Can cancers do a friend with benefit relationship?

Hello my fellow crab people! 🙂 Any experience or opinions is appreciated.

I have been recently asked by a capricorn guy friend to be in a fwb thing with him. I wont deny, Im attracted to him but I dont know if a we cancerians are even capable to withstand a fwb relationship. Should I have the fun or should I deny him and save myself some trouble? Thank you!

My friend is a Cancer and is just fine with that. But she's an Aries rising, aqua moon, and air Venus.

I'm the Gemini with cancer Venus/mars and can't do it.

If you think you could regret it, I wouldn't do it

Don't get into a FWB thing with a capricorn man. He won't turn it into anything more if you ever want to. He needs a woman he can respect and can present to the public as respectable. If you FWB with him, he will assume you have with other people.

Plus, a capricorn man can detach the emotions from the sex (unless he has a scorpio venus and then, he still might can based on the above).

I actually don't see why anyone would degrade themselves and give their bodies away freely to a guy who is obviously telling you he just wants to use you for sex. There may be friendship, but he is telling you you are good enough to screw, but not good enough for a relationship.

Don't do it!!!!

Someone always catches feelings, and it's usually the woman. I'm saying a capricorn man won't turn it into more because he likes to work for and earn what he gets. If you give it freely, he won't cherish it or be proud of it. And by it, I mean you. Oh, he might turn it into more - I can't speak for all of them, I'm talking generally here.

My advice, is never, never do FWB, giving the guy everything and he basically gives you nothing in return.

Unless you have a slut's mentality, then go have a good time.


(I'm not calling you a slut, it's just a figure of speech).

I think I will regret it later if Im already questioning it. :S how can I say no, and still stay friends. Especially his capricorn nature i dont want him to dissapear from me just cuz I said no...

Posted by lawliet
I think I will regret it later if Im already questioning it. :S how can I say no, and still stay friends. Especially his capricorn nature i dont want him to dissapear from me just cuz I said no...

Simple.
Tell him you don't want to mess up the friendship with sex.
OR
Just flat out tell him you're not interested in a FWB relationship that you deserve better than that.

I promise, a cap will respect those answers.

If he doesn't then be glad you didn't do it.

Girl NO!

I don't understand. So if all of us said yes do it because we're all cut out of the same star cloth you'd jump on his dong?

Ask yourself if you don't mind losing him. If you care at all don't do it. It's not worth ruining any connection you have.

If he has a problem with that then you can show him the door.

Did you already have sex with him, or did you just ask? And what was his response?

He will be able to disconnect the feelings from the sex and you won't. You could try, but you will be the one in the end that will be hurting.

I am a Cap with a Cancer moon and Sag Venus. FWB seems like a lot of fun but these people do end up with a special place in my heart. Which is fine if they are living a country away and you can keep the 'friends' part as the main attraction. But I would be hesitant to do FWB with someone that was living close to me. And I have had a few offers lately.

I am a cancer woman. I do not like the "friends with benefits" thing.

I will be really sexual with a boyfriend. I like when things are clear, the friends with benefits things is just a pain in my opinion.

@CuriousRam you aren't alone. As for this thread, Hell No! to Friends with benefits Lol, because i know i'll catch feelings for the person. I rather have a long lasting relationship with one good woman, & then we can have all the sex we want lol. Relationship only for this Crab Brotha

Posted by lawliet
I think I will regret it later if Im already questioning it. :S how can I say no, and still stay friends. Especially his capricorn nature i dont want him to dissapear from me just cuz I said no...

say no and drop his ass...if he respected you as a friend, he would never have proposed that to you...me thinks...

From my experiences as a Cancer Sun/Moon/Mars woman (w/ Gemini Venus), my FWBs caught feelings more/quicker than I did. I would catch feelings, too, but I would hide them well; almost to the point of being numb when the 'L' word is dropped. Logically, I knew our situation wouldn't go past that, I knew we wouldn't work out as girlfriends, so I never revealed my feelings to the level that they actually were. The sex made me feel good as in it made me feel desirable. But, i knew that's all it was...

Feelings are tricky tho. If you go into without expecting something more in the long run, i think you'll be ok. But, if while you guys are FWBs and you're doing activities that could almost be seen as coupl-y, it will fuk ya head and heart up.
Only you know how your emotions will operate with something like this. It will change the dynamic up in your friendship; whether you go through it or not. Good luck! _??

So this man wants to screw you without even giving you a title? How selfish is that? What he's doing is playing upon the fact he knows you dig him to get what HE wants without giving you the respect you deserve. And if you agree to that, you are selling yourself short and setting yourself up for serious disappointment. Tell him to take a hike. FWB won't make you happy. It's a short ride in a fast car going nowhere.

And he's also saying...I want the freedom to pursue other women and have sex with them too. You don't want that girl. No way! He's a selfish pig.

:Update:

I messaged him that I honestly and personally cannot have sex without feelings. So I believe we should not do this fwb thing.

He wasn't ready to give up and said things like "Dont worry, we wont see each other after a few years you will get over me" and "You are the type of girl I'm comfortable with and would like to practice on." I was deeply hurt. Here was a good friend saying basically he didn't care about how I feel even AFTER I politely denied him. I stopped responding to his messages all week. (every night around 11pm he would txt me "hey come over" "hi" after this conversation happened.

Unfortunately we are also presentation partners in school for one last and final presentation. I talked to him for the first time today ALL BUSINESS, and we got stuff done. After which he tagged at the end "Thank you for responding..." which I replied "Yea, because its a reasonable time of day..."
I'm done. I'm dissapointed in him. And I'm over it. 🙂 C'est la vie.

Thank you for your responses, I found a wolf in sheep's clothing with this one 🙂

I was in a fwb relationship with a Capricorn, but I was in love with him. That type of relationship just isn't right for us. I'm glad you were able to turn him down and avoid any potential heartache. Well done!

Run away! I'm a Cancer female who was in a kind of fwb with a Cwncer male... notice I say kind of... it got all screwy