Cancer man Teasing me—

I saw my cancer guy last week. He spend the night as we were talking about us, he asked me if I want a relationship. I said yes, he said I can't give that to you right now. I said fine and got a little quiet. Then he said, we are in a relcationship, just a slow moving one. Like a turtle. I said slow is ok.I asked so if someone asks me out.. what do I do? He said I would prefer you not go, but I guess I can't stop you. I said I don't want anyone else. He said that he could't handle more than one woman anyway. Next morning everything was good. He even mentioned that we will go to a movie on Friday and dinner. Friday came and he called me to move the date to saturday, some stuff came up. I totally understood. Then Saturday, he got stuck at work and said raincheck. No biggie.
We have been texting each other more regularly. And he brought to my attention the length of time we have been seeing each other. To my surprise it has been about 6 months.
Today he called me at my desk and I answered... he said Hey Loser. I was like WTH?
He kept teasing me through the call. He even called me dodo bird. Really?
I jokingly said are you like the little boy pulling my pigtails that really adores me. He just laughed.
This is the first time that he has given me a hard time, razzing me.
Does me anything?
Is he getting more comfortable with me?
I need to get a cancer man decoder ring.. Help. Insight

One min he is sweet and one min he was teasing me. He told me I was being too sensitive. I was making jokes too, but I know cancers have a fear of rejection and didn't push it with him.
If it was in fun, that is ok. Was just wondering if Cancers tease those they like?

@duchessedenemous-

He told me the other night he has trust issues. Said I don't even trust my own mother. I told him I was willing to earn his trust over time and understood.
He also said he isn't used to someone caring about him. I sometimes send a text just see how he is.
Sorta sad. Sounds like he hasn't had very good people in his life.

@ Duchessdenemous - I like him, not love yet. But I don't want to rescue him. Just felt bad he has been treated badly.

@ Lovesickcancer - I have been the one saying I want a relationship and he has been the one saying he doesn't. This is the closest he has come. I can see he has been hurt, who hasn't.
I feel like I have been the one standing there waiting for him to come around. He has known where I stand for a while. What is up with him teasing me... Calling me a Loser and Dodo Bird. I told him.. I am not one of your guy friends. This is my first time dating a cancer guy.

@pisceanpises - I don't think he is a bad guy but he has his baggage too. I thought he would be more happy to have a nice, caring girl and his life and he seems very strange about it.
He even made a comment on the phone with me about being single. I don't even know how to respond to him. I didn't say a word.

@ Finbuff
He is 42 and I am 39. So I would he would be a little mature. He does have his silly moments, so I would like to think it was just that. He told me I was too sensitve. I could have called him a few choice words if he wanted me to. He is the one that actually reminded me how long it has been.
Well since we just recently talked about the relationship. I won't bring it up for a bit.
YOu mentioned about him possibly getting bored with me. How can I challenge him.?
I don't really contact him. I let him contact me, but when I don't he gets his feelings hurt. Tells me I neglected him.
He has been texting and calling me.

@Silentkiller -
You practically read my mind. Yes, I was thinking all those things. You are also right, I cant get a feel for this guy. I am pisces and usually follow my gut, I can't figure which which way is up. One min he is calling me his pet name, the next loser. I told him I am not one of your fishing buddies. He agreed and said yes you are not.
I am still confused by the relationship talk with him. Turtles, then saying he would prefer me not to go out with other guys. Then he when I ask him some input on my cousin's dating situation. He says I am glad I am single. What the heck am I to think? Then when I don't contact him, he gets his feelings hurt saying he could be dead and I wouldn't even know.
I feel like I can't win. Do I contact him or not? I hear these cancers like a challenge.
I thought I can be an emotional roller coaster. This guy has me beat hands down.

Posted by miha
i don't pretend to have much experience with my cancer man, but as far as i've noticed the key is to let him win you...step by step. let him ask things from you, hesitate, give that thing to him and then let him ask for the next one.

See, I think this is excellent advice for all men, not just Cancer men.

Thanks for the insight. I told him I would call him yesterday after work and I didn't. We had talked earlier and didn't feel like talking to him again.
I have some girlfriends that said I should NOT reward his bad behavior (meaning him calling me loser).
He is kinda goofy so I am not sure he meant that much by it.
The comment that bothered me is when he heard about my cousin's dating drama. Saying "I am glad I am single" In my head I was thinking I thought we were together.
I didnt make a fuss about it.
I just shake my head about him. Not sure what to think..

@Silentkiller-
How would you address the Being single comment.?
He acts like he doesn't want to be tied down by saying I don't want a relationship now. I get quiet and 2 mins later.. He says "we are in a relationship, just a slow moving one"
How could anyone NOT be confused by that behavior. After 6 months of us seeing each other, he should have some kind of feel for what he thinks about me?
It's not like we are 18.

Posted by woodenmeow
@Silentkiller-
How would you address the Being single comment.?
He acts like he doesn't want to be tied down by saying I don't want a relationship now. I get quiet and 2 mins later.. He says "we are in a relationship, just a slow moving one"
How could anyone NOT be confused by that behavior. After 6 months of us seeing each other, he should have some kind of feel for what he thinks about me?
It's not like we are 18.

Just ask him. If you guys aren't on the same page of both wanting a relationship it might not be worth it to continue if you are intent on jumping in a relationship with him.

His response to not being with anyone else is. "I can barely handle you, let alone someone else."
Not exactly romantic but I get the point.
We will see how this progress's. Crossing my fingers.