Cancer...Capricorn

I dated a Cancer for 2 years, we seemed to really be in love...so much that when we broke up he kept coming around and asking me to do things. He is 18 now, freshman in college and started dating a 16 year old girl a few months after we broke up. I believe he was messing around with her while we were still together too. And, while he has been going with her he has messed around on her as well as still calling me to do things and talks to me like we''re friends or something. Things just started getting bad. It''s like he wanted his "cake and eat it too"! Recently I pretty much ended the friendship, haven''t talked to him in about a month. What would make him think that after going together and having such a deep relationship that we could be best of friends? Is this what Cancer males think? Plus I think it is pretty sad to be a freshman in college and dating a 16 year old. Is he insecure with himself or what? Please give me your thoughts.

I think this guy still really cares for and can't be alone - you guys are so young - if you were very close he is confused with mixed messages. They have a hard time letting go - but you're best to let go cold turkey if you don't want him in your life. But there is nothing wrong in being friends at a distance this coming from a cancer woman.

To Becky - I do still want him in my life, just not when he is dating a 16 year old girl. I am 18 now and about to graduate high school, yet him and I don't even talk anymore. Part of it is my fault, I don't really want anythign to do him while he is dating her. It is too confusing. I think he is just making a big mistake but doing what he is doing. But maybe he really doesn't care about me anymore, I just don't know. Maybe he is just confused iwth mixed messages when we are close to each other. I want to think he still cares, but just not sure.

I feel like he cares but he likes to know that other women are attracted to him.
Can I ask you question? Does he love hanging out with his friends?
Well, I am a 21-year-old Cancer woman and I dated a Cancer
male for about 5 years and things were always the same. I tried
to help him in some ways, but it seemed as if he ran from my
proposed solutions. Everytime we had a disagreement, he would
end up doing something foolish and call me afterwards. Cancer men
are slow changers and if you feel you have the patience, then more power
to you. Also, it is hard for them to resist temptation. Because when he and I
broke up, there was another girl waiting to be picked up.

Yes he does seem to like hanging out with his friends. Although his long time friends don't seem to have all that much to do with him any longer. I don't think they think he is too smart being almost 19 and going with a 16 year old girl. I mean lets face it he should be enjoying college life and seeing girls his own age or something. I really think he still cares too. He is now trying to talk with my mother and get in good with her, maybe he thinks that will help him get me back to being friends with him, I don't know. I do agree with you though, it does seem like he always has to have a girl. And I know that he going out on this little girl that he is supposedly going with now. However, he says how much in love with her he is. He really has no clue what Love is....or at least she doesn't...i mean crap she just turned 16.

I know how you feel...but my situation is in reverse. You see, Iam a Cancer who has been dating a Capricorn for over two years, and although I love him with all my heart, no matter how hard I try to get away from him, it seems as though I become miserable, like I am missing a piece of myself and I just return to him although I know he is no good for my soul. I know he has others (although he tell me otherwise), but I know that deep down we are just finding our way back to real love. Think about it Cancer (mother of the zodiac), and Capricorn (the father of the zodiac). they say opposites attract... And that what I think we have...a strange opposite force that keep our attraction to one another soo strong

Just read your comments.... just as a fyi ... I am a capricorn and my ex is a Cancer... My opinion is my ex (Cancer) he is very confused... he wants his cake and eat it too also... broke off with me 10 months ago... and left me alone for a little while (say abt. 2 or 3 months) and now emails me everyday. I told him that he broke off with me , that Why is he emailing me? he said to me "what , we can't be friends? and I said No.. i cannot be your friend after you have dated me for 6 years? Can't figure him out... if he broke off with me why does he stay in contact with me then?

Tanna_Rusinak@ml.com

Also, I truly feel he loves me but is afraid.

Tanna_Rusinak@ml.com

well i think the same as you im mean 6 yrs. is alot.thats not easy to forget.i think he loves you truly but is afraid to tell you because he doesnt know if you feel the same.
im only 14 but age doesnt mean i dont know these things.im going out with a cancer and im capricorn 4 10 mths.and we broke twice and we wouldnt talk for a month but his friends are mine as well and they tell me everything and he did still had feelings ,but was afraid i didnt feel the same,but i did.i didnt show it until we went to a dance and we talked and we worked things out weve been good so far hopefully we can last for a long time.but you know he wanted to be friends but i couldnt i wanted to hate him,forget him but something was missing in my life and i knew it was him
just start off easy w/ him

cristina garcia

It sounds like this guy is confused about what he REALLY wants. If he's been unfaithful to you, end it.