Cancer guys - what puts you off??

Please can you shed some light on what traits you find off-putting in women? Particularly things you may discover when you've been dating a while?

me personally not necessarily cancer trait: i hate double standards (my virgal used to try and do that but i had put her in her place), not giving me my space when i need it, stuck up women, women who won't at least offer to pay sometimes, a woman who wants to argue just for the sake of arguing, a woman who tries to use another guy to make me jealous, a woman who doesn't like to have fun or joke around (life isn't always serious). these are a few of the big things that put me off.

Ignorance. Stupidity. Uselessness. Dirty smelly people. Bad high jean. Teeth and tongue must be clean! No fuk'd up teeth (.) eww! Stuck up girls.

We cancers always look for a "REAL" women. What is a real woman you ask? In my eyes?. Those are the girls that are always taken. The ones that dresses nice and comfortably and not wear a lot of make up. A laid back personality. The girl that every f'ing guy wants but we can't get bc some Ass hole is going out with her already! The girl Girl of a Woman! A goddess to my eyes that makes me feel as tho I'm not worthy of such beauty! But I know I am... we can always do better. It's all just a chemical reaction in our brain.

Hmm, I'm not sure what I could have done then as I don't think I've displayed any of those annoyances!
I've been dating a cancer guy for a while and he's all of sudden started completely ignoring me - and this is after he chased me to the point I found it pushy, he got my attention, and as soon I start to really like him he's gone the opposite way. Oh well!

capri i hate to tell you this but the thrill of the chase is gone. he got what he wanted now he is off to conquer something or someone else..

Oh don't worry, I'm pretty good at reversing and closing off any strong feelings I may have for someone.

And he didn't get what he wanted - we haven't been intimate yet, just a lot of outings, etc.

I thought cancers were honest and upfront, so I'm just a bit baffled as to why he keeps coming up with excuses like he's too busy or whatever. I've presented myself in a way that I would be cool if he were to just tell me he's not interested anymore. Why take the weak option and lie?

we approach things gently since that is what we want for ourselves. so we are subtle and throw out hints without regard that everyone isn't like us. plus we hate hurting people but in the end usually make it worse on ourselves..lol

I see.

So even though I laid it down on the line for him and told him to just tell me if he's not interested anymore (and he came back with the response that it's not that at all, he is just having a nightmare at work), should I still assume he is lying?

It's just that he seemed like a very intelligent and straightforward guy, and from what I know of him, being upfront and 'dumping' someone would not present a problem to him. To back this up is also the fact that I don't come across as a weak person who would be hurt easily.

i am not implying he is lying since we cancers need security. whether it be job, financial, emotional, etc. if we have something going on in our lives we tend to focus on getting that straightened out then we can go about our daily lives. at least that is how i am. so my suggestion to you if you want to know where yall stand is to talk to him. but i want to lay the ground rules on how to get him to open up to you. first make it a casual meeting like a favorite place to eat or bar. next be cool and approach without expectations. keep it cool and subtly ask your questions. we can be open and upfront but we do have a hard time when feelings are involved whether it be ours our yours..

He lost interest. I do this when I lose interest in someone. I delete there number and block them from facebook. I panic I guess bc I think there going to like me more then I like them. Tho usually it's someone I just meet and I run away if things are going too quickly. As much as I hate to type this... We like the chase secretly. But we hate it! But definitely! Let a cancer do all the work if you move in to quickly on us were kinda quiet and reserved at first. GL

I just read what "imacancer" posted. I AGREE!!

Completely!

don't forget that cancer's tend to move in sideways motions. zig, zag. always testing first. considering. it's not that they're dishonest, more uber self protective. when they do fall, it tends to be all consuming and go deep. so i've noticed that they hesitate. i can tell you that my guy finds the following off putting-

loud, domineering, indolent and lazy, poor hygiene and poor housekeeping habits. coldness or lack of affection. too much makeup, too passive or meek. too agreeable. someone who threatens financial security of the household. someone who isn't kind to pets, or if he's into kids, isn't kind to children.

he does like fire. spark. affectionate teasing, flirting, showing me off while keeping his hands on me at all times to show possession! (sometimes this one is a bit irritating) he likes an intelligent debate with someone who has an opinion and can express herself. someone who can tell when to let him be in a mood, or when to pull him up out of it. they get MOOOOOOODY. whew.

