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This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Trice38 on Tuesday, December 1, 2015 and has 36 replies.

Understanding Why Your Cancer Partner Suddenly Stops Communicating

A Cancer partner may withdraw to process emotions or due to feeling overwhelmed. His silence does not necessarily mean cheating or breakup but could indicate needing space. Communicating openly when he is ready can help clarify his feelings and intentions. Patience and understanding are key during this uncertain time.

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@Trice38
10 Years

Please help me me and my cancer boyfriend has been together for 3 months and everything has been great we talked everyday and all now we had a a issue when he got mad at me about a text message well we ended up working it out he told me what upset him and all but the day before thanks giving we talked and stuff and than all of a sudden he just stop talking too me he stop texting me and won't awnser my calls its been 5 days I'm so lost and hurt please help does that mean he is cheating or he wants too break up or does he need space I ask him if I upset him what I did for him not to talk to me and every thing I apologize and all and no response please give advice I'm really into him and I thought he was into me but I guess he isn't he said all the loving thing too me and than stop all communication

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@Trice38
10 Years

I don't understand how we was just good than he stops all communication he won't tell me if I did anything so I'm stuck not knowing

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@Cancerleo
10 Years

If it happened suddenly it might have to do with something you said. You might have hurt him in some way or did the same thing you did previously. He might just be hurt right now or confused I'm not too sure since I don't actually know what happened.

Cancers get hurt really easy, when we actually tell you how we feel and open up with what caused those feelings its a pretty big step.

The question is, how long has it been since you said sorry and apologized ?

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@dxgarten
10 Years

I really really don't understand why many Cancer men seem to have issues with communication, be it spoken or written. I notice it often not only in my experience but also from other cancer men described by people in here.

It seems like they tend to balk when they are faced with communication attempts. It seems like they think they are being held accountable or something, which is not always the case. Sometimes it's just a way to air out concern etc.

And their tendency to go no communication thing is also so consistently similar from story to story.

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@Trice38
10 Years

I say sorry every day I'm tired of apologizing I asked if I did something wrong and I can't even get an awnser so I'm just going too give up now

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@maomao
13 Years

Posted by Twodrinks
Just ignore him back and he'll return

Yes. Just give him some space.
You've done your part, there's nothing more you can do.
If he can't talk like an adult, it's better to cut loose now, or it will lead to bigger problems in later years.

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@Cancerleo
10 Years

Posted by dxgarten
I really really don't understand why many Cancer men seem to have issues with communication, be it spoken or written. I notice it often not only in my experience but also from other cancer men described by people in here.

It seems like they tend to balk when they are faced with communication attempts. It seems like they think they are being held accountable or something, which is not always the case. Sometimes it's just a way to air out concern etc.

And their tendency to go no communication thing is also so consistently similar from story to story.

I think it's just cancers in general. I find it hard opening up about my feelings or problems I have.
My main issue with it is I feel like I'm overreacting majority of the time or I'm not being rational about it. So I pull away and deal with it myself.

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@Trice38
10 Years

Yes I'm the type who jumps too conclusions and there really isn't a problem that is what happened he explained why he haven't talk too me and it wasn't because of me he doesn't want too break up or anything but I worry myself for nothing lol

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@Trice38
10 Years

He had dropped his phone in the water and his phone already was messed up and he had too wait too get a new phone in the mail

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@Trice38
10 Years

I can say I was upset for nothing but I never did go off on him or give up on him or move on so I have no hard feelings about it but he is my heart he is everything

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@TaurusMarine
10 Years

Posted by Trice38
I say sorry every day I'm tired of apologizing I asked if I did something wrong and I can't even get an awnser so I'm just going too give up now

Do you really have something to apologise for? If No, why are you keeping saying sorry to a dick? The sooner you save yourself from communicating with this person, the better.
If of course, you have an intention to cherish the bullshit.

