Cancer guy issues!!!!

Please help!!

Cancer man sweeps me off my feet, we spend 2 months almost inseparable, not one bad word or disagreement. We exchange Christmas gifts he says he loves me and I'm the one, I meet his family. Things couldn't get any better. Then he tells his Ex about me (who he supposedly hates) and was in a volatile relationship with and finished because they were always fighting. Then I find out he's been round to see her. He finishes me 3 days before Christmas and completely shuts me out. He's now back with her and posting stuff on social media as if nothing's happened! How can someone do that? even his family and friends can't get their head around it. Will he try to come back?? My head and heart are in bits “

Wow, what a fucking scum bag. I hope you don't take him back if he decides to come back around. He'll just do it again.

Seems like a really nasty character, which means women will love him and allow him to pull stunts like that.

When he comes back to you for some rebound sex, please oblige him.

Yeah don't allow your self to get 'swept up', best to keep both feet on the ground at all times to avoid these things. You need to realize he never had those real feelings for you he was just caught up in the moment and maybe felt for a minute but feelings are not reliable. Basically to get over this understand he was never yours, savor the good times, learn from this and move on to find your true love.

I'm sorry this happened. Try best to move on from this and not look back. 😢

Thank you to all that have responded,

Thinktoomuch sorry yes I did but are new to this and not sure how it all works,

I've got to say I hope he doesn't come back it's just frustrating not really understanding why,

But you have given me some insight,

Thank you Š

Wow! What a douchebag! Hope you feel better 😢

Forget about him, now that you know what he's made of.
Please don't accept whatever bullshit he feeds you either, his actions are what he is.

Posted by Greentea
Forget about him, now that you know what he's made of.
Please don't accept whatever bullshit he feeds you either, his actions are what he is.

And both of us know that no one listens to this sensible advice...lol. People are going to keep going back to that person, I have seen that for ages on these boards.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
Seems like a really nasty character, which means women will love him and allow him to pull stunts like that.

When he comes back to you for some rebound sex, please oblige him.

What the fuck is wrong with you?

This douche used her to either get his ex back or to just get sex.

Either way, he used her and then discarded her.

....And you are encouraging her to oblige him when he comes crawling back for sex?

You have serious fucking problems.

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I believe that was sarcasm Š

I definitely will not give him the time of day when he comes back. I'm an Aqua woman and we greave hard and get over shit fast. I want to thank everyone for your constructive criticism and nice remarks ☺ï¸

Blavknova can I just suggest something you know if all you are going to do is bitch about the fact I've made 2 different threads because i am new to this site then fuck off!

Seriously if you want to bitch get yourself on Facebook and not a site that's here to help people when they feel they need help or advice!

Clever t*at!

Thank you to everyone else for your nice messages ☺ï¸

When a cancer tell that you are the one.. don't hold your breath. When cancer man are in love, they are shy not direct ... I'm cancer moon and my ex was a cancer man.
So , the sign of love it is shy approach not a direct approach .In rest they are just an enthusiastic man !! The love for them came in 2-3 years after they have trust in you .. For me it is the same 🙂

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Posted by Diva1
Please help!!

Cancer man sweeps me off my feet, we spend 2 months almost inseparable, not one bad word or disagreement. We exchange Christmas gifts he says he loves me and I'm the one, I meet his family. Things couldn't get any better. Then he tells his Ex about me (who he supposedly hates) and was in a volatile relationship with and finished because they were always fighting. Then I find out he's been round to see her. He finishes me 3 days before Christmas and completely shuts me out. He's now back with her and posting stuff on social media as if nothing's happened! How can someone do that? even his family and friends can't get their head around it. Will he try to come back?? My head and heart are in bits “

Selfishness. He used you as an emotional bandaid. I've had that done to me by a cancer. Not as dramatic as your situation though and i didn't love him. I feel sorry for the women these types of men end up settling with. You can't trust them not to stab you in the back for their own gain. You dodged a bullet and it was only 2 months thank goodness. I hope you feel better soon.

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I've seen karma for these selfish leeches and it's not pretty. It's too bad the victim is never around to see what becomes of these selfish snakes. It's really funny and rightfully mean.

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Posted by Diva1
I definitely will not give him the time of day when he comes back. I'm an Aqua woman and we greave hard and get over shit fast. I want to thank everyone for your constructive criticism and nice remarks ☺ï¸

I don't know.... when you say 'definitely not giving him the time of day' does it mean, not even acknowledging someones existence?

Wouldn't that mean you actually don't get over shit as fast as you think?
Plus you made two threads about him on here within 4 days

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I can see what she's saying. She's venting on here because the hurt is fresh/recent. Dealing with emotions is not easy for aquas (I'm mainly speaking for myself. I don't know how many aquas will relate) because we normally don't feel strongly for things and people on a regular basis. When we get hurt, it's like feeling lost. We get baffled adn don't know what to do. So we vent nonstop, write in a diary, drunk text (whatever emotionally thing you can do). Once we get it out of our system, which is usually sooner than later, we're good. She'll be fine, but her ego is bruised and she feels used. Aquas don't take well to being used (nobody does) but aqua's reaction to that is anger whereas someone else would be crying in the corner and trying to crawl back to the abuser. Aqua is generally good with bouncing back and regenerating their heart. What would take an emotional person 1 yr to get over will take 6 months for aquas. This is the power of detachment. That's one thing I love about being an aqua.

