Capricorn Man, Cancer Woman

Do you really want this in your life?

Okay then go for it. You know this is right.

Do you want the truth or bittersweet of how this can pan out.

I think you have already been waiting and are wishing for change in his actions or whatever situation in his life. You should be friends and stuff but until he actually says I think we should be steady. But I can't see someone being serious yet in his situstion.

It will lead to one getting hurt or both.

It will lead problems at work where sometimes you want space or the other will space it out because they might not want to step that way. Sometimes job don't allow being couples. So you would keep it a secret.

Lol

This is tricky because what's wrong with just be cool friends right now.

Yeah sometimes we get attracted but sometimes with other people's problems especially divorces it can't are a toll on some one. Some feelings get involved maybe an attraction. And your waiting and waiting for change. I have been through that I'll wait a little till you handle your business, but I want no drama from the exes or don't lead on to something more just to keep you around.

I think I just figured out what treetruk means lmao

Yeah but you certainly can't rush to a guy who has kids already or going through a divorce.

You can't rush period on that aspect of your life. How old are you?

It's your choice.

What is he saying that is making you hold in to the idea of more kids and another marriage?

What did he say?

Of so how many kids does he have now? Why are they getting a divorce it is two sides.

How many?

Why do you want to go back? Be glad, God has released you from that mess. Capricorns aren't good for water signs.

Know your value as a Cancer. You have a hell of a lot more to give and offer than the Capricorn can amount to.... The relationship is more beneficial for them, not you. Try a Leo, Taurus, or even Aries.

Advice on getting Capricorn man back after breakup?

Also, does it mean anything that he comes out of his way to talk to me every day we work together? Which is 4 out of 5 days a week?

He dumped me. He's going through a nasty divorce. Normal relationship stress on top of crazy ex wife stress became too much and since she controls him seeing his kids, I had to go I guess.

Do you really want that?

Lol First taurian! You were first to comment last time with the same question I believe! Lol

I don't know where I stand in order to figure out what I want. And it's hard to judge it all when he's going through the worst times.

I just don't understand it or know what to do about him talking to me every day?

Sure I'd try it out again once he gets his business settled, but not so eagerly and easily. I'd be very cautious.

All you can do right now is be there as a friend that would help someone going through all that. Then there is always divorce and kids situation at play. You can't do anything and can't have sex like he's a bff. You can be a friend and go love your life right now sometimes it's not meant to be now.

If you have any goals then go do it and if it is meant to be I'm sure you both will communicate that to you. He did let you know what's going on though.

We all been through some shit like liking some one who has kids or is getting a divorce but no one ever knows exactly what could happen in these types of cases.

Right! I totally understand.

Like I wanna be like.. You broke up with me, go away. Just to make him realize my absence, like I would normally. But it's like he does this at work when I'm alone and can't leave my counter. I would totally understand a Cap keeping it cool at work, but some nights he'll come up like 3 or more times to talk to me. He'll be walking around with his work mates in the middle of conversation and stop off and talk to me, or he'll have work to do, but stop and talk to me.

He has said he doesn't have feelings for me but doesn't hate me. When we were together he was always talking about holding me back because when we met I was ready to move to another city and was chasing a career and I hated this town. But then I met him and liked the idea of staying... So I just wonder with all his stuff.. Did he just do what he thought was best for me?

I know there's not a real answer.. Just hoping to get some insight on caps and what's normal to expect? Idk it helps me to understand sometimes.

Oh and I've been doing things and keeping busy and he knows I'm not just waiting around on him per se. I applied for jobs that aren't around here and he knows it. I make sure to always sound busy or something when we talk.

Wait you did what with your career for a guy? Wat?? That he wasn't even divorced yet. And put your life on hold just to be with him.

Okay we all go through shit like this and now that you have this fine opportunity go do what you have to.

You would tell me the same thing wouldn't you or anyone else like that.

And I know it's selfish and it makes me mad at myself for thinking this way, but it irks me to keep being there for him, and then he's gonna end up with someone else? Like I don't wanna get friendzoned and then also get the luxury of hearing about his next love.

Lol yeah, I mean, I took opportunities where I am that'll still help me advance.