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by Trice38
Please help me me and my cancer boyfriend has been together for 3 months and everything has been great we talked everyday and all now we had a a issue when he got mad at me about a text message well we ended up working it out he told me what upset him and all but the day before thanks giving we talked and stuff and than all of a sudden he just stop talking too me he stop texting me and won't awnser my calls its been 5 days I'm so lost and hurt please help does that mean he is cheating or he wants too break up or does he need space I ask him if I upset him what I did for him not to talk to me and every thing I apologize and all and no response please give advice I'm really into him and I thought he was into me but I guess he isn't he said all the loving thing too me and than stop all communication

He's just butt hurt and being manipulative.

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by Cancerleo

Posted by dxgarten
I really really don't understand why many Cancer men seem to have issues with communication, be it spoken or written. I notice it often not only in my experience but also from other cancer men described by people in here.

It seems like they tend to balk when they are faced with communication attempts. It seems like they think they are being held accountable or something, which is not always the case. Sometimes it's just a way to air out concern etc.

And their tendency to go no communication thing is also so consistently similar from story to story.

I think it's just cancers in general. I find it hard opening up about my feelings or problems I have.
My main issue with it is I feel like I'm overreacting majority of the time or I'm not being rational about it. So I pull away and deal with it myself.

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Ewwww with all the feelings. lol!

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by truecap

Posted by Cancerleo

Posted by dxgarten
I really really don't understand why many Cancer men seem to have issues with communication, be it spoken or written. I notice it often not only in my experience but also from other cancer men described by people in here.

It seems like they tend to balk when they are faced with communication attempts. It seems like they think they are being held accountable or something, which is not always the case. Sometimes it's just a way to air out concern etc.

And their tendency to go no communication thing is also so consistently similar from story to story.

I think it's just cancers in general. I find it hard opening up about my feelings or problems I have.
My main issue with it is I feel like I'm overreacting majority of the time or I'm not being rational about it. So I pull away and deal with it myself.

Ewwww with all the feelings. lol!

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I kid, I kid. 🙂

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by truecap

Posted by Cancerleo

Posted by dxgarten
I really really don't understand why many Cancer men seem to have issues with communication, be it spoken or written. I notice it often not only in my experience but also from other cancer men described by people in here.

It seems like they tend to balk when they are faced with communication attempts. It seems like they think they are being held accountable or something, which is not always the case. Sometimes it's just a way to air out concern etc.

And their tendency to go no communication thing is also so consistently similar from story to story.

I think it's just cancers in general. I find it hard opening up about my feelings or problems I have.
My main issue with it is I feel like I'm overreacting majority of the time or I'm not being rational about it. So I pull away and deal with it myself.

Ewwww with all the feelings. lol!

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I kid, I kid. 🙂

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

the cancer men I'm familiar with tend to shut down like that. They associate caring with how much you probe and reach out to them. They want you to beg them for forgiveness. It's very manipulative and sort of a kind of test. I just leave them alone and go about my life. Who has time for that?

^^ Probably why my cancer relationships didn't work out.

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@Greentea
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Trice38
I can say I was upset for nothing but I never did go off on him or give up on him or move on so I have no hard feelings about it but he is my heart he is everything

He couldn't send you an email or use someone else's phone and give you some kind of info. What a dooky.

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by truecap
the cancer men I'm familiar with tend to shut down like that. They associate caring with how much you probe and reach out to them. They want you to beg them for forgiveness. It's very manipulative and sort of a kind of test. I just leave them alone and go about my life. Who has time for that?

^^ Probably why my cancer relationships didn't work out.

we also don't deal well with gold digging caps.

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Lol!!

I've got my own gold.

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by truecap
the cancer men I'm familiar with tend to shut down like that. They associate caring with how much you probe and reach out to them. They want you to beg them for forgiveness. It's very manipulative and sort of a kind of test. I just leave them alone and go about my life. Who has time for that?

^^ Probably why my cancer relationships didn't work out.

we also don't deal well with gold digging caps.