Posted by Arki
When a cancer tell that you are the one.. don't hold your breath. When cancer man are in love, they are shy not direct ... I'm cancer moon and my ex was a cancer man.
So , the sign of love it is shy approach not a direct approach .In rest they are just an enthusiastic man !! The love for them came in 2-3 years after they have trust in you .. For me it is the same 🙂

This is the best, most accurate post I've ever read on the cancer board about cancers.

Man...so many people are getting broken up with recently 😢

I'm sorry. I'll tell you the same thing I just told my girlfriend who got dumped the day before Christmas...you do not want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Period. I know it hurts and you want answers, but sometimes not having an answer is all the answer you need. You gotta just direct your energy back to yourself and move on. Trust in the universe and trust in the fact that he will regret this in two weeks and you will already have realized your worth by then and won't even flinch when he comes knocking.

Posted by BlackNova
despite what I've read about women having the natural ability to sum up a guy within minutes of meeting him, it seems many women still make bad choices when it comes to romance.

Aquarius09....holy shit at your zodiac placements! Are you like, totally detached emotionally in your intimate relationships? I mean, all that air!
Can you be more in love with humanity than an individual?

Not all women have the natural ability to sum up a guy within minutes of meeting him which is why they make poor choices. Sad! And then even after they find out, they stick around. Baffling.
I am pretty detached in every relationship. It's like having a super power. I'm not in love with humanity though. If anything, I'm annoyed with humanity.

Posted by Arki
When a cancer tell that you are the one.. don't hold your breath. When cancer man are in love, they are shy not direct ... I'm cancer moon and my ex was a cancer man.
So , the sign of love it is shy approach not a direct approach .In rest they are just an enthusiastic man !! The love for them came in 2-3 years after they have trust in you .. For me it is the same 🙂

How does one know whether a Cancer man has trust in them? Things he will say, do?

Posted by Moonbutter


How does one know whether a Cancer man has trust in them? Things he will say, do?

the same as for any sign, male or female, their actions will match their words.

Thank you everyone again for your amazing messages! Gratefully received.

The thing is this guy was consistent I mean he never faltered the whole time we were together, his behaviour did come as a complete shock as even my sceptical hard faced friends actually trusted him.

Maybe he's a skitso haha.

Seriously I feel ok today, each day is getting better for me I know he will be back but for me now the trust is broken I could never trust him again, what he's done is evil

Posted by Diva1
Please help!!

Cancer man sweeps me off my feet, we spend 2 months almost inseparable, not one bad word or disagreement. We exchange Christmas gifts he says he loves me and I'm the one, I meet his family. Things couldn't get any better. Then he tells his Ex about me (who he supposedly hates) and was in a volatile relationship with and finished because they were always fighting. Then I find out he's been round to see her. He finishes me 3 days before Christmas and completely shuts me out. He's now back with her and posting stuff on social media as if nothing's happened! How can someone do that? even his family and friends can't get their head around it. Will he try to come back?? My head and heart are in bits “

You said he told his ex about you. Bullsh!t marker #1, no one stays in communication with an ex thats Volatile, unless they still have feelings for them, point blank. Sadly, the thing i see with cheating cancer men, is they will do EVERYTHING right (except be faithful) so you'll never know they are cheating until you catch them red handed, find out someone else, or they leave you.

Hi sagthearcher yes he did unfortunately he used to live with her and they have a car together which she has the documents for and wouldn't give them to him (holding it randsome) haha

Your so right with what you've put though to a T, basically he's left her before and the desperate cow has just said she will have him back at any cost and doesn't care what he does! So he's got the best of both worlds with her.

I feel almost past it all today as I'm feeling hate for him rather than missing him

I know he will come back at some point but really hope he doesn't!! ‚ðŸ‘ðŸ¼

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Posted by Diva1
yes he did unfortunately he used to live with her and they have a car together which she has the documents for and wouldn't give them to him (holding it randsome) haha

Your so right with what you've put though to a T, basically he's left her before and the desperate cow has just said she will have him back at any cost and doesn't care what he does! So he's got the best of both worlds with her.

I feel almost past it all today as I'm feeling hate for him rather than missing him

I know he will come back at some point but really hope he doesn't!! ‚ðŸ‘ðŸ¼

You said you greave hard and get over shit fast......It doesn't sound like it, you sound vindictive and bitchy

And taking into account how you responded to my previous simple questions/comment.
oh thank you everyone for your lovely support and validation!

LOL LOL LOL

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Aquas can be vindictive for sure! I've seen those variants and I, myself, was vindictive when I was a kid. I no longer care to be vindictive.

Cancers men love to fuck with our minds don't they haha