OMG! Redhed, you're right on...This is my CANCER, right down to:

"who can tell when to let him be in a mood, or when to pull him up out of it"

Sometimes, I give him his "mood" right back after I feel it's been too long - and most of the time he snaps out of it.

from my experience, it seems that cancer is reticent to chase from a cold start. they need to already know you're into them. but once you've kind of given them the go ahead, then they want to be the one setting the pace and feeling in charge of it some. all you have to do for quite a while is put on a little perfume, a classy cleavage revealer, some cute shoes, and show up! oh, and bring food once in awhile. ha. they are never in a good place when they're hungry. keep 'em fed and you'll keep 'em happy.

no ass! and no class if u aint got it dont bother

so much things put me off with women but when im turned off im out

next!

ha. he's refering to birthday cake! i believe he's alluding to the classic cancer male preference for women with exaggerated curves, esp rear and rack. orchestra and balcony.
i've met and chatted with alot of cancer guys who seem to like a woman on the thick side, or even what some would call plump. size 12-14 seen as perfection if they have larger boobs. my guys is that way. but to him, it's not big, it's curvy. eye of the beholder i suppose. that classic female hourglass shape seems to be their fav.
and i don't know any cancer males who like a crude or non-classy woman. you definitely need to be on the softer side for them. you can be large and in charge as long as it's ladylike. but trashy doesn't work. but i'm not the expert here, i'm just goin' with what i've noticed over the years.

ha. he's refering to birthday cake! i believe he's alluding to the classic cancer male preference for women with exaggerated curves, esp rear and rack. orchestra and balcony.
i've met and chatted with alot of cancer guys who seem to like a woman on the thick side, or even what some would call plump. size 12-14 seen as perfection if they have larger boobs. my guys is that way. but to him, it's not big, it's curvy. eye of the beholder i suppose. that classic female hourglass shape seems to be their fav.
and i don't know any cancer males who like a crude or non-classy woman. you definitely need to be on the softer side for them. you can be large and in charge as long as it's ladylike. but trashy doesn't work. but i'm not the expert here, i'm just goin' with what i've noticed over the years.

oops. computer probs. sorry peeps.

scorpio... read wat redhead said thats wat i met.

i dont only look for body type tho a girl has to have a good personality too.

i hate loud girls too.

funny, i've never met one who didn't.

i agree with the hour glass shape... I've noticed this with all the Cancer men I know.

firefly, i would almost think you were messing around with my husband!!! whoa.

i love how you described the need for an intelligent, interesting woman who isn't too complicated. that's the perfect description for many cancer men i've known. looks, for them, take a back seat to brain, but simplicity is a desired trait. we're in china for work right now and my hubby is always pointing out the petulant chinese girlfriends, or "pcg's." and one of the biggest criticisms about past relationships had to do with slovenly behaviour, unwillingness to maintain a clean home or hygiene. he's also invested in decorating our home.
the integrity part is huge with him, he's uber loyal. most cancer's i know are like this in some way. BUT, only after they've committed. not before. and this extends to work, or anything that he's pledged to belong to.
criticizing him— oh my. tread carefully. there WILL be pouting.

I have loved reading this thread. It explains why I attract a lot of cancer men. I have the curves and my background and curiosity about life are interesting. I do appreciate a man who can be my intellect co-hart even if we don't agree. The one cancer I dated did not work out because I probably was quiet needy and fell to fast. There was no other reason why it did not work out. We got along great and the sex well it was great. It was bad timing because I was at a low time in my life. Very different story today.

The other cancer men were married but both made their attraction well known to me. I don't play with married men. This is one thing I have never understood about cancer men is I thought they were loyal creatures.

Is it fair to say cancer could always be hunting for something better? What is said about cancer men on this board makes me want one.

I will admit I have never met a cancer man I am not attracted to. They are amazingly appealing to me.

This cancer at the gym let's just say he makes my mind wander even when he is not in my presence. I just get too darn shy to really flirt with him. It is a lot of small talk. If he only knew how I think about him.

Thanks for such a great post.

Pd

mind games that is what i hate the most , when we ask a question dont have us unsure or questioning. i personally do not like that. There are times when i wanna strike up a convo and the mindset of the person does not want to talk or when they do listen their mind is elsewhere. I hate and detest stuck up women ,women who feel they can walk over someone. I LOVE BIG women thick women.You have to remember is not the sign but is the individual. Being from the caribbean i love women with a big ass and some nice breasts. I also do not like fakeness,be real with me. I know when u say one thing and u force urself to like someone. I would cut you off reaaaaal quick.

Imscancer

This makes total sense. I can see the parallel of piscean nature. I too agree no one should stay married for the sake of being married. I can see the common nature of the water element of finding that someone who feels like you are coming home.

It is the romantic side of piscesns to embelish love like the sonnets.

I for once think I am beginning to understanding the crab.*gazes into that piscean star* lol

Pd

SCROP, CANCER "WOMAN" R NOT LOUD, CANCER "GIRLS" R. THERES A HUGE DIFFERENCE🙂