We were just too perfect. Lol like he was all about me and us and a future. We had both been through the worst times with love and he even said, he felt like I was his reward for all his trying times. He talked about the future heavily with me.

But no need to worry.. I'm taking baby steps with moving forward.. It's just hard to completely move forward with him in my face every day.

I even went on a pseudo date. Lol

Can't you just be friends why not just be good friends. It's too much in your plate and his. You might even find someone else in your class or grocery store and we all be thinking let's wait and see..

hm well it's been along time already for you both. Since you've been here before.

Go date..

what if he got back with his ex because of his kids or what if you both had sex while they were married, and you both had sex he tells wife now wife is going to take kids. He would take his family first.

I don't know if I can be good friends. To me that entails me hearing about his future love life and I don't think I'll ever be okay with that. Even if I move on. Idk like I think once I realize our fate, I'm moving or staying.

I want to have kids and my time on that is getting shorter so yes I will move on, but it's like... If there's still something there..I wanna know so I don't have regrets.

You an example of why it's not a good idea of getting attached to a guy who says I'm in the process of getting divorced or have kids and isn't yet ready for any emotional connection. Trust been there too.

Okay when's the last time you talked to him about where things are headed between you and his ex? Right now what's the plan?

Nah, the papers have been drawn. The divorce is now moving. A mediator is in play and a temp custody agreement is setup now. The wife tried to pull some dumb stuff since we broke up and now his family stepped in and helped him get a lawyer to get things taken care of. The wife took his kids away for a whole month.

That's another issue too. They get divorce what if he doesn't want more kids and you settle for his only?

What's funny is.. When we first got together I was really just trying to hookup..as I was trying to leave town and I knew his situation, he's the one that got attached to me because I was so chill about everything going on in his life. He was always telling me to "catch up to his feelings"

You in a very ackward situation. But do what you feel is right.

I might be okay with not having a kid of my own and just his as I don't know that I can have kids... I have some issues :/

And we haven't talked about us. I don't wanna bring it up as he does have enough on his plate..I get it. Plus I think I have to show him I'm not a complete maniac as the break up was not the most graceful lol I think I gotta let him make the move with that. I'll have a timeframe, if it's not brought up, I'll let go and accept what is.

Well how old are you. You probably my age so yeah it's either the right person or not and definitely if you want kids or not or marriage or not.

Lol sigh. What feels right is being nice and there for him. As I do care for him...

But the nice girl never comes out on top.

My friends have referred to me as good luck Chuck lol

I think I'm going to have to politely tell him that I need space to move on. That I'm cool with being pseudo friends, but I have to move on first and it's impossible with him in my face every day.

Like I get every once in awhile... But every day? That's what throws me.

But also.. Look, so he had court this week and it was his youngest kid's birthday and the wife wouldn't let him see him, and so I sent him a message like "hey, hope you're doing okay! I hope the best for you this week." He didn't respond but then comes up to me at work as soon as he sees me and says, hey thank you for your concern the other day. I meant to respond but then too much time passed and I thought it would be weird. ?? Lol then he told me about how everything went.

But you're right. It's awkward. It's hard to say what's going through his mind.. Probably not anything to do with us with all his other stuff. And I understand that.

I'm 29

Have you been on here before ? If you have what's happening?

Lol I have! You always find my post lol
I didn't know there was a Capricorn section, so I thought I'd try by luck with it.

You can probably just start reading midway through the second post lol

Hey read the second post! Lol

I read that he dumped you and I still giving you advice for next time. When in doubt kick to the curb amiga.

But what you want is an answer to get him back. Sometimes this needed to happened to you to experience it and he had some red flags from the get go.

Dude lol I'm telling you read the second post , we made contact things were said! Kinda lol

Hm maybe he still interested but is going through a nasty divorce just be cool, casual and take it one day at a time. But he did break up in don't know if i can be friends with an ex and I'm working with them too.

I see. Makes sense.

I always believe guys are straightforward. I believe those words are true. That he lost his drive for me. I think it's because our normal relationship stress was all he had control over on top of his other stress. So I got cut. He actually forewarned me of this happening at one point.

Anyway! Only time will tell!