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Lol!!

I've got my own gold.

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@Trice38
10 Years

Okay look if u have a big issue with Virgos stay off my damn post because I'm sure your ass is super flawed and has issues and that's why your ass didn't work with a Virgo but I'm not say bad shit about a cancer I have nothing bad too say at all and definitely about him so please go away with the virgo bs until u actually know us for real

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@Cancerleo
10 Years

Posted by truecap
the cancer men I'm familiar with tend to shut down like that. They associate caring with how much you probe and reach out to them. They want you to beg them for forgiveness. It's very manipulative and sort of a kind of test. I just leave them alone and go about my life. Who has time for that?

^^ Probably why my cancer relationships didn't work out.

My relationship with a Cancer male was exactly like that. I ended up not giving a shit and we broke up then 3 months later he tried to come back.

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@Trice38
10 Years

Ate u and u keep complaining about us so yeah its too u dummy and yeah u had and I'm not worried about u fool just stfu with your crybaby ass whinning about Virgos cause your retarded sensitive ass got hurt by one of us but be be damn too sit hear and let u keep running your mouth too me don't even reply back too me every fuck post I get on u crying about how bad we are lol bye child I'm done

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@Cancerleo
10 Years

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by Cancerleo

Posted by truecap
the cancer men I'm familiar with tend to shut down like that. They associate caring with how much you probe and reach out to them. They want you to beg them for forgiveness. It's very manipulative and sort of a kind of test. I just leave them alone and go about my life. Who has time for that?

^^ Probably why my cancer relationships didn't work out.

My relationship with a Cancer male was exactly like that. I ended up not giving a shit and we broke up then 3 months later he tried to come back.

whats wrong with begging for forgiveness if you're in the wrong.

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He never begged for forgiveness. He just wanted me back because he missed me and all the things I used to do for him.

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@Trice38
10 Years

Posted by Goldigold
Honestly, he isn't worth your time or worry...let it go, it was only 3 months

Yeah he dropped his phone in water and had too wait on the new phone that's why but he talked too me as soon as he got it and told me

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@Cancerleo
10 Years

Posted by Trice38

Posted by Goldigold
Honestly, he isn't worth your time or worry...let it go, it was only 3 months

Yeah he dropped his phone in water and had too wait on the new phone that's why but he talked too me as soon as he got it and told me

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So pretty much you freaked out?
Just have faith ~ most cancers don't really reveal emotions or openly tell you they love you unless they truly mean it.

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@Cancerleo
10 Years

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by Cancerleo

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by Cancerleo

Posted by truecap
the cancer men I'm familiar with tend to shut down like that. They associate caring with how much you probe and reach out to them. They want you to beg them for forgiveness. It's very manipulative and sort of a kind of test. I just leave them alone and go about my life. Who has time for that?

^^ Probably why my cancer relationships didn't work out.

My relationship with a Cancer male was exactly like that. I ended up not giving a shit and we broke up then 3 months later he tried to come back.

whats wrong with begging for forgiveness if you're in the wrong.

He never begged for forgiveness. He just wanted me back because he missed me and all the things I used to do for him.

You agreed with truecap! She says they want you to beg for forgiveness! The is true! I don't see nothing wrong with that expectation

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I think you missed the point that he wanted me to beg him for forgiveness but I did nothing wrong... ?
They are manipulative so they make you feel guilty like it was your fault, that was my experience.

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@Trice38
10 Years

Posted by ShadowAbsorber

Posted by Trice38
I can say I was upset for nothing but I never did go off on him or give up on him or move on so I have no hard feelings about it but he is my heart he is everything

I've been saying that Virgos are not loyal, but you seem so devoted and loyal... I take back what I said.

I really hope he turns out. I wish the best for you, you seem so genuine & sincere.

((hug))

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Yes he has came back and told me the reason he dropped his phone in water and had to order a new one its all good and hell yeah I am when u truly care and love a person you will do anything for them