. We meet up at a resturant and he did something that pissed me off. He made a comment in my face about the waitress ass. At first I thought clearly he didnt say what I think he just said to me but he tried to brush it off but by that time I lost my appetite and told him how disrespectful that was.

Then he tried to brush it off as me being too sensitive and tried to get me to let it go. I politely got up and left out the resturant went home. I was hurt no guy has ever been that bold before. I get it if a man looks or comments something to his friends but to the woman he wants to be with? Did I over react?

I'm very curious about the first paragraph... When men can't have an erection for a long time while making out... And they pretend like nothing happened 😡 Both my exes tried to hide it. With my first bf, I didn't find out. With my Taurus ex, I knew but I pretended like I didn't notice... My question is what should the gal do if it were a One Night Stand?

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When it happened to him I told him that there is no rush and we can do this another time because I enjoy his company. If he was a one night stand I would have told him I need to get up early and send him on his way.

Wow...that is crazy you experienced almost the same thing as I did. You would think a grown 42 year old man would handle a situation much different than this but age is just a number. I still think he wanted to leave me before I left him so he could feel justified about his insecurities. This will go down as one of my most weirdest dating experiences.