cancer man always getting angry ...

over the slightest things ...

I am virgo and we are close friends for years and he is extremely possessive and controlling of what I do this few weeks...

leading to very frequent silent treatments due to his anger.

what is going on with this cancer man? how to make him feel better and keep our friendship going strong like the past....

we are both 28 this year...
virgo girl...tks...

Well talk to him about it. Maybe he's not getting enough affection from you. Or he could be stressed out with his life. His actions shows he cares for you because why else would he get worked up about you. So tell him to Calm down, & try telling him sweet things about himself often so he won't have a reason to get all worked up. Sometimes if a Crab likes you, we kind want only you & we can be protective. I promise its for good reasons. Once we get attached to you, we are there to stay.

So just talk to him about how it affects you & that you don't wanna be arguing. If he cares about you & your feelings, he'll be open to fixing things

Flat out? Ask a Gemini how to deal with this. Or a Scorpio. That's the price you pay for being our friend. He'll get over it on his own, otherwise. Crab in his shell. Moody and sensitive but loyal as hell!

I'd say it depends on exactly what's going on with his behavior. Is he usually controlling? Controlling is a huge red flag to me because I was married to a controlling, abusive man. I might be a little too hyper aware of that trait in others. Read up on Narcissistic personality disorder and see if he fits the bill. If he doesn't then talk to him about how you feel and see if you can work on it together in a mature way.

thanks for ur reply! he does get well on his own but the anger episodes r on loop too frequent lately. feels like walking on eggshells all the time.

appreciates!

Posted by MoonArtist
I'd say it depends on exactly what's going on with his behavior. Is he usually controlling? Controlling is a huge red flag to me because I was married to a controlling, abusive man. I might be a little too hyper aware of that trait in others. Read up on Narcissistic personality disorder and see if he fits the bill. If he doesn't then talk to him about how you feel and see if you can work on it together in a mature way.

He may also have some feelings for her that he doesn't want to express and so its coming out as that behavior.
@nightvirgo8888: You might want to feel him out and see if that's what is going on. If you have been close friends for a long time, there might be a spark there. If there is and you don't want things to cross that line, be honest with your concerns about the possessiveness.

@CluelessCancer means no harm lol. What she & every Crab here has been saying is that this guy has feelings for this lady. His actions are what Cancer men do when we are in love or really care. Yes we can be sensitive/emotional & a lil possessive, but it's only because we love that person. It's not to hurt them & we can adapt to who we are with. We can tone down some things just to keep someone happy. This guys actions clearly show he has something for you. So go talk to him.

thanks fr ur responses! forgot to add, my cancer fren alr has a girlfren of 4 years... dun think he has any romantic feelings fr me ...

Hard to say without examples...any incidences that stick out to you?

yes:
1. demands my constant reporting of my whereabouts, with whom, doing wat, etc
2. gets mad when I recv a pop up notification on phone from a guy friend
3. gets mad when I meet mutual platonic friends for meals or talk
4. even if I had told him earlier, still gets mad
5. gets mad when I don't reply his text instantly
6. gets mad when I make harmless comments that he feels did not take his feelings Into consideration...

he is aware of his increasing anger lately, says he doesn't know y.

thanks !

Congratulations! He likes you. Tell him he's not your bf. His gf doesn't get jealous of you?

Posted by nightvirgo8888
yes:
1. demands my constant reporting of my whereabouts, with whom, doing wat, etc
2. gets mad when I recv a pop up notification on phone from a guy friend
3. gets mad when I meet mutual platonic friends for meals or talk
4. even if I had told him earlier, still gets mad
5. gets mad when I don't reply his text instantly
6. gets mad when I make harmless comments that he feels did not take his feelings Into consideration...

he is aware of his increasing anger lately, says he doesn't know y.

thanks !

I feel like this Cancer *may* have been wronged in the past. Generally, people ask, what are your plans for today? If you're dating then it's, with who? It's jerk questions. If you dodge them, we grow suspicious. If you're constantly on your phone, receiving messages every twenty seconds, then of course it's like... what the fuck is this? And it's annoying when you text your boyfriend or girlfriend and they reply hours upon hours later. Unless it's expected due to a work environment, that's really shady.

My time dating Virgo was pure living Hell for me. He took everything I did and said the wrong way. He always assumed I was intruding on his personal life. All of his friends were female and he was a flirt, but I never once acted out of jealousy, but he took it that way whenever I would ask what he's doing and with who. In order to survive, my Virgo HAD to be cryptic. He always had to remain a mystery, which made him look bad and suspicious. Us crabs are so open. We will tell you anything you want to know. If you asked any of the above questions, we would answer without the slightest hint of annoyance. Virgos are secretive and we don't like that. We don't like feeling vulnerable. If we can answer all your questions, then you should answer ours. I garentee you never had to worry about your Cancer man. What he's doing, who is with, etc... because we tell you out of courtesy and we have nothing hide.

I know he's your friend, but friendships are kind of like relationships as well. Sorry. It seemed like I was purely going off of a relationship scenario. It's the same thing though. We're very open and I guess we'd like it if you would do the same.

thanks fr ur responses!

I have to admit I do like him perhaps a little more than frenship but m careful to draw the line as I do not wish to affect his existing relationship w his gf.

I also do not know his gemini gf directly and generally he doesn't bring her up on his daily conversation often.

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